Hello asexuals! I’m not asexual am I welcomed into this community to learn?

I’m a queer person but I don’t know much about asexuality may I hang out here for a while to educate myself??

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Anyone else incapable of comprehending this?

This is mostly for the sex-repulsed asexuals out there, but maybe some of you sex-positive ones also feel the same? Is it also hard for you guys to comprehend the fact that people actually have sex? Like the action. In real life. It's like - what do you mean that's not just a fictional thing? What do you mean people genuinely touch each other's body/skin like that - AND they enjoy it?

Saw this confusion about sex being a real thing being mentioned in "Loveless" by Alice Oseman so I wanted to find out if anyone else relates.

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What things do you find aesthetically attractive in others?

I personally find hands and noses aesthetically pleasing, though I’m not sure why complimenting someone‘s nose isn’t as socially acceptable as complimenting their eyes as they’re both very noticeable and prominent features idk

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Coming out

Is 16 too young to come out to my parents ?

I’m aware this will be a personal question.

I’m 90 percent that they won’t care or understand it but im just not sure.

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Ppl have been asking on this sub where I got my asexual tail. Here is their info!!!

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I recently discovered I'm asexual at 18, and it finally makes sense

Hi everyone.
I wanted to share a bit of my experience, because reading posts here helped me a lot, and maybe this resonates with someone else too.

Recently, at 18 years old, I discovered that I’m asexual. Looking back, I’ve always known that there was something different about me — I just didn’t have a word for it. Now that I finally found a name and an orientation that actually describes how I feel, everything makes much more sense. And honestly, it feels really good to understand myself better and to know that there are other people like me.

At the same time, it still scares me a little.

I’ve always felt very different from people my age. I just finished high school, and during those years I constantly heard classmates talking about other people’s bodies, sexual attraction, and wanting to have sex. I never felt that way. I was always much calmer and more detached from that kind of desire. Love, for me, never felt connected to sex in the same way it seemed to be for everyone else.

Because of that, my mom often questioned my sexuality and asked if I was gay. But the truth is: no. It’s something else. It was never about being attracted to men instead of women — I simply didn’t look at people’s bodies the way most guys around me did. I didn’t sexualize girls, and I didn’t feel that “pull” everyone talked about.

For a long time, I questioned myself a lot.
“Am I normal?”
“Am I really straight?”

Now I know the answer is no — I’m not straight. But I’m also not gay. And that realization actually brought me peace.

What still worries me is relationships. For non-asexual people, being in a relationship without sex can be very difficult, and that honestly scares me. I’ve already experienced this. A year ago, I had a girlfriend, and we broke up not long after. She never said it directly, but it was clear that my lack of sexual interest scared her. I didn’t want to do certain things, and at the time I didn’t fully understand why. Now I know it was my sexuality — but back then, it caused a lot of confusion and eventually ended the relationship.

Even with the fear, I feel better with myself now than I ever did before. Understanding who I am changed everything.

Thanks for reading

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Are there any songs with asexual and/or aromantic themes?

It doesn’t have to be explicit in the lyrics, I just want to make a playlist with aroace vibes that I feel like I can relate to. The only one I can think of which I enjoy is ‘crush culture’ by Conan gray.

Let me know if you have suggestions!!

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Why have sex when you just eat garlic toast?

I'm so dead ass. I just got through eating some garlic toast. As an allo with a decent body count, at this point in my life, I'm choosing garlic toast. It's far more fulfilling than having some random sweaty person flopping on you like a fish for ten minutes.

People make such a big deal out of physical intimacy and it's really not. You're not "missing out," it's not gonna be "the greatest moment of your life" (though it can be depending on the person but so can literally anything else).

I haven't "done it" in over five years now and I'm the happiest I've ever been. There's a certain peace to not having to deal with other people and it just boggles my mind as to why people make such a fuss over people who are ace. Y'all are cool, mind your business, and certainly aren't cringe gooners. I feel like the ace community is the best part of the queer community and anybody who feels otherwise can suck a big toe.

Next time someone tells you you're "just confused," tell them to bake some garlic toast and shove it.

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You have no power here
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Im actually sad about it, but at least Im out
https://i.imgur.com/NcUMfZq.png

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My nickname is Bread...
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Differences in experience

I've heard aro and ace people online talk about feeling pressured into romance and/or sex. This is of course awful, but the experience also feels a bit alien to me. Especially when it comes to sex. People in my country are assumed to want a romantic relationship, but as far as I'm aware aren't typically pressured into it. No one has ever acted like I'm weird for never having been in a relationship. Surprised perhaps, but nothing more than that.

And when it comes to sex, I can't even imagine starting a conversation about someone's sex life, and I've never had anyone ask about mine. Conversations about romantic relationships, or lack there-of, makes sense. That affects how you interact with the world, your perspective on some things etc. But I've never met a person who is interested in my sex life. I didn't have many friends when I was a teenager, and with the few I had sex was never a topic we talked about. In college I gained more friends. There were sex jokes among my friends, but no one made fun of others for their sex lives. I'm sure that happened in some friend groups, but if it happened among people I knew, I never noticed it.

I understand that I'm priviledged in that, and that different cultures put different emphasis on both sex and romance, and that it's always a struggle when society assumes, or even expects you, to be a certain way. It just feels like for whatever reason, I can't relate to that particular experience.

Not entirely sure what the point is with this text other than getting some thoughts out. We all have different experiences, and no one should feel forced to live a life a certain way.

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I'm prefer queerplatonic relationships overall, yet I'm slightly open to romance?


I thought I wasn't into romance IRL anymore



But now i realize that I'm open to romance when it comes organically

I'm just not gonna look for it like i used to

I still enjoy romantic crushes and fantasies tho

But i don't mind looking for QPRs

Because unlike romance, I'm able to process platonic interactions more comfortably and realistically

Every time romantic feelings were involved, infatuation came alongside it. And it was always hard for me to separate the two

So imma lean towards QPRs as an overall preference, while not completely discounting romance



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The other day my sister asked if I was ace...

I was keeping her company while she was cooking. We were alone. So she said "ive been thinking about something. And wanted to ask you, without offending you...." and I was like "oh shit, what is it now?" And she looked at me and asked "are you asexual?"

I said "uh, yeah. I am" and this woman literally said "I KNEW IT!"

So yeah, thats my boring coming out story lol. My sister was more hype about being right than my sexuality lmao

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Being a silent observer in this society

In this amatonormative society

Where love is seen as the solution

To every problem in medias and most of the songs that are being produced are about romantic love, and romantic love being pushed on everyone to make everyone follow this social norm

As observer and not participant of this game and customs , what do you think about all of this

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Always wanted to try makeup for fun

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