Make it a habit of bringing yourself back to the present moment.

I know, we get carried away so easily.

But being able to focus back on the NOW will bring you an unmatched feeling of internal peace.

Realizing that you're exactly where you should be or the opposite; realizing that you're wasting your time.

The most meaningful thoughts and reflections come when you bring back your attention to what you're doing right now.

It sounds paradoxical but it works.

Don't get lost in your own thoughts.

Do everything with intention and focus.

Don't get sloppy; it's a waste of time.

HOW TO AVOID SNAPPING

Displaying anger is rarely a good idea.

Of course, some situations call for it; some people simply do not understand anything but that.

But in most cases?

Bad move.

A lot of people will get on your nerves.

They'll say things and behave in ways that are specifically targeted at making you snap and lose your cool.

Sometimes you'll be seeing things that don't exist.

Yea we all get that, don't worry.

Now the sane thing is to think that you should be able to control your anger.

Common sense but easier said than done.

Now let's consider this:

-> What starts anger?

The answer is that anger doesn't usually come out of nowhere.

It slowly (or quickly, depending on how you are) escalates until it gets out of control.

If that's exactly what you want to do, then here is what you should implement:

- Focus on saying less:

Express your disagreement in other ways but verbally. The truth is, the first misplaced word we make usually causes a snow ball as once you cross the line? What's stopping you anymore?

Right?

So instead, let's limit the words.

To avoid overspilling and losing control of what you're saying.

Focus on using the fewest words possible.

Trust me, they'll get it.

You don't need to absolutely lose your shit to get your point across.

Another thing to do is to avoid storming out and getting physically intense.

Because; honestly?

You don't look as cool as you see it in your head.

Avoid that.

If you're about to stop putting up with someone's provocations, make sure you give them a fair warning.

Innocent people will either apologize or try the minimum to fix/clear things up.

Manipulators will either completely deny or get confrontational.

That at least gives you a clearer idea of who you're dealing with and how to proceed.

The Humble Trap

"I'm humble" is the most arrogant thing anyone could ever say.

No, really. Think about it.

Here's the deal:

You don't need to announce it to the world.

It's like the whole "I'm a nice person" thing.

If you're actually nice, people will notice without you having to declare it every five seconds.

But back to the humble game.

How would it make you feel if someone said that about themselves?

You might think, "Cool, I guess?"

But deep down, you'll probably be rolling your eyes, right?

If you've got to tell people how humble you are, chances are you’re the complete opposite.

It's a bit like wearing a shirt that says "I'm super smart."

Like, who are you trying to convince?

This constant desire to project an image of humility is a red flag.

Many are the cases of such deceptive people.

Describing yourself as humble shows how much you care about how you’re perceived.

Is maintaining a good reputation necessary?

Absolutely.

But you do that through your actions not your claims.

Again: Talk is cheap.

And before you act in a specific way:

Don’t ask yourself how will people perceive me?

Ask yourself, how would I perceive it if someone else did the same?

It's easy to assume you're overthinking a situation.

But most of the time? that's not the case.

Most of the time, you're avoiding the conclusion that will hurt your feelings.

It's a tough realization, but you can't run away from it.

We all want to protect our emotions.

Feel safe.

Avoid thinking about the real issue.

But avoiding it only prolongs the inevitable.

And you start going in circles.

Truth is, you're never overthinking.

You're simply in an unhealthy loop of thoughts.

Many times, we resist accepting that we’re wrong because we think it will make us weaker.

But in the end, you end up a stronger and wiser person for it.

Shying away from the pain of growth is refusing to grow.

Refusing to be wrong is refusing to learn.

You cannot get better if you don’t accept your “development arc”.

And part of it is accepting that you're not perfect but you can get close to perfection by facing the difficult questions and being honest with yourself.

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Develop your ability to inflict damage.

You have to be capable of violence not to bully innocent people but to protect yourself from bullies.

Most of the time, you won't need to use it.

But when you do need it?

You'd better be capable of it.

This is not an invitation to become violent.

This is an invitation to get stronger.

Physically. Mentally. Financially.

You need to be able to not only get back up from any hit life may send your way.

But also be able to dissuade whoever wants to take what's yours.

And you can't do that if you can't defend yourself.

Get dangerous.
Stay dangerous.

Don't let anyone fuck with you.

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You don't magically get lucky.

This does not exist.

People who get lucky were people trying to force their luck for so long.

Even the guy who won the lottery actually went to buy a ticket every day.

You don't get lucky by waiting for luck.

You get lucky by looking for luck.

You get lucky by putting in the reps and getting better.

Gambling may not be the best example here but it's an extreme one to show you that even the most effortless ways of making it still require consistent effort.

There is no point doing anything if you expect results right away.

And if you put it the reps and do it consistently?

Can't it still be called luck?

or forcing probabilities.

Rig the game.

Repeat it as many times as it takes to get it right.

Failure is a step not a final destination.

Learn, get better, get lucky.

Some people will hate you for no reason.

They will always exist and you will always cross their path.

When that happens, you have two choices:

If there is nothing to gain, ignore them and keep going.

If they stand in your way, you have no choice but to eliminate them.

No 3rd option.

A quick cost-benefit analysis takes no more than a few seconds.

If you just pay attention and see the bigger picture, you'll quickly know what path to follow.

Do not waste your time with things that bring you nothing back.

Especially if it takes away your energy with no return.

That's exactly what happens when you give too much attention to low-life haters.

If you can ignore them without it impacting your life in the slightest, the choice is easy.

If they keep trying to fuck with you, you have to fuck them up.

Make sure they can't recover.

Make sure they can't seek revenge.

It's pretty simple:

Sometimes you have to objectively evaluate some of your relationships.

Some of your friends are pulling you down.

This is not because they're losers and that makes you a loser; that's bullshit.

It's simply because you refuse to accept them as they are.

Some people do not want to change.

You don't have to cut them out.

You simply have to stop wasting your time giving them advice they don't care about or giving them opportunities you know they will fuck up.

Not everyone is your responsibility.

If they don't want to improve, let them be.

They're adults.

They're responsible for their own choices.

Focus on yourself and those who welcome your input wholeheartedly.

Do not waste your energy on someone that doesn't value it.

Every social interaction is dictated and conditioned by power.

Wherever you go, there will be power games being played.

That's why the first and most important thing to understand in order to improve your social skills, is the role of power in social contexts.

For example, some people may have a natural authority over you because of the hierarchy you are both part of.

A father, an employer, a boss or a client.

But power goes beyond that.

Because it is also part of regular interactions with friends or family.

In fact, every group of people has a power structure that can be either explicit or implicit.

In a group of friends, the leader is usually not "officially elected" but rather naturally takes the lead. That's an example of implicit power structure.

Even in couples, there is always a leading and a following side.

But power isn't that negative concept you may be thinking of.

Power is just natural and it exists everywhere.

Power simply means the ability to get things done.

In French, "Pouvoir" means "being able to" but also "authority".

And this slight difference in connotation makes people confused.

When we talk about Personal Power, it is simply your level of influence over the world and the people that surround you.

So, ask yourself:

As of today, how powerful am I?

If I took a decision, how easily would I be able to implement it?

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You view your life as boring because you lack intention.

Intentionally repeating because you know you only get better by earning your shit and putting in the reps.

This genuine approach makes you enthusiastic about it all.

If you do things with the intention of genuinely improving and progressing.

Every repetition is nothing bu another brick in the wall.

You can be doing the exact same thing but mindlessly and you'd feel bored.

Your intention matters.

If you don't know why the fuck you're doing it?

Stop doing it.

Channel your energy towards what you know is making you a better person overall.

Whatever increases your competence level, your soft skills level or your knowledge base.

Do that.

Do it intentionally.

Not because you were told it's good.

But because you know you have to go through the pain of being a beginner if you ever want to become an expert in anything.

Put your reps in.

Do it with enthusiasm and a genuine desire to improve.

There is no shortcut for this.

Increase the goal to reduce the pressure.

If you're close to achieving something you've worked on for a long time, you'll start to feel a huge pressure when you get close to your goal.

That's when you aim for more.

Instead of being under pressure to finish, you capitalize on the pride of getting where you got to.

Reflect on this.

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