unscheduled reminder that many if not most lgbt+ people go trough months or years of confusion and uncertainty without being sure what they are ("i know/strongly suspect that im not cishet but what am i exactly? what am i comfortable with?", etc) and that nobody is a failure nor a faker if they are unsure and/or confused.

if you feel like an intruder in a space that you perceive as undeserved, remember that the Q in lgbtiq stands for "questioning" as well, not only for queer
if you feel pressured to find a label to introduce yourself with, be careful not to force yourself into things that you are not comfortable with just because you feel like you owe anyone some explanation

if you cant pinpoint what exact labels apply to you, there is nothing wrong with that. there are many people who in the end, decide that no label applies to them, and it is perfectly valid to decide that. everybody's journey is unique, dont try to rush it just to imitate others' journeys. if you dont have any label for yourself yet, it is okay. if you are unsure if some label applies to you, its okay. if you feel more comfortable while thinking of yourself as lgbt+, but you cant identify with any letter, go with q. its okay.

self compassion, socialization, society

"you should really stop wasting your time like this
do something"

body, digital

"we need like "unclench your jaw" posts but like for eye strain
[...]
take off your glasses if you wear them for 20 seconds
[...]
look at something 20 feet away, then 10, then 5, then 1, then if you can your nose"

[note: 20 feet = 6 meters, 5 ft=1.5m, 1=0.3]

lgbt, relationships

"cheating isnt an expression of polyamory and polyamory isnt a solution to cheating"

society, body

"besides the misogyny i feel like the key reason why you dont see female gender non conformity celebrated in popular culture/media the same way we're starting to see male gender non conformity celebrated is that its nos profitable or marketable... you cant exactly sell a lack of makeup and shaving products to whomen whereas selling all that feminity shit to men opens up a whole new demographic to make money off of"

self compassion

"dont worry if you make waves simply by being yourself. the moon does it all the time"

society, discrimination

"its not the 1800s so most people wont outright say "homelessness is a moral failing of the underclasses" so the new liberal version of this is "its about addiction and mental health so asking us to pay for housing is a total waste of time because, uh, they have bad brains" "

activism

"if you would report an undocumented immigrant to ICE you would have reported me to the nazis and i dont fucking trust you

[...]

civil version of work-to-rule strike.
dont do more than is expressly asked of you, and do what you are asked with such an intense attention to protocol than not asking you at all becomes more productive than even bothering"

["ICE" is the name of the racist gubernamental organization in charge of "dealing" with immigrants in the united states]

activism

"irregular reminder: never use your fingers to remove fascist stickers

there have been many reports of razor blades being hidden underneath!

use a pocket knife, stone or similar object to do it if you dont have stickers handy

the best option is to put a nice sticker above though as it has the lowest risk

stay safe!"

parenting, trauma

"in 20 years you wont remember the time your kid(s) didnt finish their dinner. but they'll remember how you freaked out and yelled about it"

body

"i dont know who needs to hear this but, when you're using your phone, stop using your pinky as an anchor. its destroying your wrist and aggravating your ulnar nerve"

healing, growth, trauma

"what the fuck brain!?
i thought getting better meant i would stop feeling miserable
but it actually means learning to deal with the feeling?"

self compassion, socialization

"the people in your age group who did not experience life altering trauma absolutely had an advantage over you, your brain was focused on survival and they were free to grow up and develop"

discrimination, minorities, socialization

"i say this in my classes:
the problem isnt men, its patriarchy.
the problem isnt white people, its white supremacy.
the problems isnt straight people, its homophobia.

recognize systems of oppression before letting individual defensiveness paralyze you from dismantling them"

discrimination, minorities, society

" "how can you not be angry?"
"i am angry", the werewolf said. "but unlike you, i dont have the luxury of showing it without being called a monster. without someone taking it as a sing of proof that i need to be put down like a rabid dog, that im just like what the stories tell you" "

self compassion, socialization, boundaries

"empathy without boundaries is self destruction"

self compassion, mental health

"how to NOT kill yourself pt 1

avoid being around people who make you want to kill yourself"

activism, society, discrimination

"honestly, whats the point of doing anything. humans are a virus to planet earth"

society, hobbies

"success story [...] what do you do?"