Children don’t need louder voices.
They need calmer ones.

Fear can create silence.
Safety creates listening.

Both may look like “good behavior” on the outside
but only one builds inner peace that lasts.

Love doesn’t control.
It regulates. 🤍

Save this for the days you feel triggered.
Share with a parent who’s choosing connection over control.

#GentleParenting #ConsciousParenting #PeacefulParenting #EmotionallySafe #ParentingTruths

Ibn al-Qayyim (rahimahulAllaah) said:

Even though the child is not accountable, his guardian is accountable and it is not permissible for him to enable him to do haraam things, so that he becomes used to them and it is difficult to wean him away from them afterwards.

📚 [Tuhfat al-Mawdood bi Ahkaam al-Mawlood (p. 162)]

One of the saddest things I witness frequently is the pain and heartbreak I see on the faces of mothers whose children are addicted to alcohol.

The pain watching their child drink their entire life away. I’ve witnessed countless times young, youthful, energetic, kind, and compassionate people drink until they literally die because their liver is completely destroyed.

There is a great wisdom in Islam on why alcohol is forbidden. Only the realists will agree that it is one of the biggest evils our society promotes. It’s not a benefit to anyone except those who profit from it and that’s the only reason why it’s legal.

May the Almighty cure all those who are addicted and guide us all to not disappoint our beloved mothers and fathers. #alcohol #alcoholic #abuse #islam #god #muslim #deen #allah #halal #hijab #hijabie

Parenting is al lifetime relationship, not a lifelong authority.

One of the biggest reasons why kids from Muslim families go off track in today's time is this whole phenomenon of "Do as I say, Not as I do".

Don't expect kids to grow up with a love of Quran when they see you more attached to your gadgets than the mushaf.

If you have skipped or delayed prayers for sleep or work don't expect them to pray on time while the are busy with friends.

Dont expect kids to wake up for tahajjud when they growup while they have seen you stay awake only for netflix or for seeing crackers burst on New year's Eve.

Don't expect them to emulate the Sunnah of the Prophet while they see you contradicting it day in and day out in your manners speech and action.

When your only goal in life is to make money and build this duniya or please people around you, don't expect your kids to work towards building their aaakhira.

If you really care for their hereafter "Become who you want them to become."

"Do not raise your children to financially provide for you. Raise them to worship Allah and provisions will always come.

- Shaykh Uthaymeen (rahimahullah).

Sh. ʿAbdur-Razzāq al-Badr Hafiẓahullāh said:

“From the GREATEST forms of kindness towards parents (Birr al-Wālidayn) is to make DŪʿĀ for (Allāh's) Mercy and Forgiveness upon them — be they alive or dead — with the condition that they are or were Muslims..”

● [فقه الأدعية والأذكار ٢/٢٤٠]

This is the Main reason why children will take girlfriend & boyfriend.

Can you offer one sheep as aqiqah for a male child?

It is sunnah with 2 goats and 1 goat for a baby girl.

Aishah had informed her, that the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) ordered them that for a boy, two sheep were sufficient, and for a girl one sheep. [at-Tirmidhi 1513]

The Shafi'is and Hanbalis hold the view that what is lawful and recommend is to slaughter two sheep for a male baby and one sheep for a female.

The Maliki school says that one sheep should be sacrificed for each boy and girl. their evidence:

The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) sacrificed a ram for both al-Hasan and al-Husayn each (Allah be pleased with them). [Abi Dawud 2841]

Imam Malik said, "What we do about the aqiqa is that if someone makes an aqiqa for his children, he gives a sheep for both male and female. The aqiqa is not obligatory but it is desirable to do it, and people continue to come to us about it.[Muwatta, Book 26, Hadith 7]

However, it is responded by the narration of Ibn Abbas which says, Ibn 'Abbas said:
"The Messenger of Allah offered an 'Aqiqah for Al-Hasan and Al-Husain two rams for each." [[ an-Nasa'i 4219]

Said ibn Hajr,' Rather the most that can be said is that it indicates that it is permissible to reduce the number, and that is indeed the case, because the number mentioned is not a stipulated condition; rather it is what is recommended.

Shaykh Ibn Uthaymin said: If a person can only afford one sheep, that is acceptable and it achieves the purpose, but if he has the means, then sacrificing two sheep is better. [Sharh al-Mumti`, 7/492)]

Children don’t fear exams.
They fear comparison.

They don’t fear failure.
They fear being made to feel less.

The pressure they carry is often silent —
in a look, a label, a ranking.

Let’s raise children who measure growth, not grades.
Confidence, not comparison.

Because a child’s worth was never meant to be ranked.

#ChildMindset
#EducationMatters
#MentalHealthAwareness
#ParentingWisdom
#ConsciousParenting

Children of many Prophets didn't follow them ... makes you wonder how much the scope of tarbiya is over stated in our culture ... hidaya and change of hearts eventually comes from Allah alone ... as parents one should make their honest effort but must also be aware of what's not in their control ...

Be dutiful to your parents...

Parents are the Gates

Abu Umama (radi Allahu anhu) narrates that a man enquired from the Prophet (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam):

“O Rasul Allah (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam)! What are the rights of parents over their offspring?”

The Prophet replied: “Your entry into Paradise or Hell depends on your good or bad conduct towards your parents.”

[Ibn Majah]

💎 _In other words, if you treat them well the gates of Paradise will be opened for you and you will be admitted therein, but if you violate the rights that your parents have over you, the gates of Hell will be opened for you and you will be consigned to serve as fuel for it.

💫 The following is the advice that Abdullah bin Umar gave to Abdullah ibn Abbas (radi Allahu anhuma) regarding how he should treat his parents:

“If you talk to them in a polite manner and look after their needs and feed them well, you will certainly be admitted to Paradise provided you abstain from major sins.”

[Al-Adab-ul Mufrad]

💫 Abu Hurairah (radi Allahu anhu) once saw two men. He asked one of them, “What is your relationship with the other man?”

The man replied, “He is my father.”

Abu Hurairah (radi Allahu anhu) thereupon advised him,

“Look, never call him by his name, walk ahead of him, or sit before he takes his seat.”

[Al-Adab-ul Mufrad]

➡ In other words, it is not just their material needs of food, clothing, shelter, and medicine that we need to be mindful of. We also need to show them respect and consideration in every deed.

✒ We should address them with noscripts of respect, and make sure that they are comfortable before we make ourselves comfortable.

✒ The most important right of parents over their children is their right to eeman. Should the child be blessed with faith and find it lacking in the parents, they need to try with utmost love, gentleness and concern to explain and try to instill the love of Allah and His Messenger in them.

✒ _Didn’t they try their best to save us from all sorts of hazards and dangers while we were growing up? Who tried to save us from putting our fingers in electric sockets? Who taught us to be careful with fire? Who taught us to beware of strangers? Who tried to protect us from falling or getting cut or getting burned?_

Is it not then their right that we try to protect them from the Fire of Hell?

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Every Good Deed A Righteous Child Does, There Is A Share In that for his/her Father & Mother

A child is an extension of their parents’ legacy, and every righteous deed they perform continues to elevate the status of their parents with Allāh.

Reflect on this deeply:
Our prayers, acts of worship, and service to others are not just personal gains but gifts that transcend our individual lives, flowing back to those who gave us life.

A truly beneficial son or daughter is one who recognizes this profound connection and strives tirelessly to please Allāh, knowing their every act of goodness is a sadaqah jariyah for their parents.

What greater honour could we offer them than to be the reason they find shade under Allāh’s mercy?

Let us not waste the chance to be a source of goodness for them, for this is the ultimate expression of love and devotion.

Can the evil eye cause physical sickness or financial or social problems ?

Dr. ‘Abdullah as-Sadhaan – who is a specialist in matters of ruqyah and whose doctoral thesis was ennoscriptd Diraasah Muqaarinah ‘an ar-Ruqyah ash-Shar‘iyyah (A Comparative Study of Ruqyah as prescribed in Islam) was asked:

Can the evil eye cause physical sickness or financial or social problems ?

He replied:

Yes, the evil eye can cause a lack of healing from many physical problems and may even make them worse. It may also cause financial and marital problems, breakdown in relationships and a lot of calamities. How can it be otherwise, when the Prophet ( صلى الله عليه وسلم ) said: “Death among my ummah is mostly caused, after the will and decree of Allah, by the evil eye.” So whatever occurs of calamities that are less serious than death are more likely to be caused by the evil eye.

Majallat ad-Da‘wah, issue no. 2018, 15 Shawwaal 1426 AH/17 November 2005 CE

Protect Children from Sexual Abuse

🚨 What Is Sexual Abuse?
Sexual abuse refers to any act of a sexual nature imposed on a child or adolescent without their consent. It may be committed by an adult or by another child. Sexual abuse falls into two main categories:

🔴 First Type: Physical Contact
This includes inappropriate kissing, improper hugging, touching a child’s private parts, or attempting to engage in sexual acts.

🔴 Second Type: Non-Contact Abuse
This includes forcing a child to view pornographic images, videos, or scenes, engaging the child in sexually explicit conversations, or sending inappropriate romantic or sexual messages, words, or offensive images and stickers.

▪️ All children, regardless of their social or economic background, may be vulnerable to abuse.

🚨 What Does a Child Abuser Look Like?
In many cases, an abuser does not appear suspicious and may be someone trusted in the child’s life. The abuser may be:
🔴 A man or a woman
🔴 An adult, an adolescent, or even a child
🔴 A stranger, a family member, or a close friend

They may appear completely normal in daily life—married, with children, and known for having a good reputation.

🚨 Can One Child Abuse Another Child?
Yes. The abuser may be:
🔴 An older adolescent
🔴 A child who has authority or influence over younger children

Sometimes, the adolescent who commits abuse is themselves a victim of previous abuse. However, this does not mean that every victim will become an abuser in the future. In such cases, both parties should receive psychological and social support and appropriate rehabilitation.

🚨 How Can You Protect Your Children from Sexual Abuse?

Awareness is the first line of defense

1️⃣ Be alert to warning signs. Maintain communication with the school, caregivers, or babysitters. Do not blindly trust anyone with your child; excessive trust can sometimes place a child at greater risk, and regret will not undo harm.

2️⃣ Get to know the people in your child’s life. Encourage your child to speak openly and confidently with you about who they spend time with, what they do together, and what topics are discussed.

3️⃣ Teach your child about privacy and boundaries. Make it clear that they have the right to refuse any unwanted touch, even from adults. No one is allowed to touch their private parts or kiss them inappropriately.

4️⃣ Explain the difference between a “safe secret” and a “dangerous secret.” Teach your child that any secret they are asked to keep from their parents must be disclosed immediately. No one has the right to say, “Do not tell your parents.” Make it clear that such behavior is wrong.

5️⃣ Teach your child the correct names for body parts and emphasise that their body belongs to them alone. Physical greetings should be limited to appropriate gestures such as a handshake.

6️⃣ Reassure your child that they will never be punished for telling you about anything uncomfortable or inappropriate. Repeatedly remind them: “My child, never stay silent. If anyone says inappropriate or disturbing words to you, tell me immediately, and you will not be punished.”

Protect Children from Sexual Abuse

🚨 What Is Sexual Abuse?
Sexual abuse refers to any act of a sexual nature imposed on a child or adolescent without their consent. It may be committed by an adult or by another child. Sexual abuse falls into two main categories:

🔴 First Type: Physical Contact
This includes inappropriate kissing, improper hugging, touching a child’s private parts, or attempting to engage in sexual acts.

🔴 Second Type: Non-Contact Abuse
This includes forcing a child to view pornographic images, videos, or scenes, engaging the child in sexually explicit conversations, or sending inappropriate romantic or sexual messages, words, or offensive images and stickers.

▪️ All children, regardless of their social or economic background, may be vulnerable to abuse.

🚨 What Does a Child Abuser Look Like?
In many cases, an abuser does not appear suspicious and may be someone trusted in the child’s life. The abuser may be:
🔴 A man or a woman
🔴 An adult, an adolescent, or even a child
🔴 A stranger, a family member, or a close friend

They may appear completely normal in daily life—married, with children, and known for having a good reputation.

🚨 Can One Child Abuse Another Child?
Yes. The abuser may be:
🔴 An older adolescent
🔴 A child who has authority or influence over younger children

Sometimes, the adolescent who commits abuse is themselves a victim of previous abuse. However, this does not mean that every victim will become an abuser in the future. In such cases, both parties should receive psychological and social support and appropriate rehabilitation.

🚨 How Can You Protect Your Children from Sexual Abuse?

Awareness is the first line of defense

1️⃣ Be alert to warning signs. Maintain communication with the school, caregivers, or babysitters. Do not blindly trust anyone with your child; excessive trust can sometimes place a child at greater risk, and regret will not undo harm.

2️⃣ Get to know the people in your child’s life. Encourage your child to speak openly and confidently with you about who they spend time with, what they do together, and what topics are discussed.

3️⃣ Teach your child about privacy and boundaries. Make it clear that they have the right to refuse any unwanted touch, even from adults. No one is allowed to touch their private parts or kiss them inappropriately.

4️⃣ Explain the difference between a “safe secret” and a “dangerous secret.” Teach your child that any secret they are asked to keep from their parents must be disclosed immediately. No one has the right to say, “Do not tell your parents.” Make it clear that such behavior is wrong.

5️⃣ Teach your child the correct names for body parts and emphasise that their body belongs to them alone. Physical greetings should be limited to appropriate gestures such as a handshake.

6️⃣ Reassure your child that they will never be punished for telling you about anything uncomfortable or inappropriate. Repeatedly remind them: “My child, never stay silent. If anyone says inappropriate or disturbing words to you, tell me immediately, and you will not be punished.”

Mamas..... 👑

LET YOUR CHILDREN SEE YOU....

Let them see a woman unafraid to stand for what is right even when it’s uncomfortable.
Let them see a woman who prioritises herself, without guilt and without apology.
Let them see a mother who loves deeply, but never at the expense of her own dignity.
A mother who does what she loves, who smiles, laughs, and still holds space for them.
Let them see a woman with boundaries with herself and with others.
Let them see a mother who feels pain, who cries, who stumbles… and who gets back up anyway.
Let them see a woman whose centre is anchored in her Creator, not in people, moments, or things.
Let them see a mother who cares for her home,her body, her health, and her appearance because she values herself and her space.
Let them see a woman who lives with purpose, intention, and meaningful contribution to their lives.
Let them see a mother who walks away from anything that demands the sacrifice of her self-respect.

Let them see a woman they will one day admire.
A woman they will be inspired by.
Not a woman they felt sorry for, pitied, felt responsible for, afraid of or never want to be like growing up.

Because the greatest lesson you’ll ever teach them…
is who you choose to be.

May Allah(SWT) grant us the ability and strength to be good mothers in order to raise good adults.

Aameen Ya Rabbal Aalimeen

H. H
🌷

Dear teachers

“Not every child will remember what you taught them, but they will remember how you made them feel.”

Parenthood is an enduring investment whose returns transcend generations. The righteousness of a child is, in part, an extension of their upbringing, instruction, supplication, and sacrifice. It is said:

"Whatever good deeds a righteous child offers, his parents share in the reward without diminishing his own,
For the child is the fruit of their effort and the product of their drive."

• أحكام الجنائز للألباني (ص١٢٦)