Grand Rising

Volume 2 & 3 are out, kept at the same price for now.

If you already got it, check your library to download the new volumes.

Interesting test I found on Moral Alignment.

These are my results.

You can take it here:

https://www.idrlabs.com/moral-alignment/test.php

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There is ABSOLUTELY NOTHING more important than realizing when you're wrong without it affection your self-perception.

Everyone can be wrong.

Everyone is wrong at some point.

It doesn't make you less worthy or less valuable.

Being wrong means growing.
Being wrong means learning.
Being wrong means getting closer.

It's not easy to put aside your feelings and not let it affect you in any way.

Your first reaction after failing at something won't be a thoughtful composed and rational one.

You will get emotional.
You will feel doubtful.

But it's how fast you switch back to being locked in and focused on the mission that matters.

Allow yourself to feel disappointed.

It's fair.

But don't let that shape your identity.

Take your lesson and get back on track.

Nobody will ever understand you the way you understand yourself.

If you expect understanding from people you will always be disappointed.

Not because people are evil.

But because they genuinely can’t get in your head and see life from your lens.

This is the same reason you should give zero fucks about their opinion.

And this is also the reason why you should be brutally honest and straightforward.

The faker you are, the faker everyone around you will be.

Because they’ll treat you as someone you’re not.

Never pretend to be anything but your authentic self.

As cheesy as that sounds, it’s the only way to curate your entourage and make sure the people who surround you are rock solid.

Don’t act.
Simply be.

Unapologetically and most importantly all the fucking time.

Fuck it we ball.

Place bets on people.

Give them a chance and see how they handle it.

Do they reciprocate?

Good.

They don't?

Stop giving.

If you assume everyone is an asshole you will be an asshole to everyone.

And your assumption will prove itself to be true.

But if you do the opposite?

That's where you actually find gems and good people.

The world will amplify whatever you give it.

If you give it shit, it will give you twice as much.

If you're a genuinely good and positive person?

You'll find people like you.

Stop being a doomer.

Build the world you want to live in by being the type of person you'd like to be around.

You attract those who are like you.

Everyone will try to convince you that their opinions are the correct ones.

Explicitly or not.

If you're not mentally strong enough, you'll find yourself believing in things that don't serve you.

And if you don't hold yourself to high standards, you cannot be mentally strong.

You will believe anything and everything.

Even if it means sabotaging yourself.

Because well, that's what you're told.

The truth is you will not always see it coming.

In fact, most of the time?

You won't see it coming.

You'll just buy into it because someone with a stronger self-preception forced it on you.

It doesn't mean you should be closed to hearing anyone's point.

It just means having a strong enough image of yourself that you don't just believe whatever you're told.

Instead, you take what serves you and ignore the bullshit.

And most of it is bullshit.

Especially when you consider the idea that everyone sees life from their own perspective.

And what may be true for them may not be true for you.

Not enough people have the balls to look at disrespectful motherfuckers in the eyes and ask them:

What’s your fucking problem?

And that’s why there are so many disrespectful motherfuckers out there.

If you don’t confront them, they’ll miss no chance to talk shit.

Face them.

Bullies don’t bully those they know they can’t take on.

And how do they know if they can or not?

You are constantly showing them.

If you shy away from confrontation?

More of it comes your way.

If you stand your ground, most of those people avoid being on your way.

Trust me, they don’t want problems they can’t handle.

And as long as you avoid confronting them?

They will pick at you.

Stand for yourself or you will forever be stepped over like you’re nothing.

You teach people how to treat you in every interaction.

Less tolerance.
More aggression.

Don’t be a fucking pushover.

Being a hot headed motherfucker will get you in trouble.

But if you never get in trouble you’ll never know what getting your shit together means.

You’ll never know who really has your back.

You’ll never know who was around you out of opportunism.

If you never get in trouble, live on the edge and play it safe?

You’re missing out on 99% of what life has to offer.

If your soul is not on fire?

Your life will be dull and meaningless.

Be a hot headed motherfucker.

Whatever life throws at you?

You simply deal with it and move to the next one.

Even if you keep avoiding all sorts of trouble?

Trouble will find you.

And you won’t be ready for it.

Take risks.

Be a hot headed motherfucker.

Enjoy every second.

Never back down from conflict when it arises.

And most importantly?

Fuck it we ball.

The world does not give a fuck about you.

Everyone is looking out for themselves.

People defend their self-interest.
People defend what they care about.

The world is not against you.

Get this:

Everything is ruled by self-interest.

Find those whose interests align with yours and win together.

If you think everyone is out to get you, then that's precisely what will happen.

Open your eyes and understand the social game.

No man is an island.

You won't make it without allies and you cannot afford to make unnecessary enemies.

Work on your social skills.

It makes everything easier

You feel stuck because you care too much.

You care too much because you are outcome oriented.

Your focus is dispersed.
Your focus is scattered.
Your focus isn’t focused.

The reason behind this is that you’re motivated by the potential rewards that may come after you’ve accomplished the task.

And not from accomplishing the task.

That’s called extrinsic motivation and it’s poisonous.

Yes, you should keep your eyes on the prize.

But that’s only useful to get started.

What keeps you going is intentionally taking each step one after the other.

Because each step brings you closer to the end goal.

Planning and Executing have to be done in two separate states of mind.

Plan for the long-run.
Execute for the short-run.

Take down each step one at a time.

If you execute with the long-run in mind, you’ll misstep.

If you execute with the short-run in mind, you stay on the path.

You should be motivated by the sheer fact of giving it your all.

One.
Step.
At a time.

Focus on what’s at hand.
Do it wholeheartedly.
Then go to the next.
Rinse and repeat.

Stop getting distracted.
Stop over analyzing.

Simply do the work.

Find joy and fulfillment in completing what has to be done.

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Sometimes you have to let go of some friends for everyone's interest.

As much as we appreciate and care deeply for someone, it can happen that your personalities just do not match.

This can happen a lot with your childhood friends because the bond you created as kids was innocent and you can grow up to diverge in many ways.

As such, in your adult life, you will come to realize that you might b putting up with the bullshit of some people just because you've known them for a long time.

That's wrong.

What that does it accentuate said person's negative traits and negatively impact your peace of mind.

As a result, you nurture a harmful friendship that keeps you back.

But that's not just it.

You're not doing them a favor either.

Because you accepting their poor behavior encourages them to do it more often instead of working on it.

Of course, since you care about each other, walking away from them should not be the first thing you do.

You should try to talk sense into them.

Except.

Most people refuse to be reasoned with or corrected.

In which case, it is better for both of you to stop hanging around each other.

Maybe, a few weeks/months/years from now, they will realize their fault and try to fix it.

If not ?

Then did you really lose a friend?

Or did you get rid of a burden?

All of this to say:

Never consider that you have to be patient and understanding.

Never put your peace of mind last.

It should be your priority and when you deeply think about it:

You're doing them a favor too.

Maybe you're just not made to be friends.

Stop valuing people so much, learn to walk away.

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Being likable isn’t the same as wanting to be liked.

Trying too hard or wanting too much to be liked can be especially unlikable.

Being charming isn’t the same as being witty or funny or outgoing.

In fact, some of the most charming people are relatively quiet and even shy.

This is a bit of a paradox because truly charming people may care about others and have empathy for others, but they do not put a lot of energy into worrying about what others think of them.

This doesn’t mean they are oblivious to how others perceive them.

They are very much aware of those who like them, and those who may not, but none of this causes them any angst.

Much like charisma, charm and likability may be hard to define, but
most of us know it when we experience it.

Adaptability.

That's the name of the game.

The more you're able to adapt to situations and figure out ways to make them play in your favor; the easier your life will be.

The ability to adapt your behavior to the situation at hand is immensely important.

As I always say:

You cannot afford to be a one-dimensional person.

That won't help you in delicate situations.

If you're a naturally shy person, it might be detrimental to you in situations where speaking your mind out is needed.

If you're a naturally talkative person, it might be beneficial to you to learn how to shut your mouth when needed.

Different situations call for different types of behavior.

You're not always going to have it your way.

You need to be able to understand the situation you're in and pick the right behavioral response.

Which cannot be done unless you improve your situational awareness.

And what better way to do it than to be aware of social dynamics and social codes?

As you learn more about those, you gradually start to know how to choose your responses and reactions.

This awareness of the situation and people around you is something many people lack.

Having this skill might just be the most important aspect of social settings.

There are two aspects to this:

Self-awareness: Knowing your qualities and position (the latter is important in a power dynamics context)

Situational Awareness: Realizing the context in which you are put and the position of the people involved.

Of course, there is no magic pill to improve these things, you will need to learn social codes and cues and then practice in real-life situations.

Something schools don't teach you.

If you didn't have parents that encouraged you to participate in socializing activities and gave you advice about it (assuming they're knowledgeable in the first place), you probably will have to go through the painful process of figuring it out on your own.

While I can't force you to practice, I can at the very least show you a set of essential concepts and codes that you can use to improve in this aspect.

The Secret Social Codes does exactly that, through its 22+ lessons, you can learn power dynamics, assertiveness, and specific strategies to use in specific situations.

You can check it out here.

The realest people tend to be disagreeable.

You may clash with them.
You may disagree with them.

But you can be sure they’ll never sugarcoat it.

That’s the type of people I like to surround myself with.

Those who can call me out on my bullshit.

Not those who encourage me to stay on the wrong path…

Just because they want to avoid confrontation.

They’re not always the most pleasant and talking to them can be hard.

But having and keeping them around is of paramount of importance if you’re serious about growing in all aspects of life.

If your friends are always throwing compliments at you and telling you how great you are?

They’re deceiving you.

Get better friends.

Not cowards.

I learned it the hard way and I say it often.

For some you’re a genius
For others you’re an idiot
For some you’re a rare gem
For others you’re a waste of air
For some you’re everything
For others you’re nothing

But what matters is what you think of yourself.

That is the only metric that will ever matter.

The man in the mirror.
The thoughts in your head.
The value you believe yourself to have.

That’s the only thing that will drive you.

That’s the only thing that will take you where you deserve to be.

Everything else is tainted with the bias of whoever told you about it.

And none of those people will be there when you look back at your life.

None of them will be in your head seeing what you think about.

Everyone is too focused on themselves.

Don’t blame them for it.

Understand this.

And do the same.

Be aware of everyone’s biases.

Including your own.

But you won’t get this until you go through the painful lesson.

And some people will never get it.

And they’re not my responsibility.

Neither are they yours.

Focus on yourself.

Validate yourself.

Make peace with your ego.

That’s all you have.

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