'Umar Ibn al-Khattaab (RaḍiyAllāhu ʿanhu) once said to al-Ahnaf Ibn Qais (RaḍiyAllāhu ʿanhu),
“O Ahnaf, the more one laughs, the less dignity will he posses.
Whoever jokes (excessively or indecently) is a person who will be taken lightly.
Whoever does something frequently will become known by that thing.
Whoever speaks often, errs often; the more often one errs, the less modesty will he possess;
whoever has a low level of modesty will also have a low level of piety; and when one has a low level of piety, then his heart dies.”
[Sifat-us-Safwah, 1/1449]
“O Ahnaf, the more one laughs, the less dignity will he posses.
Whoever jokes (excessively or indecently) is a person who will be taken lightly.
Whoever does something frequently will become known by that thing.
Whoever speaks often, errs often; the more often one errs, the less modesty will he possess;
whoever has a low level of modesty will also have a low level of piety; and when one has a low level of piety, then his heart dies.”
[Sifat-us-Safwah, 1/1449]
In the age of fitan, generally, where ever allowed, even if it gets or looks or feels selective, I feel that those who have permission to preach within limits , should not let go of this opportunity and stop forbiddance of munkar because of the saying of Allah ﷻ :
{ فاتقوا الله ما استطعتم ...(الخ) }
[So keep your duty to Allah and fear Him as much as you can....] (till the end of the verse)
Surah At-Taghabun, Verse 16
Some people would mock it as hypocritical, but it is not. There could be a place where forbiddance of munkar could land you in jail for years and even if you were allowed to do that, it would not be so beneficial. It is allowed to do muwazanah (cost-benefit analysis) here and be silent in such a place.
On the other hand, a da'ee could be given a free pass to preach in a certain region which might be a sanctity and here the da'ee must make full use of it and do his da'wah with wisdom and politeness to whoever he can.
If he feels hypocrital inside for "not being consistent" , then, this is beyond his capability and it is just a whisper of shaytan to demotivate the da'ee further and this whisper must not be payed heed.
{ فاتقوا الله ما استطعتم ...(الخ) }
[So keep your duty to Allah and fear Him as much as you can....] (till the end of the verse)
Surah At-Taghabun, Verse 16
Some people would mock it as hypocritical, but it is not. There could be a place where forbiddance of munkar could land you in jail for years and even if you were allowed to do that, it would not be so beneficial. It is allowed to do muwazanah (cost-benefit analysis) here and be silent in such a place.
On the other hand, a da'ee could be given a free pass to preach in a certain region which might be a sanctity and here the da'ee must make full use of it and do his da'wah with wisdom and politeness to whoever he can.
If he feels hypocrital inside for "not being consistent" , then, this is beyond his capability and it is just a whisper of shaytan to demotivate the da'ee further and this whisper must not be payed heed.
A person of low moral character
It is attributed to Abdullah bin Amr radhiAllahanho that he said about a bad neighbor:
وجار سوء إن رأى حسنة غطاها وإن رأى سيئة أفشاها
A bad neighbor, if he sees a good thing he covers it, and if he sees a bad thing he discloses it.
المصنف - ابن أبي شيبة الكوفي - ج ٣ - الصفحة ٤٠٠
Ibn Qayyim said:
وهكذا كثير من النّاس يسمعُ منك ويرى من المحاسن أضعافَ المساوئِ فلا يحفَظُها، ولا يَنْقُلُهَا، ولا تُنَاسِبُهُ،*
Most of them hear from you. They see your good qualities which are far more than mistakes, but they will not remember them neither they will tell others..
Then he said:
فإذا رأى سَقْطَةً، أو كَلِمَةً عَوْرَاءَ، وجد بُغيتَهُ وما يُناسبُها، فجعلها فَاكِهَتَهُ وَنُقْلَهُ.‘‘*
But when they see a mistake or wrong thing in you, its like this is what they were looking for, they will take it and forward it to others as well.
[ مدارج السالکین : ٤٠٦/١ ]
It is attributed to Abdullah bin Amr radhiAllahanho that he said about a bad neighbor:
وجار سوء إن رأى حسنة غطاها وإن رأى سيئة أفشاها
A bad neighbor, if he sees a good thing he covers it, and if he sees a bad thing he discloses it.
المصنف - ابن أبي شيبة الكوفي - ج ٣ - الصفحة ٤٠٠
Ibn Qayyim said:
وهكذا كثير من النّاس يسمعُ منك ويرى من المحاسن أضعافَ المساوئِ فلا يحفَظُها، ولا يَنْقُلُهَا، ولا تُنَاسِبُهُ،*
Most of them hear from you. They see your good qualities which are far more than mistakes, but they will not remember them neither they will tell others..
Then he said:
فإذا رأى سَقْطَةً، أو كَلِمَةً عَوْرَاءَ، وجد بُغيتَهُ وما يُناسبُها، فجعلها فَاكِهَتَهُ وَنُقْلَهُ.‘‘*
But when they see a mistake or wrong thing in you, its like this is what they were looking for, they will take it and forward it to others as well.
[ مدارج السالکین : ٤٠٦/١ ]
Sh. Ibn al-'Uthaymeen: “Whenever you will fear Allāh then trust that He will make a way out for you from every hardship.”
● [شرح رياض الصالحين ١\٥١٧]
● [شرح رياض الصالحين ١\٥١٧]
YOUR GAINS IN COURTESY
" When a person has good character, he gains more friends and fewer enemies, difficult tasks become easy for him and angry minds get soft for him. "
📚 - Imaam al Maawardee, Adabud Dunyaa wad Deen p. 250.
" When a person has good character, he gains more friends and fewer enemies, difficult tasks become easy for him and angry minds get soft for him. "
📚 - Imaam al Maawardee, Adabud Dunyaa wad Deen p. 250.
🌷 بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم
You might be wondering why some people suddenly disappeared in your life. Perhaps their niyyah (intention) may not have been good towards you. It was likely Allahs protection that the connection with them didn't work out.
May Allah only allow the people that have the purest intentions from the very start to stay in our lives.
Those with good intentions may be everything that we will ever need.
InShaAllah khair,
You might be wondering why some people suddenly disappeared in your life. Perhaps their niyyah (intention) may not have been good towards you. It was likely Allahs protection that the connection with them didn't work out.
May Allah only allow the people that have the purest intentions from the very start to stay in our lives.
Those with good intentions may be everything that we will ever need.
InShaAllah khair,
Shaykh ibn ‘Uthaymeen [may Allāh have mercy on him] said:
“Make yourself such that you are always optimistic and [know] whatever Allāh wants will occur.”
Riyādh us-Sāliheen, 4/87 | Shaykh ibn ‘Uthaymeen [may Allāh have mercy on him]
Translation: Authentic Quotes
“Make yourself such that you are always optimistic and [know] whatever Allāh wants will occur.”
Riyādh us-Sāliheen, 4/87 | Shaykh ibn ‘Uthaymeen [may Allāh have mercy on him]
Translation: Authentic Quotes
YOU CANNOT PLEASE EVERYONE
A man said to al-Ḥasan al-Baṣrī (raḥimahullāh):
‘The people sit around you so that they may find fault with you!’ So he said, ‘Indeed, I encouraged my soul to aspire for Paradise so it aspired for it. Then I encouraged it to aspire for salvation from Hellfire and so it aspired for it. Then I encouraged it to aspire for salvation from the people, but I didn’t find a way to that. Indeed, the people were not pleased with their Creator although He provides for them, so how can they be pleased with another creation like themselves?’
[ Al-Bidāyah wal-Nihāyah (9/318 )]
Prophet Mūsá (ʿalayhisalām) said: ‘O my Lord, the people say things about me which are not (i.e. not true)! So Allāh revealed to him: ‘O Mūsá, I did not make that (privilege) for Myself, so how can I make it the case for you?’
[Al-Adaab al-Shar’iyyah by Ibn Muflih (1/38 )]
Mālik ibn Dinār: ‘Since I have known (the reality of) people, I have not taken delight in their praise nor have I hated their criticism.’ It was said to him, ‘Why is that?’ He said, ‘The one who praises from amongst them is excessive and the critic from amongst them exaggerates!"
[Tarikh Dimishq (59/307)]
‘Āʿishah (raḍī Allāhu ʿanha) wrote to Mu’awiya (raḍī Allāhu ʿʿʿanhu): ‘Salamun ʿalayk. Amma baʿd, I have heard the Messenger of Allāh (ṣallallāhu ʿalayhi wa-sallam) say, ‘Whoever gains the Pleasure of Allāh by the anger of the people (i.e. thereby gains their anger), Allāh suffices him of the people’s troubles. And whoever gains the pleasure of the people by the Anger of Allāh (i.e. in the process he gains His Anger), then Allāh leaves him to the people.’ Wa-Salāmu ʿalayk.’
[Reported by al-Tirmidhī in Kitab al-Zuhd (no. 2414), declared Ṣaḥīḥ by al-Albānī]
Imam al-Shāfiʿī: ‘There is nobody except that he has someone who loves him and someone who hates him. So if that’s the case, let a person be with the people who are obedient to Allāh `azza wa jall!’ (as they love and hate for the Sake of Allāh and they are not unjust).
A man said to al-Ḥasan al-Baṣrī (raḥimahullāh):
‘The people sit around you so that they may find fault with you!’ So he said, ‘Indeed, I encouraged my soul to aspire for Paradise so it aspired for it. Then I encouraged it to aspire for salvation from Hellfire and so it aspired for it. Then I encouraged it to aspire for salvation from the people, but I didn’t find a way to that. Indeed, the people were not pleased with their Creator although He provides for them, so how can they be pleased with another creation like themselves?’
[ Al-Bidāyah wal-Nihāyah (9/318 )]
Prophet Mūsá (ʿalayhisalām) said: ‘O my Lord, the people say things about me which are not (i.e. not true)! So Allāh revealed to him: ‘O Mūsá, I did not make that (privilege) for Myself, so how can I make it the case for you?’
[Al-Adaab al-Shar’iyyah by Ibn Muflih (1/38 )]
Mālik ibn Dinār: ‘Since I have known (the reality of) people, I have not taken delight in their praise nor have I hated their criticism.’ It was said to him, ‘Why is that?’ He said, ‘The one who praises from amongst them is excessive and the critic from amongst them exaggerates!"
[Tarikh Dimishq (59/307)]
‘Āʿishah (raḍī Allāhu ʿanha) wrote to Mu’awiya (raḍī Allāhu ʿʿʿanhu): ‘Salamun ʿalayk. Amma baʿd, I have heard the Messenger of Allāh (ṣallallāhu ʿalayhi wa-sallam) say, ‘Whoever gains the Pleasure of Allāh by the anger of the people (i.e. thereby gains their anger), Allāh suffices him of the people’s troubles. And whoever gains the pleasure of the people by the Anger of Allāh (i.e. in the process he gains His Anger), then Allāh leaves him to the people.’ Wa-Salāmu ʿalayk.’
[Reported by al-Tirmidhī in Kitab al-Zuhd (no. 2414), declared Ṣaḥīḥ by al-Albānī]
Imam al-Shāfiʿī: ‘There is nobody except that he has someone who loves him and someone who hates him. So if that’s the case, let a person be with the people who are obedient to Allāh `azza wa jall!’ (as they love and hate for the Sake of Allāh and they are not unjust).
#Supplications_for_debt
'A'isha (may Allāh be pleased with her), the wife of the Messenger of Allāh (ﷺ) reported:
The Messenger of Allāh (ﷺ) used to supplicate in prayer..
اللَّهُمَّ إِنِّي أَعُوذُ بِكَ مِنْ عَذَابِ الْقَبْرِ وَأَعُوذُ بِكَ مِنْ فِتْنَةِ الْمَسِيحِ الدَّجَّالِ، وَأَعُوذُ بِكَ مِنْ فِتْنَةِ الْمَحْيَا وَفِتْنَةِ الْمَمَاتِ، اللَّهُمَّ إِنِّي أَعُوذُ بِكَ مِنَ الْمَأْثَمِ وَالْمَغْرَمِ
“O Allāh, I seek refuge with You from the punishment of the grave, from the afflictions of the Masih ad-Dajjal (Antichrist), and from the afflictions of life and death. O Allāh, I seek refuge with You from sins and from debt.”
Somebody said to him, “Why do you so frequently seek refuge with Allāh from being in debt?” The Prophet (ﷺ) replied, “A person in debt tells lies whenever he speaks, and breaks promises whenever he makes (them).”
[Sahīh al-Bukhārī 832, 833 and Sahīh Muslim 589]
Narrated by Anas bin Malik:
The Prophet (ﷺ) used to say,
اللَّهُمَّ إِنِّي أَعُوذُ بِكَ مِنَ الْهَمِّ وَالْحَزَنِ، وَالْعَجْزِ وَالْكَسَلِ، وَالْجُبْنِ وَالْبُخْلِ، وَضَلَعِ الدَّيْنِ، وَغَلَبَةِ الرِّجَالِ
"O Allāh! I seek refuge with You from worry and grief, from incapacity and laziness, from cowardice and miserliness, from being heavily in debt and from being overpowered by (other) men.”
[Sahīh al-Bukhārī 6369]
'Ali (May Allāh be pleased with him) reported:
A slave who had made a contract with his master to pay for his freedom, came to me and said: "I am unable to fulfill my obligation, so help me." He said to him: "Shall I not teach you a supplication which the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) taught me? It will surely prove so effective that if you have a debt as large as a huge mountain, Allāh will surely pay it for you. Say:
اللَّهُمَّ اكْفِنِي بِحَلاَلِكَ عَنْ حَرَامِكَ وَأَغْنِنِي بِفَضْلِكَ عَمَّنْ سِوَاكَ
O Allāh, suffice me with Your lawful against Your prohibited, and make me independent of all those besides You.
[Jāmi` at-Tirmidhī 3563, Riyādh as-Sālihīn 1486]
'A'isha (may Allāh be pleased with her), the wife of the Messenger of Allāh (ﷺ) reported:
The Messenger of Allāh (ﷺ) used to supplicate in prayer..
اللَّهُمَّ إِنِّي أَعُوذُ بِكَ مِنْ عَذَابِ الْقَبْرِ وَأَعُوذُ بِكَ مِنْ فِتْنَةِ الْمَسِيحِ الدَّجَّالِ، وَأَعُوذُ بِكَ مِنْ فِتْنَةِ الْمَحْيَا وَفِتْنَةِ الْمَمَاتِ، اللَّهُمَّ إِنِّي أَعُوذُ بِكَ مِنَ الْمَأْثَمِ وَالْمَغْرَمِ
“O Allāh, I seek refuge with You from the punishment of the grave, from the afflictions of the Masih ad-Dajjal (Antichrist), and from the afflictions of life and death. O Allāh, I seek refuge with You from sins and from debt.”
Somebody said to him, “Why do you so frequently seek refuge with Allāh from being in debt?” The Prophet (ﷺ) replied, “A person in debt tells lies whenever he speaks, and breaks promises whenever he makes (them).”
[Sahīh al-Bukhārī 832, 833 and Sahīh Muslim 589]
Narrated by Anas bin Malik:
The Prophet (ﷺ) used to say,
اللَّهُمَّ إِنِّي أَعُوذُ بِكَ مِنَ الْهَمِّ وَالْحَزَنِ، وَالْعَجْزِ وَالْكَسَلِ، وَالْجُبْنِ وَالْبُخْلِ، وَضَلَعِ الدَّيْنِ، وَغَلَبَةِ الرِّجَالِ
"O Allāh! I seek refuge with You from worry and grief, from incapacity and laziness, from cowardice and miserliness, from being heavily in debt and from being overpowered by (other) men.”
[Sahīh al-Bukhārī 6369]
'Ali (May Allāh be pleased with him) reported:
A slave who had made a contract with his master to pay for his freedom, came to me and said: "I am unable to fulfill my obligation, so help me." He said to him: "Shall I not teach you a supplication which the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) taught me? It will surely prove so effective that if you have a debt as large as a huge mountain, Allāh will surely pay it for you. Say:
اللَّهُمَّ اكْفِنِي بِحَلاَلِكَ عَنْ حَرَامِكَ وَأَغْنِنِي بِفَضْلِكَ عَمَّنْ سِوَاكَ
O Allāh, suffice me with Your lawful against Your prohibited, and make me independent of all those besides You.
[Jāmi` at-Tirmidhī 3563, Riyādh as-Sālihīn 1486]
~ I am too busy ~
Subḥān-Allāh - we hear this all the time whenever we talk to people. Even if we don't see acquaintances or friends for a long time, we are too busy and they are too busy. Is anything wrong with that? Well it depends.
Category 1 ~ If you are too busy because you have organized your days and nights to worship Allāh by praying, reciting the Qur'ān and remembering Allāh as much as you can, and devoting time to read and learn about Islām, and perhaps to even teach Islām to your family, then this is praiseworthy. Indeed, worshipping Allāh in secret in your own home, your private sanctuary, is one of the ways in which your sincerity is manifested with Allāh.
Category 2 ~ Reality is that many Muslims, and I dare say most, do not fall into that first category. People are too busy usually because they are wasting their time. They are committing embarrassing sins, some major, be it fornication, intoxicants, you name it, even apostasy due to their sick hearts. They watch and engage in indecencies. They backbite and engage in indecent talk. They spend hours and hours on entertainment, be it watching useless movies, listening to music, or whatever else. In brief, they tend to be the toxic type which emits harm when they encounter those who are in the first category.
Implications ~ We are living in days of trials, and the trials will increase. Things will be confusing and not just this, you will see contradictions and double standards. Things will be backwards. Those who commit the sins and degrade themselves before Allāh will be the ones attacking and blaming those who are trying to live as good Muslims.
Conclusion ~ If you are in the second category, you should aspire to be in the first. Your time is depleting anyway, use it for what is good. If you are in the first category, remain steadfast, and don't let those in the second category hinder you. If they abuse you or accuse you, most of the time it is because they have those bad qualities by which they label you. They may call you arrogant, insensitive or whatever else, but your private relationship with Allāh at home, when nobody else sees you except Him, is ultimately what matters, and that is because when you stand before Allāh on the Day of Resurrection, you will be alone and everyone will be watching your reckoning, but by Allāh's mercy, you will succeed, and those who mocked you will be the ones whose regret will be of no avail when they meet their Lord and pay for their misdeeds.
Subḥān-Allāh - we hear this all the time whenever we talk to people. Even if we don't see acquaintances or friends for a long time, we are too busy and they are too busy. Is anything wrong with that? Well it depends.
Category 1 ~ If you are too busy because you have organized your days and nights to worship Allāh by praying, reciting the Qur'ān and remembering Allāh as much as you can, and devoting time to read and learn about Islām, and perhaps to even teach Islām to your family, then this is praiseworthy. Indeed, worshipping Allāh in secret in your own home, your private sanctuary, is one of the ways in which your sincerity is manifested with Allāh.
Category 2 ~ Reality is that many Muslims, and I dare say most, do not fall into that first category. People are too busy usually because they are wasting their time. They are committing embarrassing sins, some major, be it fornication, intoxicants, you name it, even apostasy due to their sick hearts. They watch and engage in indecencies. They backbite and engage in indecent talk. They spend hours and hours on entertainment, be it watching useless movies, listening to music, or whatever else. In brief, they tend to be the toxic type which emits harm when they encounter those who are in the first category.
Implications ~ We are living in days of trials, and the trials will increase. Things will be confusing and not just this, you will see contradictions and double standards. Things will be backwards. Those who commit the sins and degrade themselves before Allāh will be the ones attacking and blaming those who are trying to live as good Muslims.
Conclusion ~ If you are in the second category, you should aspire to be in the first. Your time is depleting anyway, use it for what is good. If you are in the first category, remain steadfast, and don't let those in the second category hinder you. If they abuse you or accuse you, most of the time it is because they have those bad qualities by which they label you. They may call you arrogant, insensitive or whatever else, but your private relationship with Allāh at home, when nobody else sees you except Him, is ultimately what matters, and that is because when you stand before Allāh on the Day of Resurrection, you will be alone and everyone will be watching your reckoning, but by Allāh's mercy, you will succeed, and those who mocked you will be the ones whose regret will be of no avail when they meet their Lord and pay for their misdeeds.
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Don't use the Qadr as an excuse !
Shaykh al-Islam Ibn Taymiyah (may Allaah have mercy on him) said: Man is not commanded to refer to the concept of the divine decree with regard to the deeds that are enjoined upon him, rather he should refer to the concept of the divine decree with regard to calamities that he has no means to ward off. Whatever befalls you as the result of other people’s actions or otherwise, bear it with patience, accept it and submit. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
“No calamity befalls, but by the Leave [i.e. Decision and Qadar (Divine Preordainments)] of Allaah, and whosoever believes in Allaah, He guides his heart [to the true Faith with certainty, i.e. what has befallen him was already written for him by Allaah from the Qadar (Divine Preordainments)]”
[al-Taghaabun 64:11]
One of the salaf – either Ibn Mas’ood or ‘Alqamah – said: This is the man whom calamity befalls and he knows that it is from Allaah, so he accepts it and submits. Majmoo’ al-Fataawa (7/278).
Shaykh al-Islam Ibn Taymiyah (may Allaah have mercy on him) said: Man is not commanded to refer to the concept of the divine decree with regard to the deeds that are enjoined upon him, rather he should refer to the concept of the divine decree with regard to calamities that he has no means to ward off. Whatever befalls you as the result of other people’s actions or otherwise, bear it with patience, accept it and submit. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
“No calamity befalls, but by the Leave [i.e. Decision and Qadar (Divine Preordainments)] of Allaah, and whosoever believes in Allaah, He guides his heart [to the true Faith with certainty, i.e. what has befallen him was already written for him by Allaah from the Qadar (Divine Preordainments)]”
[al-Taghaabun 64:11]
One of the salaf – either Ibn Mas’ood or ‘Alqamah – said: This is the man whom calamity befalls and he knows that it is from Allaah, so he accepts it and submits. Majmoo’ al-Fataawa (7/278).
When the heart is busy with this worldly life, a person will look for worldly means to find relief from the calamities and difficulties of life.
And when the heart is connected, and its concerned, and its busy with Allahﷻ, the first thing that comes to a persons mind during difficulties, is Allahﷻ.
The way you live your life is going to dictate how you respond to a difficult moment.
The Prophet ﷺ said:
احْفَظْ اللَّهَ تَجِدْهُ أمامك، تَعَرَّفْ إلَى اللَّهِ فِي الرَّخَاءِ يَعْرِفُك فِي الشِّدَّةِ
“Be mindful of Allah, and you will find Him in front of you, acknowledge Allah in times of ease, and He will remember you in times of difficulty.”
And when the heart is connected, and its concerned, and its busy with Allahﷻ, the first thing that comes to a persons mind during difficulties, is Allahﷻ.
The way you live your life is going to dictate how you respond to a difficult moment.
The Prophet ﷺ said:
احْفَظْ اللَّهَ تَجِدْهُ أمامك، تَعَرَّفْ إلَى اللَّهِ فِي الرَّخَاءِ يَعْرِفُك فِي الشِّدَّةِ
“Be mindful of Allah, and you will find Him in front of you, acknowledge Allah in times of ease, and He will remember you in times of difficulty.”
Abu Huraira reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “The world is a prison for the believer and a paradise for the unbeliever.”
Source: Ṣaḥīḥ Muslim 2956
So believers are also lesser in position than a slave?
Sulaiman bin Amr bin Ahwas said: “My father told me that he was present at the Farewell Pilgrimage with the Messenger of Allah. He praised and glorified Allah, and reminded and exhorted (the people). Then he said: 'I enjoin good treatment of women, for they are prisoners with you, and you have no right to treat them otherwise,
You have rights over your women and your women have rights over you. Your rights over your women are that they are not to allow anyone whom you dislike to tread on your bedding (furniture), nor allow anyone whom you dislike to enter your houses. And their right over you are that you should treat them kindly with regard to their clothing and food.' ”
The hadith already explained itself.
They're prisoners (captives) with you which means you treat them well as you must treat them well just as you must treat your captives well. They have rights over you just as your captives do over you.
It doesn't mean they're lesser in position than a slave nor the hadith never meant a slave is better than them.
And captives or prisoners in Islam meant slaves. When the believers take them as captives means they took them as slaves.
Prisoner in the hadith meant slave with regards to their treatment and their rights as a slave must also be treated well and have rights.
So how can a captive (slave) be lesser in position than a slave? It doesn't even sound rational.
If you say they're prisoners and thus lesser in position than a slave then they wouldn't even be treated same way as a slave would be treated. So they'd be treated worst than a slave. But the Hadith is clearly stating you treat them well and give them their rights.
Source: Ṣaḥīḥ Muslim 2956
So believers are also lesser in position than a slave?
Sulaiman bin Amr bin Ahwas said: “My father told me that he was present at the Farewell Pilgrimage with the Messenger of Allah. He praised and glorified Allah, and reminded and exhorted (the people). Then he said: 'I enjoin good treatment of women, for they are prisoners with you, and you have no right to treat them otherwise,
You have rights over your women and your women have rights over you. Your rights over your women are that they are not to allow anyone whom you dislike to tread on your bedding (furniture), nor allow anyone whom you dislike to enter your houses. And their right over you are that you should treat them kindly with regard to their clothing and food.' ”
The hadith already explained itself.
They're prisoners (captives) with you which means you treat them well as you must treat them well just as you must treat your captives well. They have rights over you just as your captives do over you.
It doesn't mean they're lesser in position than a slave nor the hadith never meant a slave is better than them.
And captives or prisoners in Islam meant slaves. When the believers take them as captives means they took them as slaves.
Prisoner in the hadith meant slave with regards to their treatment and their rights as a slave must also be treated well and have rights.
So how can a captive (slave) be lesser in position than a slave? It doesn't even sound rational.
If you say they're prisoners and thus lesser in position than a slave then they wouldn't even be treated same way as a slave would be treated. So they'd be treated worst than a slave. But the Hadith is clearly stating you treat them well and give them their rights.
When your life doesn't look like mercy from Allah remember what Khidr did.
- Broke the boat
- Killed a young boy
- Built a wall for people who didn't treat him and Musa عليه السلام well.
Wisdom behind what didn't seem like mercy.
◼️ Khidr damaged the ship that belonged to a few poor people working in the sea. A king was behind them seizing every ship by force. So by making it defective, he had saved it for its owners.
◼️ Khidr killed the young boy because his parents were believers, and there was a fear that the boy would oppress them by his rebellion and disbelief. So Allah planned to take him away and give them another child instead who would be more righteous and kind.
◼️ Khidr built a wall in a city where people shunned him, because it belonged to two orphan boys in the town. A treasure was hidden under it which also belonged to them; their father had been a righteous man, and Allah intended to safeguard their treasure. Building the wall ensured that the treasure would be protected till they reached maturity.
What seems like "hardship" is part of a much greater plan for you. And no matter how it looks right now, in it is khayr for you, you never imagined. What eyes of the "seen" see as hardship, eyes of the "unseen" know the hidden blessing in it.
I know no one ever wants to face a crisis.
No one ever wishes to receive any painful, devastating news. But here’s a fact: There will come a day when will be on the receiving end of bad news.
As difficult as it may be, even in the storm of hardship, pain and loss, it is important to try and envision a future designed by Allah with all its possibilities, as this will go a long way in keeping your tawakkul alive, this attitude will help you survive and live your life in peace.
❝..Allah knows but you don't know.❞
{Surah Al Baqarah 2: Verse 216}
Breath, step back and submit to Allah's plan for you. Tell your heart, there is khayr in this that I cannot see right now. Khayr for my duniya and for my akhira.
We aren't Musa عليه السلام and we don't have a teacher like Khidr but we have Quran and in it are stories that will calm our worries, guide our path and establish our feet firmly in faith and hope.
The plan of Allah for you is ALWAYS GOOD.
❝You must convince your heart that whatever Allah has decreed is most appropriate and most beneficial for you.❞
- Imam al-Ghazali رَحِمَ اللهُ عَلَيْهِ
❝The greatest reward comes with the greatest trial. When Allah loves a people He tests them...❞
[At-Tirmidhi]
🤲 May Allah grant us souls and eeman that can withstand hardships with yaqeen that something better is on the horizon - Allahuma ameen!
- Broke the boat
- Killed a young boy
- Built a wall for people who didn't treat him and Musa عليه السلام well.
Wisdom behind what didn't seem like mercy.
◼️ Khidr damaged the ship that belonged to a few poor people working in the sea. A king was behind them seizing every ship by force. So by making it defective, he had saved it for its owners.
◼️ Khidr killed the young boy because his parents were believers, and there was a fear that the boy would oppress them by his rebellion and disbelief. So Allah planned to take him away and give them another child instead who would be more righteous and kind.
◼️ Khidr built a wall in a city where people shunned him, because it belonged to two orphan boys in the town. A treasure was hidden under it which also belonged to them; their father had been a righteous man, and Allah intended to safeguard their treasure. Building the wall ensured that the treasure would be protected till they reached maturity.
What seems like "hardship" is part of a much greater plan for you. And no matter how it looks right now, in it is khayr for you, you never imagined. What eyes of the "seen" see as hardship, eyes of the "unseen" know the hidden blessing in it.
I know no one ever wants to face a crisis.
No one ever wishes to receive any painful, devastating news. But here’s a fact: There will come a day when will be on the receiving end of bad news.
As difficult as it may be, even in the storm of hardship, pain and loss, it is important to try and envision a future designed by Allah with all its possibilities, as this will go a long way in keeping your tawakkul alive, this attitude will help you survive and live your life in peace.
❝..Allah knows but you don't know.❞
{Surah Al Baqarah 2: Verse 216}
Breath, step back and submit to Allah's plan for you. Tell your heart, there is khayr in this that I cannot see right now. Khayr for my duniya and for my akhira.
We aren't Musa عليه السلام and we don't have a teacher like Khidr but we have Quran and in it are stories that will calm our worries, guide our path and establish our feet firmly in faith and hope.
The plan of Allah for you is ALWAYS GOOD.
❝You must convince your heart that whatever Allah has decreed is most appropriate and most beneficial for you.❞
- Imam al-Ghazali رَحِمَ اللهُ عَلَيْهِ
❝The greatest reward comes with the greatest trial. When Allah loves a people He tests them...❞
[At-Tirmidhi]
🤲 May Allah grant us souls and eeman that can withstand hardships with yaqeen that something better is on the horizon - Allahuma ameen!
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Ibn al-Qayyim رحمه الله:
“Allāh reprimands (tests) His believing slave whom He loves, though he is dear to Him, for the smallest mistakes and slip-ups, in order to keep him alert and careful.
As for the person who fell from His eye and meant nothing to Him, He allows him to sin freely. In fact, every time he commits a sin, He grants him another blessing.
The deluded persons thinks that is because of his worth with Allāh, oblivious that this is the epitome of disgrace, and that He wishes for Him the fiercest torment, and the endless punishment.”
[Zad al-Ma'ad | 3/506]
“Allāh reprimands (tests) His believing slave whom He loves, though he is dear to Him, for the smallest mistakes and slip-ups, in order to keep him alert and careful.
As for the person who fell from His eye and meant nothing to Him, He allows him to sin freely. In fact, every time he commits a sin, He grants him another blessing.
The deluded persons thinks that is because of his worth with Allāh, oblivious that this is the epitome of disgrace, and that He wishes for Him the fiercest torment, and the endless punishment.”
[Zad al-Ma'ad | 3/506]
Shaykh Muḥammad Ibn Ṣāliḥ al-‘Uthaymīn رحمه الله said:
“How often does one of us become better after a sin than he was before!?
A person often commits an error and falls into sin, and then finds his heart extremely saddened, and so he turns to Allaah, repenting to Him much, to the point that he keeps thinking about the sin, full of remorse, repenting continually!”
● [Sharh al-Mumti’ (v. 3, pp. 50-52)]
“How often does one of us become better after a sin than he was before!?
A person often commits an error and falls into sin, and then finds his heart extremely saddened, and so he turns to Allaah, repenting to Him much, to the point that he keeps thinking about the sin, full of remorse, repenting continually!”
● [Sharh al-Mumti’ (v. 3, pp. 50-52)]
Imām Ibn al-Jawzī رحمه الله:
All praise be to the One who made the different stages of life.
During these stages, there are those who submit to Allāh’s orders and thereby advance.
Others who are a wasteful of this time and thereby struck with loss and regret.
Indeed, life has been designated so that people [use] to reach the sought [i.e. Paradise] and to remove all that which causes loss and defect.
Whoever lives his life appropriately [as per Allāh’s commands], his life will be a trade generating for him, abundantly multiplied profits, whereas the corrupt one who does not act accordingly, will find his soul ruined.
A good deed is written as ten full deeds to seven hundred and more, and a sin makes the upright return to the state of disturbance he was at before.
book: Awaking from the Sleep of Heedlessness by Imām Ibn al-Jawzī رحمه الله pg. 18-19
All praise be to the One who made the different stages of life.
During these stages, there are those who submit to Allāh’s orders and thereby advance.
Others who are a wasteful of this time and thereby struck with loss and regret.
Indeed, life has been designated so that people [use] to reach the sought [i.e. Paradise] and to remove all that which causes loss and defect.
Whoever lives his life appropriately [as per Allāh’s commands], his life will be a trade generating for him, abundantly multiplied profits, whereas the corrupt one who does not act accordingly, will find his soul ruined.
A good deed is written as ten full deeds to seven hundred and more, and a sin makes the upright return to the state of disturbance he was at before.
book: Awaking from the Sleep of Heedlessness by Imām Ibn al-Jawzī رحمه الله pg. 18-19
Allāh Raises Those Who Rectify Their Hidden Affairs
Ibn Al-Jawzi (rahimahullah) said:
By Allāh, I have seen one who is abundant in praying, fasting much, often staying silent, [one who] shows humility in himself and in his dress. Yet, the hearts [of people] turn away from him, and his status amongst them is not all that!
And I have seen one who attires himself in luxurious clothes, does not have a lot of voluntary acts [of worship], nor does he make a show of humility, yet the hearts go one after the other in feeling love for him. So I reflected on the cause [of this], and then I realised it was what people keep hidden from others [that Allāh knows].
Ibn Al-Jawzī. Ṣayd Al-Khāṭir. Dār Ibn Al-Khuzaimah. Riyadh: 1437H. p. 355.
Ibn Al-Jawzi (rahimahullah) said:
By Allāh, I have seen one who is abundant in praying, fasting much, often staying silent, [one who] shows humility in himself and in his dress. Yet, the hearts [of people] turn away from him, and his status amongst them is not all that!
And I have seen one who attires himself in luxurious clothes, does not have a lot of voluntary acts [of worship], nor does he make a show of humility, yet the hearts go one after the other in feeling love for him. So I reflected on the cause [of this], and then I realised it was what people keep hidden from others [that Allāh knows].
Ibn Al-Jawzī. Ṣayd Al-Khāṭir. Dār Ibn Al-Khuzaimah. Riyadh: 1437H. p. 355.
'Umar Ibn al-Khattaab (RaḍiyAllāhu ʿanhu) once said to al-Ahnaf Ibn Qais (RaḍiyAllāhu ʿanhu),
“O Ahnaf, the more one laughs, the less dignity will he posses.
Whoever jokes (excessively or indecently) is a person who will be taken lightly.
Whoever does something frequently will become known by that thing.
Whoever speaks often, errs often; the more often one errs, the less modesty will he possess;
whoever has a low level of modesty will also have a low level of piety; and when one has a low level of piety, then his heart dies.”
[Sifat-us-Safwah, 1/1449]
“O Ahnaf, the more one laughs, the less dignity will he posses.
Whoever jokes (excessively or indecently) is a person who will be taken lightly.
Whoever does something frequently will become known by that thing.
Whoever speaks often, errs often; the more often one errs, the less modesty will he possess;
whoever has a low level of modesty will also have a low level of piety; and when one has a low level of piety, then his heart dies.”
[Sifat-us-Safwah, 1/1449]
Abu Tha’labah reported: The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “Verily, the most beloved of you and closest to me in the Hereafter are those with the best character. The most hateful of you to me and furthest from me in the Hereafter are those with the worst character: the braggarts, the verbose, the loquacious.”
Source: Ṣaḥīḥ Ibn Ḥibbān 5557
Grade: Sahih (authentic) according to Al-Arna’ut
عَنْ أَبِي ثَعْلَبَةَ الْخُشَنِيِّ عَنِ النَّبِيِّ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ قَالَ إِنَّ أَحَبَّكُمْ إِلَيَّ وَأَقْرَبَكُمْ مِنِّي فِي الآخِرَةِ أَحَاسِنُكُمْ أَخْلاقًا وَإِنَّ أَبْغَضَكُمْ إِلَيَّ وَأَبْعَدَكُمْ مِنِّي فِي الآخِرَةِ أَسْوَؤُكُمْ أَخْلاقًا الْمُتَشَدِّقُونَ الْمُتَفَيْهِقُونَ الثَّرْثَارُونَ
5557 صحيح ابن حبان ذكر خصال من كن فيه استحق بغض المصطفى صلى الله عليه وسلم إياه
12/368 المحدث شعيب الأرناؤوط خلاصة حكم المحدث صحيح في تخريج صحيح ابن حبان
Source: Ṣaḥīḥ Ibn Ḥibbān 5557
Grade: Sahih (authentic) according to Al-Arna’ut
عَنْ أَبِي ثَعْلَبَةَ الْخُشَنِيِّ عَنِ النَّبِيِّ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ قَالَ إِنَّ أَحَبَّكُمْ إِلَيَّ وَأَقْرَبَكُمْ مِنِّي فِي الآخِرَةِ أَحَاسِنُكُمْ أَخْلاقًا وَإِنَّ أَبْغَضَكُمْ إِلَيَّ وَأَبْعَدَكُمْ مِنِّي فِي الآخِرَةِ أَسْوَؤُكُمْ أَخْلاقًا الْمُتَشَدِّقُونَ الْمُتَفَيْهِقُونَ الثَّرْثَارُونَ
5557 صحيح ابن حبان ذكر خصال من كن فيه استحق بغض المصطفى صلى الله عليه وسلم إياه
12/368 المحدث شعيب الأرناؤوط خلاصة حكم المحدث صحيح في تخريج صحيح ابن حبان
Ayyoob عليه السلام suffered for eighteen years [1] from different kinds of ailments and diseases in his body, that no part of his body was intact and healthy except for his heart and tongue, with which he remembered Allaah. Yet he remained patient and a Believer in Allaah’s Mercy.
His illness continued for so long and because of the repugnant smell, his people deserted him.
Then he said the Du
أَنِّي مَسَّنِيَ الضُّرُّ
{"Indeed, adversity has touched me..."}
📚[Surah al-Anbiyaa (21): 83]
Did he say: “cure me”?
No, he did not say: “cure me”, out of shyness from His Lord!
Rather, he said:
وَأَنتَ أَرْحَمُ الرَّاحِمِينَ
{"…and you are the Most Merciful of all those who show mercy."}
📚[Surah al-Anbiyaa (21): 83]
You, O Allaah, are more merciful to me than I can ever be to myself!
Do you know why he did not say to Allaah: “heal me”? Because he entrusted his affair to Allaah: “O Allaah! My Maulaa (Protector)! If you know - and You are the All-Knower of the unseen and the seen - that if I stay sick is better for me, then let me be upon this sickness. But if You know that my well-being and good health is near, then indeed, distress has seized me.”
Allaahu Akbar! How simple the wordings but how great the meaning! For Allaah تعالى responded saying:
فَاسْتَجَبْنَا لَهُ فَكَشَفْنَا مَا بِهِ مِن ضُرٍّ
{So We answered his call, and We removed the distress that had afflicted him}
📚[Surah al-Anbiyaa (21): 84]
📑Notes:
[1] Wahb Ibn Munabbih said that Ayyoob عليه السلام suffered for three years. Anas said that he suffered for seven years and some months. Humaid said that he suffered for eighteen years. [Stories of the Prophets – Ibn Katheer]
His illness continued for so long and because of the repugnant smell, his people deserted him.
Then he said the Du
aa. A Duaa which does not even take a quarter of a line to write:أَنِّي مَسَّنِيَ الضُّرُّ
{"Indeed, adversity has touched me..."}
📚[Surah al-Anbiyaa (21): 83]
Did he say: “cure me”?
No, he did not say: “cure me”, out of shyness from His Lord!
Rather, he said:
وَأَنتَ أَرْحَمُ الرَّاحِمِينَ
{"…and you are the Most Merciful of all those who show mercy."}
📚[Surah al-Anbiyaa (21): 83]
You, O Allaah, are more merciful to me than I can ever be to myself!
Do you know why he did not say to Allaah: “heal me”? Because he entrusted his affair to Allaah: “O Allaah! My Maulaa (Protector)! If you know - and You are the All-Knower of the unseen and the seen - that if I stay sick is better for me, then let me be upon this sickness. But if You know that my well-being and good health is near, then indeed, distress has seized me.”
Allaahu Akbar! How simple the wordings but how great the meaning! For Allaah تعالى responded saying:
فَاسْتَجَبْنَا لَهُ فَكَشَفْنَا مَا بِهِ مِن ضُرٍّ
{So We answered his call, and We removed the distress that had afflicted him}
📚[Surah al-Anbiyaa (21): 84]
📑Notes:
[1] Wahb Ibn Munabbih said that Ayyoob عليه السلام suffered for three years. Anas said that he suffered for seven years and some months. Humaid said that he suffered for eighteen years. [Stories of the Prophets – Ibn Katheer]