self compassion

"it is not an evil thing to look at yourself with kindness. your life was never meant to be a punishment"

society, lgbt, parenting

"just occurred to me that of course conservatives who are fearmongering about trans kids think progressive parents must be forcing this on their kids and programming them into accepting it - because that's how they relate to their children, with authoritarianism

This is the problem. Conservatives assume everyone is like them but with different priorities. They think the opposite of authoritarianism is queer authoritarianism, and the opposite of colonialism is the colonial oppression of white people. It doesn't occur to them that people who aren't on top of an oppressive regime could want anything other than to be on top of an oppressive regime."

chronic illness, body, mental health

"anyone can be tired.

you dont need to have kids, work 80 hours a week, have just finished your third degree, or have just recovered from a bad illness.

you dont have to prove to anyone why you're exhausted and tired"

socialization

"would you like some help?

nah, i can do this on my own

i know you can but that's not what i asked"

{art by hotpapercomics}

socialization, relationships, society

"genuinely so mad that cuddling is seen as a strictly romantic thing that's so stupid cuddling is awesome and two consenting platonic pals should be allowed to cuddle as much as they want"

socialization, parenting, abuse

"i dont know who needs to hear this, but you cant bully someone into acting happier for your comfort"

society, lgbt, minorities

"when you're a trans woman, you are made to walk this very fine line, where if you act feminine you are accused of being a parody, but if you act masculine, it is seen as a sign of your true male identity. and if you act sweet and demure, you're accused of reinforcing patriarchal ideals of female passivity, but if you stand up for your own rights and make your voice heard, then you are dismissed as wielding male privilege and ennoscriptment"

socialization

"do you need more water?
hes a cactus, i dont think he needs much water
hmm even if he doesnt need much
we should still ask our low maintenance friends if they're okay"

{art by wholesomecomics}

growth, healing

"oh good. i actually need this"

{art by ramin nazer}

medical, invisible problems, chronic pain

"doctor: 'dont confuse your google search with my 6 years of medical school'

patient: 'dont confuse the one-hour lecture you had on my condition with my 20 years of living with it' "

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neurodivergency, society

"hot take: AAD, autism, and ADHD are only "disorders" under capitalism. otherwise they are neurodivergence: different needs, thinking and working styles and sensory issues than neurotypical people. they are only problems due to our hierarchies and modes of production"

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labels, neurodivergency, mental illness

"i really don't like the way that some of you treat an official diagnosis as the Only Way people can be "allowed" or whatever to be adhd/autistic/neurodivergent. For some of us, getting an official diagnosis is a pipe dream for the distant future. i need help now. And second, the medical industry is not made of necessarily of unilaterally objective people. Gender and race can play a huge part in getting diagnosed. Some people get diagnosed when there is ultimately something different at play or nothing at all. Some people don't get diagnosed because the accepted symptoms are not made to fit us. But we know our own bodies and we know our brains. Yes, getting diagnosed is good. But it is not the end all be all, nor is it necessary a good way to determine who has a mental illness and who doesn't."

growth, healing

"what we think healing will look like

what healing actually looks like"

relationships

"Relationship Green lights:

~ They apologize when they are wrong.

~ Their words and behaviors align.

~ They encourage your connections with others (friends, family).

~ They speak about their ex-partners with respect.

~ They communicate clearly and honestly.

~ They set, honor, and respect boundaries.

~ They show up authentically and offer you space to do the same.

~ They are intentional about resolving conflict.

~ They are actively working on growth and healing.

~ They share compatible goals for the relationship.

~ They make you feel see, heard, and appreciated.
"