Story Happiness isn't something you find. It's something you build.
I've been thinking a lot about what actually makes life feel meaningful. Not the Instagram version—the real thing.
Here's what I've landed on: the best way to find yourself is to lose yourself in helping someone else. Sounds cliché until you actually do it.
A few of us started a collective called Just Grit It. Not a company. Not a brand. Just people who want to build things that matter—together.
The philosophy is simple:
Show up.
Do the work.
Help someone.
Repeat.
No recognition chasing. No profit motive. Just the quiet, radical act of creating something meaningful with people who give a damn.
If you're tired of spinning your wheels on stuff that doesn't matter, this might resonate. We're building a community of people who want to push through the hard stuff and actually make an impact.
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I've been thinking a lot about what actually makes life feel meaningful. Not the Instagram version—the real thing.
Here's what I've landed on: the best way to find yourself is to lose yourself in helping someone else. Sounds cliché until you actually do it.
A few of us started a collective called Just Grit It. Not a company. Not a brand. Just people who want to build things that matter—together.
The philosophy is simple:
Show up.
Do the work.
Help someone.
Repeat.
No recognition chasing. No profit motive. Just the quiet, radical act of creating something meaningful with people who give a damn.
If you're tired of spinning your wheels on stuff that doesn't matter, this might resonate. We're building a community of people who want to push through the hard stuff and actually make an impact.
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TEXT My 10 tiny goals for 2025 and how it all went:
Last year, I made a post here about making a 10 tiny goals list for 2025. I was failing miserably in life, and was in a very dark place. I desperately needed to feel some hope for the upcoming year. So I thought to myself, why not make my goals smaller to make sure I meet everyone of them and also give myself something to look forward to? So I did. I made the post (which BTW was the first time someone accused me of being AI, since I use em-dashes hah), and encouraged people to write lists of their own. I've received messages now with updates from people who remembered my post and stuck to their lists, telling me how much it helped them. I welcome anyone who see this to write their own and see where this new year takes you. It can really make a difference. Here's my 2025 list and how it went:
MY 10 TINY GOALS FOR 2025:
1. Wear my new vintage dress and coat when summer comes - check!
2. Do a musical collab with someone - I'd like to say that I finished this project, but it's still in the making. But at least, I started one! Semi check.
3. Fix up my cat's scratch pole - check! I got new rope and fixed it up earlier this year. She loves it and it looks like new.
4. Give a compliment to a stranger- check (eventually). The number of times I chickened out on this one, why was it so hard? I ended up complimenting the cashier at the store who had made a real effort with her hair. She lightened up and smiled. I really believe that a random compliment can do a lot for a person, so I will keep trying to do this. Spread some positive vibes!
5. Make someone's day - check. Someone actually told me this. It's a very good feeling when it happens. I'm not sure what I did to deserve it, but kindness and a helping hand goes a long way.
6. Take a waltz - check! Even got the chance to dance waltz at a ball!
7. Finish a crochet project - I really didn't think this would be the hardest one to achieve, let's just say I'm working on it and I'm dedicated to finish it!
8. Climb something high - check! I climbed a very steep hill, to watch a stormy sunset over a Danish beach. One of my favourite moments this year.
9. Buy myself a nice bouquet of flowers - I took care of this on the last day of the year, and bought a bouquet of pink roses and white chrysanthemum for myself. They still look lovely.
10. Go on a date - check! Without further details, let's just say that I exceeded my own expectations with this goal!
My list for next year will be shorter, since I have bigger goals that I'm already working on.
My new goals for 2026:
1. Read more books than I did last year.
2. Make a playlist for someone.
3. Learn basic juggling.
4. Attend an apartment viewing.
5. Go to the opera.
Good luck with your goals, and I wish you all a happy new year!
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Last year, I made a post here about making a 10 tiny goals list for 2025. I was failing miserably in life, and was in a very dark place. I desperately needed to feel some hope for the upcoming year. So I thought to myself, why not make my goals smaller to make sure I meet everyone of them and also give myself something to look forward to? So I did. I made the post (which BTW was the first time someone accused me of being AI, since I use em-dashes hah), and encouraged people to write lists of their own. I've received messages now with updates from people who remembered my post and stuck to their lists, telling me how much it helped them. I welcome anyone who see this to write their own and see where this new year takes you. It can really make a difference. Here's my 2025 list and how it went:
MY 10 TINY GOALS FOR 2025:
1. Wear my new vintage dress and coat when summer comes - check!
2. Do a musical collab with someone - I'd like to say that I finished this project, but it's still in the making. But at least, I started one! Semi check.
3. Fix up my cat's scratch pole - check! I got new rope and fixed it up earlier this year. She loves it and it looks like new.
4. Give a compliment to a stranger- check (eventually). The number of times I chickened out on this one, why was it so hard? I ended up complimenting the cashier at the store who had made a real effort with her hair. She lightened up and smiled. I really believe that a random compliment can do a lot for a person, so I will keep trying to do this. Spread some positive vibes!
5. Make someone's day - check. Someone actually told me this. It's a very good feeling when it happens. I'm not sure what I did to deserve it, but kindness and a helping hand goes a long way.
6. Take a waltz - check! Even got the chance to dance waltz at a ball!
7. Finish a crochet project - I really didn't think this would be the hardest one to achieve, let's just say I'm working on it and I'm dedicated to finish it!
8. Climb something high - check! I climbed a very steep hill, to watch a stormy sunset over a Danish beach. One of my favourite moments this year.
9. Buy myself a nice bouquet of flowers - I took care of this on the last day of the year, and bought a bouquet of pink roses and white chrysanthemum for myself. They still look lovely.
10. Go on a date - check! Without further details, let's just say that I exceeded my own expectations with this goal!
My list for next year will be shorter, since I have bigger goals that I'm already working on.
My new goals for 2026:
1. Read more books than I did last year.
2. Make a playlist for someone.
3. Learn basic juggling.
4. Attend an apartment viewing.
5. Go to the opera.
Good luck with your goals, and I wish you all a happy new year!
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You don’t need a new year. You need a new decision. Discussion
I used to wait for clean starts way too much. New year, new month, Monday, after exams, after work calms down… there was always some future version of me that was finally going to get it together.
Meanwhile present me was mostly just on my phone.
Every time the calendar changed I’d feel a little spark. I’d tell myself okay now I’m serious. I’d clean my room, make a list, maybe even stick to it for a couple days. And then somehow I’d be back to the same thing. Sitting there scrolling, not even enjoying it, just flipping between apps and wondering where the time went.
What messed with me was how normal it felt. It didn’t feel like failure. It felt like I’ll deal with it later and Later kept moving.
At some point it clicked that my issue wasn’t motivation or timing or needing a better plan. It was all the tiny choices I was making without noticing. Picking up my phone the second something felt boring. Saying five minutes and losing half an hour. Waiting to feel ready while doing things that made me less ready.
The thing that changed didn’t happen on January 1st or after some reset. It happened on a random afternoon when I caught myself about to unlock my phone and just stopped. I didn’t hype myself up I didn’t make a plan. I just opened the thing I’d been avoiding and started badly.
That’s when it really hit me. I don’t actually need a new year. I just need to stop hand over every slightly uncomfortable moment to my screen and expecting my life to change on its own.
I still screw this up plenty. I still scroll more than I want to. But I don’t wait around for the right time as much anymore. If something’s been sitting in my head all day, that’s usually the moment I try to do something about it instead of numbing it away and calling it rest.
That’s it., No big lesson. Just something I finally noticed.
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I used to wait for clean starts way too much. New year, new month, Monday, after exams, after work calms down… there was always some future version of me that was finally going to get it together.
Meanwhile present me was mostly just on my phone.
Every time the calendar changed I’d feel a little spark. I’d tell myself okay now I’m serious. I’d clean my room, make a list, maybe even stick to it for a couple days. And then somehow I’d be back to the same thing. Sitting there scrolling, not even enjoying it, just flipping between apps and wondering where the time went.
What messed with me was how normal it felt. It didn’t feel like failure. It felt like I’ll deal with it later and Later kept moving.
At some point it clicked that my issue wasn’t motivation or timing or needing a better plan. It was all the tiny choices I was making without noticing. Picking up my phone the second something felt boring. Saying five minutes and losing half an hour. Waiting to feel ready while doing things that made me less ready.
The thing that changed didn’t happen on January 1st or after some reset. It happened on a random afternoon when I caught myself about to unlock my phone and just stopped. I didn’t hype myself up I didn’t make a plan. I just opened the thing I’d been avoiding and started badly.
That’s when it really hit me. I don’t actually need a new year. I just need to stop hand over every slightly uncomfortable moment to my screen and expecting my life to change on its own.
I still screw this up plenty. I still scroll more than I want to. But I don’t wait around for the right time as much anymore. If something’s been sitting in my head all day, that’s usually the moment I try to do something about it instead of numbing it away and calling it rest.
That’s it., No big lesson. Just something I finally noticed.
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Nothing changed until I stopped waiting for the “Right time” Discussion
I used to wait for clean starts way too much. New year, new month, Monday, after exams, after work calms down… there was always some future version of me that was finally going to get it together.
Meanwhile present me was mostly just on my phone.
Every time the calendar changed I’d feel a little spark. I’d tell myself okay now I’m serious. I’d clean my room, make a list, maybe even stick to it for a couple days. And then somehow I’d be back to the same thing. Sitting there scrolling, not even enjoying it, just flipping between apps and wondering where the time went.
What messed with me was how normal it felt. It didn’t feel like failure. It felt like I’ll deal with it later and Later kept moving.
At some point it clicked that my issue wasn’t motivation or timing or needing a better plan. It was all the tiny choices I was making without noticing. Picking up my phone the second something felt boring. Saying five minutes and losing half an hour. Waiting to feel ready while doing things that made me less ready.
The thing that changed didn’t happen on January 1st or after some reset. It happened on a random afternoon when I caught myself about to unlock my phone and just stopped. I didn’t hype myself up I didn’t make a plan. I just opened the thing I’d been avoiding and started badly.
That’s when it really hit me. I don’t actually need a new year. I just need to stop hand over every slightly uncomfortable moment to my screen and expecting my life to change on its own.
I still screw this up plenty. I still scroll more than I want to. But I don’t wait around for the right time as much anymore. If something’s been sitting in my head all day, that’s usually the moment I try to do something about it instead of numbing it away and calling it rest.
That’s it., No big lesson. Just something I finally noticed.
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I used to wait for clean starts way too much. New year, new month, Monday, after exams, after work calms down… there was always some future version of me that was finally going to get it together.
Meanwhile present me was mostly just on my phone.
Every time the calendar changed I’d feel a little spark. I’d tell myself okay now I’m serious. I’d clean my room, make a list, maybe even stick to it for a couple days. And then somehow I’d be back to the same thing. Sitting there scrolling, not even enjoying it, just flipping between apps and wondering where the time went.
What messed with me was how normal it felt. It didn’t feel like failure. It felt like I’ll deal with it later and Later kept moving.
At some point it clicked that my issue wasn’t motivation or timing or needing a better plan. It was all the tiny choices I was making without noticing. Picking up my phone the second something felt boring. Saying five minutes and losing half an hour. Waiting to feel ready while doing things that made me less ready.
The thing that changed didn’t happen on January 1st or after some reset. It happened on a random afternoon when I caught myself about to unlock my phone and just stopped. I didn’t hype myself up I didn’t make a plan. I just opened the thing I’d been avoiding and started badly.
That’s when it really hit me. I don’t actually need a new year. I just need to stop hand over every slightly uncomfortable moment to my screen and expecting my life to change on its own.
I still screw this up plenty. I still scroll more than I want to. But I don’t wait around for the right time as much anymore. If something’s been sitting in my head all day, that’s usually the moment I try to do something about it instead of numbing it away and calling it rest.
That’s it., No big lesson. Just something I finally noticed.
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[IMAGE] Perspective’s gift: laugh at the absurd and live with a purposeful smile
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Text Please help me get motivated to sell my house and move!
I bought a 100 year old house in 2016. I've done a lot of improvements since then, but no where near what I intended to.
In 2019 my ex-wife and I separated. I got the house in the divorce, but it took 4 years to finalize (long story).
I live in the middle of a rural community an hour outside a major city. I grew up in the big city and always saw myself as a city person. I moved here with my ex wife because she wanted to be closer to her family several years before I bought the house. I have no family in the state. over time, I've accepted that I just don't fit in here very well.
All my friends were in the city I moved out of, so over time we grew apart or they moved away. Eventually, all my friends were my ex-wife's friends because she was from this area. when we split, all the friends went with her. I've struggled to make friends since then, at least ones that live close by. I have made a few friends, but I struggle to maintain those friendships, mostly because of the distance. I do make a point to socialize (I play in a rec basketball league and play pick up when I can, but that has a commute as well).
we split custody of our child (8 now) and I have her every other week. Ironically , my ex moved about 30 minutes closer to the City. our kid now goes to school where my ex wife lives. that means school pick ups and drop offs are over an hour round trip for me. any school event or birthday party is a big task as well. this has been the arrangement for a few years now.
I work a stressful job and the hours can be very difficult. I've tried to get a new job but can't find one that doesn't involve a pay cut, that I honestly can't afford (single parent life).
The maintenance this old house requires is drowning me. I can barely keep up with basic cleaning/chores. I outsource what I can (yard work mostly) but I can only afford so much. No matter what room I'm in, no matter what direction I'm looking, it feels like it's always messy, clutter, needs repair, something. it's not like a hoarders house or anything, but I'm embarrassed for people to come over. I can't seem to escape it and it only stresses me out more. I can't seem to fix one thing without another issue popping up before I fix what I'm working on.
the house is 4 bedrooms and 2400 sq feet. But it's just me and my daughter (who's only here half the time). Half the living space is upstairs and hardly anyone steps foot up there. you could seal off half the house and we wouldn't even notice. the house is so big it takes forever for me to clean it, which only makes it harder to keep up.
I HATE living here. hate it. I want out so bad. I just never seem to have the bandwidth to take action and it's developed into anxiety about the process. I want to live closer to my kids school and closer to make my life easier. living there won't affect my job.
I just can't seem to motivate myself to do this. I'm typically a very proactive and disciplined person. there a lot of things I do well. but every time I think about calling a realtor I stress about it and shut down. most of my energy is spent just trying to survive, keep up with my job, and with what energy is left I try to force myself to self care (work out, play basketball, eat well). I don't play video games. I don't watch much tv. I dnt party.
now for some numbers:
I bought it for 120k in 2016. I currently owe approximately 85k. my mortgage payment used to be super cheap. but now insurance rates have skyrocketed. it's still cheaper than any rentals around, but not by that much. It's pretty much the same as a 2 bedroom apartment. I know some see that as a downgrade, but a small low maintenance place sounds so nice.
I haven't had an appraisal in a while, but most estimates value the house well over 300k now. with repairs, I would obviously need to make some concessions. but I'm at a point where I just don't care how much profit I make. I would be thrilled to sell for 200k. I'd be happy with 150 to be honest. I owe about 8k on my car, and have a
I bought a 100 year old house in 2016. I've done a lot of improvements since then, but no where near what I intended to.
In 2019 my ex-wife and I separated. I got the house in the divorce, but it took 4 years to finalize (long story).
I live in the middle of a rural community an hour outside a major city. I grew up in the big city and always saw myself as a city person. I moved here with my ex wife because she wanted to be closer to her family several years before I bought the house. I have no family in the state. over time, I've accepted that I just don't fit in here very well.
All my friends were in the city I moved out of, so over time we grew apart or they moved away. Eventually, all my friends were my ex-wife's friends because she was from this area. when we split, all the friends went with her. I've struggled to make friends since then, at least ones that live close by. I have made a few friends, but I struggle to maintain those friendships, mostly because of the distance. I do make a point to socialize (I play in a rec basketball league and play pick up when I can, but that has a commute as well).
we split custody of our child (8 now) and I have her every other week. Ironically , my ex moved about 30 minutes closer to the City. our kid now goes to school where my ex wife lives. that means school pick ups and drop offs are over an hour round trip for me. any school event or birthday party is a big task as well. this has been the arrangement for a few years now.
I work a stressful job and the hours can be very difficult. I've tried to get a new job but can't find one that doesn't involve a pay cut, that I honestly can't afford (single parent life).
The maintenance this old house requires is drowning me. I can barely keep up with basic cleaning/chores. I outsource what I can (yard work mostly) but I can only afford so much. No matter what room I'm in, no matter what direction I'm looking, it feels like it's always messy, clutter, needs repair, something. it's not like a hoarders house or anything, but I'm embarrassed for people to come over. I can't seem to escape it and it only stresses me out more. I can't seem to fix one thing without another issue popping up before I fix what I'm working on.
the house is 4 bedrooms and 2400 sq feet. But it's just me and my daughter (who's only here half the time). Half the living space is upstairs and hardly anyone steps foot up there. you could seal off half the house and we wouldn't even notice. the house is so big it takes forever for me to clean it, which only makes it harder to keep up.
I HATE living here. hate it. I want out so bad. I just never seem to have the bandwidth to take action and it's developed into anxiety about the process. I want to live closer to my kids school and closer to make my life easier. living there won't affect my job.
I just can't seem to motivate myself to do this. I'm typically a very proactive and disciplined person. there a lot of things I do well. but every time I think about calling a realtor I stress about it and shut down. most of my energy is spent just trying to survive, keep up with my job, and with what energy is left I try to force myself to self care (work out, play basketball, eat well). I don't play video games. I don't watch much tv. I dnt party.
now for some numbers:
I bought it for 120k in 2016. I currently owe approximately 85k. my mortgage payment used to be super cheap. but now insurance rates have skyrocketed. it's still cheaper than any rentals around, but not by that much. It's pretty much the same as a 2 bedroom apartment. I know some see that as a downgrade, but a small low maintenance place sounds so nice.
I haven't had an appraisal in a while, but most estimates value the house well over 300k now. with repairs, I would obviously need to make some concessions. but I'm at a point where I just don't care how much profit I make. I would be thrilled to sell for 200k. I'd be happy with 150 to be honest. I owe about 8k on my car, and have a
little bit of CC debt (not gaining interest for a while). as long as I can pay off my debts, cover moving expenses, put a decent amount in savings I'll be happy.
I know moving won't fix everything, but it will alleviate a lot of stressors. but at the same time, just the idea of doing gives me so much anxiety.
please help me find the motivation to do this.
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I know moving won't fix everything, but it will alleviate a lot of stressors. but at the same time, just the idea of doing gives me so much anxiety.
please help me find the motivation to do this.
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[DISCUSSION] Restarting everything at 29 and starting a new job. What advice stayed with you?
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Story 9 weeks and counting
I kept writing and re-writing this story in my head many a times but I could never seem to get it right anyways I’m just writing this in hopes that it gives someone else the motivation to start because I can honestly say it is never too late to change habits in life.
It all started around mid October last year. I realised things just weren’t the same I was fatigued, my ability to sleep through the night or even get to sleep was terrible, staying up late doom scrolling or gaming when I should be sleeping, slacking behind in my work, overweight and unhappy with my body, this was going on for what felt like a few months and I kept telling myself I need to make a change but never actually did anything.
I decide then to make an appointment to see my psychologist who’d I’d not seen for a while due to life seemingly to go well I guess. Got an appointment to see them and long story short I was diagnosed with mild depression, my mind felt broken, I felt like I was in a rut and just couldn’t get out no matter how much I tried. How could I have mild depression, I kept questioning it. Why did this happen to me now at 31 years of age when it was never a problem before, what caused this, I had so many questions and more. The psychologist did say it was biological due to a chemical imbalance in my brain, as to the why this was happening, well. A sedentary lifestyle with junk food being the main source of nutrition, late night binge eating, drinking sugary sodas,staying up late watching series or gaming and then getting minimal hours of sleep, smoking electric cigarettes (IQOS), drinking almost every other weekend. All these things added up and slowly ate away at me but I never made the decision to change anything even though I wanted to.
I was prescribed a mild anti-depressant and honestly I was quite reluctant to take it but after a conversation with my psychologist and general practitioners (he knows my entire medical history). I understood the medication a little better thereby decided to start taking it. When seeing my general practitioner my blood pressure was also showing to be high and I was on the border of a hypertension diagnosis based on the initial readings and if my high blood pressure readings had to continue.
On the 31st of October 2025 I signed up for a gym membership and went grocery shopping with my wife for some healthier alternatives when it came to food kept in the fridge and pantry she fully supported my decisions to make these changes and stood by my every healthy decision including signing up for gym with me. I was also lucky enough to have family and friend support me in my journey to a healthier lifestyle.
After 9 weeks of exercising 4-5 times per week and calorie counting (used MyFitnessPal App) I am extremely pleased to say that in this time I have lost 9.7Kgs, dropped from 39% body fat to 34%, grown in muscle mass, quit smoking (I moved to ZYN pouches for about 2 weeks then stopped all nicotine completely) and am just feeling a hell of a lot better not just physically but mentally as well. The general practitioner and psychologist are happy with all the progress I’ve made thus far and honestly so am I. I still do drink on the odd special occasion but never more than 2 drinks (I just realised that I haven’t actually had a drink since the 5th of December 2025).
I write this to let someone out there know that no matter how bad it may get or how far into the gutter may feel, there’s certainly a way out, you just need to find your reason and let that drive you all the way. At 9 weeks into the lifestyle change I can certainly say that I’ve found some balance. You may not make it to the gym life does happen but I made it a habit to not make bullshit excuses for myself. You can’t always deny that piece of cake, that glass of soda but you can understand moderation and know when you’ve had too much and when it is actually time to say no. Your body and mind will fight you, I think that’s only normal but I promise you once you push through it, you will thank yourself and feel all the
I kept writing and re-writing this story in my head many a times but I could never seem to get it right anyways I’m just writing this in hopes that it gives someone else the motivation to start because I can honestly say it is never too late to change habits in life.
It all started around mid October last year. I realised things just weren’t the same I was fatigued, my ability to sleep through the night or even get to sleep was terrible, staying up late doom scrolling or gaming when I should be sleeping, slacking behind in my work, overweight and unhappy with my body, this was going on for what felt like a few months and I kept telling myself I need to make a change but never actually did anything.
I decide then to make an appointment to see my psychologist who’d I’d not seen for a while due to life seemingly to go well I guess. Got an appointment to see them and long story short I was diagnosed with mild depression, my mind felt broken, I felt like I was in a rut and just couldn’t get out no matter how much I tried. How could I have mild depression, I kept questioning it. Why did this happen to me now at 31 years of age when it was never a problem before, what caused this, I had so many questions and more. The psychologist did say it was biological due to a chemical imbalance in my brain, as to the why this was happening, well. A sedentary lifestyle with junk food being the main source of nutrition, late night binge eating, drinking sugary sodas,staying up late watching series or gaming and then getting minimal hours of sleep, smoking electric cigarettes (IQOS), drinking almost every other weekend. All these things added up and slowly ate away at me but I never made the decision to change anything even though I wanted to.
I was prescribed a mild anti-depressant and honestly I was quite reluctant to take it but after a conversation with my psychologist and general practitioners (he knows my entire medical history). I understood the medication a little better thereby decided to start taking it. When seeing my general practitioner my blood pressure was also showing to be high and I was on the border of a hypertension diagnosis based on the initial readings and if my high blood pressure readings had to continue.
On the 31st of October 2025 I signed up for a gym membership and went grocery shopping with my wife for some healthier alternatives when it came to food kept in the fridge and pantry she fully supported my decisions to make these changes and stood by my every healthy decision including signing up for gym with me. I was also lucky enough to have family and friend support me in my journey to a healthier lifestyle.
After 9 weeks of exercising 4-5 times per week and calorie counting (used MyFitnessPal App) I am extremely pleased to say that in this time I have lost 9.7Kgs, dropped from 39% body fat to 34%, grown in muscle mass, quit smoking (I moved to ZYN pouches for about 2 weeks then stopped all nicotine completely) and am just feeling a hell of a lot better not just physically but mentally as well. The general practitioner and psychologist are happy with all the progress I’ve made thus far and honestly so am I. I still do drink on the odd special occasion but never more than 2 drinks (I just realised that I haven’t actually had a drink since the 5th of December 2025).
I write this to let someone out there know that no matter how bad it may get or how far into the gutter may feel, there’s certainly a way out, you just need to find your reason and let that drive you all the way. At 9 weeks into the lifestyle change I can certainly say that I’ve found some balance. You may not make it to the gym life does happen but I made it a habit to not make bullshit excuses for myself. You can’t always deny that piece of cake, that glass of soda but you can understand moderation and know when you’ve had too much and when it is actually time to say no. Your body and mind will fight you, I think that’s only normal but I promise you once you push through it, you will thank yourself and feel all the
Discussion Ideas for rewards for reaching goals that don’t cost money or require buying something
There’s a lot of different goals I’m working towards.
Yes, I am aware that long term motivation requires intrinsic motivation, and that it’s important to have more than just external rewards to keep you going. I’m working on those long term and internal component too.
But rewarding myself tangibly for getting something done is still useful for me as supplemental positive reinforcement and motivation in addition to the satisfaction of completion alone and visualizing success.
I’m looking for more ideas for ways to reward myself for making progress on my goals, but I don’t have a lot of money atm, so freebies are always useful to add to my toolbox. Something that feels like I’m treating myself and I wouldn’t normally do, or that feels like a little occasion.
Any ideas?
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There’s a lot of different goals I’m working towards.
Yes, I am aware that long term motivation requires intrinsic motivation, and that it’s important to have more than just external rewards to keep you going. I’m working on those long term and internal component too.
But rewarding myself tangibly for getting something done is still useful for me as supplemental positive reinforcement and motivation in addition to the satisfaction of completion alone and visualizing success.
I’m looking for more ideas for ways to reward myself for making progress on my goals, but I don’t have a lot of money atm, so freebies are always useful to add to my toolbox. Something that feels like I’m treating myself and I wouldn’t normally do, or that feels like a little occasion.
Any ideas?
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Discussion Broken people only break people
My ex and I had real love. There was affection, there was effort, there were moments that felt safe and genuine. But somehow, no matter how much love was there, we still couldn’t make it work. Instead, we kept hurting each other in small ways at first, then bigger ways, until the bond between us just… tore. And once it tore that far, there wasn’t anything left to hold onto.
Looking back, I don’t think we were “bad” people. I think we were two wounded people trying to love each other while still bleeding. We both had baggage. We both had past pain we hadn’t really healed. And I can speak for myself here: I couldn’t handle the emotional anxiety, the constant fear, the intense insecurity that came from my old wounds. I tried, but my nervous system was always on edge. I was always bracing for abandonment, for betrayal, for something to go wrong. And when you live like that, you don’t just suffer quietly. You start reacting. You start projecting. You start needing reassurance in ways that exhaust the other person. You start pushing and pulling without even realizing how much damage you’re doing.
I think that’s why it’s so important to repair yourself first, or at least start. To face your wounds. To learn how to regulate your emotions. To get to a point where your pain isn’t silently steering the relationship. Because if you don’t, your baggage doesn’t stay yours. It spills onto the person you love, and eventually it becomes their pain too. And honestly, I think that’s one of the most tragic things in the world: two people who love each other, but can’t stop injuring each other because neither of them has healed.
Love isn’t always enough when both people are still broken.
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My ex and I had real love. There was affection, there was effort, there were moments that felt safe and genuine. But somehow, no matter how much love was there, we still couldn’t make it work. Instead, we kept hurting each other in small ways at first, then bigger ways, until the bond between us just… tore. And once it tore that far, there wasn’t anything left to hold onto.
Looking back, I don’t think we were “bad” people. I think we were two wounded people trying to love each other while still bleeding. We both had baggage. We both had past pain we hadn’t really healed. And I can speak for myself here: I couldn’t handle the emotional anxiety, the constant fear, the intense insecurity that came from my old wounds. I tried, but my nervous system was always on edge. I was always bracing for abandonment, for betrayal, for something to go wrong. And when you live like that, you don’t just suffer quietly. You start reacting. You start projecting. You start needing reassurance in ways that exhaust the other person. You start pushing and pulling without even realizing how much damage you’re doing.
I think that’s why it’s so important to repair yourself first, or at least start. To face your wounds. To learn how to regulate your emotions. To get to a point where your pain isn’t silently steering the relationship. Because if you don’t, your baggage doesn’t stay yours. It spills onto the person you love, and eventually it becomes their pain too. And honestly, I think that’s one of the most tragic things in the world: two people who love each other, but can’t stop injuring each other because neither of them has healed.
Love isn’t always enough when both people are still broken.
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Discussion Small habits that stick, what worked for you?
I'm terrible at cleaning. I'd always plan these massive deep cleaning sessions and then... never do them. My place was always kind of dusty and I just accepted it.
Finally tried a different approach: 15 minutes, once a week, one specific task. I got a handheld vacuum and just hit fabric surfaces, couch, bed, mattress. That's the whole habit.
It's been a few months now and honestly? My apartment feels so much cleaner and more comfortable. And I'm actually doing it consistently because 15 minutes doesn't feel like a burden.
Turns out I don't hate cleaning, I just hate feeling overwhelmed by it.
What small, manageable habits have actually stuck for you and made a difference?
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I'm terrible at cleaning. I'd always plan these massive deep cleaning sessions and then... never do them. My place was always kind of dusty and I just accepted it.
Finally tried a different approach: 15 minutes, once a week, one specific task. I got a handheld vacuum and just hit fabric surfaces, couch, bed, mattress. That's the whole habit.
It's been a few months now and honestly? My apartment feels so much cleaner and more comfortable. And I'm actually doing it consistently because 15 minutes doesn't feel like a burden.
Turns out I don't hate cleaning, I just hate feeling overwhelmed by it.
What small, manageable habits have actually stuck for you and made a difference?
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Discussion Does anyone else experience "Sequence Collapse" - where starting feels impossible because you're feeling all 1000 steps at once?
I've been analyzing my chronic procrastination pattern for years, and I recently had a breakthrough about what's actually happening in my brain. I'm curious if this resonates with anyone else here.
When I think about starting a project (let's say, launching a business), my brain doesn't process it as "Step 1: Validate the idea with 10 people." Instead, it automatically collapses the entire journey into one simultaneous block. So when I'm staring at Step 1, I'm somehow already feeling the weight of Step 789 - managing employees, scaling operations, handling customer complaints - all at the exact same time.
It's like my brain time-travels my current self (who's still figuring things out) into a future reality where I'm supposed to be juggling 20 high-stakes responsibilities simultaneously. Then it says, "You can't handle that." And it's right - my CURRENT self genuinely can't handle my FUTURE self's problems. But here's the error: I'm judging whether to take Step 1 based on whether I can handle Step 789, while completely ignoring that Steps 2-788 would actually build the capability needed for 789.
The result is paralysis. The "monster" of starting feels impossibly huge because I'm not seeing one manageable step - I'm seeing the entire mountain collapsed into a single, terrifying block.
I'm starting to think the real issue isn't about motivation, willpower, or finding the "perfect" idea. It's about breaking this mental collapse and learning to see only the actual next step, not the entire sequence at once.
Has anyone else experienced this? If so, how have you dealt with it? I'm genuinely curious whether this is a common cognitive pattern or just my brain being weird.
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I've been analyzing my chronic procrastination pattern for years, and I recently had a breakthrough about what's actually happening in my brain. I'm curious if this resonates with anyone else here.
When I think about starting a project (let's say, launching a business), my brain doesn't process it as "Step 1: Validate the idea with 10 people." Instead, it automatically collapses the entire journey into one simultaneous block. So when I'm staring at Step 1, I'm somehow already feeling the weight of Step 789 - managing employees, scaling operations, handling customer complaints - all at the exact same time.
It's like my brain time-travels my current self (who's still figuring things out) into a future reality where I'm supposed to be juggling 20 high-stakes responsibilities simultaneously. Then it says, "You can't handle that." And it's right - my CURRENT self genuinely can't handle my FUTURE self's problems. But here's the error: I'm judging whether to take Step 1 based on whether I can handle Step 789, while completely ignoring that Steps 2-788 would actually build the capability needed for 789.
The result is paralysis. The "monster" of starting feels impossibly huge because I'm not seeing one manageable step - I'm seeing the entire mountain collapsed into a single, terrifying block.
I'm starting to think the real issue isn't about motivation, willpower, or finding the "perfect" idea. It's about breaking this mental collapse and learning to see only the actual next step, not the entire sequence at once.
Has anyone else experienced this? If so, how have you dealt with it? I'm genuinely curious whether this is a common cognitive pattern or just my brain being weird.
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