Rights of the Husband #4 - Seeking Permission to Leave the Home

A woman is not permitted to leave the home except with her husband's permission. Allāh has made it impermissible for a woman who has been divorced one or two times from her husband from leaving his home when He said:

يَـٰٓأَيُّهَا ٱلنَّبِىُّ إِذَا طَلَّقْتُمُ ٱلنِّسَآءَ فَطَلِّقُوهُنَّ لِعِدَّتِهِنَّ وَأَحْصُوا۟ ٱلْعِدَّةَ ۖ وَٱتَّقُوا۟ ٱللَّهَ رَبَّكُمْ ۖ لَا تُخْرِجُوهُنَّ مِنۢ بُيُوتِهِنَّ وَلَا يَخْرُجْنَ إِلَّآ أَن يَأْتِينَ بِفَـٰحِشَةٍ مُّبَيِّنَةٍ ۚ وَتِلْكَ حُدُودُ ٱللَّهِ ۚ وَمَن يَتَعَدَّ حُدُودَ ٱللَّهِ فَقَدْ ظَلَمَ نَفْسَهُۥ ۚ لَا تَدْرِى لَعَلَّ ٱللَّهَ يُحْدِثُ بَعْدَ ذَٰلِكَ أَمْرًا

O Prophet, when you [Muslims] divorce women, divorce them for [the commencement of] their waiting period and keep count of the waiting period, and fear Allāh, your Lord. Do not turn them out of their [husbands'] houses, nor should they [themselves] leave [during that period] unless they are committing a clear immorality. And those are the limits [set by] Allāh. And whoever transgresses the limits of Allāh has certainly wronged himself. You know not; perhaps Allāh will bring about after that a [different] matter. [At-Talāq]

If this is the case for a woman who has been given revocable divorce, it applies even more so to the woman who has not. Ibn Kathīr رحمه الله says about this Ayah, "Therefore, the husband does not have the right to force her out of her house, nor is she allowed to leave his house, because she is still tied to the marriage contract." [Tafseer ibn Kathīr]

This indicates that one of the rules that becomes binding upon her due to the marriage contract is that she cannot leave the home unless he permits her.

Al-Qurtubi (رحمه الله) said:

“and turn them not out of their (husbands’) homes” means: the husband does not have the right to turn her out of the marital home so long as she is still observing ‘iddah, and it is not permissible for her either to leave, because of the husband’s rights, except in the case of clear necessity.

In the story of the slander (al-ifk) A’ishah (رضي الله عنها) asked the Prophet (ﷺ): “Will you allow me to go to my parents?” [Bukhari & Muslim]

This serves as proof for the general principle that a woman must have her husband's permission to leave the home.

Ibn Muflih al-Hanbali said:

"It is haraam for a woman to go out of her husband’s house without his permission, except in cases of necessity, or shar’i obligations." [Al-Adaab al-Shar’iyyah, 3/375]

Necessities would be situations such as if there is no one to bring her groceries, so she has to get them herself, or the house is about to collapse, or if she fears for her safety staying in the home (like if the husband is beating her, being abusive, and harming her), etc.

Shaykh al-Islām Ibn Taymiyyah said:

"Zayd ibn Thābit said: The husband is the master (sayyid) according to the Book of Allāh, and he recited the verse in which Allāh says (interpretation of the meaning):

“They both found her lord [sayyid] (i.e. her husband) at the door” [Yūsuf]

‘Umar ibn al-Khattāb رضي الله عنه said: “Marriage is slavery, so be careful with regard to whom you give your daughter for enslavement.” In al-Tirmidhi and elsewhere it is narrated that the Prophet (ﷺ) said: “I urge you to treat women well, for they are prisoners with you.”

So a woman is like a slave or prisoner of her husband, and she cannot go out of his house except with his permission, whether her father, her mother or anyone else tells her to do that, according to the consensus of the imāms." [Al-Fataawa al-Kubra, 3/148]

A woman who leaves the home without her husband's permission (and without a valid necessity similar to what was mentioned above) is considered as being willfully defiant and disobedient (nāshiz) and she is not ennoscriptd to maintenance until she returns to being obedient, and she can also be disciplined by the husband in the way outlined in the Qur'an.

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Ibn Qudamah (رحمه الله) said:

“Know that not everyone is suitable to be your friend. You must verify that this potential friend has the necessary characteristics that make friendship with him something to be desired. The one you seek to befriend must have five characteristics:

• He must be intelligent. There is no good in befriending an idiot, as he will only harm you when he wants to benefit you. By intelligent, we mean one he understands things as they are on his own or if they are explained to him.

• He must have good manners, and this is a must. One who is simply intelligent might be overcome by anger or desire, and obey his desire. Thus, there would be no benefit in befriending him.

• He must not be a fasiq. Such a person would not fear Allah, and whoever does not fear Allah cannot be trusted.

• He must not be an innovator, as there is a fear of being overtaken by his innovation.

• He should not be eager for the dunya.

‘Umar bin al-Khattab (رضي الله عنه) said: “Stick with your true brothers. You can live in comfort with them, as they are a delight in times of ease, and you can lean on them in times of hardship. Assume the best about your brother until he comes with something that should alarm you from him. Avoid your enemy, and beware of befriending anyone but the trustworthy, and there is no trust for the one who doesn’t fear Allah. Do not befriend the corrupt, as he will teach you his corruption, and do not reveal your secrets to him, and only consult those who fear Allah, the Exalted.”

"You know how they commonly say, "The women! Islam hasn't given women anything!" Don't they say that? That Islam hasn't given the woman anything? [They say] "Islam has killed women's rights! It isn't fair and just to them! Empower the women!"

We say okay, you want to empower the women? How about this 70-75 year old woman? Why don't you provide her with some form of livelihood or work? No! Who are they going to give it to instead? To a young girl! Why? Because they want to despoil her beauty, and exploit her charm! They want to strip her of her honor!

These carcasses! These crows! These dogs! These pigs! These beasts! O my Muslim sister! Behind the façade of empowerment, education, and learning, and parks, and "civilization" and "enlightenment", and marriage halls — their real motive behind introducing all these things is to remove your Niqab, O my Muslim sister! Their sights are set on plundering your honor! They are not your sympathizers, rather they are thieves and robbers! Look to Europe and see how much they "respect" women! [They say] "Respect women!" and they ravage their honor, commit sins, and engage in Zinaa'.

The real honor of a woman lies in Islam.

وَقَرْنَ فِى بُيُوتِكُنَّ وَلَا تَبَرَّجْنَ تَبَرُّجَ ٱلْجَـٰهِلِيَّةِ ٱلْأُولَىٰ ۖ

"And abide in your houses and do not display yourselves as [was] the display of the former times of ignorance."

If there is honor for a Muslim woman, then it is in staying at home, obeying her husband, doing Tarbiyyah of her children, and taking care of her parents."

— Shaykh Hafidh 'Abdul Jabbar Shakir (ثبته الله)

In a world where “Imam” is thrown around for the likes of Omar Suleiman and other apostates, it was odd too see a reluctance on part of the people of Tawheed, particularly in the west, when we (and other Da’wah accounts) would refer to Shaykh Ahmad as an Imam. Some even saying this is “too much,” or some noticeably being silent. Some would jealously try to prop up their own favorite scholar in response, while anyone with a basic grasp of the Arabic language, and a foundational understanding of Tawheed would know, there’s no one on the scene like Shaykh Ahmad, and it’s not even close.

What is the criteria, as mentioned in the Qur’an, for those who are Imams of Guidance?

As-Sajdah 32:24

وَجَعَلۡنَا مِنۡهُمۡ أَئِمَّةً يَهۡدُونَ بِأَمۡرِنَا لَمَّا صَبَرُوا۟ۖ وَكَانُواْ بِـَٔايَٰتِنَا يُوقِنُونَ

And We made from among them (Children of Israel), leaders, giving guidance under Our Command, when they were patient and used to believe with certainty in Our Ayât (proofs, evidence, verses, lessons, signs, revelations, etc.).

The Shaykh has raised an entire generation upon Tawheed, بفضل الله, and has likewise experienced the full aggression and animosity of the entire west.

The reality is, only few know of the heavy restrictions that were imposed upon the Shaykh - for more than 20 years now - and for those who know, the extent and severity of these restrictions remain close to the Shaykh’s heart, actualizing the Ayah:

Yusuf 12:86

قَالَ إِنَّمَآ أَشۡكُواْ بَثِّى وَحُزۡنِىٓ إِلَى ٱللَّهِ وَأَعۡلَمُ مِنَ ٱللَّهِ مَا لَا تَعۡلَمُونَ

He said: "I only complain of my grief and sorrow to Allâh, and I know from Allâh that which you know not.

The Shaykh has essentially sacrificed his life for the Da’wah of Tawheed, while some who are unable to pronounce the Fātiha properly, are sitting behind their keyboards or Da’wah accounts, scoffing at the notion that our beloved Shaykh is truly an Imam.

Remember the Scholars in your Duā’, and don’t let the feminine whispers of the jealous hearts, or the barking of the rabbid dogs, lead you to belittle the status of this Giant حفظه الله تعالى. Support his Da’wah in any way you can, whether it be by word of mouth, sharing links, creating unique content using his works, or simply transcribing. The possibilities are many to share in the Da’wah (and Ajr!) of the Shaykh.

I ask Allah to protect and preserve our beloved Shaykh, and give him a long life full of deeds, and raise his ranks and status in this life and the next.

والحمدلله رب العالمين

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Your children are an investment for you!

Love is not something to be concealed and sealed in the heart, you have to express your love to your children. It is just like faith, faith is in the heart but it must be accompanied by utterance and actions with the limbs, which in turn increases the faith. Love must be manifested in your actions and words too, it can be done in a combination of ways such as gestures, touching, cuddling, playing with them, giving them time, verbal expressions etc., even something as simple as talking to them about their day. When you do this, it brings about mutual love and admiration between yourself and your children. When your children admire and love you, they will listen to you and execute what you want them to do. Building a good relationship and communicating with them, gently speaking with them, it’s all a part of faith. It may feel like a few minutes for you but children recall such precious few moments all their life. Children are truly an investment, you reap what you sow. Giving them time brings up healthy children in a healthy and safe environment. As the saying goes, teach your children moral character and religious issues during and from the softness of their nails I.e., when they’re very small, early age, their nails haven’t even developed yet. Don’t forget that your children are an extension of your deeds after your death, if you raise them good, as it should be, they will be your shield from the hellfire!

Umar bin Abu Salamah رضي الله عنه was just a little boy and under the care of the Messenger of Allah صلى الله عليه وسلم. The Prophet gave him three different rules and he was just a young boy, the Prophet was advising a toddler, but he did it gently, nicely and kindly! When Umar ate with the Prophet his hand would roam around all over the dish,
The Messenger of Allah advised him: O young man,
1. Mention Allah's Name (i.e., say Bismillah before starting eating)
2. Eat with your right hand
3. And eat from what is near you."
Later in life, Umar bin Abu Salamah commented upon this saying, he never left off this rule all his life thereafter!

Children have dynamic minds, they are extremely intelligent and they pick up your actions more than your words when they are young. You see toddlers who cannot even speak but imitate the action of their parents, even when offering prayer. But this comes when you give your children love, care, attention and especially respect, they enjoy your company and they become attached to you rather than other things, they admire and respect you and they follow everything you say and everything you do. My son, Ahmad, who was crawling at the time would tug the prayer rug from where I used to fold it away, he’d pull it down and prostrate on it. Imitating. This stagnant mentality that is portrayed to us today of the youth being irresponsible and incapable, and should be left for idle play is absurd and the reason for the downfall of society. Islam is not like that, the religion of Islam was raised on the shoulders of the youth who carried it far and wide! You must set the foundations of building a strong personality for your children right from the beginning, that is a priority that comes before anything else. Especially in such a poisonous and materialistic society that we are in.

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Very interesting how there was never any talk or excuse of a “journey” when it came to wearing a mask, but we hear that excuse time and time again when it comes to donning proper Hijāb and Niqāb.

Food for thought:

We’re willing to implement a CDC recommendation, that puts us through insane discomfort and inconvenience, immediately — for the sake of protecting our health and protecting our bodies in THIS life from the torment of getting sick or getting others sick.

But we’re not willing to implement the command of Allāh سبحانه وتعالى immediately for the sake of saving or bodies and souls from torment in the grave and hereafter, saving ourselves from indecency, and saving the eyes of others from sinning.

What could this indicate, except that our faith in the hereafter is shaky? If we really contemplated over the afterlife and believed in the Ghayb the way we believe what we see before our eyes, would we have such contradictory behavior?

Does protecting our bodies from sickness in this life take precedence over protecting them from an eternal fire whose fuel is men and stones?

"Staying silent [in the face of munkar] is animosity to the Haqq. Staying silent is protection of the Tawagheet. Staying silent is what guides one to the path of Jahannam."

— Shaykh 'Abdul Jabbar Shakir (حفظه الله)

"Compromising aspects of Hijab, choosing prettier, lighter colors, less fabric, etc thinking that it'll lessen the hatred & animosity of the Kuffar towards you, is defeatism.

Is it really worth changing ANYTHING you do fisabilillah for the sake of appeasing filthy disbelievers?

What's even worse is those who say to sisters statements like "wear lighter, brighter colors, the dark Niqab/Jilbab makes them uncomfortable".

Compromise on looking like the Mothers of the Believers, so that an enemy of Allah can feel less agitated?? Allah forbid.

As a sister once put it:

"I know wearing black is not obligatory, but seeing how much it enrages the Kuffar, I'm even more encouraged to don it (aside from the numerous other reasons), for if the enemies of my religion find it abhorrent, then there's something good about it. I know that some may permit showing the eyes, but seeing how much it frustrates their curiosity when they are covered, I will continue to cover them. They will not satisfy their age old obsession with "the women beneath the veil" through me, even if it be so much as an eye slit.

I'd rather be verbally abused, filmed, photographed, and laughed at due to my black outfit & covered skin than to have them smiling at me while I'm dressed in pretty colors. Their feelings are not my priority nor even my slightest concern. Rather, my priority lies in what's closest to Taqwa & furthest from adornment. In fact, in agitating them, I find pleasure."

Filthy hearts cannot contain their disgust at the sight of purity. If anything, compromising for personal comfort is more worthy than compromising for the Kuffar (though neither should be done of course). Why should purity be concerned with what filth thinks of it?"

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201 - Imām Al-Ājūriyy (رحمه الله تعالى) said:

We were informed by Umar Ibn Ayūb, who said: We were informed by Al-Hasan Ibn Al-Sālih, who said: We were informed by Ibrāhīm Ibn Ziyādah, who said: I asked Abdul-Rahmān Ibn Al-Mahdi, and said:

What do you say about those who say: “The Qur’an is created?”

He (Abdul-Rahmān Ibn Al-Mahdi) said:

“If I had the authority, I would have stationed myself at a bridge, and no man would pass by me except that I would ask him (regarding this matter), and if he said: “The Qur’ān is created,” I would have *fill in the blank* , and threw him into the water.”

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For those kids on Twitter who think that questioning people on the street about creedal matters is somehow a trait of the Khawārij…

THE SURŪRI

A common phenomena we see nowadays is the pseudo student of knowledge who goes “against the grain,” in matters where the matter is as clear as day, whilst trying to appear as someone of Manhaj. They are likened to a confused mixture of an Ikhwani/Salafi. They are quick to label the Muwahideen as extreme in Takfir, or having general Ghulu.

The following are some of their signs:

- Major Shirk can be excused

- Voting is an “Unclear” matter

- The current manifestation of being a spy is “not Kufr by consensus”

- The one who votes whilst knowing the reality of voting isn’t a Kafir, and that voting in general is a “disputed issue,” and when confronted, they cite Shaykh Sulayman Al-Alwan’s Fatwa (which is disastrous in its own right)

- Use principles of Usūl al FIQH in matters of Asl-Al-Deen, just like the modern day Ash’aris (neo-Jahmis)

- Making Tahākum isn’t Kufr

- Refers to the resident munafiq (Maqdisi) of Jordan as a Scholar (as well as other Murji’i scholars, and ex-Manhaj individuals who “saw the light”)

- Refers to Al-Turayfi as a scholar we should be listening to

These are just some of their signs, there obviously is more. They’ve attempted to infiltrate the people of Manhaj and cast doubts amongst those who are sincere yet not as well versed in certain matters.

If you come across anyone like this, no matter if they imply they’re a big-shot “student of knowledge,” then stay away.

نسال الله السلام و العافية

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THE PITFALL OF SELF PRAISE

Due to the scarcity of traditionally trained students of knowledge on the correct Manhaj, as well as Scholars, we often find the phenomenon of various efforts centering their Da’wah around either their own personal identities, or even worse (and equally cringe), those whom self-identify as either “Sheikhs,” “Ustadhs,” and or people of knowledge.

The disease of self amazement and creeping Riyaa was so much of an issue, even back in the day, that some of the classical giants (may have) fallen prey to it. Which is where the general principle of “taking the criticisms of generational contemporaries with a grain of salt,” comes from.

Jealousy is a very real issue in Da’wah, hence it’s extremely important to cut off any path to Riyaa, or self importance.

If that means covering your face, if that means staying nameless, if that means staying silent as the hypocrites bark, if that means staying silent as they slander you - then do so. Whatever it takes. How foolish is someone who spends hours upon hours on Da’wah efforts, spending it away from his family, only to then squander it for internet praise or a self appointed noscript.

My advice brothers and sisters, sincerity is your best means of promoting your Da’wah. By Allah, you’d be amazed as to how far your Da’wah will go, if you attempt to sincerely do it only for His Sake سبحانه و تعالى. People don’t know that the highest office in America, the president - at one point ordered his minions to find a way to “legally” remove Shaykh Ahmad’s works. Look at how far and wide his Da’wah has spread? The East and West have been raised on the Shaykh’s work.

May Allah grant us sincerity in our affairs, and keep us steadfast upon it.

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The Ultimate Victory Series (Captioned) | Shaykh Ahmad Musa Jibril (حفظه الله)

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Alhamdulillah, we've started adding the English captions to the Ultimate Victory Series by Shaykh Ahmad (حفظه الله) that was released this Ramadan, and the videos are being added to this archive playlist as they are completed. There are a few more videos left to go insha'Allah. May Allah reward those who transcribed the series, as the real effort and work is theirs, may Allah accept from them and from the Shaykh, and make this beneficial for all those who are seeking to translate the Shaykh's videos into their own languages and for those who are not fluent in English.