Salaam all. I appreciate you joining the channel. Jazakum Allahu khayran

A man's ego is a traitor to his character and value. The bigger it is, the worse he is betrayed, and his success thwarted, and he will be conquered by whatever he is trying to conquer

Rollo Tomassi and the Red Pillers routinely complain about the double-standard applied to women; and of course, there IS an evident double-standard — but that's appropriate. What makes these men angry, I think, is that women do not recognize that they enjoy the leniency of this double-standard, and do not acknowledge what the necessity of this double-standard reveals about their relative incapacity to cope and deal independently in the world as men do. But if they COULD recognize all of that, and acknowledge it, the double-standard would not really be necessary would it?
The whole point is that women are not held to account on par with men because they are NOT on par with men; yet Red Pillers seem to want to pretend that gender equality is real, and therefore the double-standard is unfair. They feel like women are getting away with something. It is not the case.

Sharing from a Fiqhi telegram group:

Seven Principles of Sacred Marriage:

WHETHER WE ARE ALREADY married, or on the cusp of getting married, or just commencing the search to get married, the following principles are important to know. If we want our marital unions to be blessed and fulfilling, if we want our marriages to bring happiness and contentment (instead of being mired in regret or misery), the following points must be seriously contemplated:

1. Marriage (nikah), the shared life of man and woman, is commended in Islam as being honourable and good. It was the way of God’s prophets and messengers, with the notable exception of Jesus Christ, peace be upon him. The Qur’an says: “We sent Messengers before you, and appointed for them wives and children.” [Q.13:38]

2. The Qur’an describes marriage as: “a solemn covenant.” [Q.4:21] Given the sacred and solemn nature of marriage, it cannot be entered into hastily, naively or unadvisedly; but rather honourably, reverently and soberly; not forgetting with good counsel and with trust in God.

3. The causes for marriage must be contemplated over before embarking on this quest of intimacy. In Islam’s legal literature, we find the causes for which marriage was ordained are said to be: [i] That the natural instincts of love and intimacy implanted by God can be given blessed expression. [ii] For the increase of humankind and for children to be raised in God’s remembrance and in reverant thanks of Him. [iii] For the benefit of society at large: for family is the foundation of a just and caring society; it is the realm where love, duty, commitment and sacrifice are first encountered and learnt.
To state the above in the more clinical language of today’s anthropologists, the function of marriage is to ensure: [i] social reproduction, [ii] socializing of children and [iii] the passing on of social capital.

4. Speaking about the greater goal of marriage, it’s actual spirit, the Qur’an says: “And of His signs is that He created for you wives from yourselves that you might find tranquility in them, and He set between you love and affection. In this are signs for people who reflect.” [Q.30:21] Thus, let spouses seek to be loving companions on a sacred journey.

5. The Qur’an wants marriage life to be a life of mutual kindness and companionship. It says, while primarily addressing men: “Live with them in kindness.” [Q.4:19] And it insists: “Give them their dowry in kindness.” [Q.4:25] And if it be the case: “Keep them honourably, or release them in kindness.” [Q.2:229] Allah also warns men: “House them in your own homes, according to your means. And do not harass them, so as to make life intolerable for them.” [Q.65:6]

So the affair, whether marriage or divorce, is to be one of kindness. The mark of a real Muslim man is nothing less; all else just isn’t manliness in any real sense of the word.

6. As for a Muslim women’s role in nurturing marital harmony, Allah says: “So virtuous women are humbly obedient, guarding in absence what Allah would have them guard.” [Q.4:34]

7. The Qur’an depicts how it wishes spouses to be with each other, using this beautiful and intimate imagery: “They are a garment for you and you are a garment for them.” [Q.2:187]

To conclude: The entire issue of marriage in Islam revolves around mutual love, compassion, kindness, understanding and companionship. Whenever spouses enter the marital home, let them each hang their egos up on the coat peg. For marital becomes martial when the “i” is pushed foreword!

Wa’Llahu wali al-tawfiq.

More Millennial women value marriage than in the previous generation.

Fewer women are interested in being the boss at work than men

And men's and women's priorities are almost identical.

I just watched Mahdi Tidjani’s reaction video responding to the arguments of Muhammad Hijab, and he was shooting ducks in a barrel. Hijab’s arguments were weak to begin with, and for some reason, went along with this exaggerated objection to the idea that Muslim men do, and should, prefer to marry virgins instead of divorcees. This is an incredibly untenable position to take, and very easy to shoot down. Tidjani is only wrong in the severity of his rejection of marrying divorcees, but he is obviously not wrong about men’s preference. The majority of his video seemed to be dedicated to this subject, as it is the most comfortable, rehearsed and easiest point to hammer.
Hijab made a number of errors in his critique, and thus armed Tidjani with plenty of ammunition for rebuttal. For instance, conceding that Red Pill is essentially correct with regards to non-Muslims, and that women pursue men with money – instead of clarifying that a certain type of woman does this. No one denies that. Of course it is important to distinguish between non-Muslim and Muslim women, but I have demonstrated many times on my channel that Red Pill is factually inaccurate even regarding non-Muslims. Hijab also took exception to the “objectification” of women, without sufficiently articulating that this is only offensive when all other aspects of her being are negated or devalued. Of course, men objectify women, insofar as we are ridiculously preoccupied with their physical characteristics – that is an undeniable and, frankly, lovely aspect of male-female relationships; and there is ample support for this reality in our Islamic texts; far more than Tidjani even mentioned.
Hijab did not attack the weak points of Red Pill – like the factual inaccuracy, the dishonesty with data, the inconsistencies and contradictions, the reliance upon the theory of evolution and evolutionary psychology, and so on.

Using "Evolutionary Psychology" to explain human nature is only a fraction more serious than explaining human nature through astrology

New video uploaded...and it's a looooong one...tackling evolutionary psychology and the Red Pill

Tyson Fury has basically created a new sport: Sumo Boxing

This is the only data readily available on divorce in the Muslim community in the West, to my knowledge. It is quite old, but still a useful reference.

https://www.soundvision.com/article/divorce-in-the-muslim-community-2010-survey-analysis

Your value as a human being, and thus as a man, is derived solely from your value as a slave to Allah, Subhanahu wa Ta'ala. It doesn't matter if you are appreciated, if you are liked, if you attain status in the Dunya. What matters is whether or not you fulfil your duties to your Rabb, regardless of what this may or may not earn you from people in this life. This is a perspective that is entirely missing from the Tomassiyeen paradigm. Red Pill is Dunya-centric in all aspects. Everything it teaches cultivates wahn.

New clip uploaded
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=V2zHO2Pd6hs