"Give tidings to the hypocrites that there is for them a painful punishment - those who take the disbelievers as allies (helpers and protectors) instead of the believers. Do they seek with them honour? But indeed, honour belongs to Allaah entirely."

~ [Surah: An-Nisaa', 4:138-139]

The Messenger [sallal-laahu-alayhi-wasallam] said: “My nation will be afflicted by the diseases of the previous nations.” They said, ‘O Messenger of Allah! What are the diseases of the previous nations?’ He said: ”Excessive amusement, vanity, [blameworthy] competition for worldly possessions, undercutting one another in business transactions, [blameworthy] enmity towards one another and envy, until it leads to transgression”.

[Source: Silsilah As-Saheehah’ Vol 2. Page 290. Hadeeth Number 680]

Makhool al-Dimshiqee رحمه الله :

"The people with the softest hearts are those who have the least sins."

[Az-Zuhd of Imaam Ahmad 641]
Markaz Mu’aadh ‏@MarkazMuaadh

*MISTAKES COMMITTED IN CONVERSATIONS AND GATHERINGS*

The First Mistake: Talkactiveness

Talkativeness is too much speech without benefit. The talkative one is he who speaks a lot (and becomes) burdensome. You find amongst the people one who is a talkative person and a jester- he speaks in every affair and enters into every restricted (conversation). When present in a gathering, he fills it with a lot of noise and preoccupies it with excess speech.

Talk-activeness is a manifestation of bad manners and a proof of one’s feeble intelligence and weakness in religion. The Prophet (sallal-laahu-alayhi-wasallam) said:

‘’Indeed, the most beloved to me amongst you and the closest to me in the Hereafter is the one with the best manners amongst you. And the most disliked to me amongst you and the most distanced from me in the Hereafter is the one with the evilest manners amongst you; the prattlers, the garrulous ones and the loudmouths.” [Reported by Imaam Ahmad and others, and declared Hasan by Imaam Al-Albaanee in As-Saheehah: Number: 791]

Abu Hurairah (radiyallaahu-anhu) said: ‘’There is no goodness in excessive speech.’’ [Reported by Ibn Abdul Barr (rahimahullaah) in Bahjatul Majaalis 1/61]

[Source: Akhtaa Fee Adab Al-Muhaadatha: page: 5]

“There is no shame in that a person makes a mistake, shameful is that he does not return back to the truth after it has become clear to him.”

- Shaykh Muqbil Ibn Hādī Al-Wādi'ī (rahimahullah)

[From The Tape Al-As'ilah Al-Imārātiyyah | Translated by ‘Abdurrahīm Ibn Muhammad Al-Hadhramī]

Allaah already knows that your husband is not a perfect man. That is why He created you as a suitable supporter for him. Do you still remember the story of Prophet Adam [as] and His wife Eve. Allaah created Eve [May Allaah be pleased with her] as a supporter and helper for her husband Adam [as].
Eve came to erase the loneliness that Adam was having a hard time with.
Therefore a virtuous woman does not waste time criticizing her man's flaws, faults & weakness. A virtuous wife knows that her first divine responsibility is being "a suitable helper" for her man. The reason you don't find it hard to see your husband's faults is because Allaah decreed you to help your husband become a better man. If your husband was perfect, he wouldn't need "a suitable supporter." Every man has the potential for greatness; but it takes a virtuous wife to nurture & develop him into greatness. Therefore stop complaining & get to work. Pray, encourage & build your husband up. Behind every successful man is a virtuous wife who understands that it is her responsibility to help her husband become the man Allaah desires him to be. Be brave, wives. YOU can do it.
No wonder why the Prophet Muhammad [pbuh] told men to give preference in choosing the virtuous wife than her wealth background and beauty.

💙💙💙💙👌👌👌👌

"A Believer to another believer is like two hands, one washes the other (correcting each other)."

Shaykh al-Islam Ibn Taymiyyah Rahimahullah [Majmou’ al-Fataawa, 53/28]

Abu Hurairah Radhi-Allahu Anhu reported: The Messenger of Allah, Sal Allahu alayi wassalam

أَيْنَ الْمُتَحَابُّونَ بِجَلَالِي الْيَوْمَ أُظِلُّهُمْ فِي ظِلِّي يَوْمَ لَا ظِلَّ إِلَّا ظِلِّي

Verily, Allah will say on the Day of Resurrection: Where are those who love each other for the sake of my glory? Today, I will shelter them in my shade on a day when there is no shade but mine.

[Source: Sahih Muslim 2566, Grade: Sahih Shaykh al-Albaani]

Always be honest with ur kids, don't just teach them to be honest, SHOW them honesty.

This hadith reminds me of this incident of Imam Bukhari (rahmatullah):

Imam Bukhari (rahimahullaah) travelled to meet a man in order to take hadeeth from him. But he saw this man calling his horse with an empty vessel in his hand, as if there was food in that vessel, moving it in order for the horse to come near so he can grab the horse. So Imam Bukahri asked him, “What is in that vessel?” And the man said, “Nothing.” Then Imam Bukhari said, “By Allaah, I will NOT take hadeeth from you, because you are a LIAR.” Subhaan Allah!

Reference for the hadith: 'Abdullah said, "Lying is not correct, neither in seriousness nor in jest. None of you should promise his child something and then not give it to him." [Al-Adab Al-Mufrad 387: classed Sahih by Shaykh Al Albaani]

🎓 Sh. Ibn al-'Uthaymeen (Raḥimahullāh):

“Lying is NOT permissible, *jokingly or seriously*, for it is a trait carried only by the people of HYPOCRISY (Nifāq).”

📚 [فتاوى نور على الدرب ١٧]

🕌 Dua’a directly after the prayer is not legislated – Explained by Shaykh Uthaymeen (Rahimahullah)

❓Question:

You mentioned as it relates to the issue or Dua’a or raising the hands during the Dua’a; that the Salaf, the Companions, and the people of knowledge would supplicate before the Salaam. Thus as it relates to the issue of raising the hands after the prayer, is this for the obligatory prayers and the supererogatory prayers likewise, is it better for the person to raise his hands or not?

🔰Shaykh Uthaymeen:

May Allah bless you. Firstly; do not ask about raising the hands after the prayer. Ask about Dua’a after the prayer. Is it legislated or not? We say: It is not legislated; because Allah said:

فَإِذَا قَضَيْتُمُ الصَّلاةَ فَاذْكُرُوا اللَّهَ

"And when you have completed the prayer, remember Allah" (Soorah An Nisa 4:103)

He did not say: ‘Supplicate.’ Therefore the place for Dua’a is not after the prayer. The place for Dua’a is before the Salaam (before the Salaam to exit the prayer).

📚 The Prophet صلى الله عليه وعلى آله وسلم used to teach his companions the tashahhud, and he said: ‘Then after it (the tashahhud), supplicate as you like’. Thus he made the place for Dua’a before the Salaam.

And he advised Muadh رضي الله عنه to say after the final tashahhud before the Salaam:

اللَّهُمَّ أَعِنِّي عَلَى ذِكْرِكَ وَشُكْرِكِ وَحُسْنِ عِبَادَتِكِ

“O Allah, help me in remembering You, in giving You thanks, and worshipping You well.”
(Collected by Abu Dawud 1522)

And this is a Dua’a. And this is necessitated by the intent, because as long as the person is praying he is conversing with Allah, and when he leaves the prayer the conversation ends. So is it more befitting to supplicate while you are conversing with Allah or after you have left the conversation? The first is more befitting (to supplicate while you are conversing with Allah). And there is no difference whether it is the obligatory prayers or the supererogatory prayers.

✒Translated by Rasheed ibn Estes Barbee

📎http://mtws.posthaven.com/duaa-directly-after-the-prayer-is-not-legislated-explained-by-shaykh-uthaymeen

Abu Huraira reported: The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “A man is upon the religion of his best friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends.”

Sunan Abu Dawud 4833

عَنْ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ أَنَّ النَّبِيَّ صلى الله عليه وسلم قَالَ‏ الرَّجُلُ عَلَى دِينِ خَلِيلِهِ فَلْيَنْظُرْ أَحَدُكُمْ مَنْ يُخَالِلُ

4833 سنن أبي داود كِتَاب الْأَدَبِ الرجل على دين خليله فلينظر أحدكم من يخالل

المحدث النووي خلاصة حكم المحدث إسناده صحيح

The question is not how much you love Allaah...for even the one who - does not pray or follow the Sunnah or care for the Halaal & Haraam - claims that he loves Allaah.

The real question is: Does Allaah love you?

This can only be answered by DOING what Allaah loves. As He تعالى said that He loves (some examples):

- the Tawwaabeen (those who repent).
- the Mutatahhireen (those who purify themselves).
- the Muhsineen (the good-doers).
- the Muttaqeen (the pious).
- the Mutawakkileen (those who put their trust in Him).
- the Muqsiteen (those who deal with equity).

And shunning that which He تعالى does NOT love:
-the Kaafireen (the disbelievers).
-the Mu`tadeen (the transgressors).
-the Dhaalimeen (the wrong-doers).
-the Mukhtaalin Fakhoor (the proud and boastful).
-the Mufsideen (the mischief-makers).
-the khaaineen (the treacherous).

Allaah make us of those whom He تعالى loves and does not make us of those whom He تعالى hates.

✒ Beware Of Oppressing A Soul

قال رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم : الظلم ثلاثة : فظلم لا يغفره الله ، وظلم يغفره ، وظلم لا يتركه ؛ فأما الظلم الذي لا يغفره الله فالشرك ، قال الله : إن الشرك لظلم عظيم ، وأما الظلم الذي يغفره فظلم العباد أنفسهم فيما بينهم وبين ربهم ، وأما الظلم الذي لا يتركه الله فظلم العباد بعضهم بعضاً حتى يدير لبعضهم من بعض

The Messenger of Allāh Ṣallallāhu-'Alaihi Wa Sallam said: “Oppression is of three types:

• Oppression that Allāh does not forgive
• Oppression that He forgives
• Oppression that He holds off from

So as for oppression which Allāh does not forgive then it is Shirk (polytheism), Allāh says: 'Verily, ash-Shirk (joining others with Allāh in worship) is a great oppression.' • [al-Qur’ān 31:13],

And as for oppression which He forgives then it is the oppression of slaves upon themselves in what is between them and their Lord (i.e any sin less than major Shirk),

And as for oppression which Allāh holds off from then it is the oppression of slaves upon each other UNTIL it is settled between themselves (i.e until the oppressed one is compensated).”

● [مختصر صحيح الجامع الصغير ٣٩٦١ ، قال الشيخ الألباني : الحديث عندي حسن

Mukhtaṣar Ṣaḥīḥ al-Jāmi' aṣ-Ṣagheer no. 3961, Sh. al-Albānī said: The narration is 'Ḥasan' with me]

'Adiyy Muhammad:
🔵 [ Complaining of loneliness? ] 🔵

🔷 From Muhammad bin Aslam - rahimahullaah - (d. 242 AH) that he said:

"What is there for me in this creation? I was alone in the back-bone of my father. Then i was alone in the womb of my mother. Then I entered this world alone. Then my soul will be taken alone, and I would be laid into my grave alone. Then Nakeer and Munkar (two angels) will come to me in my grave, to question me alone. If I reached goodness, I reach it alone, and if I reached evil, then also I would be alone. Then I would stand infront of Allaah, all alone. Then my (good) actions and sins, both will be put in the scale; mine alone. If I am sent to the Paradise, I am sent alone. And if I am sent to the Hell, I am sent alone. So, what is there for me in the people? "

🔶 Source: Hilyatul Awliyaa of Aboo Nu'aym al-Asbahaanee, 9/242

"Whomever Allaah gives provision and he thinks that Allah is not testing him, has no wisdom.

Whomever has little provision and thinks that Allaah will not look at (provide for) him, has no wisdom."

- Hasan al-Basri (rahimahullah)

Masjid ar-Razzaaq · @MasjidarRazzaaq
2nd Jan 2017

Advice for women who busy themselves with social media - Shaikh Ubaid al-Jaabiri
Question: This is from some women who want you to advise women who busy themselves with social media platforms like Facebook and WhatsApp and abandon the rights of their husbands?

Answer: This is treachery, playing with the rights of her husband. It is an obligation upon the women to preserve her husband's wealth and children. To help him with the cultivation of their children, and busy herself while in the house with things which will bring her benefit; from recitation of the Quran, and what ever she finds easy to read from the beneficial books, to pray the non obligatory prayers if she has the ability to do so, and do not busy herself with things which prevent her from fulfilling the rights of her husband. This is oppression. If the affair has reached that she delays doing benefits for her husband or negates them in totality this is oppression, and clear opposition to the statement of the prophet ‎ﷺ‎ "The women is the Shepard of her husbands house or money and children". And the Muslim women must be aware of another statement "If Allah appoints you ruler over a people and he dies while being treacherous to them, Allah will forbid him to enter the paradise". So, let the Muslim women fear her Lord and preserve the right of her husband because that is from what Allah made obligatory upon her.

Also what does she benefit from spending long hours on these platforms? Wasting time, and time oh my daughters is either for you or against you. Therefore, be diligent in that what is for you and don't waste it so it will reflect into your right and be against you and taken into account.

Shaikh Ubaid ibn Abdullah al-Jabaari, hafithahullah
Translated by : Anas Waters

http://www.miraath.net/

'Adiyy Muhammad:
Complaining of loneliness?

From Muhammad bin Aslam - rahimahullaah - (d. 242 AH) that he said:

"What is there for me in this creation? I was alone in the back-bone of my father. Then i was alone in the womb of my mother. Then I entered this world alone. Then my soul will be taken alone, and I would be laid into my grave alone. Then Nakeer and Munkar (two angels) will come to me in my grave, to question me alone. If I reached goodness, I reach it alone, and if I reached evil, then also I would be alone. Then I would stand infront of Allaah, all alone. Then my (good) actions and sins, both will be put in the scale; mine alone. If I am sent to the Paradise, I am sent alone. And if I am sent to the Hell, I am sent alone. So, what is there for me in the people? "

Source: Hilyatul Awliyaa of Aboo Nu'aym al-Asbahaanee, 9/242

*A GOOD WOMAN, MAKES A GOOD WIFE AND A GOOD WIFE BECOMES A GOOD MOTHER.*

*A GOOD MOTHER GIVE BIRTH TO A GOOD CHILD. IF YOU WANT TO BE ONE EMULATE THESE STEPS BELOW*

1). Never raise your voice for any reason to your husband. Its a sign of disrespect.

2). Don't expose your husband's weaknesses to your family and friends. It will bounce back at you. You are each other's keeper.

3). Never use attitudes and moods to communicate to your husband, you never know how your husband will interpret
them. Defensive women don't have a happy home.

4). Never compare your husband to other men, you've no idea what their life is all about. If you attack his Ego, his Love for you will diminish.

5). Never ill treat your husband's friends because you don't like them, the person who's supposed to get rid of them is your husband.

6). Never forget that your husband married you, not your maid or anyone else. Do your duties.

7). Never assign anyone to give attention to your husband, people may do everything else but your husband is your own responsibility.

8). Never blame your husband if he comes back home empty handed. Rather encourage him.

9). Never be a wasteful wife, your husband's sweat is too precious to be wasted.

10). Never pretend to be sick for the purpose of denying your husband's right. You must give it to him how he wants it. It's very important to Men, if you keep denying him, it is a matter of time before another woman takes over that duty. No man can withstand on starvation for too long (even the anointed
ones)

11). Never compare your husband to your one time Ex-lover. Your home may Never recover from it if you do.

12). Never answer for your husband in public opinion polls, let him handle what is directed to him although he may answer for you in public opinion polls.

13). Never shout or challenge your husband in front of children. Wise Women don't do that.

14). Don't forget to check the smartness of your husband before he checks out.

15). Never allow your friends to be too close to your husband.

16). Never be in a hurry in the bathroom and on the dressing table. Out there your husband is always surrounded by women who took their time on their looks.

17). Your parents or family or friends do not have the final say in your marriage. Don't waste your time looking up to them for a final word. You must Leave if you want to Cleave.

18). Never base your love on monetary things. Will you still submit to him even if you earn more money than him?

19). Don't forget that husbands want attention and good listeners, never be too busy for him. Good communication is the bed rock of every happy home.

20). If your idea worked better than his, never compare yourself to him. Its always team work.

21). Don't be too judgmental to your husband. No man wants a Nagging wife.

22). A lazy wife is a careless wife. She doesn't even know that her body needs a bath.

23). Does your husband like a kind of cooked food? Try to change your cooking. No man jokes with food.

24). Never be too demanding to your husband, enjoy every moment, resource as it comes.

25). Make a glass of water the very first welcome to your husband and everyone entering your home. Sweetness of attitude is true beauty.

26). Don't associate with women who have a wrong mental attitude about marriage.

27). Your marriage is as valuable to you as the value that you give it. Recklessness is unacceptable.

28). Fruit of the womb is a blessing from the Lord, love your children and teach them well.

29). You are never too old to influence your home. Never reduce your care for your family for any reason.

30). A prayerful wife is a better equipped wife,pray always for your husband and family.

_Send it to every woman you know. You never know whose marriage you are about to save. And to every man so that the women in their lives can be better guided._

'
ْلَنْ يُصِيبَنَا إِلَّا مَا كَتَبَ اللَّهُ لَنَا
"Nothing will happen to us except what Allah has written for us"
Qur'an 9:51

Six Best Traits In A Woman...

“If six mannerisms are gathered in a woman, her goodness is perfected: Guarding the five prayers, Yielding to her husband, Pleasing her Lord, Guarding her tongue from backbiting and gossip, Forsaking worldly possessions, and Being patient following a tragedy.”

(Siyar ‘A'lam al Nubala’ of Imaam ad-Dhahabi (rahimahullah)]

And when a person commits a sin it’s due to a decrease of his worship of Allah

- Ibn Taymiyyah (rahimahullah)

[جامع المسائل ٩ / ١٧٣]