society, mental health

"you cant change the people around you,
but
you can change the people around you"

self compassion, art, frustration tolerance

"you'll be surprised by the many talents hidden within you if you gave yourself the permission to be a beginner"

unscheduled post:

potentially useful link for usamericans
https://www.feedingamerica.org/find-your-local-foodbank

math, general life advice, statistics, media manipulation

"heres the thing you gotta understand about statistics.

"increases your chances by 80%" does not mean "there is now an 80% chance".

if your chances were previously 10%, your chances are now 18%, not 90%

if your chances were roughly 1%, they're now just slightly less than 2%

thats how that works

verbiage used when describing statistics is often manipulated to prey on a target audiences ignorance. i think it's important to understand these basic concepts"

invisible problems, executive dysfunction, disabilities

"its a lot healthier to go for a daily walk than to sign up for a gym membership you wont be using because you hate that kind of exercise. its a lot healthier to eat a frozen meal than to skip a meal because you were too tired to cook something healthy. its a lot healthier to take a quick shower than to procrastinate an elaborate routine for days. dont aim so high that you wont be hitting anything!"

boundaries, socialization

"its impossible to please everyone. the question is whether you're disappointing the right people.

part of setting healthy boundaries is deciding who you're willing to let down - and who has the right to make you feel guilty.

not everyone deserves power over your emotions."

growth, healing

"sometimes you need a "stop doing" list as badly as you do a "to do" list"

minorities, oppression, society

"equal rights for other doesnt mean fewer rights for you. its not pie."

digital, socialization, neurodivergency

"lets talk about the sarcasm switch aka /s

-adding /s to the end of a statement is used in many online communities to denote sarcasm
-this is useful to people who have trouble reading the tone of a statement without verbal indicators
-this especially helps include neurodiverse folks in the conversation!
-this type of slang is based on html syntax, and there's more:
-/s - sarcastic
-/j - joking
-/srs - serious
-/hj - half joking

and more besides! like emojis, html tone indicators provide important context & clarification to written communication. you can include a wider audience by using them, and autistic readers like me will really appreciate it!"

your life is not an optimization problem

"as in you'll never achieve the perfect daily routine, sleep schedule, coping mechanisms, mannerisms, fashion sense etc. even after years and years of healing and improvement and self discovery. you will never be so good at life that you manage to utilize every walking moment. its great to be productive and all but sometimes you'll suck ass. sometimes you'll take eight hours to be done with a twenty minute job. you'll prioritize the wrong thing. you'll sleep for 12 hrs just to avoid being awake. you'll relapse. and you'll relapse again. you'll forget to turn in the assignment. you'll order too little food. life is far too large and complex for you to even experience it completely, much less try to make sense of and control it. you cant. please give up on that and be at peace with the hours you lose. they are not separate from your life"

self compassion, arts, growth

"every time you say "this is new for me" instead of "im bad at this", you allow your brain space to learn instead of shut down. that's neuroplasticity in real time"

digital, socialization, spoons

"{1}people who dont reply until days later, why?"

{2} its a relatively (very) new phenomenon that basically anyone in your life gets access to you at all times. it was only 20 years ago that if you left the house for the day you were actually gone. you'd return messages when you came back hours or even days later"

digital, activism, privacy, socialization

"{1} did u go protest today?

{2} good morning officer

{3} dont tell social media if you went to protests or not (especially if you didnt), dont give cops an easy way to track down protesters, punk life advice"

sonic, mental health

"new rule: never trust how you feel about your life after 9pm"

society, feminism, misogyny, lgbt

"you know why its so critically important to celebrate women over the age of 40?

because young women and girls need role models, need someone to aspire to become as they age.

as it is, society basically tells girls and young women: aspire to be 18-22. do not aspire or imagine past that, for you are useless without youth and beauty. do not aspire to be wise, or strong, beautiful without youth, or valuable with lines and wrinkles. and THAT is scary. we put a cap on aspirations for girls, because we want them to think the ideal comes and goes by 20 - when really, we're at our best for many, many years beyond"

mewtwo, pokemon, discrimination

"i see now that the circumstances of one's birth are irrelevant...

it is what you do with the gift of life that determines who you are"

bioessentialism, misogyny, misandry

"gender politics was a fucking mistake. ppl will really be like "men dont have the capacity to have authentic, normal human emotions like women do" and act like that's peak feminism and not an utterly fucking deranged thing to say about another person"

self compassion, growth, rest, paroxysms, mental illness

"moments of dysregulation are not when you need to figure it all out"

kids, minorities, disabilities, neurodivergency, feminism, suicide

"you have to stay alive. you're going to be such a beautiful middle aged freak. young freaks will see you in the streets and know that things can be okay."

socialization

"lemony snicket's advice on writing a nice thank-you note

1. do not start with the thank you

2. start with any other sentence. if you first say "thank you for the nice sweater", you cant imagine what to say next. say, "it was so wonderful to come home from school to find this nice sweater. thank you for thinking of me on arbor day."

3. then you're done"

relationships, society, invisible problems

"{1}unpopular opinion but its cool if you dont want to be in love

{1} like, idk. i used to feel so compelled to make excuses for being single, whether it was self-deprecating jokes about myself or insisting that i was too busy for a relationship or making myself go out on uncomfortable and pointless dates just to make a show of trying to not be single. there's such an expectation that if you're single you should be actively working of changing that, and its like. nah. there are 9999 other things you can be focusing your time and energy on and if you dont really feel like being in a relationship now or ever thats cool.

{2} true wether someone is aromantic or not"