It’s a sad, sad situation. And it’s getting more & more absurd.

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One of the mysteries of life for me is why we have designed school in such a way that it requires children to do so many things which are very hard for them - and which become much easier in adulthood.

We require them to sit still when they are desperate to move. To stay in their seats when they want to crawl under the table. To keep quiet and listen when their body wants to play and shout.

We tell them to walk not run, when every part of their body longs to move fast. We put them into nylon trousers when they’d prefer soft leggings. We make a big deal out of things they can’t do yet, but which almost everyone learns as they grow up. Shapes, colours, telling the time. We teach them to read before they have the desire for themselves, and make them do maths which they find incomprehensibly difficult, but that a few years later will feel so simple as to be trivial. No matter whether you go to school or not.

We’ve designed school so that it’s hard for immature brains and bodies, and then we blame children and parents when they can’t follow the rules. We tell them they aren’t school-ready, or they need to try harder. We point out all the many ways in which they fall short. Too noisy, too active, too impulsive, too….childish.

By the time those children reach adolescence, the urge to roll on the floor or hang off the chair is fading, but the years of being told they have to sit still and listen have taken their toll. They’ve lost the raw energy of childhood, but it’s more than that. They’ve lost their joy in learning, because school wasn’t built for the child they were, any more than it is for the teenager they’ve become.

And then again, it’s them who are blamed. Disruptive, rude, bad attitudes. It would be so much better if they simply did what they were told.

But what we’re telling them to do in school is squashing our children. Children aren’t built to sit still and absorb information. They are built to keep moving and playing. To hang upside down and climb on the roof. To dream and shout and talk all the time.

But when our children tell us so, we’re not listening. We tell them that the problem is them.
Who are the slow learners? Not them.

Dr Naomi Fisher

Om een vertrouwensband te creëren, moeten wapens neergelegd worden. Moeten we er op kunnen vertrouwen dat de ander het beste met ons voor heeft. Als we bereid zijn om defensie mechanismen niet te gebruiken is dat een teken van kracht. Dat is in onze eigen kleine kring het geval, en ook in het groot, in de wereld. De afgelopen decennia heeft het leven gedraaid om macht ipv kracht. We zien het resultaat om ons heen.

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"Strong Mothers, Strong Sons: Lessons Mothers Need to Raise Extraordinary Men" by Meg Meeker offers insights into the mother-son relationship, emphasizing the unique role a mother plays in her son's life.

Here are some key lessons from the book:

1. Respect His Unique Masculinity: Meeker stresses the importance of understanding and respecting the distinct ways boys grow into men. Mothers are encouraged to appreciate their sons' masculinity and support their journey towards manhood, helping them feel confident in their identity.

2. Be His Emotional Sanctuary: Sons need a safe emotional space where they can express feelings and vulnerabilities. Meeker suggests that mothers should be a reliable and empathetic confidante for their sons, offering them a secure base where they can discuss their emotions without judgment.

3. Set High Expectations: Meeker advises mothers to set high, yet achievable, expectations for their sons. This involves encouraging them to strive for excellence, whether in academics, sports, or their personal lives. High expectations can motivate sons to reach their full potential.

4. Teach Accountability and Responsibility: It is crucial for mothers to teach their sons the importance of accountability and taking responsibility for their actions. This includes lessons on honesty, integrity, and the consequences of their choices.

5. Encourage Independence: While nurturing is important, Meeker emphasizes the need for mothers to gradually encourage independence in their sons. This helps them develop self-reliance and confidence in their ability to make decisions and solve problems on their own.

6. Maintain Open Communication: Keeping lines of communication open is essential. Mothers should make efforts to listen actively and speak honestly with their sons, fostering a relationship where open and respectful dialogue is the norm.

7. Role Modeling: Mothers play a critical role as a role model. Meeker highlights the importance of living the values you wish to instill in your son, as children often learn more from what they observe in their parents’ behavior than from what they are told.

8. Understand the Father's Role: Acknowledging and supporting the father's role in a son’s life is another key point. Fathers provide a model of adult manhood that sons can aspire to. In cases where a father is absent, finding positive male role models is beneficial.

9. Teach Emotional Resilience: Teaching sons how to handle adversity and emotional stress is essential. Meeker advises mothers to guide their sons in developing resilience and coping strategies that allow them to recover from setbacks.

10. Show Unconditional Love: Above all, Meeker emphasizes the importance of showing unconditional love. Knowing he is loved no matter what gives a son the security and confidence to grow and explore his world.

"Strong Mothers, Strong Sons" provides a guide for mothers to help nurture their sons into capable, confident men, emphasizing the irreplaceable influence a mother has in her son’s life.

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