socialization

"if you are hiking in a group and waiting for slower people to catch up, dont start walking again when they do catch up, because then you got a rest and they didnt"

parenting

"kids are not responsible for"

trauma

"there are moments that divide your life into before and after"

socialization

"you have to meet ppl where they are. and sometimes you have to leave them there."

kindness, society

"remember kids: if you see someone shoplifting food, no you didnt"

socialization, kindness, invisible problems

"on the surface, things seem the same for all
but you dont know how deep their troubles run
be kind. or just, dont be a jerk. good enough."

mental health, intrusive thoughts

"do you ever catch yourself thinking of something so weird and fucked up that you have to stop mid-thought
[...]
our thoughts arent always from us. sometimes random thoughts are our brain trying to process and understand concepts we've heard from other people. your reaction to that thought shows your true feelings on the subject"

unscheduled reminder for those who may need it:

you own your body, but you are not your body

socialization, kindness, mental illness, lgbt

"i live my life under the basic principle that people know their minds, bodies, genders, and orientations better than i do so."

society, kindness

"reasons why im polite to waiters

because i realize the're human beings, trying to make a living, not my servants"

lgbt, labels

"viewing queer identities as "this is the label that makes me happy and feels most accurate now" rather than "this is who i am, was, and always will be" will definitely take the pressure off, friends. changing your mind is proof that you have one"

mental health, healing, growth, self compassion

"dont let a bad day
distract you from all the progress you've made"

kindness, self compassion

"no need to be best
only good and kind"

self compassion, mental health, growth, healing

"this is progress
this is also progress
and so is this"

trauma, abuse, socialization

"abused children have been taught that love can coexist with abuse. this shapes our perceptions of love."

unscheduled reminder that it is okay to feel sad after making the right decision

unscheduled reminder for old and new subscribers/visitors alike (for the ones interested, that is) that this is still, and will keep being, active, and you are still welcome to participate in it, regardless of it being an "old post"

abuse, trauma

"growing up in an abusive household is a fucking trip dude...... if you've never had someone angrily wash a dish at you or fold a sock in your direction then how are you gonna understand why i get nervous when you quietly do the laundry, or why i ask "are you mad at me?" when you set the bag of groceries down too hard?
[...]
abused kids speak a language you cant learn"


[kindness is not just actions; kindness is also understanding]

gaslight, definitions, words

"gaslighting is a form of mental abuse in which information is twisted or spin, selectively omitted to favor the abuser, or false information is presented with the intent of making victims doubt their own memory, perception, and sanity"

for reciprocity's sake, and because it does no harm to do it, shot out to https://news.1rj.ru/str/heartwarmingmemes

not focused on educating, but more focused on making their subscribers feel better whenever the chance arrives. for those who might need extra smiles every now and then

kindness

"honestly that "it costs 0 dollars to be kind" bullshit is bullshit. it does cost things to be kind. it costs time. it costs energy. and it isnt always easy and it isnt always natural. it costs so much to be kind, sometimes. but thats the whole point."