kindness, self compassion

"no need to be best
only good and kind"

self compassion, mental health, growth, healing

"this is progress
this is also progress
and so is this"

trauma, abuse, socialization

"abused children have been taught that love can coexist with abuse. this shapes our perceptions of love."

unscheduled reminder that it is okay to feel sad after making the right decision

unscheduled reminder for old and new subscribers/visitors alike (for the ones interested, that is) that this is still, and will keep being, active, and you are still welcome to participate in it, regardless of it being an "old post"

abuse, trauma

"growing up in an abusive household is a fucking trip dude...... if you've never had someone angrily wash a dish at you or fold a sock in your direction then how are you gonna understand why i get nervous when you quietly do the laundry, or why i ask "are you mad at me?" when you set the bag of groceries down too hard?
[...]
abused kids speak a language you cant learn"


[kindness is not just actions; kindness is also understanding]

gaslight, definitions, words

"gaslighting is a form of mental abuse in which information is twisted or spin, selectively omitted to favor the abuser, or false information is presented with the intent of making victims doubt their own memory, perception, and sanity"

for reciprocity's sake, and because it does no harm to do it, shot out to https://news.1rj.ru/str/heartwarmingmemes

not focused on educating, but more focused on making their subscribers feel better whenever the chance arrives. for those who might need extra smiles every now and then

kindness

"honestly that "it costs 0 dollars to be kind" bullshit is bullshit. it does cost things to be kind. it costs time. it costs energy. and it isnt always easy and it isnt always natural. it costs so much to be kind, sometimes. but thats the whole point."

everyone is welcome to share their own tips on this, you might help others even if it seems like a small thing

edit: share the tips under this post, for the other has become convoluted with offtopic talk

socialization, microinjuries, invisible problems, discrimination

"if you smell the same smell too often, if you taste the same food every day, it irritates you.
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the pointless remark you just said isnt the first drop. it might be the 2000th drop, or the 3000th drop, or the 10000th drop. even if it means absolutely nothing to you, and you thought nothing when you said it, people being irate about the racist, classist, sexist or transphobic thing you just said is not irrational. it might be your first time saying such shit, but it is not their first time hearing it"

self compassion

"your future self is hating you for the poor decisions you're making today
[...]
your future self is looking back on your past self with mingled love and sorrow and compassion, because they know how hard you were trying and how difficult the going was. your future self wishes they could spare you the pain of hating yourself when they know that you are trying the best you can. your future self isnt mad. your future self forgives you and would like you to take as good care of yourself as you can"

socialization, invisible problems, competitiveness

"maybe you think someone doesnt have a lot on their plate compared to you. but maybe their plate is smaller than yours and doesnt have a lot of room to begin with.

dont compare. we all deserve support and to be able to talk about our struggles, without them being invalidated"

self compassion

"if you ever feel bad about yourself just remember that if you were a fictional character people would probably love you for all your flaws and quirks and mannerisms"

socialization

"people think that intimacy is about sex. but intimacy is about truth. when you realize you can tell someone your truth, when you can show yourself to them, when you stand in front of them and their response is "you're safe with me" - thats INTIMACY"

socialization

" "do you want to talk about it or be distracted from it" is honestly the best thing you can say to me when i say im sad/in pain etc
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"do you want advice or do you just want to vent?" is also good to add because often unsolicited advice can further hurt someone who really just wanted a listening ear"

self compassion, mental illness

"self sabotage can look like:"

self compassion, mental illness

"when your mental health isnt in the best state, give yourself a break. dont feel guilty for things you cant do. normal things like eating, sleeping, or socialising may be difficult, its okay to struggle. rest, recover, be kind to yourself and know the bad times are temporary"