Thought this belonged here
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The comic is 5 years old, but that doesn't make it any less good.
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Do you ever wonder if a lot of allosexuals are actually aro & don’t realize it?

You know how some people really only seem to value sex in relationships & don’t invest energy in any other type of intimacy? They expect sex from their partner, but they don’t engage in romantic intimacy. I wonder how many of those people don’t experience romantic attraction & if that’s the reason they only ever want to have sex. A lot of these people consider themselves straight & have probably never heard the term ‘asexual,’ let alone ‘aromantic,’ but they only seem to experience (or at least express) sexual attraction. Maybe they’re just romantically repressed or there’s something about seeing sex as romantic that I wouldn’t get, but it’s just strange to me that so many people don’t seem to crave any form of physical closeness that doesn’t involve or turn into sex.

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Am I doomed?

I have recently come out as asexual, after spending years in the closet. Is my dating life over? So few people identify as ace and there's not many non-ace people who will consider dating ace people. I worry I'll never find someone who

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to the aces that don't like kissing would you be ok with doing kissing like this as a nice middle ground with your partner?
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Asexual/Demi at age 40

So recently discovered I’m likely Ace and Demi. Never had a one night stand. Only ever had 5 sexual partners my whole life and all were relationships except one. I can go years without sex and I have never seen a person and felt the urge to be sexual with them right off the bat. I need emotional and mental connection to feel sexually motivated and even then, more often than not it will be my partner initiating over me.

I enjoy it with my partner but sex just isn’t what I NEED. Feeling fulfilled emotionally, mentally and intellectually are far more important to me.

My question is are there other Aces who found out late in life?

I feel so screwed for dating. Like it will be even harder. I’m attractive I guess (I get complimented) but people seem immediately turned off when I say I’m Ace. On some level I’m okay with that because I recognize that those people are probably not the types of people I should be with anyway. But it feels…lonely. Especially at my age. I think what I’m really craving is mental/emotional, conversational and intellectual connection that leads to dating but not rushing it.

Can anyone older relate…?

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M 27 London I’m asexual but everyone calls me gay but I’m defo more asexual than anything I think. Kinda looking for Lavender Marriage

Well I’m open to a Lavender Marriage or a Lavender Throuple Marriage tbh that would be cool.

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I’m pretty sure I’m asexual or something similar 🙈

People assume I’m gay but 80% of the times I don’t think about guys at all or want to have sex with them. I kinda just like to cuddle, hang out, fart and be farted on and play Pokemon go. I do like watching people have sex tho I find that amusing/interesting but me personally NOPE 😬🙅🏿‍♂️

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Curious

Any other mlm aces in the house?

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I joined the actuallyasexual group....

I joined this one and the other one at the same time and omg why r they gate keeping asexuality and spreading so much misinformation.

There is one guy on there having a fit because I said asexuality is a spectrum and some asexuals even enjoy sex.

Tbh I didn't even know people thought like that. Everyone I've ever met who's asexual were reasonable people who understood how sexuality is a spectrum and can be fluid

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Any enby/genderfluid ace folks?

I’m genderfluid and on the ace spectrum, anything experience anyone’s had with this sort of intersection would be lovely.

TW: dysphoria, sex discussion? Idk how to make it NSFW.

More specifically, I (AFAB) mostly think that gender doesn’t mean anything, but sometimes I’d prefer it if people perceived me as being a guy or being neutral. I also experience chest dysphoria and feel no connection to motherhood/pregnancy, and of course social dysphoria but other than that I’m pretty comfortable in my body. Additionally I’m panromantic and homosexual, as well as demisexual so I guess I consider myself on the ace spectrum because I’m romantically attracted to men but not sexually? I feel pretty repulsed towards any penetration, even from an AFAB. I’m a bit confused about whether my repulsion to heteronormative sex is from dysphoria or fear of being put into a “girl’s” role, or if I’m genuinely asexual towards men. Right now I can’t imagine being comfortable shirtless with a partner, but if I imagine myself with a flat chest I’d be okay, so the dysphoria is obviously interfering with intimacy but I’m not sure if it’s the ONLY reason I’m hetero-repulsed.

I’m also thinking of asking one of my (cis guy) friends out, he has dated enbies before but still calls himself straight so I’m worried he won’t understand my gender and will be disappointed by lack of sex. I’d like to kiss/make out/cuddle/be physically close but I don’t know if I’ll be able to have sex with him.

Yeah… looking for any anecdotes or advice or anything that’s similar.

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Aroace sans that u/Rivercotton made me really happy by asking me for🥰👍🏽
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Chaos control
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How to stop making out / stop having sex

Hello everyone, I just got into my first relationship with a woman (as an afab NB) and I am asexual.

I enjoy kissing her and making out but I cannot do that for hours because honestly I get bored. But I havent found a way to signal that i want to stop and saying "hey i dont want to kiss anymore" seems so rude. How would you do that?

Similar question regarding sex, I can imagine having sex with her but I am afraid that there will be no end to it. I have only ever read about the wlw sex that goes on for hours and i dont think i could do that. Also I have had the problem before that when somebody goes down on me and I just wont reach an O I have no idea how to communicate that I want to stop without killing the whole mood.

If you have any advice I would live to hear it!


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How I came out to my friends
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supporting sister who thinks she might be asexual

hi!! basically in the noscript, but my sister has confided in me that she thinks she might be asexual. i think she’s really grappling with it and feels like she’s navigating this soul-searching, identity-discovering process alone. i’m not someone who experiences sexuality in a very strong way, but at the end of the day i am straight. i’ve tried to provide advice and support and reassurance as best as i can, but i really feel out of my depth and i worry that i can’t provide the right advice. i would love to hear from anyone if you have any suggestions for supporting her, things that were helpful to you in navigating your identity/sexuality, and any resources that are out there.

i’m especially curious if queer communities in school (she is at university) were good spaces for you, or if there have been any other ways you’ve been able to find in person community.

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sex is one of the most stressful parts of a relationship.

Before getting into it, I (f) want to note that I am posting this on a throwaway. I also want to note that I am in a relationship but I am going to talk about my experience with sex / attraction as a whole instead of focusing on my relationship with my partner (m).

I don’t know what my sexuality is. I know what I like and dislike, but I don’t know what category I fall into and id like guidance so I can learn more about myself.

I’ve always considered myself to be pansexual. I can be attracted to any gender. The last thing I care about is what’s in someone’s pants. I want to be attracted to my partner, and I like the idea of sex, but the actual act of having sex is something I can dread and avoid. I can enjoy having sex, but always feel relieved when it’s over. I also often have thoughts like “I’m glad we did that because now we don’t have to for a few days.”

sex also does not add any fulfillment to my life. I think I could go the rest of my life without it and feel perfectly content and fulfilled in a relationship. I hate the pressure of it, I hate making out, and I don’t enjoy the physical sensation. I only enjoy giving, not receiving. But I LOVE romance. I love small kisses, i love nonsexual touch (until Im overstimulated and feel trapped and want to crawl out of my skin). Sometimes I think I might just be autistic.

I wish intimacy was just something I could watch myself do, and not actually be in my body experiencing it. I also don’t want to be in a relationship completely void of sex. I want the option, just not the pressure. I could easily go a year without it and then suddenly have a week where it’s something I want. I am frustrated that I have to deal with sex at all. The way I feel about it is so confusing and can be so conflicting. I know I’m not, but sometimes I feel like my body is broken. Is this relatable to anyone? Is there a name for this? If I know what it is, maybe I won’t feel like I’m broken anymore.

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I don’t like how people “perceive” me in public, it’s worrying me a lot more than before. (21M)
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It’s Totally Ok To Have Firm Boundaries
https://youtu.be/2vp_LGRyI18?si=-FPbNKsB7-uRcjq4

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My reaction after people tell me that my friends will not need me anymore after having partners
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