Al-Munafiqun 63:3
ذَٰلِكَ بِأَنَّهُمۡ ءَامَنُواْ ثُمَّ كَفَرُواْ فَطُبِعَ عَلَىٰ قُلُوبِهِمۡ فَهُمۡ لَا يَفۡقَهُونَ
That is because they believed, then disbelieved, therefore their hearts are sealed, so they understand not.
އެއީ އެއުރެން إيمان ވެ، ދެން އެއަށްފަހު كافر ވީކަމުގެ ސަބަބުންނެވެ. ފަހެ، އެއުރެންގެ ހިތްތަކުގައިވަނީ ސިއްކަގައްސަވައިފައެވެ. ފަހެ، އެއުރެންނަކަށް ނުވިސްނެތެވެ.
ذَٰلِكَ بِأَنَّهُمۡ ءَامَنُواْ ثُمَّ كَفَرُواْ فَطُبِعَ عَلَىٰ قُلُوبِهِمۡ فَهُمۡ لَا يَفۡقَهُونَ
That is because they believed, then disbelieved, therefore their hearts are sealed, so they understand not.
އެއީ އެއުރެން إيمان ވެ، ދެން އެއަށްފަހު كافر ވީކަމުގެ ސަބަބުންނެވެ. ފަހެ، އެއުރެންގެ ހިތްތަކުގައިވަނީ ސިއްކަގައްސަވައިފައެވެ. ފަހެ، އެއުރެންނަކަށް ނުވިސްނެތެވެ.
At-Tahrim 66:7
يَٰٓأَيُّهَا ٱلَّذِينَ كَفَرُواْ لَا تَعۡتَذِرُواْ ٱلۡيَوۡمَۖ إِنَّمَا تُجۡزَوۡنَ مَا كُنتُمۡ تَعۡمَلُونَ
(It will be said in the Hereafter) O you who disbelieve (in the Oneness of Allah - Islamic Monotheism)! Make no excuses this Day! You are being requited only for what you used to do.
އޭ كافر ވެއްޖެ މީސްތަކުންނޭވެ! މިއަދު ތިޔަބައިމީހުން عذر ނުދައްކާށެވެ! ތިޔަބައިމީހުންނަށް ޖަޒާދެއްވާކަން ކަށަވަރީ، ތިޔަބައިމީހުން ކޮށްއުޅުނު ކަންތަކަށެވެ.
يَٰٓأَيُّهَا ٱلَّذِينَ كَفَرُواْ لَا تَعۡتَذِرُواْ ٱلۡيَوۡمَۖ إِنَّمَا تُجۡزَوۡنَ مَا كُنتُمۡ تَعۡمَلُونَ
(It will be said in the Hereafter) O you who disbelieve (in the Oneness of Allah - Islamic Monotheism)! Make no excuses this Day! You are being requited only for what you used to do.
އޭ كافر ވެއްޖެ މީސްތަކުންނޭވެ! މިއަދު ތިޔަބައިމީހުން عذر ނުދައްކާށެވެ! ތިޔަބައިމީހުންނަށް ޖަޒާދެއްވާކަން ކަށަވަރީ، ތިޔަބައިމީހުން ކޮށްއުޅުނު ކަންތަކަށެވެ.
Forwarded from Fading Shadow
اللَّهُمَّ صَلِّ عَلَىٰ مُحَمَّدٍ وَعَلَىٰ آلِ مُحَمَّدٍ كَمَا صَلَّيْتَ عَلَىٰ إِبْرَاهِيمَ وَعَلَىٰ آلِ إِبْرَاهِيمَ إِنَّكَ حَمِيدٌ مَجِيدٌ ❁ اللَّهُمَّ بَارِكْ عَلَىٰ مُحَمَّدٍ وَعَلَىٰ آلِ مُحَمَّدٍ كَمَا بَارَكْتَ عَلَىٰ إِبْرَاهِيمَ وَعَلَىٰ آلِ إِبْرَاهِيمَ إِنَّكَ حَمِيدٌ مَجِيدٌ
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Some Supplications (mainly for self)
https://justpaste.it/SomeSupplications
◽️Some supplications against Enemies
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◽️Some supplications for the Ummah:
https://justpaste.it/Supplications4Ummah
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Some Supplications (mainly for self)
https://justpaste.it/SomeSupplications
◽️Some supplications against Enemies
https://justpaste.it/DuaEnemies
◽️Some supplications for the Ummah:
https://justpaste.it/Supplications4Ummah
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Marriage is beautiful but can be incredibly difficult, especially in the very beginning. Especially in the so-called "honeymoon phase."
I did a totally informal poll once by asking several of my friends who are fellow wives married at least ten years this question:
"What was harder for you, the first year of marriage or now that you're a decade into marriage?"
Every single wife said, "The first year of marriage was harder!"
That is my own answer to the question, too.
It seems to be a common experience. The first few years of marriage are riddled with arguments, fights, uncertainty, newness, and personality clashes. But as the years go by, these issues are slowly ironed out and problems are smoothed over as the couple gets more acquainted. As you learn together how to work out your issues.
But nobody tells you this reality!
You go into marriage with your head in the clouds, a goofy smile on your face, and dreams of romance in your heart.
Especially for us women.
From a very young age, we are trained subconsciously to have many unrealistic expectations of what marriage will be like.
Little girls play with dolls, the worst of which is Barbie. Barbie is pretty and thin, Ken is handsome and rich, and they live their fantastic plastic lives.
Disney movies and books for kids further nurture the fantasy, telling us fairytales about how we'll meet our handsome Prince Charming and how he'll come and sweep us off our feet and fix all our problems.
Romance novels further exacerbate the problem, teaching impressionable teenage girls and young women to hold out for the "perfect man" who will slay dragons and various villains to get to you, and that with one look he'll fall madly in love with you, and that you'll get married and live happily ever after.
Movies, TV shows, and even other people's social media give the impression that everyone gets married and is instantly happy and "in love." Easily and immediately. Marriage is made to seem effortless and smooth from day one. Marriage is insta-love.
Nothing could be further from the truth!
The reality is that marriage is at its most vulnerable and unstable in the beginning.
Firstly, Shaytan is lying wait for you. He cannot stand when two believers get married, and tries his level best to undo this disaster. He attacks slyly and quickly, before true bonds have a chance to be established between husband and wife.
We know the hadith,
عَنْ جَابِرٍ قَالَ قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ: "إِنَّ إِبْلِيسَ يَضَعُ عَرْشَهُ عَلَى الْمَاءِ ثُمَّ يَبْعَثُ سَرَايَاهُ فَأَدْنَاهُمْ مِنْهُ مَنْزِلَةً أَعْظَمُهُمْ فِتْنَةً يَجِيءُ أَحَدُهُمْ فَيَقُولُ فَعَلْتُ كَذَا وَكَذَا فَيَقُولُ مَا صَنَعْتَ شَيْئًا قَالَ ثُمَّ يَجِيءُ أَحَدُهُمْ فَيَقُولُ مَا تَرَكْتُهُ حَتَّى فَرَّقْتُ بَيْنَهُ وَبَيْنَ امْرَأَتِهِ قَالَ فَيُدْنِيهِ مِنْهُ وَيَقُولُ نِعْمَ أَنْتَ."
Jabir reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “Verily, Satan places his throne over the water and he sends out his troops. The closest to him in rank are the greatest at causing tribulations. One of them says: I have done this and this. Satan says: You have done nothing. Another one says: I did not leave this man alone until I separated him from his wife. Satan embraces him and he says: You have done well.” [Ṣaḥīḥ Muslim 2813]
Secondly, you have two people coming together to start a marriage, merging their two very different personalities, their two very different backgrounds, their two very different personal histories and habits and childhood issues and coping mechanisms. Sometimes, it's two different cultures, ethnicities, races, languages.
Merging all of these things together requires time, communication, and a willingness to cooperate.
Thirdly, it's also two people merging together their two different gender ways. The male way and the female way of thinking, processing, and interpreting the world. These two perspectives, male and female, are *very* different from one another in many deep ways.
I did a totally informal poll once by asking several of my friends who are fellow wives married at least ten years this question:
"What was harder for you, the first year of marriage or now that you're a decade into marriage?"
Every single wife said, "The first year of marriage was harder!"
That is my own answer to the question, too.
It seems to be a common experience. The first few years of marriage are riddled with arguments, fights, uncertainty, newness, and personality clashes. But as the years go by, these issues are slowly ironed out and problems are smoothed over as the couple gets more acquainted. As you learn together how to work out your issues.
But nobody tells you this reality!
You go into marriage with your head in the clouds, a goofy smile on your face, and dreams of romance in your heart.
Especially for us women.
From a very young age, we are trained subconsciously to have many unrealistic expectations of what marriage will be like.
Little girls play with dolls, the worst of which is Barbie. Barbie is pretty and thin, Ken is handsome and rich, and they live their fantastic plastic lives.
Disney movies and books for kids further nurture the fantasy, telling us fairytales about how we'll meet our handsome Prince Charming and how he'll come and sweep us off our feet and fix all our problems.
Romance novels further exacerbate the problem, teaching impressionable teenage girls and young women to hold out for the "perfect man" who will slay dragons and various villains to get to you, and that with one look he'll fall madly in love with you, and that you'll get married and live happily ever after.
Movies, TV shows, and even other people's social media give the impression that everyone gets married and is instantly happy and "in love." Easily and immediately. Marriage is made to seem effortless and smooth from day one. Marriage is insta-love.
Nothing could be further from the truth!
The reality is that marriage is at its most vulnerable and unstable in the beginning.
Firstly, Shaytan is lying wait for you. He cannot stand when two believers get married, and tries his level best to undo this disaster. He attacks slyly and quickly, before true bonds have a chance to be established between husband and wife.
We know the hadith,
عَنْ جَابِرٍ قَالَ قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ: "إِنَّ إِبْلِيسَ يَضَعُ عَرْشَهُ عَلَى الْمَاءِ ثُمَّ يَبْعَثُ سَرَايَاهُ فَأَدْنَاهُمْ مِنْهُ مَنْزِلَةً أَعْظَمُهُمْ فِتْنَةً يَجِيءُ أَحَدُهُمْ فَيَقُولُ فَعَلْتُ كَذَا وَكَذَا فَيَقُولُ مَا صَنَعْتَ شَيْئًا قَالَ ثُمَّ يَجِيءُ أَحَدُهُمْ فَيَقُولُ مَا تَرَكْتُهُ حَتَّى فَرَّقْتُ بَيْنَهُ وَبَيْنَ امْرَأَتِهِ قَالَ فَيُدْنِيهِ مِنْهُ وَيَقُولُ نِعْمَ أَنْتَ."
Jabir reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “Verily, Satan places his throne over the water and he sends out his troops. The closest to him in rank are the greatest at causing tribulations. One of them says: I have done this and this. Satan says: You have done nothing. Another one says: I did not leave this man alone until I separated him from his wife. Satan embraces him and he says: You have done well.” [Ṣaḥīḥ Muslim 2813]
Secondly, you have two people coming together to start a marriage, merging their two very different personalities, their two very different backgrounds, their two very different personal histories and habits and childhood issues and coping mechanisms. Sometimes, it's two different cultures, ethnicities, races, languages.
Merging all of these things together requires time, communication, and a willingness to cooperate.
Thirdly, it's also two people merging together their two different gender ways. The male way and the female way of thinking, processing, and interpreting the world. These two perspectives, male and female, are *very* different from one another in many deep ways.
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In this age of denying gender differences, this is often a huge blind spot for modern people.
What you as a new wife might find weird or offputting about your new husband could be just a male trait, not exclusive to your particular husband but something all men have. Same for the husband who might be baffled by something his new wife does, not realizing that it's just a woman thing, not exclusive to his wife.
So in the beginning, is it any wonder that the new husband and wife will often butt heads, fight over a lot of small things, argue daily?
We shouldn't be surprised.
We should know this ahead of time and adjust our expectations going into marriage, so that when the first fight occurs, we don't instantly think, "Omg, divorce!"
Knowing that problems are natural for this initial phase of marriage, despite the misleading name of "honeymoon phase," can help us stay patient and unperturbed.
So hang in there. Give yourself a real chance to find out who your spouse actually is in reality, outside the fantasies in your head.
We don't marry the person we marry; we marry our *idea* of the person, who we *think* this person is. It is inly after marriage that you start to slowly find out who you actually married. And inevitably, this person will fall short of the perfection you had hoped for in your mental image of him or her.
And that's okay. You're not perfect either. Nobody is.
After fourteen years of marriage alhamdulillah, this is the biggest piece of advice I'd give to newlyweds. Give the marriage TIME.
Marriage gets so much better, so much more beautiful and harmonious and hilarious with time, as you assimilate to one another, grow together, build memories, and develop your own inside jokes. Don't quit too soon. Resist Shaytan's plot to separate husband and wife by giving yourselves time and being committed.
May Allah grant all Muslims beautiful, long-lasting marriages, ameen.
Umm khalid
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What you as a new wife might find weird or offputting about your new husband could be just a male trait, not exclusive to your particular husband but something all men have. Same for the husband who might be baffled by something his new wife does, not realizing that it's just a woman thing, not exclusive to his wife.
So in the beginning, is it any wonder that the new husband and wife will often butt heads, fight over a lot of small things, argue daily?
We shouldn't be surprised.
We should know this ahead of time and adjust our expectations going into marriage, so that when the first fight occurs, we don't instantly think, "Omg, divorce!"
Knowing that problems are natural for this initial phase of marriage, despite the misleading name of "honeymoon phase," can help us stay patient and unperturbed.
So hang in there. Give yourself a real chance to find out who your spouse actually is in reality, outside the fantasies in your head.
We don't marry the person we marry; we marry our *idea* of the person, who we *think* this person is. It is inly after marriage that you start to slowly find out who you actually married. And inevitably, this person will fall short of the perfection you had hoped for in your mental image of him or her.
And that's okay. You're not perfect either. Nobody is.
After fourteen years of marriage alhamdulillah, this is the biggest piece of advice I'd give to newlyweds. Give the marriage TIME.
Marriage gets so much better, so much more beautiful and harmonious and hilarious with time, as you assimilate to one another, grow together, build memories, and develop your own inside jokes. Don't quit too soon. Resist Shaytan's plot to separate husband and wife by giving yourselves time and being committed.
May Allah grant all Muslims beautiful, long-lasting marriages, ameen.
Umm khalid
#Shared
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