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Rights of Wife #3: Kind Treatment
Allāh says regarding wives: وَعَاشِرُوهُنَّبِالْمَعْرُوفِ
"And live with them in kindness." [An-Nisā']
Ibn Katheer says that "living with them in kindness" means saying kind words to them, treating them kindly and making your appearance appealing for them, as much as you can, just as you like the same from them. [Tafseer Ibn Katheer]
💠 This verse is general, and many rights can be extracted from it, as it encompasses multiple rights that a woman has over her husband. Before mentioning what 'kind treatment' entails, it's necessary for brothers to understand the fragility of a woman's nature, so that they be able to treat their wives with the proper compassion and consideration mentioned here. The fragility of the nature of the woman is pointed out in a Hadīth in which there was a camel-driver, who was called Anjasha with a good voice, and he would sing to lead the animals. He was leading the camels that the women were riding on, and the Messenger (ﷺ) approached him and said: "Woe to you Anjasha, go slowly while you are driving the mounts who carry vessels of glass (Al Qawāreer)."
According to scholars like al-Bukhari, al-Qurtubi, and al-Asqalani, this Hadīth points out both the physical and emotional delicacy and fragility of the woman's nature. They mentioned that the Hadīth can be understood in two ways:
1.) That he was instructing Anjasha to be careful in his driving the camels as leading them too fast could hurt the women or cause them to fall, due to their delicate build and nature.
2.) That he meant to instruct him regarding his singing, because women are emotionally fragile and sensitive and are easily moved by poetry and a nice voice, and this singing may bring Fitnah to their hearts.
💠 Forbearance and Coping With the Wife's Attitude
The husband should not react extremely in response to the wife's occasional annoyance or anger, nor should he keep it as a reason for grudge and retaliation later on. Instead he should show forbearance and patience and take it lightly, understanding that a woman's emotions are often due to other reasons out of her control (hormones, pregnancy, etc). (This is no excuse for women to intentionally not regulate themselves and their attitudes, but that's a topic for another time.) We see examples of this in the Sunnah, as in the following Hadīth narrated by A'ishah:
Allāh's Messenger (ﷺ) said, " I know whether you are angry or pleased with me." I said, "How do you know that, Allāh’s Messenger (ﷺ)?" He said, "When you are pleased, you say, "Yes, by the Lord of Muhammad,' but when you are angry, you say, 'No, by the Lord of Ibrahīm!' " I said, "Yes, I do not leave, except your name."
There are many ahadīth mentioning the manner of the Prophet (ﷺ) in dealing with the jealousy and anger of his wives, and how he would play it off with a smile or a light joke and treat the manner lightly and kindly to alleviate the situation. By treating the mood swings or the occasional outbursts of the wife in this manner, no feelings will be hurt, nor will there be any arguments, and the woman will slowly come to realize her mistake herself and the situation will be resolved. This is not to undermine the importance of discipline when needed, but rather to say that not all situations have to be treated too seriously, and forbearance and lightheartedness can prevent aggravation of many issues and can keep the wife's heart pleased with her husband.
💠 Understanding the Meaning of "Bent Rib"
The Prophet (ﷺ) said: “Treat women kindly, for woman was created from a bent rib, and the most crooked part of the rib is the top part, so treat women kindly.” [Bukhari]
Allāh says regarding wives: وَعَاشِرُوهُنَّبِالْمَعْرُوفِ
"And live with them in kindness." [An-Nisā']
Ibn Katheer says that "living with them in kindness" means saying kind words to them, treating them kindly and making your appearance appealing for them, as much as you can, just as you like the same from them. [Tafseer Ibn Katheer]
💠 This verse is general, and many rights can be extracted from it, as it encompasses multiple rights that a woman has over her husband. Before mentioning what 'kind treatment' entails, it's necessary for brothers to understand the fragility of a woman's nature, so that they be able to treat their wives with the proper compassion and consideration mentioned here. The fragility of the nature of the woman is pointed out in a Hadīth in which there was a camel-driver, who was called Anjasha with a good voice, and he would sing to lead the animals. He was leading the camels that the women were riding on, and the Messenger (ﷺ) approached him and said: "Woe to you Anjasha, go slowly while you are driving the mounts who carry vessels of glass (Al Qawāreer)."
According to scholars like al-Bukhari, al-Qurtubi, and al-Asqalani, this Hadīth points out both the physical and emotional delicacy and fragility of the woman's nature. They mentioned that the Hadīth can be understood in two ways:
1.) That he was instructing Anjasha to be careful in his driving the camels as leading them too fast could hurt the women or cause them to fall, due to their delicate build and nature.
2.) That he meant to instruct him regarding his singing, because women are emotionally fragile and sensitive and are easily moved by poetry and a nice voice, and this singing may bring Fitnah to their hearts.
💠 Forbearance and Coping With the Wife's Attitude
The husband should not react extremely in response to the wife's occasional annoyance or anger, nor should he keep it as a reason for grudge and retaliation later on. Instead he should show forbearance and patience and take it lightly, understanding that a woman's emotions are often due to other reasons out of her control (hormones, pregnancy, etc). (This is no excuse for women to intentionally not regulate themselves and their attitudes, but that's a topic for another time.) We see examples of this in the Sunnah, as in the following Hadīth narrated by A'ishah:
Allāh's Messenger (ﷺ) said, " I know whether you are angry or pleased with me." I said, "How do you know that, Allāh’s Messenger (ﷺ)?" He said, "When you are pleased, you say, "Yes, by the Lord of Muhammad,' but when you are angry, you say, 'No, by the Lord of Ibrahīm!' " I said, "Yes, I do not leave, except your name."
There are many ahadīth mentioning the manner of the Prophet (ﷺ) in dealing with the jealousy and anger of his wives, and how he would play it off with a smile or a light joke and treat the manner lightly and kindly to alleviate the situation. By treating the mood swings or the occasional outbursts of the wife in this manner, no feelings will be hurt, nor will there be any arguments, and the woman will slowly come to realize her mistake herself and the situation will be resolved. This is not to undermine the importance of discipline when needed, but rather to say that not all situations have to be treated too seriously, and forbearance and lightheartedness can prevent aggravation of many issues and can keep the wife's heart pleased with her husband.
💠 Understanding the Meaning of "Bent Rib"
The Prophet (ﷺ) said: “Treat women kindly, for woman was created from a bent rib, and the most crooked part of the rib is the top part, so treat women kindly.” [Bukhari]
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This denoscription of the rib being "bent" indicates that the woman's nature is inherently different from the man's, and they will never fully coincide. Due to this difference, she will act and react to things differently than the man would, so the man must be patient and understanding in this regard and not expect her to act as he would in every situation. The meaning is that she will inevitably have some crookedness or shortcomings in her character. Ibn Hajar says that the specification of the top part of the rib is possibly a metaphor for the head of the woman, which encases her tongue from which harm comes, and her thinking faculties. From this it can be deduced that the main difference between men and women is in the way they think, approach & react to issues, and perceive things.
The Hadīth goes on: "If you attempt to straighten it you will break it, and if you leave it alone it will remain crooked; so act kindly towards women.”
Breaking it refers to divorce, meaning that if the man attempts to force the woman to act and become as he is, and to change her natural attitude that clashes with his, they will not last with each other and the marriage will inevitably fail.
Another narration is: "The woman was created from a rib and will not remain straight for you in any way. So, if you enjoy her, you enjoy her as she has some crookedness. And if you try to straighten her, you will break her, and breaking her is divorcing her." [Muslim & Tirmidhi]
So the man must understand that his wife will never be exactly as he wishes her to be in regards to her nature, and it is not possible for him to forcibly straighten her out. He should remain patient and understanding regarding this and not be overly critical in regards to their natural differences in perception/thinking and acting.
💠 Entertaining the Wife
Part of kind treatment to the wife is that the husband should be playful with the her, using lawful ways to keep her entertained and bring joy to her heart. This was a practice of the Messenger of Allāh ﷺ with his wives, and many ahadīth give examples of the playful attitude he adopted with his women.
Ibn Katheer says "It was the practice of the Messenger of Allāh ﷺto be kind, cheerful, playful with his wives, compassionate, spending on them and laughing with them. The Messenger ﷺused to race with A'ishah, the Mother of the Faithful, as a means of kindness to her. A'ishah said, "The Messenger of Allāh ﷺraced with me and I won the race. This occurred before I gained weight, and afterwards I raced with him again, and he won that race. He said, "This [victory] is for that [victory]" When the Prophet ﷺwas at the home of one of his wives, sometimes all of his wives would meet there and eat together, and they would then go back to their homes. He and his wife would sleep in the same bed, he would remove his upper garment, sleeping in only his lower garment. The Prophet ﷺused to talk to the wife whose night it was, after praying 'Isha' and before he went to sleep.
Allāh said,
لَّقَدْ كَانَ لَكُمْ فِي رَسُولِ اللَّهِ أُسْوَةٌ حَسَنَةٌ
(Indeed in the Messenger of Allah you have a good example to follow) [33:21].” [Tafseer Ibn Katheer]
Some examples from the Sunnah:
A'ishah reported: By Allāh, I remember the Messenger of Allāh (ﷺ) standing on the door of my apartment screening me with his mantle enabling me to see the sport of the Abyssinians as they played with their daggers in the mosque of the Messenger of Allāh (ﷺ). He (the Holy Prophet) kept standing for my sake till I was satiated and then I went back; and thus you can well imagine how long a girl tender of age who is fond of sports (could have watched it). [Muslim]
It was narrated that A’ishah said: "The Prophet ﷺraced with me and I beat him." [Ibn Majah]
Narrated Abu 'Uthman: Allāh's Messenger (ﷺ) sent 'Amr bin Al As as the commander of the troops of Dhat-us-Salasil. 'Amr bin Al- 'As said, "(On my return) I came to the Prophet (ﷺ) and said, 'Which people do you love most?' He replied, "A’ishah." [Bukhari]
The Hadīth goes on: "If you attempt to straighten it you will break it, and if you leave it alone it will remain crooked; so act kindly towards women.”
Breaking it refers to divorce, meaning that if the man attempts to force the woman to act and become as he is, and to change her natural attitude that clashes with his, they will not last with each other and the marriage will inevitably fail.
Another narration is: "The woman was created from a rib and will not remain straight for you in any way. So, if you enjoy her, you enjoy her as she has some crookedness. And if you try to straighten her, you will break her, and breaking her is divorcing her." [Muslim & Tirmidhi]
So the man must understand that his wife will never be exactly as he wishes her to be in regards to her nature, and it is not possible for him to forcibly straighten her out. He should remain patient and understanding regarding this and not be overly critical in regards to their natural differences in perception/thinking and acting.
💠 Entertaining the Wife
Part of kind treatment to the wife is that the husband should be playful with the her, using lawful ways to keep her entertained and bring joy to her heart. This was a practice of the Messenger of Allāh ﷺ with his wives, and many ahadīth give examples of the playful attitude he adopted with his women.
Ibn Katheer says "It was the practice of the Messenger of Allāh ﷺto be kind, cheerful, playful with his wives, compassionate, spending on them and laughing with them. The Messenger ﷺused to race with A'ishah, the Mother of the Faithful, as a means of kindness to her. A'ishah said, "The Messenger of Allāh ﷺraced with me and I won the race. This occurred before I gained weight, and afterwards I raced with him again, and he won that race. He said, "This [victory] is for that [victory]" When the Prophet ﷺwas at the home of one of his wives, sometimes all of his wives would meet there and eat together, and they would then go back to their homes. He and his wife would sleep in the same bed, he would remove his upper garment, sleeping in only his lower garment. The Prophet ﷺused to talk to the wife whose night it was, after praying 'Isha' and before he went to sleep.
Allāh said,
لَّقَدْ كَانَ لَكُمْ فِي رَسُولِ اللَّهِ أُسْوَةٌ حَسَنَةٌ
(Indeed in the Messenger of Allah you have a good example to follow) [33:21].” [Tafseer Ibn Katheer]
Some examples from the Sunnah:
A'ishah reported: By Allāh, I remember the Messenger of Allāh (ﷺ) standing on the door of my apartment screening me with his mantle enabling me to see the sport of the Abyssinians as they played with their daggers in the mosque of the Messenger of Allāh (ﷺ). He (the Holy Prophet) kept standing for my sake till I was satiated and then I went back; and thus you can well imagine how long a girl tender of age who is fond of sports (could have watched it). [Muslim]
It was narrated that A’ishah said: "The Prophet ﷺraced with me and I beat him." [Ibn Majah]
Narrated Abu 'Uthman: Allāh's Messenger (ﷺ) sent 'Amr bin Al As as the commander of the troops of Dhat-us-Salasil. 'Amr bin Al- 'As said, "(On my return) I came to the Prophet (ﷺ) and said, 'Which people do you love most?' He replied, "A’ishah." [Bukhari]
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It was narrated that 'A’ishah said: "The Messenger of Allāh (ﷺ) used to put his mouth on the place where I had drunk from, and he would drink from what was leftover by me, while I was menstruating." [An- Nasa'i]
Narrated A’ishah: “The Prophet (ﷺ) used to lean on my lap and recite Quran while I was in menses.” [Bukhari]
Narrated A’ishah: “The Prophet (ﷺ) used to lean on my lap and recite Quran while I was in menses.” [Bukhari]
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Sidetracked in History is a short yet powerful article written by the noble Shaykh Ahmad Musā Jibrīl in 2012 (حفظه الله تعالى). It encompasses an important recurring theme in history that must be grasped by all those striving to be upon the Haqq (may Allah make us of them).
The very few who had the foresight to see what many were blind to, and take stands in the path of Allah in spite of being hounded to do otherwise, were reclassified and turned aside by the masses. They risked, and lost everything, for Allah.
Their stories should be reflected upon. The knowledgeable are not classified as such based on advertisements, looks, followers, or popularity. The knowledgable are those who adhere to their knowledge and have solidarity to it, and they define what it means to live a life upon Tawheed - a Ghareeb.
May Allah have mercy upon them all, and raise their ranks, and our beloved Shaykh Ahmad Jibrīl’s rank to Firdaws.
The very few who had the foresight to see what many were blind to, and take stands in the path of Allah in spite of being hounded to do otherwise, were reclassified and turned aside by the masses. They risked, and lost everything, for Allah.
Their stories should be reflected upon. The knowledgeable are not classified as such based on advertisements, looks, followers, or popularity. The knowledgable are those who adhere to their knowledge and have solidarity to it, and they define what it means to live a life upon Tawheed - a Ghareeb.
May Allah have mercy upon them all, and raise their ranks, and our beloved Shaykh Ahmad Jibrīl’s rank to Firdaws.
Abu Muslim Al Khawlani said:
"Asceticism in this world does not mean making a lawful thing unlawful or squandering money. True ascetism means that you put more trust in Allah than in what you have. When you face a calamity, you should prefer to have its reward for being afflicted by it."
"Asceticism in this world does not mean making a lawful thing unlawful or squandering money. True ascetism means that you put more trust in Allah than in what you have. When you face a calamity, you should prefer to have its reward for being afflicted by it."
Forwarded from نصف العلم أخطر من الجهل
Fireworks go up in some Arabic capitals celebrating kuffār rituals while missiles fall on the Muslims.
- Shaykh Ahmad Mūsā Jibrīl حفظه الله
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- Shaykh Ahmad Mūsā Jibrīl حفظه الله
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The Messenger of Allah (صلى الله عليه وسلم) said:
“Whoever among you sees an evil action, let him change it with his hand [by taking action]; if he cannot, then with his tongue [by speaking out]; and if he cannot, then with his heart [by at least hating it and believing that it is wrong], and that is the weakest of faith.” [Muslim]
Ibn Mas'ud رضي الله عنه said:
"Those who are living are about to witness evil which they cannot change, except that Allah knows that which their hearts hate."
[Jaami' al-'Uloom wal-Hikam]
“Whoever among you sees an evil action, let him change it with his hand [by taking action]; if he cannot, then with his tongue [by speaking out]; and if he cannot, then with his heart [by at least hating it and believing that it is wrong], and that is the weakest of faith.” [Muslim]
Ibn Mas'ud رضي الله عنه said:
"Those who are living are about to witness evil which they cannot change, except that Allah knows that which their hearts hate."
[Jaami' al-'Uloom wal-Hikam]
Forwarded from Lanterns of Tawheed
The affair of the believer is truly strange, but what a beautiful strangeness it is
When inflicted with the harshest of trials and the most extended periods of tribulations, most of mankind falls into despair and grief, hating the trial and lamenting at being struck by it.
But the believer is so different. The believer experiences the worst of days and passes through the darkest of nights that seemingly have no end, and although his heart feels all the natural grief and pain that a human would experience, in the depths of his heart there is a strange breeze of relief, happiness, and contentment.
Relief knowing that his Lord didn’t leave him to live an easy life as He left his enemies to live, in knowing that if this Dunya has become a troubling abode for him, that he is not from those whom his Lord has left in peace to exceed in their transgressions, only to punish in the hereafter with the severest of punishments.
Happiness in knowing that his Lord is testing him because He loves him, and in knowing that his sins are being forgiven and his ranks are being raised.
And contentment in knowing that this was the decree of his Lord for him specifically that he could never avert from himself, and that when his Lord takes something, He gives better, and in knowing that every trial that afflicts him, it harms him once, but it benefits him tenfold the amount of that which it harmed him.
He raises his hands to Allāh while his eyes brim with tears but his heart smiles... because he knows that even if he gains nothing out of these trials except that his heart becomes fully reliant upon his Lord and he draws near to him, that those are blessings worth more than the world and everything it contains.
Oh Lord, if you remove our burdens from us, we are pleased, and if you increase them, we only increase in our pleasure. We can bear patiently the difficulties of this life so long as we aren’t faced with any in the hereafter.
When inflicted with the harshest of trials and the most extended periods of tribulations, most of mankind falls into despair and grief, hating the trial and lamenting at being struck by it.
But the believer is so different. The believer experiences the worst of days and passes through the darkest of nights that seemingly have no end, and although his heart feels all the natural grief and pain that a human would experience, in the depths of his heart there is a strange breeze of relief, happiness, and contentment.
Relief knowing that his Lord didn’t leave him to live an easy life as He left his enemies to live, in knowing that if this Dunya has become a troubling abode for him, that he is not from those whom his Lord has left in peace to exceed in their transgressions, only to punish in the hereafter with the severest of punishments.
Happiness in knowing that his Lord is testing him because He loves him, and in knowing that his sins are being forgiven and his ranks are being raised.
And contentment in knowing that this was the decree of his Lord for him specifically that he could never avert from himself, and that when his Lord takes something, He gives better, and in knowing that every trial that afflicts him, it harms him once, but it benefits him tenfold the amount of that which it harmed him.
He raises his hands to Allāh while his eyes brim with tears but his heart smiles... because he knows that even if he gains nothing out of these trials except that his heart becomes fully reliant upon his Lord and he draws near to him, that those are blessings worth more than the world and everything it contains.
Oh Lord, if you remove our burdens from us, we are pleased, and if you increase them, we only increase in our pleasure. We can bear patiently the difficulties of this life so long as we aren’t faced with any in the hereafter.
It’s amazing how some parents will prevent and criticize their children for practicing the Deen and striving in Allāh’s path, while not realizing that their children strive for the sake of Allāh, in hopes that one day He will allow them to intercede for their parents and take them by the hand into Jannah.
“Why must you always speak when you see evil? You’re offending our relatives.”
“How dare you advise me regarding the Deen when you were just born yesterday?”
“Shave/shorten your beard. You look so old fashioned.”
“Remove your Niqāb.”
“Marry this Fāsiq.”
“How could you be so stupid to reject such a good job offer? Everyone earns Harām, it’s unavoidable!”
SubhanAllah, here we have the Qur’an commanding us to ask Allāh for righteous descendants, and here we have parents, who claim to follow this Book, that strive to pull their children away from righteousness and Taqwa at any chance they see it. Truly, they live for this life and not the hereafter, while the hereafter is better and more lasting.
For some parents, it’s not enough that they should be defiantly disobedient to Allāh by themselves, they want it to be a tradition carried on by their progeny!
May Allāh forgive us and guide us.
“Why must you always speak when you see evil? You’re offending our relatives.”
“How dare you advise me regarding the Deen when you were just born yesterday?”
“Shave/shorten your beard. You look so old fashioned.”
“Remove your Niqāb.”
“Marry this Fāsiq.”
“How could you be so stupid to reject such a good job offer? Everyone earns Harām, it’s unavoidable!”
SubhanAllah, here we have the Qur’an commanding us to ask Allāh for righteous descendants, and here we have parents, who claim to follow this Book, that strive to pull their children away from righteousness and Taqwa at any chance they see it. Truly, they live for this life and not the hereafter, while the hereafter is better and more lasting.
For some parents, it’s not enough that they should be defiantly disobedient to Allāh by themselves, they want it to be a tradition carried on by their progeny!
May Allāh forgive us and guide us.
Forwarded from Ahmad Musā Jibrīl
السلام عليكم و رحمة الله وبركاته
Alhamdulillah, Lecture 05 of the previously unreleased video series noscriptd "Explanation of Furū' Al-Fiqh" has now been released!
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Alhamdulillah, Lecture 05 of the previously unreleased video series noscriptd "Explanation of Furū' Al-Fiqh" has now been released!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vz3Ye3tBzj4
Stay updated by following the Shaykh's official social media handles (managed by students):
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Two Rare Things in Decline
It is reported that Yūnus bin ‘Ubayd رحمه الله said:
“I do not know anything rarer than a good dirham (money earnt lawfully) whose owner spends it on something right, or a brother in Islām in whose company one finds peace. And they are only getting rarer.”
[Abu Nu’aym, Hilyatu Al-Awliyā’]
It is reported that Yūnus bin ‘Ubayd رحمه الله said:
“I do not know anything rarer than a good dirham (money earnt lawfully) whose owner spends it on something right, or a brother in Islām in whose company one finds peace. And they are only getting rarer.”
[Abu Nu’aym, Hilyatu Al-Awliyā’]
Ibn Mas’ood رضي الله عنه said,
“Know the people by their friends. The Muslim follows the Muslim and the faajir (disobedient one) accompanies the faajir.”
“Know the people by their friends. The Muslim follows the Muslim and the faajir (disobedient one) accompanies the faajir.”
‘Umar رضي الله عنه said:
“Take righteous brothers [as friends]; acquire them in plenty, for they are a beautification in prosperity and an aid during calamity.”
[Kitab Az-Zuhd]
“Take righteous brothers [as friends]; acquire them in plenty, for they are a beautification in prosperity and an aid during calamity.”
[Kitab Az-Zuhd]
Hasten to the Truthful Scholars!
“The Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم informed us that holding onto this religion will become like holding on to a burning coal in your hand. But there are always righteous believers, they will continue to exist until the Judgement Day, calling to the truth, commanding good and forbidding evil with no fear or concern of anyone but Allah. Everywhere you go, you find some scattered fragment particles of sincere scholars, they are around but they are few. So when you find one, know that he is more precious than everything in this world, hasten to him, crawl to him and learn from him, he’s a rare gem Allah placed on this Earth, for verily Allah takes away knowledge by the death of these scholars, and that’s when evil, corruption and ignorance spreads.”
— Shaykh Musa Jibril (حفظه الله)
“The Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم informed us that holding onto this religion will become like holding on to a burning coal in your hand. But there are always righteous believers, they will continue to exist until the Judgement Day, calling to the truth, commanding good and forbidding evil with no fear or concern of anyone but Allah. Everywhere you go, you find some scattered fragment particles of sincere scholars, they are around but they are few. So when you find one, know that he is more precious than everything in this world, hasten to him, crawl to him and learn from him, he’s a rare gem Allah placed on this Earth, for verily Allah takes away knowledge by the death of these scholars, and that’s when evil, corruption and ignorance spreads.”
— Shaykh Musa Jibril (حفظه الله)
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Hasten to the Truthful Scholars! “The Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم informed us that holding onto this religion will become like holding on to a burning coal in your hand. But there are always righteous believers, they will continue to exist until the Judgement…
“Don’t be deceived with external appearances, anyone can grow a long beard and throw on some “religious looking” clothes. The real scholar is the one who stands firmly upon the truth, always speaks the truth, acts upon it and teaches it - they do not fear the blame of the blamers. It doesn’t mater where they are or in which situation they are in, they rely solely on Allah as their protector and guardian. These are the men Allah opened their chests and gave them understanding of the religion, the giants upholding this religion the way it deserves to be upheld. Indeed how few they are!”
— Shaykh Musa Jibril (حفظه الله)
— Shaykh Musa Jibril (حفظه الله)
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Message from Shaykh Musa Jibril حفظه الله
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Praise be to Allah - The Almighty High - under all circumstances. By the grace, the blessings and the bounty of Allah and afterwards your supplications, my health has been improving and I feel a lot better. Praise be to Allah. We recieved a high volume of calls and messages to which we were unable to reply or return but are profoundly overwhelmed and grateful for the support, the love, the concern and mostly the duah and prayers from all our beloved ones near and far, who stand by us during times of difficulty. Every message, every call and every thought is appreciated dearly. We ask Allah to reward each and every one for the support. May Allah bestow His grace, bounty and mercy upon you all, and be kind to you. May Allah bless you and bless your families and loved ones, and may Allah reward you good.
The Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم said: “The Muslim is the brother of his fellow Muslim; he does not wrong him nor let him down. The one who meets the needs of his brother, Allah will meet his needs. Whoever relieves a Muslim of distress, Allah will relieve him of distress on the Day of Resurrection.”
- Umm Musa
السلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته
Praise be to Allah - The Almighty High - under all circumstances. By the grace, the blessings and the bounty of Allah and afterwards your supplications, my health has been improving and I feel a lot better. Praise be to Allah. We recieved a high volume of calls and messages to which we were unable to reply or return but are profoundly overwhelmed and grateful for the support, the love, the concern and mostly the duah and prayers from all our beloved ones near and far, who stand by us during times of difficulty. Every message, every call and every thought is appreciated dearly. We ask Allah to reward each and every one for the support. May Allah bestow His grace, bounty and mercy upon you all, and be kind to you. May Allah bless you and bless your families and loved ones, and may Allah reward you good.
The Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم said: “The Muslim is the brother of his fellow Muslim; he does not wrong him nor let him down. The one who meets the needs of his brother, Allah will meet his needs. Whoever relieves a Muslim of distress, Allah will relieve him of distress on the Day of Resurrection.”
- Umm Musa
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Rights of the Wife #4: Fairness & Justice
It is an obligation upon the husband to treat his wife (and family in general) with fairness and justice, and not to use his dominance and degree over her to oppress or harm her. In reality, this right falls into the previous right (kind treatment), but it needs separate attention to bring emphasis and to properly address this much needed issue.
Narrated Ibn ‘Umar: The Prophet (ﷺ) said, "Oppression will be a darkness on the Day of Resurrection."
💠 He should be fair with her in regards to the relationship between her and his family. The husband must understand that his wife did not marry him to become a slave to his family with no worth or honor in their eyes. He should be fair and just in dealing between her and his family and not oppress her by taking the side of his family in every argument and repressing her emotions and her struggles in such matters. Although the man's parents have great rights upon him, he must know that they do not have the same rights upon his wife, and he cannot force her to blindly obey and serve them. Of course, the intelligent woman knows how to deal with her in-laws in a respectful and courteous manner, and she knows what level of respect and honor she should give them in order to maintain the peace between the family and stability in her relationship with them and her husband, but the husband cannot oppress her with injustice in regards to his family by forcing her to act as their maid, become blindly obedient to them, or blaming her in every situation as being in the wrong. He should deal with disputes in wisdom and without bias, recognizing that his family may often be in the wrong, just as his wife may be. He should not allow his family to infringe on her privacy and interfere in her affairs or mistreat her. He should give her her due right of independence to do things in her household as she wishes, without interference from her in-laws. Lastly, he should defend her and protect her name from any slander or backbiting that may take place in his family against her, in her absence or presence, as this is the right of every Muslim upon him, and even moreso the right of his wife, as he owes her protection. If he cannot defend her due to his weakness before his family, he should permit her to defend herself properly instead of silencing her when she is mistreated, insulted, and slandered. Many men are pleased to be silent in the face of the injustice and mistreatment towards their wives by their families, but are lions towards their wife whenever she attempts to defend herself or assert her dignity and self respect among her in laws. This is unjust and oppressive.
💠 He should be fair and just in his treatment of his wives if he has more than one wife. Fairness between the wives is a condition of polygyny as Allāh says:
وَإِنْ خِفْتُمْ أَلَّا تُقْسِطُوا۟ فِى ٱلْيَتَـٰمَىٰ فَٱنكِحُوا۟ مَا طَابَ لَكُم مِّنَ ٱلنِّسَآءِ مَثْنَىٰ وَثُلَـٰثَ وَرُبَـٰعَ ۖ فَإِنْ خِفْتُمْ أَلَّا تَعْدِلُوا۟ فَوَٰحِدَةً أَوْ مَا مَلَكَتْ أَيْمَـٰنُكُمْ ۚ ذَٰلِكَ أَدْنَىٰٓ أَلَّا تَعُولُوا۟
And if you fear that you will not deal justly with the orphan girls, then marry those that please you of [other] women, two or three or four. But if you fear that you will not be just, then [marry only] one or those your right hands possess [i.e., slaves]. That is more suitable that you may not incline [to injustice]. [an-Nisā’]
Fairness here is in material matters, such as time, equal turns, and being equitable with them in regards to clothing, food and drink, and dwelling.
Fairness in regards to cowives does not, however, apply to feelings of the heart towards them, as this is something that is not in the man's control. It is well known that The Messenger of Allāh ﷺ loved A’isha (رضي الله عنها) more than his other wives. However, Allāh commands men that they should not let their feeling of affection and love towards one wife cause them neglect or to be unjust towards the others. Allāh says:
It is an obligation upon the husband to treat his wife (and family in general) with fairness and justice, and not to use his dominance and degree over her to oppress or harm her. In reality, this right falls into the previous right (kind treatment), but it needs separate attention to bring emphasis and to properly address this much needed issue.
Narrated Ibn ‘Umar: The Prophet (ﷺ) said, "Oppression will be a darkness on the Day of Resurrection."
💠 He should be fair with her in regards to the relationship between her and his family. The husband must understand that his wife did not marry him to become a slave to his family with no worth or honor in their eyes. He should be fair and just in dealing between her and his family and not oppress her by taking the side of his family in every argument and repressing her emotions and her struggles in such matters. Although the man's parents have great rights upon him, he must know that they do not have the same rights upon his wife, and he cannot force her to blindly obey and serve them. Of course, the intelligent woman knows how to deal with her in-laws in a respectful and courteous manner, and she knows what level of respect and honor she should give them in order to maintain the peace between the family and stability in her relationship with them and her husband, but the husband cannot oppress her with injustice in regards to his family by forcing her to act as their maid, become blindly obedient to them, or blaming her in every situation as being in the wrong. He should deal with disputes in wisdom and without bias, recognizing that his family may often be in the wrong, just as his wife may be. He should not allow his family to infringe on her privacy and interfere in her affairs or mistreat her. He should give her her due right of independence to do things in her household as she wishes, without interference from her in-laws. Lastly, he should defend her and protect her name from any slander or backbiting that may take place in his family against her, in her absence or presence, as this is the right of every Muslim upon him, and even moreso the right of his wife, as he owes her protection. If he cannot defend her due to his weakness before his family, he should permit her to defend herself properly instead of silencing her when she is mistreated, insulted, and slandered. Many men are pleased to be silent in the face of the injustice and mistreatment towards their wives by their families, but are lions towards their wife whenever she attempts to defend herself or assert her dignity and self respect among her in laws. This is unjust and oppressive.
💠 He should be fair and just in his treatment of his wives if he has more than one wife. Fairness between the wives is a condition of polygyny as Allāh says:
وَإِنْ خِفْتُمْ أَلَّا تُقْسِطُوا۟ فِى ٱلْيَتَـٰمَىٰ فَٱنكِحُوا۟ مَا طَابَ لَكُم مِّنَ ٱلنِّسَآءِ مَثْنَىٰ وَثُلَـٰثَ وَرُبَـٰعَ ۖ فَإِنْ خِفْتُمْ أَلَّا تَعْدِلُوا۟ فَوَٰحِدَةً أَوْ مَا مَلَكَتْ أَيْمَـٰنُكُمْ ۚ ذَٰلِكَ أَدْنَىٰٓ أَلَّا تَعُولُوا۟
And if you fear that you will not deal justly with the orphan girls, then marry those that please you of [other] women, two or three or four. But if you fear that you will not be just, then [marry only] one or those your right hands possess [i.e., slaves]. That is more suitable that you may not incline [to injustice]. [an-Nisā’]
Fairness here is in material matters, such as time, equal turns, and being equitable with them in regards to clothing, food and drink, and dwelling.
Fairness in regards to cowives does not, however, apply to feelings of the heart towards them, as this is something that is not in the man's control. It is well known that The Messenger of Allāh ﷺ loved A’isha (رضي الله عنها) more than his other wives. However, Allāh commands men that they should not let their feeling of affection and love towards one wife cause them neglect or to be unjust towards the others. Allāh says: