The Messenger of Allah ﷺ foretold that the world would not end until al-Laat and al-Uzza were worshiped again.
https://sunnah.com/muslim:2907a

If anyone read or heard the Hadith from the time of the Messenger's demise all the way to some 30 years ago, he would have thought to himself, how could it be? The shrines of these deities, as well as the idols representing them, were all destroyed. So how could they be worshiped again if one doesn't even know how they looked like?

Well, come 21st century and archeologists unearth some ancient idols of these deities and start displaying them in Museums. It was not long before people took to celebrating (or maybe even worshiping) them for being representative of the land's history and culture.

صدق رسول الله ﷺ

𝗔𝘃𝗼𝗶𝗱 𝗵𝗶𝗺/𝗵𝗲𝗿! (𝗔 𝗙𝗿𝗶𝗲𝗻𝗱 𝗳𝗿𝗼𝗺 𝗪𝗵𝗼𝗺 𝗬𝗼𝘂 𝗗𝗲𝗿𝗶𝘃𝗲 𝗡𝗼 𝗕𝗲𝗻𝗲𝗳𝗶𝘁𝘀 𝗳𝗿𝗼𝗺 𝗬𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗙𝗮𝗶𝘁𝗵)

Malik ibn Dinar (رحمه اللّٰه) said:

Look, O brother. Every brother, friend and companion you do not benefit from in your religion, FLEE from him!

[Ibn ‘Asākir (رحمه اللّٰه), Tārīkh Dimashq, 421/56]

Islamic Degrees and Certificates Vs. Grounded Knowledge and Understanding

Shaykh Saalih al-Fowzaan (may Allaah preserve him) was asked the following question about academic qualifications:

Question: Am I qualified to call to the Salafee ‘aqeedah if I have attained an excellent mark in a course offered by a da’wah office?

Answer: This (being truly qualified) does not happen except by way of knowledge. If you know the correct ‘aqeedah and have a complete understanding of it, then you have attained knowledge of it. But it is not sufficient for you to have an excellent (academic) mark without understanding ‘aqeedah.

How many times has someone got mumtaaz (excellent grades) with the highest honors but he has no understanding!?

And how many times has someone with only passing grades attained true knowledge and understanding!?

It is not about certificates of achievement. It is about having knowledge and a true understanding of it.

[Source: “Mathaahir Dha’f al-‘Aqeedah” (p.39), translated by Moosaa Richardson | https://www.bakkah.net/en/islamic-degrees-certificates-knowledge.htm]

Hereafter Series: The Blowing of The Horn/Trumpet [Part 1]

1 - What is the Horn (الصُّور)?

The word “الصُّور” means a horn, like a trumpet or bugle. Allāh says,

وَيَوْمَ يُنْفَخُ فِي الصُّورِ فَفَزِعَ مَنْ فِي السَّمَاوَاتِ وَمَنْ فِي الأَرْضِ إِلا مَنْ شَاءَ اللَّهُ

“And (remember) the Day on which the Trumpet will be blown, and all who are in the heavens and all who are on the earth, will be terrified except him whom Allāh will (exempt). And all shall come to Him, humbled.” Sūrah al-Naml (27): 87.

2 - Who will blow the horn?

With regard to the one who will blow into it, it is well known that he is Isrāfīl. Some of the scholars narrated that there is consensus on this, and it is stated clearly in some Prophetic narrations. See Fath al-Bāri (11/368).

3 - What day will the blowing of the horn be?

It will be on a Friday. The Prophet ﷺ said: "Among the most excellent of your days is Friday; on it Ādam was created, on it he died, on it the last trumpet will be blown..."

Sunan Abī Dāwūd (no. 1047). Classed as Sahīh by Imām An-Nawawī in Majmū' (5/448).

4 - How many times will the horn be blown?

1st View: Two times blown:

The majority of scholars are of the view that the Trumpet will be blown twice: the first time all creatures will swoon and the second time the resurrection will come to pass. Allāh says,

وَنُفِخَ فِي الصُّورِ فَصَعِقَ مَنْ فِي السَّمَاوَاتِ وَمَنْ فِي الأَرْضِ إِلا مَنْ شَاءَ اللَّه ثُمَّ نُفِخَ فِيهِ أُخْرَى فَإِذَا هُمْ قِيَامٌ يَنْظُرُونَ

“And the Trumpet will be blown, and all who are in the heavens and all who are on the earth will swoon away, except him whom Allāh wills. Then it will be blown a second time, and behold they will be standing, looking on (waiting)” Sūrah Az-Zumar (39): 68.

Who took this view: ‘Abdullāh ibn ‘Abbās, Qatādah, Ḥasan Al-Baṣrī, Ibn Kathīr and Al-Qurṭubī.

2nd View: Three times blown:

This view is based on the verses - Sūrah Naml: 87 and Sūrah Zumar: 68.

This view means the following:
• After first blowing people will be terrified.
• Second blowing the people will fall dead.
• Third blowing resurrected.

Who took this view: Ibn Taymīyyah, Imām Mālik, Imām Ash-Shawkānī and others.

3rd View: Four times Blown:

Imām Ibn Hazm went as far as saying that the number of blows are 4: the blow of death, the blow of resurrection and then the blows of panic and shock. They shock those who have fainted from them and then awaken them from that shock.

This is the view of Imām Ibn Ḥazm.

See Majmū’ Al-Fatāwa (4/260), Fath Al-Bāri (11/369), Tadhkirah (p. 184), Nihaya wal Bidāyah (1/253), al-Qiyaamah al-Kubra (pg. 33-42) by Shaykh ‘Umar al-Ashqar and A’lām As-Sunnah al-Manshūrah (122).

5 - The time between each blowing of the horn?

The Messenger of Allāh ﷺ said: “Between the two blowings of the Trumpet there will be forty...."

Sahīh Bukhārī (no. 4651) and Sahīh Muslim (no. 2955). When the narrator Abū Hurayrah was asked about the forty he refused to say if it was days, weeks, months or years as he was not sure.

6 - First person to hear the horn?

The first person to hear that trumpet will be someone busy in setting right the tank meant for providing water to the camels.

Sahīh Muslim (no. 2940) from ʿAbdullāh bin ʿAmr.

HEARTS ARE OF FOUR TYPES

The Companions of the Prophet (ﷺ) would categorise the hearts into four types, as Hudhayfah ibn al-Yamān (رضي الله عنه) said:

"Hearts are of four types:

_A pure heart with a shining lamp, which is the heart of a believer.

_A sealed heart, which is the heart of a disbeliever.

_An inverted heart, which is the heart of a hypocrite who came to know the truth and denied it,
seeing it then becoming blind to it.

_And a heart that alternates between two elements:
the element of faith and the element of hypocrisy- and the person takes on the characteristics of whichever element overpowers the other."

Book: Purification Of The Heart Its Disease
& Their Cures
By Imām Ibn al-Qayyim رحمه الله
Translated by Uthman Mustafa
Hikmah Publications
P. 30, 31

"The Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم said, 'A person shall continue to be tested until he's left walking upon the earth without any sins.' (Tirmidhi 2398)"

Life has a way of throwing us curveballs, doesn't it? Throughout my journey, I've encountered countless challenges and trials, just as the Prophet's words suggest. These tests have shaped me in ways I never could have imagined.

Just like the saying suggests, it seems that these tests are a constant presence in our lives. They come in various forms - personal, professional, and spiritual. Each test serves as an opportunity for growth, learning, and self-improvement. While it can be overwhelming at times, these challenges ultimately refine our character.

Reflecting on my life story, I see how these trials have pushed me to confront my own shortcomings, to seek forgiveness, and to strive for a life free from sins, because we all sin. It's a continuous process, a journey of self-purification and spiritual growth.

I believe that these tests are part of a grander plan. Each one is an opportunity to become a better version of ourselves, to aim for a life filled with integrity and righteousness. While perfection is a unreachable goal, the pursuit of it, fueled by faith and resilience, remains a fulfilling journey.

Let's keep walking this path together, supporting one another through life's tests. 💪 #LifeReflections #JourneyOfFaith #SpiritualGrowth

An Ovarian Cyst Remedy.

Usually, Most ovarian cysts are harmless, and they often go away on their own eventually. Some types of cysts are more likely to become cancerous or cause complications, but this is rare. Less than 1% of ovarian cysts are cancerous. And your doctor can monitor any concerning cysts closely to reduce your risk of experiencing complications.

What You Need:
One tablespoon of Orange lemon ginger tea
7-10 pieces of cloves spice
1 stick of Rosemary .

Boil together with water for few minutes. Use twice a day!!!
Thank me later after using this recipe.

https://news.1rj.ru/str/MuslimHealthTips

Bismillah…

It is an extreme shame and disgraceful to the Deen that we have so many Muslim’s that are so misguided and astray, so much so….to where, that even when they are given sound Da’leel from the Qur’ân and Sunnah of our beloved Prophet Muhammad {ﷺ} they still make excuses to continue their waywardness. Subhanallah☝🏿

Fahubu Rasuulullah Narrated Abu Sa`id Al-Khudri:

The Prophet {ﷺ} said;

“You will follow the ways of those nations who were before you, span by span and cubit by cubit (i.e., inch by inch) so much so that even if they entered a hole of a mastigure, you would follow them." We said; “O Allâh’s Messenger {ﷺ}! (Do you mean) the Jews and the Christians?" He said, "Whom else?"

حَدَّثَنَا مُحَمَّدُ بْنُ عَبْدِ الْعَزِيزِ، حَدَّثَنَا أَبُو عُمَرَ الصَّنْعَانِيُّ ـ مِنَ الْيَمَنِ ـ عَنْ زَيْدِ بْنِ أَسْلَمَ، عَنْ عَطَاءِ بْنِ يَسَارٍ، عَنْ أَبِي سَعِيدٍ الْخُدْرِيِّ، عَنِ النَّبِيِّ صلى الله عليه وسلم قَالَ ‏"‏ لَتَتْبَعُنَّ سَنَنَ مَنْ كَانَ قَبْلَكُمْ شِبْرًا شِبْرًا وَذِرَاعًا بِذِرَاعٍ، حَتَّى لَوْ دَخَلُوا جُحْرَ ضَبٍّ تَبِعْتُمُوهُمْ ‏"‌‏.‏ قُلْنَا يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ الْيَهُودُ وَالنَّصَارَى قَالَ ‏"‏ فَمَنْ ‏"‌‏.‏

Reference: Sahih Al-Bukhari 7320

Qur’ân (Interpretation Of The Meaning):

As to those who reject Faith, it is the same to them whether thou warn them or do not warn them; they will not believe.
Allâh hath set a seal on their hearts and on their hearing, and on their eyes is a veil; great is the penalty they (incur).
Of the people there are some, who say: “We believe in Allâh and the Last Day;” but they do not (really) believe.
Fain would they deceive Allâh and those who believe, but they only deceive themselves and realize (it) not!
In their hearts is a disease; and Allâh has increased their disease: and grievous is the penalty they (incur), because they are false (to themselves). [Al Baqarah 2:6-10]

And surely Allâh knows best and that is always sufficient enough for me. Alhamdulillah☝🏿

🔥 *Firmness Upon the Siraat*

Imam Ibnul Qayyim (may Allaah have mercy on him) said:

"So the one who is guided in this abode to Allaah's siraat (straight path)-the one for which the messengers were sent and the books were revealed- they will be guided over there to the siraat (bridge over the fire of jahannam), which leads to His jannah and the abode of His reward.

And depending on the firmness of the servant upon this siraat, which Allaah has set up for His servants in this abode, will determine their firmness upon the siraat that is set up over jahannam. And depending on his movement upon this siraat is his movement on that siraat.

1⃣ And from them are those who pass by like lightening.

2⃣And from them are those who pass by as quickly as the blink of an eye.

3⃣And from them are those who pass by like a fast wind

4⃣And from them are those who pass by like fast horses or she camels

5⃣And from them are those who cross by running

6⃣And from them are those who cross by walking

7⃣And from them are those who cross by crawling

8⃣And from them are those who will be safe after receiving some scratches

9⃣And from them are those who will be thrown in the fire

So let a servant look to his advancement on that siraat from his advancement on this, hand span by hand span. An exact recompense.
﴿هَلْ تُجْزَوْنَ إِلاَّ مَا كُنتُمْ تَعْمَلُونَ﴾

((And it will be said to them) "Are you being recompensed anything except what you used to do'') [An-Naml:90]

And let him look to the doubts and desires which hinder him from walking on this siraat al mustaqeem (straight path). For indeed the hooks that are on the two sides of that siraat will pluck him and prevent him from passing over it. So if it becomes many and strong here in the dunya then it will be the same over there

﴿ وَمَا رَبُّكَ بِظَلَّامٍ لِلْعَبِيدِ ﴾ [فصلت :46].

"And your lord is not in the least unjust to the servants." [Fussilat:46]

📖Madaarij as-Saalikeen (16/1).

Hajj & 'Umrah removes poverty and expiates the sins. Ya Rabb forgive us of our sins.

https://twitter.com/taqwatravels/status/905339205777326080

The Man who Killed 100 People vis-à-vis a Man of Knowledge

We all know the famous narration about that man from the Children of Israel who killed 99 people. This man went to get advice about repenting from his crimes from a man who was known to be an avid worshiper of Allaah.

The worshiper, who was so deep in his worship, could not fathom how Allaah would forgive such a mass murder, so he answered the killer of 99 people by telling him that there is no repentance for him. So the man, being used to killing, and getting such an answer, killed the avid worshiper to make the number 100.

Lessons so far:

1. Giving a verdict without knowledge can go as far as causing loss of life, not just ruining families or loss or religion, among others.

2. The man's devoutness to worshiping Allaah is not enough for him to give verdicts. Without knowledge, worship is not as valuable. Worshiping Allaah should be done with knowledge and proper insight.

3. One's acts of worship should not cause him to doubt that Allaah will forgive even the worst of sins. He should not let his acts of worship blind him to the fact that Allaah forgives any sin as long as one is alive, and any sin except Shirk if one dies with other sins, even major ones.

Moving on...

The killer of 100 went to a man of knowledge and asked him the same question about repentance. The man of knowledge told him that nobody is standing between him and his repentance to Allaah, and that he must migrate and abandon the bad town in which he was living and move to a good town instead.

More lessons:

4. One who is looking to change his life around should abandon evil places and evil people. The overall environment and the people have a major impact on an individual.

5. The man with knowledge gave the correct advice, indeed, it is not surprising to assume that the man of knowledge was also an avid worshiper of Allaah, and even if he was not as avid as the one without knowledge, the man of knowledge still has more fear of Allaah because he has that knowledge.

Moving on...

On the way, the killer of 100 died, and the angels of mercy disputed with the angels of torment about who should take his soul. Allaah sent an angel to settle the dispute and told them to measure the distance which the man travelled before dying, and that if he was closer to the good town, that the angels of mercy would take his soul. Allaah caused the landscape to change so that the distance between the man and the good town is shorter.

Final lessons:

6. Allaah will make a way out for you if your sincere, no matter how evil you think you are, no matter what evil actions you have done, if you feel really bad about those deeds and feel a darkness in your heart, that is because your heart had light in it to begin with, otherwise, you would not have such a great feeling of sorrow for your bad deeds. No matter how great are your evil deeds, Allaah is greater and will forgive you.

7. Never give up hope in Allaah's mercy and forgiveness.

May Allaah grant us wisdom and insight and keep us steadfast on His straight path.

Being Truthful with Allāh
The shaikh, Dr. Muḥammad ibn Ghālib Al-ʿUmarī, may Allāh protect him, said:

If you’re truthful with your Mawlá [supporter and manager of affairs] in your relationship with Him, first of all, and then your relationship with creation, no words of abuse from someone casting abuse harm you, and no words of praise from someone throwing praise benefit you.

Being truthful with Allāh is a high level.

A person goes up [in levels] to that as his holding on to being truthful [goes up] in [both] speech and deed. Consider the ḥadīth: “A man continues to be truthful and keeps looking to be truthful [again and again] until he’s recorded with Allāh as an ever-truthful one.”¹

¹Narrated by Al-Bukhārī and Muslim (tr.)

Source: twitter.com/m_g_alomari. 16 Jun 22. 05:51 GMT+3.

https://twitter.com/m_g_alomari/status/1537266594811887617?t=xDRGGR3YfP7j6toDw4JwZg&s=19

https://twitter.com/m_g_alomari/status/1537266594811887617?t=xDRGGR3YfP7j6toDw4JwZg&s=19

https://tasfiyah.com/being-truthful-with-allah/

📚Feeling Happy for Others

The shaikh, Dr. Muḥammad ibn Ghālib Al-ʿUmarī, may Allāh protect him, said:

You’re feeling happiness and joy for your [Muslim] brother

1. for his excellence;
2. for his achievement;
3. for his getting cured;
4. for his getting a job;
5. for his getting married;
6. for everything good that happens to him

is an indication of your soul being clear; your chest, intact and sound; and your having been protected from the disease of envy.

Source: @m_g_alomari. 2 Mar 22. 20:34 GMT+3.

Translator: Mikail ibn Mahboob Ariff
Date published: March 3rd, 2022

#ibn_Ghalib #naseehah #advice #ulama #islam #muslim #muslimah

Allah سبحانه وتعالى says in surah al-Talaq:

"And whoever has taqwa of Allah, He will make a way out for him ‐ and give him provisions from where he does not expect."
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ibn al-Jawzi رحمه اللّه said about this ayah;

Allah's provisions may come in the form of making it easy for a person to be steadfast in the face of a trial.

[Sayd al-Khatir pg. 634]

Evidences for praying against someone. (Laying ccurses)

Anas Ibn Maalik reported. The Messenger of Allaah peace & blessings of Allaah be upon him said: Beware of the supplication of the oppressed, even if he is an unbeliever, for there is no barrier between it & Allaah.
(MUSNAD AHMAD)

Abii Huroyroh reported that the messenger of Allaah said: Three supplications are answered with no doubt. The supplication of an oppressed person, a traveler & the supplication of a Parent for his child.
(Sunan Tirmidhii)

Suuroh An-Nisa, Verse 148:
لَّا يُحِبُّ اللَّهُ الْجَهْرَ بِالسُّوءِ مِنَ الْقَوْلِ إِلَّا مَن ظُلِمَ وَكَانَ اللَّهُ سَمِيعًا عَلِيمًا

Allah does not like that the evil should be uttered in public except by him who has been wronged. And Allah is Ever All-Hearer, All-Knower.

Ibn Abbas (May Allaah be pleased with him) commented on this verse: Allaah does not like that anyone should invoke him against anyone else unless one was wronged. In this case, Allaah allows one to invoke him against whoever wrong him. Yet, it is better for one if he observe patience. (Tafsiirul-bnul Kathiir)

In summary, if one is to pray against an oppresser, it has to be laying curses whether they are believers or not.

May Allaah make us among those who are patient. Aamiin

Contemplating the Quran with the help of your Five Senses and Mental Faculties

Ibrāhīm al-Taymī (rahimahullāh) recounted,

I imagined my soul in the Fire, experiencing its boiling and flaming, eating of its zaqqūm (Q 37:62, 44:43, 56:52) and drinking of its zamharīr (Q 76:13).

I said to my soul, “O soul, what do you wish?”

It said, “Return to the world and do a deed by which I may escape from this punishment.”

Then I imagined my soul in the Garden with its houris, wearing its sundus, its istibriq (Q 18:31, 44:53, 76:21), and its silk.

I said, “O soul, what do you wish?”

It said, “Return to the world and do a deed such that I can have more of this reward.”

I said, “You are in the world and safe.”

[Imam Aḥmad (rahimahullāh) in Zuhd 363-434]

WHY MANY PRIVATE HOSPITALS ARE "HEARTLESS"

Some weeks back, a woman in labour was rushed into a private hospital in the middle of the night. Accompanying her was her husband who looked quite agitated.

She had fallen into labour since the previous day and had reported at the place of the traditional birth attendant who had been giving her 'antenatal care'.

But when things got out of hand and it became clear that she wouldn't be able to deliver the baby through the expected channel, her attendant had no other option but to refer her to a hospital where an operation would be done to deliver the baby.

At the time they reported at the private hospital, the husband had no money on him. Yes, no money!

However, in a bid to ensure the safety of the lives of both mother and baby, the hospital agreed to proceed with the surgery after the husband promised to get the money paid as soon as the day breaks.

The surgery went well, and a beautiful baby was born. The mother had no issues. And the father was happy.

Four days later, both mother and baby were due for discharge. But they couldn't leave the hospital because the bills were not yet settled.

In fact, as at the time, the father still hadn't paid a dime despite constant reminders by the hospital staff. He's been replying with, "Tomorrow, tomorrow..." with each passing day.

Two weeks passed and the man was yet to pay a dime to the hospital. One afternoon during the third week, one of the nurses passed by the ward in which the woman and her baby had been staying, and what she saw shocked her.

The bed was empty.

The woman, her baby, and her belongings have vanished. The husband's line was no longer going through. And all efforts to locate them proved abortive.

For the private hospital, that was just the worst of many. In the past, there have been several instances where patients and their relatives failed to pay the hospital for its services. And after they've been held down for too long, the hospital would have no choice but to just let them go because the cost of holding them down for longer would later become even more than the outstanding bills.

This private hospital started with a noble approach to emergencies, which was to save lives first before asking for money. This was innocently and compassionately done based the hope that all bills would be duly settled before the time of discharge. But Nigerians have proven to them that they don't deserve such a humane gesture by the hospital.

Eventually, due to the ugly lesson that the woman and her husband taught the hospital, and the countless gestures of ingratitude and heartlessness meted to the hospital in the past, the management stopped being "nice".

As of today, even if a woman in labour needs an urgent CS, the new rule in that hospital is that no action must be taken until a significant fraction of the cost of surgery is paid in advance. The same applies to all other cases that require urgent admission. Whoever is unbale to make the due advance payment would be advised to go elsewhere.

So, before you castigate a private hospital and label it "heartless", be reminded that it's a business, first and foremost. And just like any other business, it has running costs to cover including staff salaries, maintenance costs, utility bills, taxes, and so on.

Also, know that many private hospitals started out being humane and nice, but the nasty actions of your fellow countrypeople made them come up with those survival measures that you think are heartless or draconian.

So, resist the urge to go emotional when you hear some things that private hospitals did with regards to ensuring that they are not swindled. Most other people who also run businesses wouldn't take a fraction of what those hospitals have endured.

-- DR. ABASS TORIOLA.

Hadith : You gain victory or livelihood through the blessings and invocations of the poor amongst you

Narrated AbudDarda Radi Allahu Anhu : The Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam said: Seek for me weak persons, for you are provided means of subsistence and helped through your weaklings.
Sunan Abu Dawud, book 14, 2588

Narrated Mus'ab bin Sad Radiallahu anhu The Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam said, "You gain victory or livelihood through the blessings and invocations of the poor amongst you."
Sahih Bukhari, Book 52, No. 145

Parenting Advice from Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

“You're not responsible for your children's actions, only for what you teach them (or don't teach them).

Focus on teaching your children adab and akhlaq (manners and etiquette); parents don't emphasize these enough any more. Have adab with yourself before you set out to teach adab -- that means "pausing". Be willing to pause before reacting.

Adab is the capacity to have the appropriate action, attitude, and response in any given situation.

Oftentimes we do more damage by how we react to our children's mishaps. When we lose our temper with our kids, we're still "teaching" them; we're just not teaching them the appropriate reaction to life's adversities and challenges. Our kids are always learning from us.

Criticizing your children is a bid'ah (a blameworthy innovation); it's not from the Sunnah (way of the Prophet). Don't criticize; don't nag. Nagging your children about everything is a good way to guarantee that they don't listen to you about anything. Nagging never works.

Sometimes the correct response is to not say anything.

If you want to know how to raise teenagers, look at the life of Anas (radiAllahu anhu); he lived in the house of the Prophet (salallaahu alaihi wasallam) from the age of 10 to 20. He broke things and made mistakes, but the Prophet (saw) never focused on whatever Allah had already destined; he never shamed Anas (rA) for his mistakes. He only focused on gentle teaching and gentle reminders. (i.e. "Did you take care of that task I asked you to do?" rather than "Why haven't you done what I asked you to do yet?! How many times do I have to remind you?!")

Children who have not yet attained the age of puberty are not held accountable by Allah (swt) even if they commit murder (God forbid), so who are we to freak out on our kids for "little things" like spilled milk?

When the Prophet (saw) saw another young sahabah (companion) eating greedily from all over a plate, he gently told him, "Say Allah's Name before eating; eat with your right hand; and eat from what is in front of you." He didn't criticize him for his (lack of) manners; he only told him the correct way to eat and then moved on.

We are not police officers or judges when it comes to our children; rather, we should be like shepherds -- we should try to gently guide them in the direction of where we want them to eventually end up.

Complaining about your children to friends is blameworthy; however, consulting with ppl who have wisdom and experience is praiseworthy. Don't talk to just anyone about you r concerns regarding your children.

When asked about getting kids to pray or to wear the hijab, he reminded us that Islam is not about do's and don'ts and a bunch of rules; it's about the heart. We need to teach kids to have hearts that are directed towards pleasing their Lord. They should desire on their own to live lives of taqwa (God-consciousness). We must model taqwa for them by how we live our own lives. Some children may need gentle nudges and reminders to do the right thing.

Don’t over indulge and spend on your children teach them the value of what they have, sometimes we fill ourselves of something we lack when we over indulge in them this is dangerous at any age.

All virtues that are virtuous should be taught to and emphasized for BOTH genders (like modesty and lowering the gaze and gentleness). Boys should not be shamed for being shy. Shyness is praiseworthy.

Prayer should be a pleasant experience for the kids. He talked about his own children taking turns saying their personal duas aloud after prayer time; sometimes the kids would fall into hugging and wrestling on the prayer mat afterwards.

Teach kids about the Prophet Muhammad's (saw) life.

Remind yourself about what your parents did RIGHT.

Don't become self-satisfied and overly confident in your parenting.

Seek Allah's Pleasure through your own parenting, and facilitate for your children to seek Allah's Pleasure as well.

Aim high in both spiritual and worldly matters. Do dhikr (remembrance of Allah) and call on Allah for Help. Don't just ask that He make your kids into good Muslims; ask Him to make your kids from amongst the best and most virtuous of all Muslims ever. Trust in Him to answer your duas. Nothing is impossible for Allah.“

The Messenger of Allah (صل الله عليه وسلم) said:

"The believer who mixes with people and bears their annoyance with patience will have a greater reward than the believer who does not mix with people and does not put up with their annoyance"

[Hadith No: 4032, Sunan Ibn Majah]