• Be emotionally available to connect with children and teach them self-regulation and social skills:
• Turn off the phones at night when children have to go to bed to avoid digital distraction.
• Become a regulator or emotional trainer for your children. Teach them to recognize and manage their own frustrations and anger.
• Teach them to greet, to take turns, to share without running out of anything, to say thank you and please, to acknowledge the error and apologize (do not force them), be a model of all those values ​​you instill.
• Connect emotionally - smile, hug, kiss, tickle, read, dance, jump, play or crawl with them.

Article written by Dr. Luis Rojas Marcos Psychiatrist.

#parenting

Ibn Qayyim (rahimahullah) stated:

Four things that bring joy to the heart:

1. Looking at loved ones
2. Looking (and reflecting) at the blue sky
3. Looking (and reflecting) at flowing water
4. Looking (and reflecting) at greenery.

[Summarised from Ibn al-Qayyim (rahimahullah), Zaad al-Ma'ad, Riyad: Mu'assasah ar-Risalah, pg. 614]

Types of Jinn Possession and Effects Upon Humans:

1. A total possession:
A Jinn possesses the whole body of a person, such as the one who suffers from seizures.

2. A partial possession:
A Jinn possesses one particular organ of the body, such as an arm, leg or tongue.

3. Constant possession:
A Jinn possesses the body for a long period of time.

4. Temporary possession:
Which lasts no more than a few minutes, like a nightmare. [1]

The Jinn Effects:

SPIRITUAL - The Jinn effect a person spiritually. Their ultimate goal is to take a person away from Allah and outside of Islam. They achieve this through making a person lazy to perform salah, until they leave it. Difficult to recite Qur'an, until they stop it. Unmotivated to study Islam, until they abandon it. Slowly taking a toll on the person's eeman (faith), until they destroy it.

PSYCHOLOGICAL - The Jinn effect a person psychologically. Whether it is for revenge, sent through Magic or out of love, their objective is to fulfill their task and desires. They achieve this through getting to the person's heart and into their minds. Through waswaas they can cause severe mood swings leading to depression, anxiety, anger as well as extreme lust and lewd behavior. This taking a toll on the person's life until it is destroyed.

PHYSICAL - The Jinn effect a person physically just as they effect psychologically. Being afflicted in the heart and mind has a direct effect on the physical state and health of a person. Jinn can cause medical illnesses, unexplained pains and bruises as well as sexual abuse by possessing and living inside of a person. This taking a toll on the person's overall well being and health until it is destroyed.

[1] Shaykh al Islam Ibn Taimiyya’s “Eedawh ad-Dalaalah fee ‘Umoom ar-Risaalah” in vol 19. of Majmoo’ul Fataawaa. Translated by Abu Ameenah Bilal Phillips.

There are three types of men: the dog-like, the lion-like and the angelic. The dog-like are satisfied with bones, table scraps, carrion and defilement. These do not satisfy the lion-like, who crave to control and to dominate people, either by truth or by lies. But the angelic are above this. They direct their wills towards the Sublime Companion. They aspire to knowledge, faith and love of God. They turn towards Him, find peace and tranquility in Him, place His love and good pleasure above all else. They take whatever they get from the world as a means to help them arrive at its originator, the Lord and Protector, not to cut themselves off from Him.

"The Invocation of God" - Ibn Qayyim al-Jawziyya, p. 75

Ibn Al Qayyim رحمه الله said :🖋️

"Having the correct understanding of deen is light which Allah عزوجل throws into the hearts of the slave of Allah عزوجل which is increased by having the taqwa of Allah عزوجل and having good intent." 🍂

{Imam Al muaqin 1/69}

🍂"Surely Allah loves Al-Muttaqun (the people of Taqwa)." [Surah At-Tawbah 9: 4]

In the Qur’an, the most frequent reference to the Love of Allah subhana wa ta'ala is in relation to taqwa.🍂

May Allah make us people of taqwa, whether in public or in private.

KILLING A HOUSE LIZARD (CICAK)

It was narrated from Abu Hurairah that the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said:

“Whoever kills a house lizard with one blow will have such and such a reward. Whoever kills it with two blows will have such and such a reward,” less than the first. “And whoever kills it with three blows will have such and such reward,” less than that mentioned the second time.

حَدَّثَنَا مُحَمَّدُ بْنُ عَبْدِ الْمَلِكِ بْنِ أَبِي الشَّوَارِبِ، حَدَّثَنَا عَبْدُ الْعَزِيزِ بْنُ الْمُخْتَارِ، حَدَّثَنَا سُهَيْلٌ، عَنْ أَبِيهِ، عَنْ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ، عَنْ رَسُولِ اللَّهِ ـ صلى الله عليه وسلم ـ قَالَ " مَنْ قَتَلَ وَزَغًا فِي أَوَّلِ ضَرْبَةٍ فَلَهُ كَذَا وَكَذَا حَسَنَةً وَمَنْ قَتَلَهَا فِي الثَّانِيَةِ فَلَهُ كَذَا وَكَذَا - أَدْنَى مِنَ الأُولَى - وَمَنْ قَتَلَهَا فِي الضَّرْبَةِ الثَّالِثَةِ فَلَهُ كَذَا وَكَذَا حَسَنَةً - أَدْنَى مِنَ الَّذِي ذَكَرَهُ فِي الْمَرَّةِ الثَّانِيَةِ " .

Grade: Sahih (Darussalam)
English reference : Vol. 4, Book 28, Hadith 3229
Arabic reference : Book 28, Hadith 3351

http://www.sunnah.com/urn/1273350

❝Indeed the believer in this Dunyaa is like a stranger, he does not surrender to the humiliation of the Dunyaa, nor does he compete with the people of the Dunyaa for the honour of this Dunyaa.

The people according to him are relaxing, while his soul according to himself is busy [with the Hereafter]. As a result Toobah [a tree in Paradise] is for the slave of Allaah who earns goodness and submits a virtuous action for a day when he will be poor and in need. [i.e. the Day of Judgment].❞

— Al-Hasan Al-Basri رحمه الله
[Zuhd By Ahmad, (No. 333) | Muhasib An-Nafs By Ibn Abi Dunyaa, (No. 78)]

To win all the matches but lose the final is really painful. Just the thought of it is painful. All efforts wasted. Whoever made those efforts. Here, those who lost will still be applauded for making it to the finals, yet the pain will linger on for missing the purpose.

Now imagine the greatest match ever.. This life. You are playing it right now. You can't lose. If you lose you will not only miss the opportunity for bliss but punished as well.

There are only two options,

Heaven OR Hell.

(فمن زحزح عن النار وأدخل الجنة فقد فاز)

So, whoever has been kept away from the Fire and admitted to Paradise has really succeeded. The worldly life is nothing but an illusionary enjoyment.

3:185

The Prophet ﷺ said: “Those who deal mercifully with others, Allah will deal mercifully with them, therefore, show mercy to those on Earth so that the one in the Heavens may show you mercy.”

The Hadith is very simple and straightforward, if we don’t show mercy and compassion to each other, especially during times of hardship and calamity, we risk losing the most important mercy that matters to us, and that is, the mercy of Allah upon us.

This is a serious matter. Stop cursing each other and stop hating each other, Allah ﷻ made us believers and He commanded us to maintain the tie of brotherhood with each other. So adhere to His command, and avoid the path of the Shaytaan, the path of hatred and arguments.

May Allah ﷻ not hold us to account for what the ignorant and foolish amongst us have done. AAMEEN

Heal your heart with Qur'ān

Ibn al-Qayyim رحمه الله said:

“If you read (the Qur'ān) with contemplation, even if over a (single) ayah, it is a key to healing your heart. Even if repeated a hundred times and for the (whole) night. Reading an ayah with contemplation and understanding is better than reading to completion without tadabbur and understanding. It is more beneficial for the heart and ensures gain in faith, and in tasting sweetness of the Qur'ān.”

مفتاح دار السعادة (٥٥٣/١)

Reciting the Qur'ān Makes Your Affairs Easy!

"Increase in recitation of the Qur'ān and do not leave it. For indeed whatever you seek will be facilitated for you proportionate to what you recite."

Alhamdulillāh for the BLESSINGS of Qur'ān

https://twitter.com/FollowingSalaf/status/1725032806869303645?t=CV9v8z9ifXQtnt1cH4qy3A&s=19

It is said to the intelligent Muslim who desires the Hereafter and detests this world: be in this world like this stranger who only looks to this world for that which will suffice him and leaves plentitude and luxury. When you do this, truly will you be a stranger, someone who is but passing on his way, someone who desires the Hereafter and looks down on this world. If you do this, you will see the praiseworthy outcome of your bearing with patience all the hardship and adversity of your journey. Allāh knows best.

*[Book: The Journey of the Strangers by al-Ḥāfiẓ ibn Rajab al-Ḥanbalī (d. 795H) , p. 42 | Translation by Abū Rumaysah | Daar us-Sunnah Publishers]*

Azkar Reminder

Whenever a matter would distress him, the Prophet Sal-Allahu Alaihi Wasallam would say

يَا حَىُّ يَا قَيُّومُ بِرَحْمَتِكَ أَسْتَغِيثُ
Ya Hayyu Ya Qayyum, Bi-Raḥmatika Astagith

Oh Alive and everlasting one, I seek Relief by your mercy.
Jamia Tirmazi book 45 3524 - Hasan

Beneath The Sheets

🚩📌The Messenger of Allaah (ﷺ) said: “The religion is (sincere) advice.” 📚 [Muslim (1/55)]

Sexual Intercourse

🚩The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said:

📌“In the sexual intercourse of any one of you there is reward” (meaning, when he has intercourse with his wife).

📚 [Saheeh Muslim (720)]

🚩Ibn al-Qayyim (may Allaah have mercy on him) said:

📌“The best doctors suggest that sexual intercourse is one of the means of maintaining good health.”

📚 [al-Tibb al-Nabawi, (1/249)]

Recommendation of Foreplay

🚩Ibn Qudaamah (may Allaah have mercy on him) said:

📌“It is Mustahabb (recommended) to engage in foreplay with one’s wife before intercourse, so as to arouse her and so that she will get the same pleasure from intercourse as he does.”

📚 [al-Mughni (8/136)]

🚩Abu’l-Najaa al-Hajaawi al-Hanbali (may Allaah have mercy on him) said:

📌“He may engage in masturbation with the wife’s hand.”

📚 [al-Iqnaa‘; Kashshaaf al-Qinaa‘ (5/188)]

🚩Ibn ‘Aabideen (may Allaah have mercy on him) said:

📌“Abu Yoosuf asked Abu Haneefah about a man who touches his wife’s private part and she touches his to stimulate arousal – did he see anything wrong with that? He said: ‘No, and I hope that the reward will be greater.’”

📚 [Radd al-Muhtaar (6/367)]

Paying Attention

🚩al-Mannaawi (may Allaah have mercy on him) said:

📌“‘When one of you has intercourse with his wife, let him pay proper attention to her’ i.e. let him have intercourse with her energetically and vigorously, doing it properly, with love and sincerity towards her. This is what is recommended.”

📚 [Fayd al-Qadeer (1/325)]

The Best Sexual Position

🚩Ibn al-Qayyim (may Allaah have mercy on him) said:

📌“The best sexual position is for the man to get on top of his wife (i.e. missionary position) after having fondled and kissed her (i.e. foreplay). This is why the woman is sometimes called ‘Firaash’ (mat or bed).”

📚 [al-Tibb al-Nabawi (1/326)]

The Worst Sexual Position

🚩Ibn al-Qayyim (may Allaah have mercy on him) said:

📌“The worst sexual position is for the woman to get on top of the man (i.e. cowgirl or riding position).

📌In this case, the man will not be able to ejaculate all of the semen, and whatever remains will get soiled and harm his body.

📌In addition, this position might allow for some harmful moisture to descend from the woman’s sexual organ to the penis.

📌In addition, the womb will not be able to hold onto the semen in this position, and thus, conception will be more difficult.”

📚 [al-Tibb al-Nabawi (1/327)]

💦 Climax 💦

🚩Ibn Qudaamah (may Allaah have mercy on him) said:

📌“If he reaches climax before she does, it is not right for him to withdraw until she reaches climax... And because that may be harmful to her and prevent her from fulfilling her desire.”

📚 [al-Mughni (8/136)]

🚩al-Mannaawi (may Allaah have mercy on him) said:

📌“‘If he finishes before her’ i.e. if he reaches climax first and she is still aroused. ‘He should not withdraw from her’ i.e. before she reaches climax and fulfils her desire; rather he should give her time so that she could fulfil her desire as he fulfilled his desire. So he should not move away from her until he is certain that she has fulfilled her desire, because that is part of kind treatment, keeping her chaste and being considerate towards her.”

📚 [Fayd al-Qadeer (1/325)]

🚫 Frequent Intercourse 🚫

🚩al-Nawawi (may Allaah have mercy on him) said:

📌“If a man engages in intercourse too frequently, his semen may become red and resemble the juice that comes from meat, or may even contain blood.”

📚 [Sharh Saheeh Muslim (3/222)]

⚫️ Wudoo’ [Ablution] (Recommended) ⚫️

🚩The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said:

📌“If any one of you has intercourse with his wife then wants to repeat it, let him do Wudoo’ (ablution) between the two (actions), for it is more energising for the second time.”

📚 [Narrated by Muslim (1/171)]

🚿 Obligatory Shower 🚿

🚩al-Baghawi (may Allaah have mercy on him) said:

✒ Zuhd

Prophet Muḥammad Ṣallallāhu-ʿAlaihi Wa Sallam said:

ازهد في الدنيا يحبك الله وازهد فيما أيدي الناس يحبك الناس

“Abstain from Dunyā; Allāh will love you, and abstain from what is in the hands of people (i.e what they possess); they will love you.”

● [مختصر صحيح الجامع الصغير برقم ٩٢٢ ، صححه الألباني]

Sh. Ibn Bāz Raḥimahullāh said in its Sharḥ:

Abstaining (Zuhd) from Dunyā means avoiding whatever Allāh has forbidden you of it and avoiding that which distracts you from the Ākhirah (Hereafter) and abstaining from people means not begging them, if Allāh suffices you then do not beg from people.

● [مجموع الفتاوى ٢٩/٢٣٨]

Hadith on Trials: Disappearance of righteous a sign of the Hour
By Abu Amina Signs of the Hour أشراط الساعة, Trials البلاء
Mirdas al-Aslami reported: The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “Righteous people will be taken away, one after another, until only the dregs of society will remain like the sediment of barley or dates. Allah will have no esteem for them.”

Source: Ṣaḥīḥ al-Bukhārī 6434

Grade: Sahih (authentic) according to Al-Bukhari

عَنْ مِرْدَاسٍ الْأَسْلَمِيِّ قَالَ قَالَ النَّبِيُّ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ يَذْهَبُ الصَّالِحُونَ الْأَوَّلُ فَالْأَوَّلُ وَيَبْقَى حُفَالَةٌ كَحُفَالَةِ الشَّعِيرِ أَوْ التَّمْرِ لَا يُبَالِيهِمْ اللَّهُ بَالَةً

6434 صحيح البخاري كتاب الرقاق باب ذهاب الصالحين ويقال الذهاب المطر

Imagine praying Salah with a clothe you bought with haram money, fasting with the food you bought with haram, hajj with haram money, what exactly will you tell Allah when you're questioned on the day of Qiyamah.

Be patient, haram is not an alternative no matter how bad life treats you. Whatever money you make in selling drugs, in fraud, in prostitution etc, is the same money you will make if you should engage yourself into halal business, even if it's selling of tomatoes in the market.

For whatever Allah has written for you before your existence in this world is exactly what will be provided for you, nothing more nothing less, all required from you is patience.

But you're giving a free will, the type of work you want to do is up to you to decide, haram or halal it's up to you to decide. Unfortunately greediness has made people trade their Akhira with the Dunya. May Allah forgive us.

🌿PERHAPS A FRIEND MIGHT FLIP

Trusting people [unconditionally] and befriending anyone is one of the biggest errors because the worst of enemies are those who used to be friends at one point for they have been exposed to your secrets.

A poet said:
"Beware of your enemy once, but beware of your friend a thousand times. Perhaps a friend might flip, so he would know how to harm you more."
Book: Captured Thoughts
By al-Hāfiz Abū'l-Faraj Ibn al-Jawzī
Translated and Published by
Dār as-Sunnah Publishers
P. 408
#enemy #friends #Beware
#trusting #people #unconditionally

There was a lesson in their stories for the first door
"There was certainly in their stories a lesson for those of understanding." [Qur'ān 12:111]

https://x.com/markazmuaadh/status/1727416167378415785?s=46&t=H2LEI92z5xjWXhZJ81eskw

A smart man makes a mistake, learns from it, and never makes that mistake again. But a wise man finds a smart man and learns from him how to avoid the mistake altogether.

Golden Advices from ʿUmār b. Āl-Khaṭṭāb [رَضِيَ اللَّهُ عَنْه]:

1]. "Do not speak about that which does not concern you.

2]. Know your enemy and be wary of your friend, except for the trustworthy one.

3]. No one is trustworthy, except for the person who fears Āllāh ﷻ.

4]. Do not walk with the evildoer, lest he teaches you some of his wickedness; and do not reveal your secrets to him.

5]. When you consult others in your affairs, consult only those who fear Āllāh ﷻ."

Sifāt Ās-Safwāh Page No. 1/149, Minhāj Āl-Qasidin, Page No. 132.