Rights of the Husband #3 - Guarding His Wealth and Property

A wife is required to guard the wealth and property of her husband in his absence, and this includes not allowing those who he does not like to enter his home. Allāh says:

فَٱلصَّـٰلِحَـٰتُ قَـٰنِتَـٰتٌ حَـٰفِظَـٰتٌ لِّلْغَيْبِ بِمَا حَفِظَ ٱللَّهُ ۚ

So righteous women are devoutly obedient, guarding in [the husband's] absence what Allāh would have them guard. [An-Nisā’ 34]

meaning his property and her chastity. Ibn Kathīr said: "As-Suddi and others said that it means she protects her honor and her husband's property when he is absent" and then he quoted the Hadīth "Ibn Jarīr recorded that Abu Hurayrah said that the Messenger of Allāh ﷺ said,

خَيْرُ النِّسَاءِ امْرَأَةٌ إِذَا نَظَرْتَ إِلَيْهَا سَرَّتْكَ، وَإِذَا أَمَرْتَهَا أَطَاعَتْكَ، وَإِذَا غِبْتَ عَنْهَا حَفِظَتْكَ فِي نَفْسِهَا وَمَالِكَ

“The best of women is she who when you look at her, she pleases you, when you command her she obeys you, and when you are absent, she protects her honor and your property."

It was narrated from Abu Hurayrah رضي الله عنه that the Messenger of Allāh ﷺ said: “It is not permitted for a woman to fast when her husband is present without his permission, or to admit anyone into his house without his permission." [Bukhāri & Muslim]

An-Nawawi said: "This hadīth indicates that the wife should not overlook the right of the husband not to let anyone enter his house except with his permission. This is to be understood as referring to situations where she does not know whether her husband would approve. But if she knows that her husband would approve of it, then there is no sin on her, such as one whose custom is to admit guests to a place that is prepared for them, whether he is present or not, so admitting them does not need special permission from him."

It was narrated from Sulaymān ibn ‘Amr ibn al-Ahwas: my father told me that he was present at the Farewell Pilgrimage (Hujjat al-Wadā’) with the Messenger of Allāh ﷺ . He (The Prophet ﷺ) praised and glorified Allāh , then he preached a sermon and said: “Treat women kindly, for they are (as) prisoners and you have no other power over them than that, if they are guilty of open lewdness, then refuse to share their beds, and hit them, but not severely. But if they return to obedience, (then) do not seek means (of annoyance) against them. You have rights over your women and your women have rights over you. Your rights over your women are that they should not let anyone whom you dislike sit on your bed and they should not let anyone whom you dislike enter your house. Their rights over you are that you should feed and clothe them well.” [at-Tirmidhi, Saheeh Hasan]

It was narrated by Jābir that the Prophet ﷺ said: “Fear Allah concerning women! Verily you have taken them on the security of Allāh , and intercourse with them has been made lawful unto you by words of Allāh. You too have rights over them, and that they should not allow anyone to sit on your bed [i.e., not let them into the house] whom you do not like. But if they do that, you can chastise them but not severely. Their rights upon you are that you should provide them with food and clothing in a fitting manner.” [Muslim]

Allāh’s Messenger ﷺ said: "The wife is the guardian over the house of her husband and his children." [Bukhāri & Muslim]

"One shouldn't claim to be on the path of the Muwahhideen while he may listen, or recommend, or direct others to books or speakers of the Murji'ah."

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“When Allah tests you, it is never to destroy you. Whenever He removes something from your possession, it is only to empty your hands for an even better gift.”

— Imām Ibn al-Qayyim (رحمه الله)

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Sometimes the gift will be regarding dunya matters, like the birth of a child or marriage. But other times the gift is connected to the hereafter, like being honored with the ability to pray Tahajjud or being increased in guidance. And these are much greater. The best gift after every trial, is closeness to Allāh and gaining His love & pleasure. And this can only be attained through Sabr and being pleased with His decree.

"The closer you get to Allāh, the more humble you become and then you begin to realize your shortcomings and mistakes. The best, most pious of our Salaf never had that arrogant way of thinking. They never said, "look at us, our days and nights are spent in between Da'wah and 'Ibādāh". They used to say something much different than that. They said, "if our faults became apparent, no one would even give salām upon us"

Al-Imām Al-Qahtāni al-Andalūsī, in his famous poem, he said:

“والله لو علموا قبيح سريرتي *** لأبـــى الســلام علي من يلقاني


"If they know me internally, they wouldn’t even give salām to me when they see me.

ولأعرضوا عني وملّوا صحبتي *** ولبــؤت بـــعــد كـرامـة بــهــوان

They would turn away from me. After all the dignity and respect I have, I would be in shame. "

Just like Allāh سبحانه وتعالى veiled us with clothes from His mercy, He veiled our sins and faults from exposure."

— Shaykh Ahmad Musa Jibril حفظه الله

The Fitnah of family is indeed great for the youth of Tawheed. Just a small reminder and encouragement to our sisters and brothers:

You are not alone and you are not the first to endure such trials. Indeed, it is a difficult trial and a heart wrenching one, but do you not remember that Allāh tests with that which is most dear to his servants?

Remember that Ibrāhīm عليه السلام was tested with family. He was tested with none other than his father who raised him his whole life, and the attachment of the son to the father is great. Till his last moments with him, after the abuse, the threats, the rejection and denial, he left him upon an oath that he would invoke Allāh to forgive him (of course, later it became clear to him that he was and enemy to Allāh). From this, one can see his attachment to his father. Allah makes mention of this trial as a an example for us and a praise for Ibrāhīm عليه السلام , pointing out his steadfastness regardless of who was against him, even if it be his father, and his father was the first he gave Da’wah to and the first to threaten him and reject him. Many brothers and sisters experience the same today. Be steadfast, be strong. This is nothing other than a trial.

Nūh عليه السلام was tested with family. He was tested with none other than his son who he raised and nurtured with his own hands. Till those last moments, when the water was rising and the people were being drowned, he called out to him with one last call of Da’wah, a call which was arrogantly rejected. He was tested with the great test of losing a son to Kufr while he was a caller to Tawhīd and a staunch believer, but he still mentioned it to Allāh even after seeing his son overtaken by the waves, “Indeed my son was of my family”. The feelings of a parent towards their child does not need to be described to anybody. So many mothers and fathers upon Haqq lose their children to misguidance and Kufr. Remember Nūh عليه السلام and complain only to Allāh of your grief. This is nothing other than a trial.

Ayyūb عليه السلام lost all of his children as a test from Allāh. Musa عليه السلام left his family in the middle of nowhere when the command came from Allāh to go to Fir’awn. The mother of Musa عليه السلام put her child in a ferocious river as Allāh inspired her. And countless other incidents.

Point being: Allāh tests with family, and He knows it grieves your heart. He knows you feel the earth is constrained upon you and He knows that at some times it feels like your heart is being torn from your chest. He knows the struggles of some who are forced to hide parts of their beliefs and the struggles of others who defend it day and night and face harm from their families due to their steadfastness and Da’wah to it. He knows some of you have been cut off and boycotted by your families. He knows some of you weep at seeing your loved ones upon misguidance and other grieve deeply while making Baraa’ from them. He sees it all and He rewards it justly.

This is the Millah of Ibraheem! This is the path! So stand straight as you have been commanded!

Just as Ibrāhīm عليه السلام endured patiently giving da’wah to his father with kind words while receiving nothing but abuse as backlash, many youth today face similar. Just as Ibrāhīm عليه السلام prepared to slaughter his son for the sake of Allāh, many slaughtered the love for their families in their hearts due to what they were upon of Kufr and Riddah. You are upon his Millah insha’Allah! Your trials may be nowhere near the magnitude of the trials of Ibrāhīm عليه السلام, but it should comfort you to see that Allah is testing you with that which is relatable to some extent. How could we claim to be upon his Millah if we aren’t tested the way he was?

May Allāh guide our families and keep us steadfast and patient upon this path. May you see the fruits of your Da’wah soon.

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يا رب
يا صانع المعجزات
ارنا الفرح فيما نريد
 
O our Lord!
O Maker of miracles,
Delight us with happiness in that which we desire!
 
Whether it be a pious spouse, a pious offspring, forgiveness, repentance, martyrdom, success in Da’wah, or sincerity - anything you desire!

May Allah shower us with an abundance of patience, and grant us all an answered supplication in all of what we hope for in this life and the next.

"I was never taught for even a second that I had a purpose in life other than pleasing Allah. Mama never told us that we had to be doctors, or engineers, or have prestigious careers, or be famous, or anything similar. She would always emphasize to us that Allah created us, for Islam. Everything else always came after that. So much so, that when some of my siblings would be asked as children, “what do you want to be when you grow up?” they would reply in all seriousness “a good Muslim”. That was our standard response that we felt obliged to say. Others found that answer funny, but Mama never did. In fact, she looked proud of it and never rebuked us or even explained that the question was intending what career we wanted to pursue.

All these years later, when asked what I want to be in life or what I'm pursuing, the words still echo throughout my heart:

"A good Muslim."

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May Allah reward and bless mothers like this! Even a mothers silent approval leaves such an impact on the mind of her children SubhanAllah.

So, you’ll find both in Dunya and Akhirah, people gathered with those who reflect them: their friends.

The vapers & weed-smokers always gathered together, the Mutabarrijāt – women who expose their ‘awrah (face/hands) & adornment (jewelry/makeup) – gathered together, the forbidders of evil gathered together, the seekers of beneficial knowledge gathered together, and so on and so on.

So if you won’t be proud standing with your friends on the Day of Judgement, you better leave them asap.

Accompany and befriend those who you would be proud to be gathered with on Yawm al-Qiyāmah.

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Rights of the Husband #4 - Seeking Permission to Leave the Home

A woman is not permitted to leave the home except with her husband's permission. Allāh has made it impermissible for a woman who has been divorced one or two times from her husband from leaving his home when He said:

يَـٰٓأَيُّهَا ٱلنَّبِىُّ إِذَا طَلَّقْتُمُ ٱلنِّسَآءَ فَطَلِّقُوهُنَّ لِعِدَّتِهِنَّ وَأَحْصُوا۟ ٱلْعِدَّةَ ۖ وَٱتَّقُوا۟ ٱللَّهَ رَبَّكُمْ ۖ لَا تُخْرِجُوهُنَّ مِنۢ بُيُوتِهِنَّ وَلَا يَخْرُجْنَ إِلَّآ أَن يَأْتِينَ بِفَـٰحِشَةٍ مُّبَيِّنَةٍ ۚ وَتِلْكَ حُدُودُ ٱللَّهِ ۚ وَمَن يَتَعَدَّ حُدُودَ ٱللَّهِ فَقَدْ ظَلَمَ نَفْسَهُۥ ۚ لَا تَدْرِى لَعَلَّ ٱللَّهَ يُحْدِثُ بَعْدَ ذَٰلِكَ أَمْرًا

O Prophet, when you [Muslims] divorce women, divorce them for [the commencement of] their waiting period and keep count of the waiting period, and fear Allāh, your Lord. Do not turn them out of their [husbands'] houses, nor should they [themselves] leave [during that period] unless they are committing a clear immorality. And those are the limits [set by] Allāh. And whoever transgresses the limits of Allāh has certainly wronged himself. You know not; perhaps Allāh will bring about after that a [different] matter. [At-Talāq]

If this is the case for a woman who has been given revocable divorce, it applies even more so to the woman who has not. Ibn Kathīr رحمه الله says about this Ayah, "Therefore, the husband does not have the right to force her out of her house, nor is she allowed to leave his house, because she is still tied to the marriage contract." [Tafseer ibn Kathīr]

This indicates that one of the rules that becomes binding upon her due to the marriage contract is that she cannot leave the home unless he permits her.

Al-Qurtubi (رحمه الله) said:

“and turn them not out of their (husbands’) homes” means: the husband does not have the right to turn her out of the marital home so long as she is still observing ‘iddah, and it is not permissible for her either to leave, because of the husband’s rights, except in the case of clear necessity.

In the story of the slander (al-ifk) A’ishah (رضي الله عنها) asked the Prophet (ﷺ): “Will you allow me to go to my parents?” [Bukhari & Muslim]

This serves as proof for the general principle that a woman must have her husband's permission to leave the home.

Ibn Muflih al-Hanbali said:

"It is haraam for a woman to go out of her husband’s house without his permission, except in cases of necessity, or shar’i obligations." [Al-Adaab al-Shar’iyyah, 3/375]

Necessities would be situations such as if there is no one to bring her groceries, so she has to get them herself, or the house is about to collapse, or if she fears for her safety staying in the home (like if the husband is beating her, being abusive, and harming her), etc.

Shaykh al-Islām Ibn Taymiyyah said:

"Zayd ibn Thābit said: The husband is the master (sayyid) according to the Book of Allāh, and he recited the verse in which Allāh says (interpretation of the meaning):

“They both found her lord [sayyid] (i.e. her husband) at the door” [Yūsuf]

‘Umar ibn al-Khattāb رضي الله عنه said: “Marriage is slavery, so be careful with regard to whom you give your daughter for enslavement.” In al-Tirmidhi and elsewhere it is narrated that the Prophet (ﷺ) said: “I urge you to treat women well, for they are prisoners with you.”

So a woman is like a slave or prisoner of her husband, and she cannot go out of his house except with his permission, whether her father, her mother or anyone else tells her to do that, according to the consensus of the imāms." [Al-Fataawa al-Kubra, 3/148]

A woman who leaves the home without her husband's permission (and without a valid necessity similar to what was mentioned above) is considered as being willfully defiant and disobedient (nāshiz) and she is not ennoscriptd to maintenance until she returns to being obedient, and she can also be disciplined by the husband in the way outlined in the Qur'an.

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