your life is not an optimization problem

"as in you'll never achieve the perfect daily routine, sleep schedule, coping mechanisms, mannerisms, fashion sense etc. even after years and years of healing and improvement and self discovery. you will never be so good at life that you manage to utilize every walking moment. its great to be productive and all but sometimes you'll suck ass. sometimes you'll take eight hours to be done with a twenty minute job. you'll prioritize the wrong thing. you'll sleep for 12 hrs just to avoid being awake. you'll relapse. and you'll relapse again. you'll forget to turn in the assignment. you'll order too little food. life is far too large and complex for you to even experience it completely, much less try to make sense of and control it. you cant. please give up on that and be at peace with the hours you lose. they are not separate from your life"

self compassion, arts, growth

"every time you say "this is new for me" instead of "im bad at this", you allow your brain space to learn instead of shut down. that's neuroplasticity in real time"

digital, socialization, spoons

"{1}people who dont reply until days later, why?"

{2} its a relatively (very) new phenomenon that basically anyone in your life gets access to you at all times. it was only 20 years ago that if you left the house for the day you were actually gone. you'd return messages when you came back hours or even days later"

digital, activism, privacy, socialization

"{1} did u go protest today?

{2} good morning officer

{3} dont tell social media if you went to protests or not (especially if you didnt), dont give cops an easy way to track down protesters, punk life advice"

sonic, mental health

"new rule: never trust how you feel about your life after 9pm"

society, feminism, misogyny, lgbt

"you know why its so critically important to celebrate women over the age of 40?

because young women and girls need role models, need someone to aspire to become as they age.

as it is, society basically tells girls and young women: aspire to be 18-22. do not aspire or imagine past that, for you are useless without youth and beauty. do not aspire to be wise, or strong, beautiful without youth, or valuable with lines and wrinkles. and THAT is scary. we put a cap on aspirations for girls, because we want them to think the ideal comes and goes by 20 - when really, we're at our best for many, many years beyond"

mewtwo, pokemon, discrimination

"i see now that the circumstances of one's birth are irrelevant...

it is what you do with the gift of life that determines who you are"

bioessentialism, misogyny, misandry

"gender politics was a fucking mistake. ppl will really be like "men dont have the capacity to have authentic, normal human emotions like women do" and act like that's peak feminism and not an utterly fucking deranged thing to say about another person"

self compassion, growth, rest, paroxysms, mental illness

"moments of dysregulation are not when you need to figure it all out"

kids, minorities, disabilities, neurodivergency, feminism, suicide

"you have to stay alive. you're going to be such a beautiful middle aged freak. young freaks will see you in the streets and know that things can be okay."

socialization

"lemony snicket's advice on writing a nice thank-you note

1. do not start with the thank you

2. start with any other sentence. if you first say "thank you for the nice sweater", you cant imagine what to say next. say, "it was so wonderful to come home from school to find this nice sweater. thank you for thinking of me on arbor day."

3. then you're done"

relationships, society, invisible problems

"{1}unpopular opinion but its cool if you dont want to be in love

{1} like, idk. i used to feel so compelled to make excuses for being single, whether it was self-deprecating jokes about myself or insisting that i was too busy for a relationship or making myself go out on uncomfortable and pointless dates just to make a show of trying to not be single. there's such an expectation that if you're single you should be actively working of changing that, and its like. nah. there are 9999 other things you can be focusing your time and energy on and if you dont really feel like being in a relationship now or ever thats cool.

{2} true wether someone is aromantic or not"

lgbt, digital, self compassion

"the baseline of queer resistance is survival: dont burn yourself out.

dont get bogged-down in the news. sleep enough, eat enough, REST ENOUGH, and seek some joy. reinvest some time into hobbies.

queer fightback can only be accomplished when you have looked-after yourself: queer joy is rebellion"

society

"keep religion out of politics, if you dont want an abortion dont get one. freedom of religion is "hey thats against my religion so I cant do that" NOT "hey thats against my religion so YOU cant do that"
"

battery recharging, self care, rest

"you wouldnt let this happen to your phone. dont let it happen to you either.

SELF CARE IS A PRIORITY.
NOT A LUXURY."

self esteem, self compassion, impostor syndrome, guilt

"u need to start believing that nothing is too good for you"

society, children, politics, digital, social networks, unrealistic expectations

"{1}opinions on leninism?

{2} i honest to god hate this website so much on what planet would this matter to you. i am a 18 year old girl im barely out of high school and im getting an illustration degree not anything to do with politics. i hit a gatorade bong on top of a deserted parging garage in adventure zone cosplay once. why am i an authority on this subject now"

art, guilt, impostor syndrome, perfectionism

"smash the idea that you gotta be good at artistic things to enjoy them, that every hobby has to become something you're so good at, you can monetize it

a capitalist lie.

sign offkey, draw poorly, write badly. life is meant to be enjoyed, not monetized.
you're not a product."

parenting, children, society, unrealistic age expectations

"{1} daria, what is your goal?
{2} um... i dont have any
{1} oh! come, daria!
{2} my goal is to not wake up at 40 with the realization that i wasted my life in a job i hate because i was forced to decide on a career in my teens"