Long long ago when I had my first gf I did some research on her to know if talking to her was really worth it. You know, small things like digging her and her family's social media. When I talked her irl for the first time I already knew her full name and some of her interests. When I showed her a social graph I collected pointing at a red circle in the middle saying 'look, this one's you' all she said was 'oh, ok, cool'. But maybe I was actually extremely lucky and most people would actually freak out?