Forwarded from Basic Fucking Kindness
socialization, boundaries, communication, relationships
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Forwarded from Basic Fucking Kindness
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"your "non-confrontational" choices not to communicate hurt the people you dont contront btw. you're not a martyr for keeping everything inside and then running away when other people dont know whats going on with you. you just decided avoiding rejection and sparing your own feelings was easier than being honest and giving them the agency to respond and make their own decisions. you choose to hurt them so they didnt hurt you. you think your feelings are realer and more important than their own care and love for you. you were always just waiting for a sign to run.
"if they cared about me they would have-" did you tell them that? did you let them know how you feel? how much importance you place on those requirements they dont know they have to meet? this secret criteria and secret signs for your secret feelings? or are you making them play a game they dont know even exists?
your choice not to communicate isnt cute. you didnt run because they didnt feel the same for you. you ran so you wouldnt have to risk rejection. you chose to prioritise your own self-protection over their trust in and love for you. at least own that."
"your "non-confrontational" choices not to communicate hurt the people you dont contront btw. you're not a martyr for keeping everything inside and then running away when other people dont know whats going on with you. you just decided avoiding rejection and sparing your own feelings was easier than being honest and giving them the agency to respond and make their own decisions. you choose to hurt them so they didnt hurt you. you think your feelings are realer and more important than their own care and love for you. you were always just waiting for a sign to run.
"if they cared about me they would have-" did you tell them that? did you let them know how you feel? how much importance you place on those requirements they dont know they have to meet? this secret criteria and secret signs for your secret feelings? or are you making them play a game they dont know even exists?
your choice not to communicate isnt cute. you didnt run because they didnt feel the same for you. you ran so you wouldnt have to risk rejection. you chose to prioritise your own self-protection over their trust in and love for you. at least own that."