unscheduled post

channel recommendation: https://news.1rj.ru/str/oddly_motivational

there is no affiliation between that channel and this one, but it is nice enough to be worth checking

depression, mental health

"my brother was diagnossed with depression years before i was, and because of that he started therapy years before i did

i still remember when i was a young teen and he was playing a nirvana song and he stopped it at this one line: "i miss the comfort of being sad"

he told me that when you start to get better, there's a part of you that misses being sad and that if you start feeling that way you have to be extra aware and careful because if you indulge in the feeling you'll go down a self-destructive spiral"

anxiety, mental health

"having an anxiety disorder is like the moment when your chair almost slips or you miss a step going down the stairs but it never stops"

unscheduled post

channel is going to be paused for a while after tomorrow's post

life is requiring more energy expenditure than its possible to recover (for simplicity, lets say a normal day requires six spoons and a normal night restores five) and life is being a bit too much lately

admin needs to recharge for a while, but the channel will return to activity after that

be well

socialization

"if you wouldnt go to someone for advice, dont take their criticism either"

[rescheduled until good fawn explanation]

trauma, self compassion

"if you experience guilt about how you responded during a traumatic indicent, remember that during a trauma your logical brain shuts down and your survival brain makes a split second decision to either fight, flee, freeze or fawn (befriend the threat). you did not get to choose. your survival brain did. and you made it out alive, which means it made a damn good choice"

unscheduled post:

channel resumes activity now, starting in seven hours and all the way into august at worst

mental health, impostor syndrome

"the key to getting over imposter syndrome is to know everyone else is an imposter too. tell yourself you deserve a stake in the scam they're all running"

society, guilt, gaslight, capitalism

"thinking or how capitalism replaced "we are all sinful and unworthy of paradise and we must repent and serve god our whole life because of it"

with "we are all lazy and unworthy of basic necessities and we must scrape by and be productive our whole life because of it"
"

Louder, for the people in the back

lgbt, labels, society

"i think its actually cool and great not to have any especially specific denoscriptors for your gender and/or orientation. just do whatever you want. yeehaw."

trauma, mental health

"your daily reminder that traumatised brains are literally physically different to a normal brain. repeated trauma and abuse has a severe, long term effect"

abuse, trauma, self compassion

"surviving your abuser didnt make you a better person"

growth, healing, socialization, boundaries

"a little secret from a therapist: emotionally immature people will not respond well to your boundaries [...] your job is to mantain your boundaries despite"

body, adhd, neurodivergency

"the stages of hunger while nd are"

mental health, masking, socialization, invisible problems, chronic illness, neurodivergency

"i wonder what i should wear today...
[...]
i dont even need thee mask anymore, so i destroy them over and over again
but somehow, they just come right back on"