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me vs adult stuff

the more i exist in this world, the more angry and sad i get about the fact that invisible disabilities aren’t recognized essentially anywhere. we don’t have proper accommodations, neurodivergent and mentally ill people have to suffer in impossible conditions and pretend like it’s no problem because “everyone can do it, why can’t you”. especially in academic and professional environments. the reaction of people, and most importantly superiors, is always so unpredictable, that we are forced to hide it and power through it.

the fact that i have to hide this part of my identity is so draining and overwhelming… and i’m one of those people who are on the “high functioning” part of the spectrum. but what about others?

there is a very small minority of people who can access medical and psychological help, ask for accommodations and support… and im very happy for them, but i feel this great sense of injustice towards the ones who are too “unlucky” by the neurotypical standards.

no one should go through this. no one should face prejudice and discrimination. and the only thing i can do is to provide support to the people who are close to me. and as much as i’m happy to help, i can only do so much.

big sad, i guess. i’m legit crying over this, because i see how my partner and closest friends struggle with the harsh conditions of the neurotypical world and how much i struggle as well. and the only thing i can do is just accept it. and there’s this part of me that screams: “why do i have to accept and live with this? why don’t they accept me instead? why do i have to prove that i deserve equality and respect?”

and it also just makes me so anxious because i want to do more but i can’t control the rest of the world, i can’t control the society’s reactions. i can only choose to do better, and hope for the butterfly effect of it all.

i guess a part of me just now started recognizing that autism and adhd are disabilities. and i never understood this because i’d been diagnosed just recently. and now, the more i unmask, the more i educate myself, the more i realize that it is exceptionally difficult for me to accept this.

honestly, it’d been much easier to accept my own sexuality and gender despite the harsh external environment…

At this point when terfs say "what if i identify as black" i think they hope we say yes

boundaries, relationships, socialization

"Healthy Relationships

Accountability
·Admits mistakes (or when wrong)
·Accepts responsibility for behaviors, attitudes, & values

Trust
·Accepting each others word
·Giving the benefit of the doubt

Cooperation
·Asking not expecting
·Accepting change
·Making decisions together
·Willing to compromise
·Win win resolutions to conflict


Support
·Support each others choices
·Being understanding
·Offering encouragement
·Listening non-judgmentally
·Valuing opinions

Honesty
·Communicates openly and truthfully

Safety
·Refusing to intimidate or manipulate
·Respecting physical space
·Expressing self non-violently
"