No, nonononono.

That way lies hell. You do not get to have a say in what other think or say about you, wanting to know is just a convoluted way to hurt yourselves.

I get it, I do, I am like that too. This is why when I say: you cannot control what people think of you I MEAN IT. You can control what YOU do, and say, and think. What you can do is do the best you can do at any given time, and accept that how others see you is beyond your control.

For the bad AND the good.

… to me, of course.

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