The Man who Killed 100 People vis-à-vis a Man of Knowledge
We all know the famous narration about that man from the Children of Israel who killed 99 people. This man went to get advice about repenting from his crimes from a man who was known to be an avid worshiper of Allaah.
The worshiper, who was so deep in his worship, could not fathom how Allaah would forgive such a mass murder, so he answered the killer of 99 people by telling him that there is no repentance for him. So the man, being used to killing, and getting such an answer, killed the avid worshiper to make the number 100.
Lessons so far:
1. Giving a verdict without knowledge can go as far as causing loss of life, not just ruining families or loss or religion, among others.
2. The man's devoutness to worshiping Allaah is not enough for him to give verdicts. Without knowledge, worship is not as valuable. Worshiping Allaah should be done with knowledge and proper insight.
3. One's acts of worship should not cause him to doubt that Allaah will forgive even the worst of sins. He should not let his acts of worship blind him to the fact that Allaah forgives any sin as long as one is alive, and any sin except Shirk if one dies with other sins, even major ones.
Moving on...
The killer of 100 went to a man of knowledge and asked him the same question about repentance. The man of knowledge told him that nobody is standing between him and his repentance to Allaah, and that he must migrate and abandon the bad town in which he was living and move to a good town instead.
More lessons:
4. One who is looking to change his life around should abandon evil places and evil people. The overall environment and the people have a major impact on an individual.
5. The man with knowledge gave the correct advice, indeed, it is not surprising to assume that the man of knowledge was also an avid worshiper of Allaah, and even if he was not as avid as the one without knowledge, the man of knowledge still has more fear of Allaah because he has that knowledge.
Moving on...
On the way, the killer of 100 died, and the angels of mercy disputed with the angels of torment about who should take his soul. Allaah sent an angel to settle the dispute and told them to measure the distance which the man travelled before dying, and that if he was closer to the good town, that the angels of mercy would take his soul. Allaah caused the landscape to change so that the distance between the man and the good town is shorter.
Final lessons:
6. Allaah will make a way out for you if your sincere, no matter how evil you think you are, no matter what evil actions you have done, if you feel really bad about those deeds and feel a darkness in your heart, that is because your heart had light in it to begin with, otherwise, you would not have such a great feeling of sorrow for your bad deeds. No matter how great are your evil deeds, Allaah is greater and will forgive you.
7. Never give up hope in Allaah's mercy and forgiveness.
May Allaah grant us wisdom and insight and keep us steadfast on His straight path.
We all know the famous narration about that man from the Children of Israel who killed 99 people. This man went to get advice about repenting from his crimes from a man who was known to be an avid worshiper of Allaah.
The worshiper, who was so deep in his worship, could not fathom how Allaah would forgive such a mass murder, so he answered the killer of 99 people by telling him that there is no repentance for him. So the man, being used to killing, and getting such an answer, killed the avid worshiper to make the number 100.
Lessons so far:
1. Giving a verdict without knowledge can go as far as causing loss of life, not just ruining families or loss or religion, among others.
2. The man's devoutness to worshiping Allaah is not enough for him to give verdicts. Without knowledge, worship is not as valuable. Worshiping Allaah should be done with knowledge and proper insight.
3. One's acts of worship should not cause him to doubt that Allaah will forgive even the worst of sins. He should not let his acts of worship blind him to the fact that Allaah forgives any sin as long as one is alive, and any sin except Shirk if one dies with other sins, even major ones.
Moving on...
The killer of 100 went to a man of knowledge and asked him the same question about repentance. The man of knowledge told him that nobody is standing between him and his repentance to Allaah, and that he must migrate and abandon the bad town in which he was living and move to a good town instead.
More lessons:
4. One who is looking to change his life around should abandon evil places and evil people. The overall environment and the people have a major impact on an individual.
5. The man with knowledge gave the correct advice, indeed, it is not surprising to assume that the man of knowledge was also an avid worshiper of Allaah, and even if he was not as avid as the one without knowledge, the man of knowledge still has more fear of Allaah because he has that knowledge.
Moving on...
On the way, the killer of 100 died, and the angels of mercy disputed with the angels of torment about who should take his soul. Allaah sent an angel to settle the dispute and told them to measure the distance which the man travelled before dying, and that if he was closer to the good town, that the angels of mercy would take his soul. Allaah caused the landscape to change so that the distance between the man and the good town is shorter.
Final lessons:
6. Allaah will make a way out for you if your sincere, no matter how evil you think you are, no matter what evil actions you have done, if you feel really bad about those deeds and feel a darkness in your heart, that is because your heart had light in it to begin with, otherwise, you would not have such a great feeling of sorrow for your bad deeds. No matter how great are your evil deeds, Allaah is greater and will forgive you.
7. Never give up hope in Allaah's mercy and forgiveness.
May Allaah grant us wisdom and insight and keep us steadfast on His straight path.
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Being Truthful with Allāh
The shaikh, Dr. Muḥammad ibn Ghālib Al-ʿUmarī, may Allāh protect him, said:
If you’re truthful with your Mawlá [supporter and manager of affairs] in your relationship with Him, first of all, and then your relationship with creation, no words of abuse from someone casting abuse harm you, and no words of praise from someone throwing praise benefit you.
Being truthful with Allāh is a high level.
A person goes up [in levels] to that as his holding on to being truthful [goes up] in [both] speech and deed. Consider the ḥadīth: “A man continues to be truthful and keeps looking to be truthful [again and again] until he’s recorded with Allāh as an ever-truthful one.”¹
¹Narrated by Al-Bukhārī and Muslim (tr.)
Source: twitter.com/m_g_alomari. 16 Jun 22. 05:51 GMT+3.
https://twitter.com/m_g_alomari/status/1537266594811887617?t=xDRGGR3YfP7j6toDw4JwZg&s=19
https://twitter.com/m_g_alomari/status/1537266594811887617?t=xDRGGR3YfP7j6toDw4JwZg&s=19
https://tasfiyah.com/being-truthful-with-allah/
The shaikh, Dr. Muḥammad ibn Ghālib Al-ʿUmarī, may Allāh protect him, said:
If you’re truthful with your Mawlá [supporter and manager of affairs] in your relationship with Him, first of all, and then your relationship with creation, no words of abuse from someone casting abuse harm you, and no words of praise from someone throwing praise benefit you.
Being truthful with Allāh is a high level.
A person goes up [in levels] to that as his holding on to being truthful [goes up] in [both] speech and deed. Consider the ḥadīth: “A man continues to be truthful and keeps looking to be truthful [again and again] until he’s recorded with Allāh as an ever-truthful one.”¹
¹Narrated by Al-Bukhārī and Muslim (tr.)
Source: twitter.com/m_g_alomari. 16 Jun 22. 05:51 GMT+3.
https://twitter.com/m_g_alomari/status/1537266594811887617?t=xDRGGR3YfP7j6toDw4JwZg&s=19
https://twitter.com/m_g_alomari/status/1537266594811887617?t=xDRGGR3YfP7j6toDw4JwZg&s=19
https://tasfiyah.com/being-truthful-with-allah/
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📚Feeling Happy for Others
The shaikh, Dr. Muḥammad ibn Ghālib Al-ʿUmarī, may Allāh protect him, said:
You’re feeling happiness and joy for your [Muslim] brother
1. for his excellence;
2. for his achievement;
3. for his getting cured;
4. for his getting a job;
5. for his getting married;
6. for everything good that happens to him
is an indication of your soul being clear; your chest, intact and sound; and your having been protected from the disease of envy.
Source: @m_g_alomari. 2 Mar 22. 20:34 GMT+3.
Translator: Mikail ibn Mahboob Ariff
Date published: March 3rd, 2022
#ibn_Ghalib #naseehah #advice #ulama #islam #muslim #muslimah
The shaikh, Dr. Muḥammad ibn Ghālib Al-ʿUmarī, may Allāh protect him, said:
You’re feeling happiness and joy for your [Muslim] brother
1. for his excellence;
2. for his achievement;
3. for his getting cured;
4. for his getting a job;
5. for his getting married;
6. for everything good that happens to him
is an indication of your soul being clear; your chest, intact and sound; and your having been protected from the disease of envy.
Source: @m_g_alomari. 2 Mar 22. 20:34 GMT+3.
Translator: Mikail ibn Mahboob Ariff
Date published: March 3rd, 2022
#ibn_Ghalib #naseehah #advice #ulama #islam #muslim #muslimah
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Allah سبحانه وتعالى says in surah al-Talaq:
"And whoever has taqwa of Allah, He will make a way out for him ‐ and give him provisions from where he does not expect."
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ibn al-Jawzi رحمه اللّه said about this ayah;
Allah's provisions may come in the form of making it easy for a person to be steadfast in the face of a trial.
[Sayd al-Khatir pg. 634]
"And whoever has taqwa of Allah, He will make a way out for him ‐ and give him provisions from where he does not expect."
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ibn al-Jawzi رحمه اللّه said about this ayah;
Allah's provisions may come in the form of making it easy for a person to be steadfast in the face of a trial.
[Sayd al-Khatir pg. 634]
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Evidences for praying against someone. (Laying ccurses)
Anas Ibn Maalik reported. The Messenger of Allaah peace & blessings of Allaah be upon him said: Beware of the supplication of the oppressed, even if he is an unbeliever, for there is no barrier between it & Allaah.
(MUSNAD AHMAD)
Abii Huroyroh reported that the messenger of Allaah said: Three supplications are answered with no doubt. The supplication of an oppressed person, a traveler & the supplication of a Parent for his child.
(Sunan Tirmidhii)
Suuroh An-Nisa, Verse 148:
لَّا يُحِبُّ اللَّهُ الْجَهْرَ بِالسُّوءِ مِنَ الْقَوْلِ إِلَّا مَن ظُلِمَ وَكَانَ اللَّهُ سَمِيعًا عَلِيمًا
Allah does not like that the evil should be uttered in public except by him who has been wronged. And Allah is Ever All-Hearer, All-Knower.
Ibn Abbas (May Allaah be pleased with him) commented on this verse: Allaah does not like that anyone should invoke him against anyone else unless one was wronged. In this case, Allaah allows one to invoke him against whoever wrong him. Yet, it is better for one if he observe patience. (Tafsiirul-bnul Kathiir)
In summary, if one is to pray against an oppresser, it has to be laying curses whether they are believers or not.
May Allaah make us among those who are patient. Aamiin
Anas Ibn Maalik reported. The Messenger of Allaah peace & blessings of Allaah be upon him said: Beware of the supplication of the oppressed, even if he is an unbeliever, for there is no barrier between it & Allaah.
(MUSNAD AHMAD)
Abii Huroyroh reported that the messenger of Allaah said: Three supplications are answered with no doubt. The supplication of an oppressed person, a traveler & the supplication of a Parent for his child.
(Sunan Tirmidhii)
Suuroh An-Nisa, Verse 148:
لَّا يُحِبُّ اللَّهُ الْجَهْرَ بِالسُّوءِ مِنَ الْقَوْلِ إِلَّا مَن ظُلِمَ وَكَانَ اللَّهُ سَمِيعًا عَلِيمًا
Allah does not like that the evil should be uttered in public except by him who has been wronged. And Allah is Ever All-Hearer, All-Knower.
Ibn Abbas (May Allaah be pleased with him) commented on this verse: Allaah does not like that anyone should invoke him against anyone else unless one was wronged. In this case, Allaah allows one to invoke him against whoever wrong him. Yet, it is better for one if he observe patience. (Tafsiirul-bnul Kathiir)
In summary, if one is to pray against an oppresser, it has to be laying curses whether they are believers or not.
May Allaah make us among those who are patient. Aamiin
Contemplating the Quran with the help of your Five Senses and Mental Faculties
Ibrāhīm al-Taymī (rahimahullāh) recounted,
I imagined my soul in the Fire, experiencing its boiling and flaming, eating of its zaqqūm (Q 37:62, 44:43, 56:52) and drinking of its zamharīr (Q 76:13).
I said to my soul, “O soul, what do you wish?”
It said, “Return to the world and do a deed by which I may escape from this punishment.”
Then I imagined my soul in the Garden with its houris, wearing its sundus, its istibriq (Q 18:31, 44:53, 76:21), and its silk.
I said, “O soul, what do you wish?”
It said, “Return to the world and do a deed such that I can have more of this reward.”
I said, “You are in the world and safe.”
[Imam Aḥmad (rahimahullāh) in Zuhd 363-434]
Ibrāhīm al-Taymī (rahimahullāh) recounted,
I imagined my soul in the Fire, experiencing its boiling and flaming, eating of its zaqqūm (Q 37:62, 44:43, 56:52) and drinking of its zamharīr (Q 76:13).
I said to my soul, “O soul, what do you wish?”
It said, “Return to the world and do a deed by which I may escape from this punishment.”
Then I imagined my soul in the Garden with its houris, wearing its sundus, its istibriq (Q 18:31, 44:53, 76:21), and its silk.
I said, “O soul, what do you wish?”
It said, “Return to the world and do a deed such that I can have more of this reward.”
I said, “You are in the world and safe.”
[Imam Aḥmad (rahimahullāh) in Zuhd 363-434]
WHY MANY PRIVATE HOSPITALS ARE "HEARTLESS"
Some weeks back, a woman in labour was rushed into a private hospital in the middle of the night. Accompanying her was her husband who looked quite agitated.
She had fallen into labour since the previous day and had reported at the place of the traditional birth attendant who had been giving her 'antenatal care'.
But when things got out of hand and it became clear that she wouldn't be able to deliver the baby through the expected channel, her attendant had no other option but to refer her to a hospital where an operation would be done to deliver the baby.
At the time they reported at the private hospital, the husband had no money on him. Yes, no money!
However, in a bid to ensure the safety of the lives of both mother and baby, the hospital agreed to proceed with the surgery after the husband promised to get the money paid as soon as the day breaks.
The surgery went well, and a beautiful baby was born. The mother had no issues. And the father was happy.
Four days later, both mother and baby were due for discharge. But they couldn't leave the hospital because the bills were not yet settled.
In fact, as at the time, the father still hadn't paid a dime despite constant reminders by the hospital staff. He's been replying with, "Tomorrow, tomorrow..." with each passing day.
Two weeks passed and the man was yet to pay a dime to the hospital. One afternoon during the third week, one of the nurses passed by the ward in which the woman and her baby had been staying, and what she saw shocked her.
The bed was empty.
The woman, her baby, and her belongings have vanished. The husband's line was no longer going through. And all efforts to locate them proved abortive.
For the private hospital, that was just the worst of many. In the past, there have been several instances where patients and their relatives failed to pay the hospital for its services. And after they've been held down for too long, the hospital would have no choice but to just let them go because the cost of holding them down for longer would later become even more than the outstanding bills.
This private hospital started with a noble approach to emergencies, which was to save lives first before asking for money. This was innocently and compassionately done based the hope that all bills would be duly settled before the time of discharge. But Nigerians have proven to them that they don't deserve such a humane gesture by the hospital.
Eventually, due to the ugly lesson that the woman and her husband taught the hospital, and the countless gestures of ingratitude and heartlessness meted to the hospital in the past, the management stopped being "nice".
As of today, even if a woman in labour needs an urgent CS, the new rule in that hospital is that no action must be taken until a significant fraction of the cost of surgery is paid in advance. The same applies to all other cases that require urgent admission. Whoever is unbale to make the due advance payment would be advised to go elsewhere.
So, before you castigate a private hospital and label it "heartless", be reminded that it's a business, first and foremost. And just like any other business, it has running costs to cover including staff salaries, maintenance costs, utility bills, taxes, and so on.
Also, know that many private hospitals started out being humane and nice, but the nasty actions of your fellow countrypeople made them come up with those survival measures that you think are heartless or draconian.
So, resist the urge to go emotional when you hear some things that private hospitals did with regards to ensuring that they are not swindled. Most other people who also run businesses wouldn't take a fraction of what those hospitals have endured.
-- DR. ABASS TORIOLA.
Some weeks back, a woman in labour was rushed into a private hospital in the middle of the night. Accompanying her was her husband who looked quite agitated.
She had fallen into labour since the previous day and had reported at the place of the traditional birth attendant who had been giving her 'antenatal care'.
But when things got out of hand and it became clear that she wouldn't be able to deliver the baby through the expected channel, her attendant had no other option but to refer her to a hospital where an operation would be done to deliver the baby.
At the time they reported at the private hospital, the husband had no money on him. Yes, no money!
However, in a bid to ensure the safety of the lives of both mother and baby, the hospital agreed to proceed with the surgery after the husband promised to get the money paid as soon as the day breaks.
The surgery went well, and a beautiful baby was born. The mother had no issues. And the father was happy.
Four days later, both mother and baby were due for discharge. But they couldn't leave the hospital because the bills were not yet settled.
In fact, as at the time, the father still hadn't paid a dime despite constant reminders by the hospital staff. He's been replying with, "Tomorrow, tomorrow..." with each passing day.
Two weeks passed and the man was yet to pay a dime to the hospital. One afternoon during the third week, one of the nurses passed by the ward in which the woman and her baby had been staying, and what she saw shocked her.
The bed was empty.
The woman, her baby, and her belongings have vanished. The husband's line was no longer going through. And all efforts to locate them proved abortive.
For the private hospital, that was just the worst of many. In the past, there have been several instances where patients and their relatives failed to pay the hospital for its services. And after they've been held down for too long, the hospital would have no choice but to just let them go because the cost of holding them down for longer would later become even more than the outstanding bills.
This private hospital started with a noble approach to emergencies, which was to save lives first before asking for money. This was innocently and compassionately done based the hope that all bills would be duly settled before the time of discharge. But Nigerians have proven to them that they don't deserve such a humane gesture by the hospital.
Eventually, due to the ugly lesson that the woman and her husband taught the hospital, and the countless gestures of ingratitude and heartlessness meted to the hospital in the past, the management stopped being "nice".
As of today, even if a woman in labour needs an urgent CS, the new rule in that hospital is that no action must be taken until a significant fraction of the cost of surgery is paid in advance. The same applies to all other cases that require urgent admission. Whoever is unbale to make the due advance payment would be advised to go elsewhere.
So, before you castigate a private hospital and label it "heartless", be reminded that it's a business, first and foremost. And just like any other business, it has running costs to cover including staff salaries, maintenance costs, utility bills, taxes, and so on.
Also, know that many private hospitals started out being humane and nice, but the nasty actions of your fellow countrypeople made them come up with those survival measures that you think are heartless or draconian.
So, resist the urge to go emotional when you hear some things that private hospitals did with regards to ensuring that they are not swindled. Most other people who also run businesses wouldn't take a fraction of what those hospitals have endured.
-- DR. ABASS TORIOLA.
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Hadith : You gain victory or livelihood through the blessings and invocations of the poor amongst you
Narrated AbudDarda Radi Allahu Anhu : The Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam said: Seek for me weak persons, for you are provided means of subsistence and helped through your weaklings.
Sunan Abu Dawud, book 14, 2588
Narrated Mus'ab bin Sad Radiallahu anhu The Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam said, "You gain victory or livelihood through the blessings and invocations of the poor amongst you."
Sahih Bukhari, Book 52, No. 145
Narrated AbudDarda Radi Allahu Anhu : The Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam said: Seek for me weak persons, for you are provided means of subsistence and helped through your weaklings.
Sunan Abu Dawud, book 14, 2588
Narrated Mus'ab bin Sad Radiallahu anhu The Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam said, "You gain victory or livelihood through the blessings and invocations of the poor amongst you."
Sahih Bukhari, Book 52, No. 145
Parenting Advice from Shaykh Faraz Rabbani
“You're not responsible for your children's actions, only for what you teach them (or don't teach them).
Focus on teaching your children adab and akhlaq (manners and etiquette); parents don't emphasize these enough any more. Have adab with yourself before you set out to teach adab -- that means "pausing". Be willing to pause before reacting.
Adab is the capacity to have the appropriate action, attitude, and response in any given situation.
Oftentimes we do more damage by how we react to our children's mishaps. When we lose our temper with our kids, we're still "teaching" them; we're just not teaching them the appropriate reaction to life's adversities and challenges. Our kids are always learning from us.
Criticizing your children is a bid'ah (a blameworthy innovation); it's not from the Sunnah (way of the Prophet). Don't criticize; don't nag. Nagging your children about everything is a good way to guarantee that they don't listen to you about anything. Nagging never works.
Sometimes the correct response is to not say anything.
If you want to know how to raise teenagers, look at the life of Anas (radiAllahu anhu); he lived in the house of the Prophet (salallaahu alaihi wasallam) from the age of 10 to 20. He broke things and made mistakes, but the Prophet (saw) never focused on whatever Allah had already destined; he never shamed Anas (rA) for his mistakes. He only focused on gentle teaching and gentle reminders. (i.e. "Did you take care of that task I asked you to do?" rather than "Why haven't you done what I asked you to do yet?! How many times do I have to remind you?!")
Children who have not yet attained the age of puberty are not held accountable by Allah (swt) even if they commit murder (God forbid), so who are we to freak out on our kids for "little things" like spilled milk?
When the Prophet (saw) saw another young sahabah (companion) eating greedily from all over a plate, he gently told him, "Say Allah's Name before eating; eat with your right hand; and eat from what is in front of you." He didn't criticize him for his (lack of) manners; he only told him the correct way to eat and then moved on.
We are not police officers or judges when it comes to our children; rather, we should be like shepherds -- we should try to gently guide them in the direction of where we want them to eventually end up.
Complaining about your children to friends is blameworthy; however, consulting with ppl who have wisdom and experience is praiseworthy. Don't talk to just anyone about you r concerns regarding your children.
When asked about getting kids to pray or to wear the hijab, he reminded us that Islam is not about do's and don'ts and a bunch of rules; it's about the heart. We need to teach kids to have hearts that are directed towards pleasing their Lord. They should desire on their own to live lives of taqwa (God-consciousness). We must model taqwa for them by how we live our own lives. Some children may need gentle nudges and reminders to do the right thing.
Don’t over indulge and spend on your children teach them the value of what they have, sometimes we fill ourselves of something we lack when we over indulge in them this is dangerous at any age.
All virtues that are virtuous should be taught to and emphasized for BOTH genders (like modesty and lowering the gaze and gentleness). Boys should not be shamed for being shy. Shyness is praiseworthy.
Prayer should be a pleasant experience for the kids. He talked about his own children taking turns saying their personal duas aloud after prayer time; sometimes the kids would fall into hugging and wrestling on the prayer mat afterwards.
Teach kids about the Prophet Muhammad's (saw) life.
Remind yourself about what your parents did RIGHT.
Don't become self-satisfied and overly confident in your parenting.
Seek Allah's Pleasure through your own parenting, and facilitate for your children to seek Allah's Pleasure as well.
“You're not responsible for your children's actions, only for what you teach them (or don't teach them).
Focus on teaching your children adab and akhlaq (manners and etiquette); parents don't emphasize these enough any more. Have adab with yourself before you set out to teach adab -- that means "pausing". Be willing to pause before reacting.
Adab is the capacity to have the appropriate action, attitude, and response in any given situation.
Oftentimes we do more damage by how we react to our children's mishaps. When we lose our temper with our kids, we're still "teaching" them; we're just not teaching them the appropriate reaction to life's adversities and challenges. Our kids are always learning from us.
Criticizing your children is a bid'ah (a blameworthy innovation); it's not from the Sunnah (way of the Prophet). Don't criticize; don't nag. Nagging your children about everything is a good way to guarantee that they don't listen to you about anything. Nagging never works.
Sometimes the correct response is to not say anything.
If you want to know how to raise teenagers, look at the life of Anas (radiAllahu anhu); he lived in the house of the Prophet (salallaahu alaihi wasallam) from the age of 10 to 20. He broke things and made mistakes, but the Prophet (saw) never focused on whatever Allah had already destined; he never shamed Anas (rA) for his mistakes. He only focused on gentle teaching and gentle reminders. (i.e. "Did you take care of that task I asked you to do?" rather than "Why haven't you done what I asked you to do yet?! How many times do I have to remind you?!")
Children who have not yet attained the age of puberty are not held accountable by Allah (swt) even if they commit murder (God forbid), so who are we to freak out on our kids for "little things" like spilled milk?
When the Prophet (saw) saw another young sahabah (companion) eating greedily from all over a plate, he gently told him, "Say Allah's Name before eating; eat with your right hand; and eat from what is in front of you." He didn't criticize him for his (lack of) manners; he only told him the correct way to eat and then moved on.
We are not police officers or judges when it comes to our children; rather, we should be like shepherds -- we should try to gently guide them in the direction of where we want them to eventually end up.
Complaining about your children to friends is blameworthy; however, consulting with ppl who have wisdom and experience is praiseworthy. Don't talk to just anyone about you r concerns regarding your children.
When asked about getting kids to pray or to wear the hijab, he reminded us that Islam is not about do's and don'ts and a bunch of rules; it's about the heart. We need to teach kids to have hearts that are directed towards pleasing their Lord. They should desire on their own to live lives of taqwa (God-consciousness). We must model taqwa for them by how we live our own lives. Some children may need gentle nudges and reminders to do the right thing.
Don’t over indulge and spend on your children teach them the value of what they have, sometimes we fill ourselves of something we lack when we over indulge in them this is dangerous at any age.
All virtues that are virtuous should be taught to and emphasized for BOTH genders (like modesty and lowering the gaze and gentleness). Boys should not be shamed for being shy. Shyness is praiseworthy.
Prayer should be a pleasant experience for the kids. He talked about his own children taking turns saying their personal duas aloud after prayer time; sometimes the kids would fall into hugging and wrestling on the prayer mat afterwards.
Teach kids about the Prophet Muhammad's (saw) life.
Remind yourself about what your parents did RIGHT.
Don't become self-satisfied and overly confident in your parenting.
Seek Allah's Pleasure through your own parenting, and facilitate for your children to seek Allah's Pleasure as well.
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Aim high in both spiritual and worldly matters. Do dhikr (remembrance of Allah) and call on Allah for Help. Don't just ask that He make your kids into good Muslims; ask Him to make your kids from amongst the best and most virtuous of all Muslims ever. Trust in Him to answer your duas. Nothing is impossible for Allah.“
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The Messenger of Allah (صل الله عليه وسلم) said:
"The believer who mixes with people and bears their annoyance with patience will have a greater reward than the believer who does not mix with people and does not put up with their annoyance"
[Hadith No: 4032, Sunan Ibn Majah]
"The believer who mixes with people and bears their annoyance with patience will have a greater reward than the believer who does not mix with people and does not put up with their annoyance"
[Hadith No: 4032, Sunan Ibn Majah]
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Aboo Al-Ashhab said:
” ‘Umar (RA) passed by a garbage dump and stopped there, and it was as if his companions were bothered by it (the smell). He said, ‘This is the world of yours which you are so eager for and you weep over.’”
[‘Umar Ibn Al-Khattaab, His Life And Times, By ‘Ali Muhammad As-Sallaabi, Vol. I, p. 288]
” ‘Umar (RA) passed by a garbage dump and stopped there, and it was as if his companions were bothered by it (the smell). He said, ‘This is the world of yours which you are so eager for and you weep over.’”
[‘Umar Ibn Al-Khattaab, His Life And Times, By ‘Ali Muhammad As-Sallaabi, Vol. I, p. 288]
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In the ayah, “Who will give Allah a beautiful loan and it will be multiplied for him many fold?” (The Noble Qur’an 2:245)
The scholars described a beautiful loan as follows:
“It is to give halal wealth, from the best and most valuable of what someone owns, not from the worst; given in a state of health, need, and when the giver is ambitious of having a long life. It should be given to the one most in need and who has the most right to it, in secret, and not followed up by ever reminding the person of it or harming the receiver in any way.
The giver only seeks the pleasure of Allah and does not use it to show off. He should not feel that what he is giving is excessive and he should give from the most beloved wealth to him. When these characteristics come together, this is a beautiful loan.”
There are times when it is not only permissible to give Sadaqaa in public but encouraged so others may follow suit. Every deed is judged by its intention so let’s think good of this Muslim and ask Allaah Azawajal to accept his magnificent Sadaqaa. Aameen ya Rabb.
Click the link below for more details on this charitable man…
https://hararelive.com/2023/04/21/saudi-arabian-man-loses-biilionaire-status-after-donating-us16b-to-charity/
The scholars described a beautiful loan as follows:
“It is to give halal wealth, from the best and most valuable of what someone owns, not from the worst; given in a state of health, need, and when the giver is ambitious of having a long life. It should be given to the one most in need and who has the most right to it, in secret, and not followed up by ever reminding the person of it or harming the receiver in any way.
The giver only seeks the pleasure of Allah and does not use it to show off. He should not feel that what he is giving is excessive and he should give from the most beloved wealth to him. When these characteristics come together, this is a beautiful loan.”
There are times when it is not only permissible to give Sadaqaa in public but encouraged so others may follow suit. Every deed is judged by its intention so let’s think good of this Muslim and ask Allaah Azawajal to accept his magnificent Sadaqaa. Aameen ya Rabb.
Click the link below for more details on this charitable man…
https://hararelive.com/2023/04/21/saudi-arabian-man-loses-biilionaire-status-after-donating-us16b-to-charity/
Harare Live
Saudi Arabian Man Loses Biilionaire Status After Donating US$16B To Charity
A Saudi Arabian Richest man donated “$16 Billion” in charity and kicked himself out of the billionaires club. The Rajhi family is regarded as Saudi Arabia’s wealthiest non-royals and one of the wor…
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Nowadays, parents send their brightest children to top ranking universities, and they send their children - who fail at everything else - to study Islamic sciences.!!
Then these same parents complain about the low quality of Islamic scholarships!
Why don’t you send your brightest children to study Islam, so you can produce high quality scholars?
Then, some of these children who were pushed into Islamic studies because they were failures in life, grow up, hating worldly education and discourage the society from making money etc. because they didn’t have them.
As the saying goes:
!دستش به آلو نمیرسه میگه آلو ترش است
‘𝗛𝗲 𝗰𝗼𝘂𝗹𝗱𝗻’𝘁 𝗿𝗲𝗮𝗰𝗵 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗽𝗹𝘂𝗺, 𝘀𝗼 𝗵𝗲 𝘀𝗮𝗶𝗱: 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗽𝗹𝘂𝗺 𝗶𝘀 𝘀𝗼𝘂𝗿!’
Nowadays, they also try to mix orphanages with madaris, and beg everyone to help the madaris for the sake of the orphans - this is also a mistake.
If you do that, many people will be put off from sending their children to study Islamic sciences, they will associate it with orphans and begging.
In the past, Islamic sciences were considered prestigious, people used to send their brightest children to study Islamic sciences - that’s why we flourished and produced so many great intellectuals.
We should restore the honour and lost prestige of Islamic education, remove the dust that covers its shine.
Then these same parents complain about the low quality of Islamic scholarships!
Why don’t you send your brightest children to study Islam, so you can produce high quality scholars?
Then, some of these children who were pushed into Islamic studies because they were failures in life, grow up, hating worldly education and discourage the society from making money etc. because they didn’t have them.
As the saying goes:
!دستش به آلو نمیرسه میگه آلو ترش است
‘𝗛𝗲 𝗰𝗼𝘂𝗹𝗱𝗻’𝘁 𝗿𝗲𝗮𝗰𝗵 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗽𝗹𝘂𝗺, 𝘀𝗼 𝗵𝗲 𝘀𝗮𝗶𝗱: 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗽𝗹𝘂𝗺 𝗶𝘀 𝘀𝗼𝘂𝗿!’
Nowadays, they also try to mix orphanages with madaris, and beg everyone to help the madaris for the sake of the orphans - this is also a mistake.
If you do that, many people will be put off from sending their children to study Islamic sciences, they will associate it with orphans and begging.
In the past, Islamic sciences were considered prestigious, people used to send their brightest children to study Islamic sciences - that’s why we flourished and produced so many great intellectuals.
We should restore the honour and lost prestige of Islamic education, remove the dust that covers its shine.
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Abu Huraira reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “When Friday arrives, angels are over the door of every mosque to record those who arrive one by one. When the Imam sits to begin, they close their scrolls and come to listen to the reminder. The parable of one who comes early is that of one who offers a fine camel, the next like one who offers a cow, the next like one who offers a ram, the next like one who offers a chicken, the next like one who offers an egg.”
Source: Ṣaḥīḥ al-Bukhārī 929, Ṣaḥīḥ Muslim 850
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim
عَنْ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ قَالَ قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ إِذَا كَانَ يَوْمُ الْجُمُعَةِ كَانَ عَلَى كُلِّ بَابٍ مِنْ أَبْوَابِ الْمَسْجِدِ مَلَائِكَةٌ يَكْتُبُونَ الْأَوَّلَ فَالْأَوَّلَ فَإِذَا جَلَسَ الْإِمَامُ طَوَوْا الصُّحُفَ وَجَاءُوا يَسْتَمِعُونَ الذِّكْرَ وَمَثَلُ الْمُهَجِّرِ كَمَثَلِ الَّذِي يُهْدِي الْبَدَنَةَ ثُمَّ كَالَّذِي يُهْدِي بَقَرَةً ثُمَّ كَالَّذِي يُهْدِي الْكَبْشَ ثُمَّ كَالَّذِي يُهْدِي الدَّجَاجَةَ ثُمَّ كَالَّذِي يُهْدِي الْبَيْضَةَ
929 صحيح البخاري كتاب الجمعة باب الاستماع إلى الخطبة
850 صحيح مسلم كتاب الجمعة باب فضل التهجير يوم الجمعة
Source: Ṣaḥīḥ al-Bukhārī 929, Ṣaḥīḥ Muslim 850
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim
عَنْ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ قَالَ قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ إِذَا كَانَ يَوْمُ الْجُمُعَةِ كَانَ عَلَى كُلِّ بَابٍ مِنْ أَبْوَابِ الْمَسْجِدِ مَلَائِكَةٌ يَكْتُبُونَ الْأَوَّلَ فَالْأَوَّلَ فَإِذَا جَلَسَ الْإِمَامُ طَوَوْا الصُّحُفَ وَجَاءُوا يَسْتَمِعُونَ الذِّكْرَ وَمَثَلُ الْمُهَجِّرِ كَمَثَلِ الَّذِي يُهْدِي الْبَدَنَةَ ثُمَّ كَالَّذِي يُهْدِي بَقَرَةً ثُمَّ كَالَّذِي يُهْدِي الْكَبْشَ ثُمَّ كَالَّذِي يُهْدِي الدَّجَاجَةَ ثُمَّ كَالَّذِي يُهْدِي الْبَيْضَةَ
929 صحيح البخاري كتاب الجمعة باب الاستماع إلى الخطبة
850 صحيح مسلم كتاب الجمعة باب فضل التهجير يوم الجمعة
So many Muslims celebrate pagan holidays now that non-Muslims no longer know the difference between what they do and what we "don't" do. I'm tired.
I needed to get that off my chest. Carry on.
I needed to get that off my chest. Carry on.
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When Others Harm Us
Imām Ibn Taimiyyah, may Allāh have mercy on him, said:
[One particular] kind [of patience is a slave of Allāh] having patience with what happens to him through [other] people’s actions¹ upon his wealth, honor, or [own] person; this type [of harm that happens out of a person’s own control] is very difficult to be patient with because the soul is conscious of someone causing harm to it, and it hates being overcome, so it seeks revenge.
No one can be patient with this type [of harm] other than the prophets and the very truest of their followers.
¹as opposed to what happens to him from Allah’s decree alone, like sickness (tr.)
Jāmiʿ Al-Masāʾil, vol. 1, p. 167.
Translator: Mikail ibn Mahboob Ariff
Date published: February 7th, 2022
Last updated: February 8th, 2022
https://tasfiyah.com/when-others-harm-us/
Imām Ibn Taimiyyah, may Allāh have mercy on him, said:
[One particular] kind [of patience is a slave of Allāh] having patience with what happens to him through [other] people’s actions¹ upon his wealth, honor, or [own] person; this type [of harm that happens out of a person’s own control] is very difficult to be patient with because the soul is conscious of someone causing harm to it, and it hates being overcome, so it seeks revenge.
No one can be patient with this type [of harm] other than the prophets and the very truest of their followers.
¹as opposed to what happens to him from Allah’s decree alone, like sickness (tr.)
Jāmiʿ Al-Masāʾil, vol. 1, p. 167.
Translator: Mikail ibn Mahboob Ariff
Date published: February 7th, 2022
Last updated: February 8th, 2022
https://tasfiyah.com/when-others-harm-us/
Al-Tasfiyah
When Others Harm Us - Al-Tasfiyah
When Others Harm Us Imām Ibn Taimiyyah, may Allāh have mercy on him, said: [One particular] kind [of patience is a slave of Allāh] having patience with what happens to him through [other] people’s actions¹ upon his wealth, honor, or [own] person; this type…
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Always remember that not all days are the same - "A DAY FOR YOU AND A DAY AGAINST YOU". So do not rejoice thinking that you will get away with your sins.
إِن يَمْسَسْكُمْ قَرْحٌ فَقَدْ مَسَّ الْقَوْمَ قَرْحٌ مِّثْلُهُ ۚ وَتِلْكَ الْأَيَّامُ نُدَاوِلُهَا بَيْنَ النَّاسِ
{If a wound has touched you, be sure a similar wound has touched the (opposing) people. And these days [of varying conditions - the good and not so good] We alternate among the people...}
📚 [Surah aal-`Imraan (3): 140]
إِن يَمْسَسْكُمْ قَرْحٌ فَقَدْ مَسَّ الْقَوْمَ قَرْحٌ مِّثْلُهُ ۚ وَتِلْكَ الْأَيَّامُ نُدَاوِلُهَا بَيْنَ النَّاسِ
{If a wound has touched you, be sure a similar wound has touched the (opposing) people. And these days [of varying conditions - the good and not so good] We alternate among the people...}
📚 [Surah aal-`Imraan (3): 140]
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"If it is money you want we will shower you with money, if it is women that you want we will provide you with the most beautiful women of your choice, if it is fame and position you want we will make you famous and give you authority, just give up on this call of La ilaha illa Allah (Tawhīd)".
Isn't this exactly what they are telling us today?
How many didn't sell their deen for money and comfort? How many aren't chasing women with their religious appearance (one sect is specifically famous for this), how many scholars and preachers didn't sell themselves and they did indeed become famous and were given authority?
Our response should be: "If you place the sun in my right hand and the moon in my left hand, I will not give up this call"
Isn't this exactly what they are telling us today?
How many didn't sell their deen for money and comfort? How many aren't chasing women with their religious appearance (one sect is specifically famous for this), how many scholars and preachers didn't sell themselves and they did indeed become famous and were given authority?
Our response should be: "If you place the sun in my right hand and the moon in my left hand, I will not give up this call"
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Hadith
عَنْ أَبِي مَالِكٍ الْحَارِثِ بْنِ عَاصِمٍ الْأَشْعَرِيِّ رَضِيَ اللهُ عَنْهُ قَالَ: قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه و سلم الطَّهُورُ شَطْرُ الْإِيمَانِ، وَالْحَمْدُ لِلَّهِ تَمْلَأُ الْمِيزَانَ، وَسُبْحَانَ اللَّهِ وَالْحَمْدُ لِلَّهِ تَمْلَآنِ -أَوْ: تَمْلَأُ- مَا بَيْنَ السَّمَاءِ وَالْأَرْضِ، وَالصَّلَاةُ نُورٌ، وَالصَّدَقَةُ بُرْهَانٌ، وَالصَّبْرُ ضِيَاءٌ، وَالْقُرْآنُ حُجَّةٌ لَك أَوْ عَلَيْك، كُلُّ النَّاسِ يَغْدُو، فَبَائِعٌ نَفْسَهُ فَمُعْتِقُهَا أَوْ مُوبِقُهَا". [رَوَاهُ مُسْلِمٌ]."
On the authority of Abu Malik al-Harith bin Asim al-Asharee (may Allah be pleased with him) who said:
The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said, "Purity is half of iman (faith). "Al-hamdu lillah (praise be to Allah)' fills the scales, and "subhan-Allah (how far is Allah from every imperfection) and "Al-hamdulillah (praise be to Allah)' fill that which is between heaven and earth. And the salah (prayer) is a light, and charity is a proof, and patience is illumination, and the Qur'an is a proof either for you or against you. Every person starts his day as a vendor of his soul, either freeing it or causing its ruin."
[Muslim]
عَنْ أَبِي مَالِكٍ الْحَارِثِ بْنِ عَاصِمٍ الْأَشْعَرِيِّ رَضِيَ اللهُ عَنْهُ قَالَ: قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه و سلم الطَّهُورُ شَطْرُ الْإِيمَانِ، وَالْحَمْدُ لِلَّهِ تَمْلَأُ الْمِيزَانَ، وَسُبْحَانَ اللَّهِ وَالْحَمْدُ لِلَّهِ تَمْلَآنِ -أَوْ: تَمْلَأُ- مَا بَيْنَ السَّمَاءِ وَالْأَرْضِ، وَالصَّلَاةُ نُورٌ، وَالصَّدَقَةُ بُرْهَانٌ، وَالصَّبْرُ ضِيَاءٌ، وَالْقُرْآنُ حُجَّةٌ لَك أَوْ عَلَيْك، كُلُّ النَّاسِ يَغْدُو، فَبَائِعٌ نَفْسَهُ فَمُعْتِقُهَا أَوْ مُوبِقُهَا". [رَوَاهُ مُسْلِمٌ]."
On the authority of Abu Malik al-Harith bin Asim al-Asharee (may Allah be pleased with him) who said:
The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said, "Purity is half of iman (faith). "Al-hamdu lillah (praise be to Allah)' fills the scales, and "subhan-Allah (how far is Allah from every imperfection) and "Al-hamdulillah (praise be to Allah)' fill that which is between heaven and earth. And the salah (prayer) is a light, and charity is a proof, and patience is illumination, and the Qur'an is a proof either for you or against you. Every person starts his day as a vendor of his soul, either freeing it or causing its ruin."
[Muslim]
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