Parenting Advice from Shaykh Faraz Rabbani
“You're not responsible for your children's actions, only for what you teach them (or don't teach them).
Focus on teaching your children adab and akhlaq (manners and etiquette); parents don't emphasize these enough any more. Have adab with yourself before you set out to teach adab -- that means "pausing". Be willing to pause before reacting.
Adab is the capacity to have the appropriate action, attitude, and response in any given situation.
Oftentimes we do more damage by how we react to our children's mishaps. When we lose our temper with our kids, we're still "teaching" them; we're just not teaching them the appropriate reaction to life's adversities and challenges. Our kids are always learning from us.
Criticizing your children is a bid'ah (a blameworthy innovation); it's not from the Sunnah (way of the Prophet). Don't criticize; don't nag. Nagging your children about everything is a good way to guarantee that they don't listen to you about anything. Nagging never works.
Sometimes the correct response is to not say anything.
If you want to know how to raise teenagers, look at the life of Anas (radiAllahu anhu); he lived in the house of the Prophet (salallaahu alaihi wasallam) from the age of 10 to 20. He broke things and made mistakes, but the Prophet (saw) never focused on whatever Allah had already destined; he never shamed Anas (rA) for his mistakes. He only focused on gentle teaching and gentle reminders. (i.e. "Did you take care of that task I asked you to do?" rather than "Why haven't you done what I asked you to do yet?! How many times do I have to remind you?!")
Children who have not yet attained the age of puberty are not held accountable by Allah (swt) even if they commit murder (God forbid), so who are we to freak out on our kids for "little things" like spilled milk?
When the Prophet (saw) saw another young sahabah (companion) eating greedily from all over a plate, he gently told him, "Say Allah's Name before eating; eat with your right hand; and eat from what is in front of you." He didn't criticize him for his (lack of) manners; he only told him the correct way to eat and then moved on.
We are not police officers or judges when it comes to our children; rather, we should be like shepherds -- we should try to gently guide them in the direction of where we want them to eventually end up.
Complaining about your children to friends is blameworthy; however, consulting with ppl who have wisdom and experience is praiseworthy. Don't talk to just anyone about you r concerns regarding your children.
When asked about getting kids to pray or to wear the hijab, he reminded us that Islam is not about do's and don'ts and a bunch of rules; it's about the heart. We need to teach kids to have hearts that are directed towards pleasing their Lord. They should desire on their own to live lives of taqwa (God-consciousness). We must model taqwa for them by how we live our own lives. Some children may need gentle nudges and reminders to do the right thing.
Don’t over indulge and spend on your children teach them the value of what they have, sometimes we fill ourselves of something we lack when we over indulge in them this is dangerous at any age.
All virtues that are virtuous should be taught to and emphasized for BOTH genders (like modesty and lowering the gaze and gentleness). Boys should not be shamed for being shy. Shyness is praiseworthy.
Prayer should be a pleasant experience for the kids. He talked about his own children taking turns saying their personal duas aloud after prayer time; sometimes the kids would fall into hugging and wrestling on the prayer mat afterwards.
Teach kids about the Prophet Muhammad's (saw) life.
Remind yourself about what your parents did RIGHT.
Don't become self-satisfied and overly confident in your parenting.
Seek Allah's Pleasure through your own parenting, and facilitate for your children to seek Allah's Pleasure as well.
“You're not responsible for your children's actions, only for what you teach them (or don't teach them).
Focus on teaching your children adab and akhlaq (manners and etiquette); parents don't emphasize these enough any more. Have adab with yourself before you set out to teach adab -- that means "pausing". Be willing to pause before reacting.
Adab is the capacity to have the appropriate action, attitude, and response in any given situation.
Oftentimes we do more damage by how we react to our children's mishaps. When we lose our temper with our kids, we're still "teaching" them; we're just not teaching them the appropriate reaction to life's adversities and challenges. Our kids are always learning from us.
Criticizing your children is a bid'ah (a blameworthy innovation); it's not from the Sunnah (way of the Prophet). Don't criticize; don't nag. Nagging your children about everything is a good way to guarantee that they don't listen to you about anything. Nagging never works.
Sometimes the correct response is to not say anything.
If you want to know how to raise teenagers, look at the life of Anas (radiAllahu anhu); he lived in the house of the Prophet (salallaahu alaihi wasallam) from the age of 10 to 20. He broke things and made mistakes, but the Prophet (saw) never focused on whatever Allah had already destined; he never shamed Anas (rA) for his mistakes. He only focused on gentle teaching and gentle reminders. (i.e. "Did you take care of that task I asked you to do?" rather than "Why haven't you done what I asked you to do yet?! How many times do I have to remind you?!")
Children who have not yet attained the age of puberty are not held accountable by Allah (swt) even if they commit murder (God forbid), so who are we to freak out on our kids for "little things" like spilled milk?
When the Prophet (saw) saw another young sahabah (companion) eating greedily from all over a plate, he gently told him, "Say Allah's Name before eating; eat with your right hand; and eat from what is in front of you." He didn't criticize him for his (lack of) manners; he only told him the correct way to eat and then moved on.
We are not police officers or judges when it comes to our children; rather, we should be like shepherds -- we should try to gently guide them in the direction of where we want them to eventually end up.
Complaining about your children to friends is blameworthy; however, consulting with ppl who have wisdom and experience is praiseworthy. Don't talk to just anyone about you r concerns regarding your children.
When asked about getting kids to pray or to wear the hijab, he reminded us that Islam is not about do's and don'ts and a bunch of rules; it's about the heart. We need to teach kids to have hearts that are directed towards pleasing their Lord. They should desire on their own to live lives of taqwa (God-consciousness). We must model taqwa for them by how we live our own lives. Some children may need gentle nudges and reminders to do the right thing.
Don’t over indulge and spend on your children teach them the value of what they have, sometimes we fill ourselves of something we lack when we over indulge in them this is dangerous at any age.
All virtues that are virtuous should be taught to and emphasized for BOTH genders (like modesty and lowering the gaze and gentleness). Boys should not be shamed for being shy. Shyness is praiseworthy.
Prayer should be a pleasant experience for the kids. He talked about his own children taking turns saying their personal duas aloud after prayer time; sometimes the kids would fall into hugging and wrestling on the prayer mat afterwards.
Teach kids about the Prophet Muhammad's (saw) life.
Remind yourself about what your parents did RIGHT.
Don't become self-satisfied and overly confident in your parenting.
Seek Allah's Pleasure through your own parenting, and facilitate for your children to seek Allah's Pleasure as well.
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Aim high in both spiritual and worldly matters. Do dhikr (remembrance of Allah) and call on Allah for Help. Don't just ask that He make your kids into good Muslims; ask Him to make your kids from amongst the best and most virtuous of all Muslims ever. Trust in Him to answer your duas. Nothing is impossible for Allah.“
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The Messenger of Allah (صل الله عليه وسلم) said:
"The believer who mixes with people and bears their annoyance with patience will have a greater reward than the believer who does not mix with people and does not put up with their annoyance"
[Hadith No: 4032, Sunan Ibn Majah]
"The believer who mixes with people and bears their annoyance with patience will have a greater reward than the believer who does not mix with people and does not put up with their annoyance"
[Hadith No: 4032, Sunan Ibn Majah]
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Aboo Al-Ashhab said:
” ‘Umar (RA) passed by a garbage dump and stopped there, and it was as if his companions were bothered by it (the smell). He said, ‘This is the world of yours which you are so eager for and you weep over.’”
[‘Umar Ibn Al-Khattaab, His Life And Times, By ‘Ali Muhammad As-Sallaabi, Vol. I, p. 288]
” ‘Umar (RA) passed by a garbage dump and stopped there, and it was as if his companions were bothered by it (the smell). He said, ‘This is the world of yours which you are so eager for and you weep over.’”
[‘Umar Ibn Al-Khattaab, His Life And Times, By ‘Ali Muhammad As-Sallaabi, Vol. I, p. 288]
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In the ayah, “Who will give Allah a beautiful loan and it will be multiplied for him many fold?” (The Noble Qur’an 2:245)
The scholars described a beautiful loan as follows:
“It is to give halal wealth, from the best and most valuable of what someone owns, not from the worst; given in a state of health, need, and when the giver is ambitious of having a long life. It should be given to the one most in need and who has the most right to it, in secret, and not followed up by ever reminding the person of it or harming the receiver in any way.
The giver only seeks the pleasure of Allah and does not use it to show off. He should not feel that what he is giving is excessive and he should give from the most beloved wealth to him. When these characteristics come together, this is a beautiful loan.”
There are times when it is not only permissible to give Sadaqaa in public but encouraged so others may follow suit. Every deed is judged by its intention so let’s think good of this Muslim and ask Allaah Azawajal to accept his magnificent Sadaqaa. Aameen ya Rabb.
Click the link below for more details on this charitable man…
https://hararelive.com/2023/04/21/saudi-arabian-man-loses-biilionaire-status-after-donating-us16b-to-charity/
The scholars described a beautiful loan as follows:
“It is to give halal wealth, from the best and most valuable of what someone owns, not from the worst; given in a state of health, need, and when the giver is ambitious of having a long life. It should be given to the one most in need and who has the most right to it, in secret, and not followed up by ever reminding the person of it or harming the receiver in any way.
The giver only seeks the pleasure of Allah and does not use it to show off. He should not feel that what he is giving is excessive and he should give from the most beloved wealth to him. When these characteristics come together, this is a beautiful loan.”
There are times when it is not only permissible to give Sadaqaa in public but encouraged so others may follow suit. Every deed is judged by its intention so let’s think good of this Muslim and ask Allaah Azawajal to accept his magnificent Sadaqaa. Aameen ya Rabb.
Click the link below for more details on this charitable man…
https://hararelive.com/2023/04/21/saudi-arabian-man-loses-biilionaire-status-after-donating-us16b-to-charity/
Harare Live
Saudi Arabian Man Loses Biilionaire Status After Donating US$16B To Charity
A Saudi Arabian Richest man donated “$16 Billion” in charity and kicked himself out of the billionaires club. The Rajhi family is regarded as Saudi Arabia’s wealthiest non-royals and one of the wor…
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Nowadays, parents send their brightest children to top ranking universities, and they send their children - who fail at everything else - to study Islamic sciences.!!
Then these same parents complain about the low quality of Islamic scholarships!
Why don’t you send your brightest children to study Islam, so you can produce high quality scholars?
Then, some of these children who were pushed into Islamic studies because they were failures in life, grow up, hating worldly education and discourage the society from making money etc. because they didn’t have them.
As the saying goes:
!دستش به آلو نمیرسه میگه آلو ترش است
‘𝗛𝗲 𝗰𝗼𝘂𝗹𝗱𝗻’𝘁 𝗿𝗲𝗮𝗰𝗵 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗽𝗹𝘂𝗺, 𝘀𝗼 𝗵𝗲 𝘀𝗮𝗶𝗱: 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗽𝗹𝘂𝗺 𝗶𝘀 𝘀𝗼𝘂𝗿!’
Nowadays, they also try to mix orphanages with madaris, and beg everyone to help the madaris for the sake of the orphans - this is also a mistake.
If you do that, many people will be put off from sending their children to study Islamic sciences, they will associate it with orphans and begging.
In the past, Islamic sciences were considered prestigious, people used to send their brightest children to study Islamic sciences - that’s why we flourished and produced so many great intellectuals.
We should restore the honour and lost prestige of Islamic education, remove the dust that covers its shine.
Then these same parents complain about the low quality of Islamic scholarships!
Why don’t you send your brightest children to study Islam, so you can produce high quality scholars?
Then, some of these children who were pushed into Islamic studies because they were failures in life, grow up, hating worldly education and discourage the society from making money etc. because they didn’t have them.
As the saying goes:
!دستش به آلو نمیرسه میگه آلو ترش است
‘𝗛𝗲 𝗰𝗼𝘂𝗹𝗱𝗻’𝘁 𝗿𝗲𝗮𝗰𝗵 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗽𝗹𝘂𝗺, 𝘀𝗼 𝗵𝗲 𝘀𝗮𝗶𝗱: 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗽𝗹𝘂𝗺 𝗶𝘀 𝘀𝗼𝘂𝗿!’
Nowadays, they also try to mix orphanages with madaris, and beg everyone to help the madaris for the sake of the orphans - this is also a mistake.
If you do that, many people will be put off from sending their children to study Islamic sciences, they will associate it with orphans and begging.
In the past, Islamic sciences were considered prestigious, people used to send their brightest children to study Islamic sciences - that’s why we flourished and produced so many great intellectuals.
We should restore the honour and lost prestige of Islamic education, remove the dust that covers its shine.
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Abu Huraira reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “When Friday arrives, angels are over the door of every mosque to record those who arrive one by one. When the Imam sits to begin, they close their scrolls and come to listen to the reminder. The parable of one who comes early is that of one who offers a fine camel, the next like one who offers a cow, the next like one who offers a ram, the next like one who offers a chicken, the next like one who offers an egg.”
Source: Ṣaḥīḥ al-Bukhārī 929, Ṣaḥīḥ Muslim 850
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim
عَنْ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ قَالَ قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ إِذَا كَانَ يَوْمُ الْجُمُعَةِ كَانَ عَلَى كُلِّ بَابٍ مِنْ أَبْوَابِ الْمَسْجِدِ مَلَائِكَةٌ يَكْتُبُونَ الْأَوَّلَ فَالْأَوَّلَ فَإِذَا جَلَسَ الْإِمَامُ طَوَوْا الصُّحُفَ وَجَاءُوا يَسْتَمِعُونَ الذِّكْرَ وَمَثَلُ الْمُهَجِّرِ كَمَثَلِ الَّذِي يُهْدِي الْبَدَنَةَ ثُمَّ كَالَّذِي يُهْدِي بَقَرَةً ثُمَّ كَالَّذِي يُهْدِي الْكَبْشَ ثُمَّ كَالَّذِي يُهْدِي الدَّجَاجَةَ ثُمَّ كَالَّذِي يُهْدِي الْبَيْضَةَ
929 صحيح البخاري كتاب الجمعة باب الاستماع إلى الخطبة
850 صحيح مسلم كتاب الجمعة باب فضل التهجير يوم الجمعة
Source: Ṣaḥīḥ al-Bukhārī 929, Ṣaḥīḥ Muslim 850
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim
عَنْ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ قَالَ قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ إِذَا كَانَ يَوْمُ الْجُمُعَةِ كَانَ عَلَى كُلِّ بَابٍ مِنْ أَبْوَابِ الْمَسْجِدِ مَلَائِكَةٌ يَكْتُبُونَ الْأَوَّلَ فَالْأَوَّلَ فَإِذَا جَلَسَ الْإِمَامُ طَوَوْا الصُّحُفَ وَجَاءُوا يَسْتَمِعُونَ الذِّكْرَ وَمَثَلُ الْمُهَجِّرِ كَمَثَلِ الَّذِي يُهْدِي الْبَدَنَةَ ثُمَّ كَالَّذِي يُهْدِي بَقَرَةً ثُمَّ كَالَّذِي يُهْدِي الْكَبْشَ ثُمَّ كَالَّذِي يُهْدِي الدَّجَاجَةَ ثُمَّ كَالَّذِي يُهْدِي الْبَيْضَةَ
929 صحيح البخاري كتاب الجمعة باب الاستماع إلى الخطبة
850 صحيح مسلم كتاب الجمعة باب فضل التهجير يوم الجمعة
So many Muslims celebrate pagan holidays now that non-Muslims no longer know the difference between what they do and what we "don't" do. I'm tired.
I needed to get that off my chest. Carry on.
I needed to get that off my chest. Carry on.
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When Others Harm Us
Imām Ibn Taimiyyah, may Allāh have mercy on him, said:
[One particular] kind [of patience is a slave of Allāh] having patience with what happens to him through [other] people’s actions¹ upon his wealth, honor, or [own] person; this type [of harm that happens out of a person’s own control] is very difficult to be patient with because the soul is conscious of someone causing harm to it, and it hates being overcome, so it seeks revenge.
No one can be patient with this type [of harm] other than the prophets and the very truest of their followers.
¹as opposed to what happens to him from Allah’s decree alone, like sickness (tr.)
Jāmiʿ Al-Masāʾil, vol. 1, p. 167.
Translator: Mikail ibn Mahboob Ariff
Date published: February 7th, 2022
Last updated: February 8th, 2022
https://tasfiyah.com/when-others-harm-us/
Imām Ibn Taimiyyah, may Allāh have mercy on him, said:
[One particular] kind [of patience is a slave of Allāh] having patience with what happens to him through [other] people’s actions¹ upon his wealth, honor, or [own] person; this type [of harm that happens out of a person’s own control] is very difficult to be patient with because the soul is conscious of someone causing harm to it, and it hates being overcome, so it seeks revenge.
No one can be patient with this type [of harm] other than the prophets and the very truest of their followers.
¹as opposed to what happens to him from Allah’s decree alone, like sickness (tr.)
Jāmiʿ Al-Masāʾil, vol. 1, p. 167.
Translator: Mikail ibn Mahboob Ariff
Date published: February 7th, 2022
Last updated: February 8th, 2022
https://tasfiyah.com/when-others-harm-us/
Al-Tasfiyah
When Others Harm Us - Al-Tasfiyah
When Others Harm Us Imām Ibn Taimiyyah, may Allāh have mercy on him, said: [One particular] kind [of patience is a slave of Allāh] having patience with what happens to him through [other] people’s actions¹ upon his wealth, honor, or [own] person; this type…
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Always remember that not all days are the same - "A DAY FOR YOU AND A DAY AGAINST YOU". So do not rejoice thinking that you will get away with your sins.
إِن يَمْسَسْكُمْ قَرْحٌ فَقَدْ مَسَّ الْقَوْمَ قَرْحٌ مِّثْلُهُ ۚ وَتِلْكَ الْأَيَّامُ نُدَاوِلُهَا بَيْنَ النَّاسِ
{If a wound has touched you, be sure a similar wound has touched the (opposing) people. And these days [of varying conditions - the good and not so good] We alternate among the people...}
📚 [Surah aal-`Imraan (3): 140]
إِن يَمْسَسْكُمْ قَرْحٌ فَقَدْ مَسَّ الْقَوْمَ قَرْحٌ مِّثْلُهُ ۚ وَتِلْكَ الْأَيَّامُ نُدَاوِلُهَا بَيْنَ النَّاسِ
{If a wound has touched you, be sure a similar wound has touched the (opposing) people. And these days [of varying conditions - the good and not so good] We alternate among the people...}
📚 [Surah aal-`Imraan (3): 140]
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"If it is money you want we will shower you with money, if it is women that you want we will provide you with the most beautiful women of your choice, if it is fame and position you want we will make you famous and give you authority, just give up on this call of La ilaha illa Allah (Tawhīd)".
Isn't this exactly what they are telling us today?
How many didn't sell their deen for money and comfort? How many aren't chasing women with their religious appearance (one sect is specifically famous for this), how many scholars and preachers didn't sell themselves and they did indeed become famous and were given authority?
Our response should be: "If you place the sun in my right hand and the moon in my left hand, I will not give up this call"
Isn't this exactly what they are telling us today?
How many didn't sell their deen for money and comfort? How many aren't chasing women with their religious appearance (one sect is specifically famous for this), how many scholars and preachers didn't sell themselves and they did indeed become famous and were given authority?
Our response should be: "If you place the sun in my right hand and the moon in my left hand, I will not give up this call"
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Hadith
عَنْ أَبِي مَالِكٍ الْحَارِثِ بْنِ عَاصِمٍ الْأَشْعَرِيِّ رَضِيَ اللهُ عَنْهُ قَالَ: قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه و سلم الطَّهُورُ شَطْرُ الْإِيمَانِ، وَالْحَمْدُ لِلَّهِ تَمْلَأُ الْمِيزَانَ، وَسُبْحَانَ اللَّهِ وَالْحَمْدُ لِلَّهِ تَمْلَآنِ -أَوْ: تَمْلَأُ- مَا بَيْنَ السَّمَاءِ وَالْأَرْضِ، وَالصَّلَاةُ نُورٌ، وَالصَّدَقَةُ بُرْهَانٌ، وَالصَّبْرُ ضِيَاءٌ، وَالْقُرْآنُ حُجَّةٌ لَك أَوْ عَلَيْك، كُلُّ النَّاسِ يَغْدُو، فَبَائِعٌ نَفْسَهُ فَمُعْتِقُهَا أَوْ مُوبِقُهَا". [رَوَاهُ مُسْلِمٌ]."
On the authority of Abu Malik al-Harith bin Asim al-Asharee (may Allah be pleased with him) who said:
The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said, "Purity is half of iman (faith). "Al-hamdu lillah (praise be to Allah)' fills the scales, and "subhan-Allah (how far is Allah from every imperfection) and "Al-hamdulillah (praise be to Allah)' fill that which is between heaven and earth. And the salah (prayer) is a light, and charity is a proof, and patience is illumination, and the Qur'an is a proof either for you or against you. Every person starts his day as a vendor of his soul, either freeing it or causing its ruin."
[Muslim]
عَنْ أَبِي مَالِكٍ الْحَارِثِ بْنِ عَاصِمٍ الْأَشْعَرِيِّ رَضِيَ اللهُ عَنْهُ قَالَ: قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه و سلم الطَّهُورُ شَطْرُ الْإِيمَانِ، وَالْحَمْدُ لِلَّهِ تَمْلَأُ الْمِيزَانَ، وَسُبْحَانَ اللَّهِ وَالْحَمْدُ لِلَّهِ تَمْلَآنِ -أَوْ: تَمْلَأُ- مَا بَيْنَ السَّمَاءِ وَالْأَرْضِ، وَالصَّلَاةُ نُورٌ، وَالصَّدَقَةُ بُرْهَانٌ، وَالصَّبْرُ ضِيَاءٌ، وَالْقُرْآنُ حُجَّةٌ لَك أَوْ عَلَيْك، كُلُّ النَّاسِ يَغْدُو، فَبَائِعٌ نَفْسَهُ فَمُعْتِقُهَا أَوْ مُوبِقُهَا". [رَوَاهُ مُسْلِمٌ]."
On the authority of Abu Malik al-Harith bin Asim al-Asharee (may Allah be pleased with him) who said:
The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said, "Purity is half of iman (faith). "Al-hamdu lillah (praise be to Allah)' fills the scales, and "subhan-Allah (how far is Allah from every imperfection) and "Al-hamdulillah (praise be to Allah)' fill that which is between heaven and earth. And the salah (prayer) is a light, and charity is a proof, and patience is illumination, and the Qur'an is a proof either for you or against you. Every person starts his day as a vendor of his soul, either freeing it or causing its ruin."
[Muslim]
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Likewise the Qādī Abul Hasan al Mawārdī (d.450 AH rahimahullahu) commented, saying:
"And Awn ibn Abdullah said: 'If your soul disobeys you in what it dislikes, then do not obey it in what it likes. And do not be deceived by the praise of those ignorant of your affairs.'
And some eloquent speakers have said: 'The one who has mastery over themselves restrains their desires, and the one who exercises patience in controlling their lust excels in manhood.'
At that point, one takes control of their soul, knowing its inclinations and understanding the consequences it may bring by rectifying its distortions and mending its corruptions...
Then, one carefully watches and guards what one possesses that is good and upright, guarding against deviance caused by heedlessness or inclinations caused by negligence. This enables one to attain righteousness and establish lasting happiness fully. Indeed, the one who remains foolishly heedless after suffering is lost and who becomes negligent after careful-mindedness is deviant."
Adab al-Dunyā wal-Dīn by al Mawārdī (p.236).
Book: Winning The War Within
The Heart, The Self, Angels & Devils
Selections from the works of
Ibn Taymiyyah, Ibn al-Qayyim And Others
Selected & Compiled By Abū Suhailah 'Umar Quinn
THAQAFA PRESS
P. 85, 86
"And Awn ibn Abdullah said: 'If your soul disobeys you in what it dislikes, then do not obey it in what it likes. And do not be deceived by the praise of those ignorant of your affairs.'
And some eloquent speakers have said: 'The one who has mastery over themselves restrains their desires, and the one who exercises patience in controlling their lust excels in manhood.'
At that point, one takes control of their soul, knowing its inclinations and understanding the consequences it may bring by rectifying its distortions and mending its corruptions...
Then, one carefully watches and guards what one possesses that is good and upright, guarding against deviance caused by heedlessness or inclinations caused by negligence. This enables one to attain righteousness and establish lasting happiness fully. Indeed, the one who remains foolishly heedless after suffering is lost and who becomes negligent after careful-mindedness is deviant."
Adab al-Dunyā wal-Dīn by al Mawārdī (p.236).
Book: Winning The War Within
The Heart, The Self, Angels & Devils
Selections from the works of
Ibn Taymiyyah, Ibn al-Qayyim And Others
Selected & Compiled By Abū Suhailah 'Umar Quinn
THAQAFA PRESS
P. 85, 86
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Place your trust & reliance in Allah
The Prophet ﷺ said:
“If the nations gathered together to benefit you, they will not benefit you unless Allah has decreed it for you. And if they gathered together to harm you, they will not harm you unless Allah has decreed it for you...”
- Hikmah Publications
#Allah #tawakkul #reliance
The Prophet ﷺ said:
“If the nations gathered together to benefit you, they will not benefit you unless Allah has decreed it for you. And if they gathered together to harm you, they will not harm you unless Allah has decreed it for you...”
- Hikmah Publications
#Allah #tawakkul #reliance
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DIRTY THE GLASS NOT THE SUNNAH.
Shaykh Abdul Azeez Ibn Baaz (rahimahullah) once entered a people who were eating. He was told that a young man was drinking water with his left hand. (Ibn Baaz rahimahullah by the way is totally blind ) He asked the young man why he was drinking with his left hand. The young man said;
"The glass will get dirty"
to which Ibn Baaz (raimahullah) responded
"Dirty the glass but don't dirty the Sunnah"
Allahuakbar.
Shaykh Abdul Azeez Ibn Baaz (rahimahullah) once entered a people who were eating. He was told that a young man was drinking water with his left hand. (Ibn Baaz rahimahullah by the way is totally blind ) He asked the young man why he was drinking with his left hand. The young man said;
"The glass will get dirty"
to which Ibn Baaz (raimahullah) responded
"Dirty the glass but don't dirty the Sunnah"
Allahuakbar.
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Narated By Abdullah bin 'Amr : The Prophet ﷺ said, "Al-Wasil is not the one who recompenses the good done to him by his relatives, but Al-Wasil is the one who keeps good relations with those relatives who had severed the bond of kinship with him".
[Bukhari Vol.8,Book.73,Hadith No.20]
[Bukhari Vol.8,Book.73,Hadith No.20]
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Al-'Allamah Ibn 'Uthaymin (رحمه الله) said:
"The wisdom in praying optional prayers at home:
1. Closer to sincerity,
2. Farther from showing off,
3. Prevents homes from becoming graveyards,
4. Makes the family love the prayer."
Fatawa Nur ala al-Darb (2/8).
"The wisdom in praying optional prayers at home:
1. Closer to sincerity,
2. Farther from showing off,
3. Prevents homes from becoming graveyards,
4. Makes the family love the prayer."
Fatawa Nur ala al-Darb (2/8).
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