🚫❌️Some Violations that take Place at Weddings
Q 4: Complementary to the first question: Your Eminence stated that it is Haram (prohibited) for men to lengthen their clothes and also for women if this is out of arrogance. What is the ruling on a wedding dress that extends for 3 meters behind a bride? What is your opinion also on the money paid to female singers in wedding parties?
A: As for women, the Sunnah (whatever is reported from the Prophet) is to lengthen the dress for a span in order to cover their feet. Increasing more than that is not permissible for the bride or for anyone else. Indeed, it is a waste of money to buy expensive clothes. One should seek moderation in clothing; there is no need to embroider it with expensive jewels that cost lots of money, which could instead benefit the Ummah (nation based on one creed) in religious and worldly affairs.
It is not permissible to hire female singers. However, if the female singer performs light songs during a period at night to express delight and happiness for the bride, there is no problem in this. Singing and beating the Duff (a tambourine-like instrument without bells) at weddings are permissible and Mustahab (desirable) provided that it does not lead to evil and is among women only at a time of night without staying awake all night and without loudspeakers. Only regular songs that praise the bride, bridegroom, and their families are to be performed in the presence of women only.
This was the tradition at the time of the Prophet (صلى الله عليه وسلم) and the Sahabah (Companions of the Prophet). However, boasting about hiring very expensive female singers is unacceptable and impermissible. So are loudspeakers that harm people and let them stay awake at night and cause them to miss Fajr (Dawn) Prayer. Such reprehensible act should be avoided.
[Majmoo ’al-Fataawa Ibn Baaz, Vol.: 4, pg. 121]
Q 4: Complementary to the first question: Your Eminence stated that it is Haram (prohibited) for men to lengthen their clothes and also for women if this is out of arrogance. What is the ruling on a wedding dress that extends for 3 meters behind a bride? What is your opinion also on the money paid to female singers in wedding parties?
A: As for women, the Sunnah (whatever is reported from the Prophet) is to lengthen the dress for a span in order to cover their feet. Increasing more than that is not permissible for the bride or for anyone else. Indeed, it is a waste of money to buy expensive clothes. One should seek moderation in clothing; there is no need to embroider it with expensive jewels that cost lots of money, which could instead benefit the Ummah (nation based on one creed) in religious and worldly affairs.
It is not permissible to hire female singers. However, if the female singer performs light songs during a period at night to express delight and happiness for the bride, there is no problem in this. Singing and beating the Duff (a tambourine-like instrument without bells) at weddings are permissible and Mustahab (desirable) provided that it does not lead to evil and is among women only at a time of night without staying awake all night and without loudspeakers. Only regular songs that praise the bride, bridegroom, and their families are to be performed in the presence of women only.
This was the tradition at the time of the Prophet (صلى الله عليه وسلم) and the Sahabah (Companions of the Prophet). However, boasting about hiring very expensive female singers is unacceptable and impermissible. So are loudspeakers that harm people and let them stay awake at night and cause them to miss Fajr (Dawn) Prayer. Such reprehensible act should be avoided.
[Majmoo ’al-Fataawa Ibn Baaz, Vol.: 4, pg. 121]
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The Prophet ﷺ lived with constant insult. Every walk through Makkah carried a new label. Someone laughed in his face. Another whispered behind his back. A rumor spread in the marketplace. Every voice was meant to drain him, to chip away at his resolve.
Then Allah gave him words that shifted the weight:
إِنَّ لَدَيْنَآ أَنكَالًا وَجَحِيمًا وَطَعَامًا ذَا غُصَّةٍ وَعَذَابًا أَلِيمًا
“We have fetters and a blazing fire and food that chokes and a painful punishment.” (73:12–13)
Allah listed what is already prepared:
Chains.
Fire.
Choking food.
Painful punishment.
The meaning was unmistakable: this is not your burden. Don’t burn your energy worrying about their fate or let arrogance poison your nights. Don’t live consumed by the weight of justice delayed. Leave that part to Me.
The Prophet ﷺ was given a different role. He was asked to stand firm, to keep delivering the message, to walk through rejection without letting it hollow him out. Judgment and punishment belonged to Allah alone.
This ayah holds a mirror up for us too. Words can cling to us long after they’re spoken. Lies spread and reshape how people see us. Injustice lingers and feels like it will never be answered. It wears us down.
These words tell us to let go of what was never ours. Allah has already accounted for the chains, fire and punishment. He doesn’t need us to deliver justice.
What remains in our hands is different: to stay upright when arrogance seems to rise, to do what is within our control and to trust that Allah carries what we cannot.
Then Allah gave him words that shifted the weight:
إِنَّ لَدَيْنَآ أَنكَالًا وَجَحِيمًا وَطَعَامًا ذَا غُصَّةٍ وَعَذَابًا أَلِيمًا
“We have fetters and a blazing fire and food that chokes and a painful punishment.” (73:12–13)
Allah listed what is already prepared:
Chains.
Fire.
Choking food.
Painful punishment.
The meaning was unmistakable: this is not your burden. Don’t burn your energy worrying about their fate or let arrogance poison your nights. Don’t live consumed by the weight of justice delayed. Leave that part to Me.
The Prophet ﷺ was given a different role. He was asked to stand firm, to keep delivering the message, to walk through rejection without letting it hollow him out. Judgment and punishment belonged to Allah alone.
This ayah holds a mirror up for us too. Words can cling to us long after they’re spoken. Lies spread and reshape how people see us. Injustice lingers and feels like it will never be answered. It wears us down.
These words tell us to let go of what was never ours. Allah has already accounted for the chains, fire and punishment. He doesn’t need us to deliver justice.
What remains in our hands is different: to stay upright when arrogance seems to rise, to do what is within our control and to trust that Allah carries what we cannot.
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The Beauty of Kindness in Our Relationship with Allah
In a profound Hadith Qudsi found in the authentic collections of Bukhari and Muslim, Allah Almighty tells us: “I am as My servant thinks of Me, and I am with him when he remembers Me. If he remembers Me within himself, I remember him within Myself.”
This concept of remembering Allah “within himself” means that even without speaking, without moving our lips, we can connect with Him. It can be as simple as a thought or feeling—perhaps reflecting on one of His names, His attributes, or nurturing feelings of love, fear, and dependence on Him.
Sheikh Ibn Baz (may Allah have mercy on him) beautifully explained that this inner remembrance is about recognizing Allah’s greatness, fearing Him, having hope in Him, and dedicating our actions sincerely to Him. It’s about keeping His majesty alive in our hearts and minds, filled with sincerity, love, reverence, fear, and hope.
Consider the beauty of this relationship: even fleeting thoughts of admiration, love, and awe can connect us directly to Allah. When we engage in this inner remembrance, Allah remembers us in a way that befits His majesty, unlike any created being.
It’s astonishing how much of our time can slip away, consumed by thoughts that offer no benefit, and how we often dwell on worries that only bring harm. Let’s strive to fill our hearts and minds with thoughts of Allah, nurturing our relationship with Him.
In a profound Hadith Qudsi found in the authentic collections of Bukhari and Muslim, Allah Almighty tells us: “I am as My servant thinks of Me, and I am with him when he remembers Me. If he remembers Me within himself, I remember him within Myself.”
This concept of remembering Allah “within himself” means that even without speaking, without moving our lips, we can connect with Him. It can be as simple as a thought or feeling—perhaps reflecting on one of His names, His attributes, or nurturing feelings of love, fear, and dependence on Him.
Sheikh Ibn Baz (may Allah have mercy on him) beautifully explained that this inner remembrance is about recognizing Allah’s greatness, fearing Him, having hope in Him, and dedicating our actions sincerely to Him. It’s about keeping His majesty alive in our hearts and minds, filled with sincerity, love, reverence, fear, and hope.
Consider the beauty of this relationship: even fleeting thoughts of admiration, love, and awe can connect us directly to Allah. When we engage in this inner remembrance, Allah remembers us in a way that befits His majesty, unlike any created being.
It’s astonishing how much of our time can slip away, consumed by thoughts that offer no benefit, and how we often dwell on worries that only bring harm. Let’s strive to fill our hearts and minds with thoughts of Allah, nurturing our relationship with Him.
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🪞 The Fool Who Can’t See His Own Flaws 🪞
Iyās bin Muʿāwiyyah رحمه الله (d. 122H) said:
“Every man that doesn’t recognise his own deficiency, then he is a fool!”
📚 Ṣifat aṣ-Ṣafwah 2/779
SubḥānAllāh… how true this is!
The arrogant person sees the faults of the whole world — except his own.
He can list your mistakes in detail, but he is blind to the mountain of mistakes in himself.
🛑 That blindness is not intelligence.
It’s not strength.
It’s foolishness.
💡 The believer is quick to self-correct. He is humble enough to admit:
“I was wrong.”
“I need to improve.”
“I have this weakness.”
While the fool says:
“I’m fine the way I am.”
“It’s everyone else’s fault.”
“I don’t have any issues.”
📖 The Qur’an warns:
“Indeed, Allah does not like those who are arrogant and boastful.”
[Surah An-Nisā’ 4:36]
✅ Be self-aware.
✅ Listen when people advise you.
✅ Reflect before pointing fingers.
Because the one who knows his own faults — can fix them.
But the one who denies them — will drown in them.
Iyās bin Muʿāwiyyah رحمه الله (d. 122H) said:
“Every man that doesn’t recognise his own deficiency, then he is a fool!”
📚 Ṣifat aṣ-Ṣafwah 2/779
SubḥānAllāh… how true this is!
The arrogant person sees the faults of the whole world — except his own.
He can list your mistakes in detail, but he is blind to the mountain of mistakes in himself.
🛑 That blindness is not intelligence.
It’s not strength.
It’s foolishness.
💡 The believer is quick to self-correct. He is humble enough to admit:
“I was wrong.”
“I need to improve.”
“I have this weakness.”
While the fool says:
“I’m fine the way I am.”
“It’s everyone else’s fault.”
“I don’t have any issues.”
📖 The Qur’an warns:
“Indeed, Allah does not like those who are arrogant and boastful.”
[Surah An-Nisā’ 4:36]
✅ Be self-aware.
✅ Listen when people advise you.
✅ Reflect before pointing fingers.
Because the one who knows his own faults — can fix them.
But the one who denies them — will drown in them.
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Our closest family members may be our enemies:
The Prophet Ya'qub said to his son Yusuf:
قَالَ یَـٰبُنَیَّ لَا تَقۡصُصۡ رُءۡیَاكَ عَلَىٰۤ إِخۡوَتِكَ
فَیَكِیدُوا۟ لَكَ كَیۡدًاۖ إِنَّ ٱلشَّیۡطَـٰنَ لِلۡإِنسَـٰنِ عَدُوࣱّ مُّبِینࣱ
'𝗠𝘆 𝘀𝗼𝗻, 𝗱𝗼 𝗻𝗼𝘁 𝘁𝗲𝗹𝗹 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗯𝗿𝗼𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗿𝘀 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗱𝗿𝗲𝗮𝗺, 𝗼𝗿 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝘆 𝗺𝗮𝘆 𝗽𝗹𝗼𝘁 𝘁𝗼 𝗵𝗮𝗿𝗺 𝘆𝗼𝘂. 𝗦𝗮𝘁𝗮𝗻 𝗶𝘀 𝗺𝗮𝗻'𝘀 𝗼𝗽𝗲𝗻 𝗲𝗻𝗲𝗺𝘆.' [Qur'an 12:5].
Ibn al-'Arabi al-Maliki explained:
حكم بالعادة من الحسادة بين الإخوة والقرابة
'𝘐𝘵 𝘩𝘪𝘨𝘩𝘭𝘪𝘨𝘩𝘵𝘴 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘧𝘢𝘤𝘵 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘦𝘯𝘷𝘺 𝘮𝘢𝘺 𝘵𝘢𝘬𝘦 𝘱𝘭𝘢𝘤𝘦 𝘣𝘦𝘵𝘸𝘦𝘦𝘯 𝘣𝘳𝘰𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘳𝘴 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘤𝘭𝘰𝘴𝘦 𝘳𝘦𝘭𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘷𝘦𝘴.'
['Ahkam al-Qur'an', 3/38].
We often think that all our family relatives are our well-wishers and that our only enemies are distant outsiders.
In reality, our closest family members, who reside within our own homes - may be our direct enemies!
Like sheep, we may spend our entire lives fearing the big bad wolf - but in the end, we get slaughtered and eaten by the shepherd.
It is best to remain vigilant.
The Prophet Ya'qub said to his son Yusuf:
قَالَ یَـٰبُنَیَّ لَا تَقۡصُصۡ رُءۡیَاكَ عَلَىٰۤ إِخۡوَتِكَ
فَیَكِیدُوا۟ لَكَ كَیۡدًاۖ إِنَّ ٱلشَّیۡطَـٰنَ لِلۡإِنسَـٰنِ عَدُوࣱّ مُّبِینࣱ
'𝗠𝘆 𝘀𝗼𝗻, 𝗱𝗼 𝗻𝗼𝘁 𝘁𝗲𝗹𝗹 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗯𝗿𝗼𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗿𝘀 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗱𝗿𝗲𝗮𝗺, 𝗼𝗿 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝘆 𝗺𝗮𝘆 𝗽𝗹𝗼𝘁 𝘁𝗼 𝗵𝗮𝗿𝗺 𝘆𝗼𝘂. 𝗦𝗮𝘁𝗮𝗻 𝗶𝘀 𝗺𝗮𝗻'𝘀 𝗼𝗽𝗲𝗻 𝗲𝗻𝗲𝗺𝘆.' [Qur'an 12:5].
Ibn al-'Arabi al-Maliki explained:
حكم بالعادة من الحسادة بين الإخوة والقرابة
'𝘐𝘵 𝘩𝘪𝘨𝘩𝘭𝘪𝘨𝘩𝘵𝘴 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘧𝘢𝘤𝘵 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘦𝘯𝘷𝘺 𝘮𝘢𝘺 𝘵𝘢𝘬𝘦 𝘱𝘭𝘢𝘤𝘦 𝘣𝘦𝘵𝘸𝘦𝘦𝘯 𝘣𝘳𝘰𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘳𝘴 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘤𝘭𝘰𝘴𝘦 𝘳𝘦𝘭𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘷𝘦𝘴.'
['Ahkam al-Qur'an', 3/38].
We often think that all our family relatives are our well-wishers and that our only enemies are distant outsiders.
In reality, our closest family members, who reside within our own homes - may be our direct enemies!
Like sheep, we may spend our entire lives fearing the big bad wolf - but in the end, we get slaughtered and eaten by the shepherd.
It is best to remain vigilant.
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_Sayyiduna Sa’d ibn Abi Waqqas رضي الله عنه reported:_
_I said, “O Messenger of Allah, which people are tested most severely?”_
_The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said,_
*“They are the prophets, then the next best, then the next best. A man is put to trial according to his religion. If he is firm in his religion, his trials will be more severe. If he is weak in his religion, he is put to trial according to his strength in religion. The servant will continue to be put to trial until he is left walking upon the earth without any sin.”*
*_(Sunan al-Tirmidhi 2398)_*
_I said, “O Messenger of Allah, which people are tested most severely?”_
_The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said,_
*“They are the prophets, then the next best, then the next best. A man is put to trial according to his religion. If he is firm in his religion, his trials will be more severe. If he is weak in his religion, he is put to trial according to his strength in religion. The servant will continue to be put to trial until he is left walking upon the earth without any sin.”*
*_(Sunan al-Tirmidhi 2398)_*
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Ibn al-Qayyim [رحمه الله] said:
When Allāh has decreed a matter, it cannot be repelled or changed, whoever loves something besides Him, He will punish him with it, and there is no escape from that.
[Likewise] whoever fears other than Allāh, He will empower that thing over him, and whoever is occupied by something to the exclusion of Allāh will find it a source of grief.
Whoever prefers something else besides Allāh, Allāh will not bless him in it, and whoever pleases someone other than Allāh, at the expense of displeasing Allāh, Allāh will, without fail make that thing displeased with him and His anger will be upon the servant.
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Taken From: Remembrance of The Most Merciful P.38 By Ibn al-Qayyim | Daarusunnah publishers
When Allāh has decreed a matter, it cannot be repelled or changed, whoever loves something besides Him, He will punish him with it, and there is no escape from that.
[Likewise] whoever fears other than Allāh, He will empower that thing over him, and whoever is occupied by something to the exclusion of Allāh will find it a source of grief.
Whoever prefers something else besides Allāh, Allāh will not bless him in it, and whoever pleases someone other than Allāh, at the expense of displeasing Allāh, Allāh will, without fail make that thing displeased with him and His anger will be upon the servant.
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Taken From: Remembrance of The Most Merciful P.38 By Ibn al-Qayyim | Daarusunnah publishers
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If you spend your life chasing money, you will look back and realise you made so many dumb decisions. You sacrificed your health despite only having one body. You let relationships crash and burn because paychecks mattered more than people. You missed the magical moments of life. Sunrises, sunsets, laughter, peace, calm, prayer, reading Quran. Money is not the point of life. Don’t be blinded by the numbers.
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Quote of the day
Al-Husayn ibn 'Abd al-Rahman said: "It was said:
Excessive eating kills the heart, just as too much water kills crops."
[Kitab Hayat as-Salaf bayna al-Qawl wa al-'Amal, Page 579]
Al-Husayn ibn 'Abd al-Rahman said: "It was said:
Excessive eating kills the heart, just as too much water kills crops."
[Kitab Hayat as-Salaf bayna al-Qawl wa al-'Amal, Page 579]
Forwarded from As-Salafiyyah (English) (Abdurrahman Siddiqui)
It was said to the Prophet ﷺ: “Which of the people is best?”
He said: “Everyone who has a pure heart and a truthful tongue.”
They asked, “What is meant by a pure heart?”
He replied: “It is the heart that is righteous and pure; it has no sin, no injustice, no hatred, and no envy.”
(Narrated by Ibn Mājah)
He said: “Everyone who has a pure heart and a truthful tongue.”
They asked, “What is meant by a pure heart?”
He replied: “It is the heart that is righteous and pure; it has no sin, no injustice, no hatred, and no envy.”
(Narrated by Ibn Mājah)
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Where are عزرباالجهل kids ???
The Messenger of Allāh صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ said:
“A person may utter a word which is pleasing to Allāh, not paying heed to it, [and] Allāh will elevate him by several degrees in status, and a person may utter a word which is displeasing to Allāh, not paying heed to, for which he will casted into Hell.”
Saheeh al-Bukhāri, 6478 | Saheeh al-Bukhāri
The Messenger of Allāh صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ said:
“A person may utter a word which is pleasing to Allāh, not paying heed to it, [and] Allāh will elevate him by several degrees in status, and a person may utter a word which is displeasing to Allāh, not paying heed to, for which he will casted into Hell.”
Saheeh al-Bukhāri, 6478 | Saheeh al-Bukhāri
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What Is Sabrun Jameel?
The Concept Of “Sabr” Is Deeply Ingrained In Islam And Permeates The Muslim World. If You Realize That The Answer To Any Problem Is Through Allah, And That Allah Suffices All Your Needs, Then Your Relief Is Already At Hand. Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala Mentioned “Fa Sabrun Jameel” In The Qur’an, Literally Means Beautiful Patience. So What Is Beautiful Patience? The Phrase “Fa Sabrun Jameel” Appears In The Quran In Surah Yusuf, Verse 12:18.
⏩It Is To Be In A State Of Happiness And Pleasure While Being Patient Over A Situation.
⏩Beautiful Patience Is To Be Content With Adversity.
⏩Beautiful Patience Is To Surrender To The Will Of Allah.
⏩Beautiful Patience Is To Refrain From Complaining.
⏩Beautiful Patience Is To Be Grateful.
Indeed, As Beautiful As Prophet Yusuf Patience Is To Face All The Test That Allah Send Down, The Phrase Is “So Patience Is Most Fitting” And Is Most Famous From The Story Of Prophet Yaqub (Alayhis Salam).
The Phrase “Fa Sabrun Jameel” Is Said To Have Been Said By Prophet Yaqub After Hearing The News Of His Son Yusuf.
The Phrase “Fa Sabrun Jameel” Is Said To Lead To Doing The Best Of Deeds.
In Verse 12:18, Yaqub Says, “It Is Not So; You Have Made Up The Story. Yet Endurance Is Best. I Seek The Help Of God Alone For What You Impute”.
The Concept Of “Sabr” Is Deeply Ingrained In Islam And Permeates The Muslim World. If You Realize That The Answer To Any Problem Is Through Allah, And That Allah Suffices All Your Needs, Then Your Relief Is Already At Hand. Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala Mentioned “Fa Sabrun Jameel” In The Qur’an, Literally Means Beautiful Patience. So What Is Beautiful Patience? The Phrase “Fa Sabrun Jameel” Appears In The Quran In Surah Yusuf, Verse 12:18.
⏩It Is To Be In A State Of Happiness And Pleasure While Being Patient Over A Situation.
⏩Beautiful Patience Is To Be Content With Adversity.
⏩Beautiful Patience Is To Surrender To The Will Of Allah.
⏩Beautiful Patience Is To Refrain From Complaining.
⏩Beautiful Patience Is To Be Grateful.
Indeed, As Beautiful As Prophet Yusuf Patience Is To Face All The Test That Allah Send Down, The Phrase Is “So Patience Is Most Fitting” And Is Most Famous From The Story Of Prophet Yaqub (Alayhis Salam).
The Phrase “Fa Sabrun Jameel” Is Said To Have Been Said By Prophet Yaqub After Hearing The News Of His Son Yusuf.
The Phrase “Fa Sabrun Jameel” Is Said To Lead To Doing The Best Of Deeds.
In Verse 12:18, Yaqub Says, “It Is Not So; You Have Made Up The Story. Yet Endurance Is Best. I Seek The Help Of God Alone For What You Impute”.
Ibn al-Qayyim [رحمه الله] said:
❝An action done without Ikhlaas and without following the Messenger is like a traveler whose sock becomes filled with sand, which weighs him down, and has no benefit.❞
[al-Fawaid, (No. 89)]
❝An action done without Ikhlaas and without following the Messenger is like a traveler whose sock becomes filled with sand, which weighs him down, and has no benefit.❞
[al-Fawaid, (No. 89)]
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Narrated Abu Huraira:
Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) said, "If Allah wants to do good to somebody, He afflicts him with trials."
Sahih al-Bukhari 5645
Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) said, "If Allah wants to do good to somebody, He afflicts him with trials."
Sahih al-Bukhari 5645
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Ibn Taymiyyah said:
“Corruption may occur by the hand or by the tongue; but what the tongue corrupts in matters of religion is many times greater than what the hand corrupts, just as what the tongue rectifies in matters of religion is many times greater than what the hand rectifies.”
📚 As-Sārim al-Maslūl ʿalā Shātim ar-Rasūl, p. 385
“Corruption may occur by the hand or by the tongue; but what the tongue corrupts in matters of religion is many times greater than what the hand corrupts, just as what the tongue rectifies in matters of religion is many times greater than what the hand rectifies.”
📚 As-Sārim al-Maslūl ʿalā Shātim ar-Rasūl, p. 385
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📌 A simple breath…
Ibn al-Dunya mentioned that the Prophet Dawud (alayhi salam) asked
Allāh:
"What is the least of your blessings?.”
Allāh revealed to him,
"O Dawud, take a breath."
Dawud did so, and Allāh told him:
"That is the least of My Blessings on
you.”
[Excerpt from Patience and Gratitude by Ibn Qayyim al-Jawziyyah | Pg. 70]
Ibn al-Dunya mentioned that the Prophet Dawud (alayhi salam) asked
Allāh:
"What is the least of your blessings?.”
Allāh revealed to him,
"O Dawud, take a breath."
Dawud did so, and Allāh told him:
"That is the least of My Blessings on
you.”
[Excerpt from Patience and Gratitude by Ibn Qayyim al-Jawziyyah | Pg. 70]
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Healing doesn't mean building walls that block love out. It means building boundaries that keep harm out.
There's a powerful difference between the two:
⭕️ Walls say: "No one can touch me again."
✅ ️Boundaries suggest: "You can love me, but not at the cost of my peace."
So, if you build healthy boundaries instead of walls, you can keep your heart open - just not unguarded.
✍️ Maryam Ibrahim
#emotionalmaturity
There's a powerful difference between the two:
⭕️ Walls say: "No one can touch me again."
✅ ️Boundaries suggest: "You can love me, but not at the cost of my peace."
So, if you build healthy boundaries instead of walls, you can keep your heart open - just not unguarded.
✍️ Maryam Ibrahim
#emotionalmaturity
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