adhd, invisible problems

"apparently there is a difference between habit and willpower. it exists to neurotypical people."

society, socialization

"you'll always be 'young' in someone's eyes and 'old' in someone else's eyes, 'talented' to a friend and 'terrible' to another. the world's never gonna agree on a definition of what you are, so you might as well ignore that stuff and be whatever you wanna be for yourself"

depression, self compassion, socialization, invisible problems

"depression isnt always sadness
[...]
depression isnt a constant feeling of sadness, depression can be hidden in happiness.
your depression is valid even if people say its not just because you smile"

depression, mental illness, self compassion

"stop convincing yourself you're wasting your life away. the time you've spend resting and healing was and is necessary. you're not a waste of a person if you find yourself struggling right now. healing, recovering, sitting with your pain is foundational. its not a waste. you are still whole"

pets [but also not only pets, this can be applied to human brains as well]

"my friend's dogs pick up a pillow every time someone enters the house"

art, self compassion

"if you're a creator and you needed to hear this today:"

adhd, guilt

"how do u tell the difference between executive dysfunction, procrastination, and laziness bc fuck idk how to"

self compassion, socialization

"i think a lot about that fruits basket story where the onigiri (rice ball) thinks its plain and and bad with nothing special about it
but everyone else actually admires it because of the delicious plum on its back that it cant see"

survivorship bias

"you ever think about how old people have no idea what "survivor bias" is, and take full credit for being excellent out of things where they lucked out?"

society

" 'kids there days have it easy' thats the point thats the point thats the whole point we're here to make it better for whoever comes after you"

survivorship bias, lgbt

"whenever i see people talking about the "skyrocketing" rates of people saying that they're trans, i think of this chart. they used to punish children for being left-handed and force them to write with their right hand"

socialization, mental health

"im here if you need someone to talk to"

extra post today: flower (dandelion) crown

self compassion, body

"you call yourself ugly but you've only seen yourself when you look at the mirror"

socialization, mental health

"one of the most important things, perhaps the most important thing i have learned in my life is that nice people can fuck each other up in monstruous ways."

lgbt, relationships, socialization, abuse, self worth

"i think something that doesnt get talked about enough is the way that being gay can put you in more dangerous situations with relationships. so many times gay people are just happy that someone is interested in them that there isnt as much consideration of if that person is good for them, because hey, at least they're gay too and that worries me a lot"

[admin note: this extends to not only queer relationships but also many other circumstances including but not limited to physical disabilities and mental illness]

parenting, abuse, socialization

"i seen a video of a mom saying she doesnt hit or yell at her child because she thinks about the future and if she hits and yells at her because she "lover her and wants to correct her behavior" then what will she tolerate from a partner?"

self compassion, mental health, socialization

"your peace is more important than proving your point"

minorities, discrimination, society

"white privilege doesnt mean your life hasnt been hard;

it means that your skin color isnt one of the things making it harder"

socialization

"sometimes people use "respect" to mean "treating someone like a person" and sometimes they use "respect" to mean "treating someone like an authority"

and sometimes people who are used to being treated like an authority say "if you dont respect me i wont respect you" and they mean "if you wont treat me like an authority i wont treat you like a person"

and they think they're being fair but they arent, and its not okay"

socialization, mental illness

"just gonna say this: if someone has social anxiety and they ask you something akin to 'are you mad at me' or 'do you hate me', it isnt because they dont trust you, its because their brain literally tells them that all the time"