polyamory, socialization

"polyamory. is. not. just. about. sex."

posts will resume now for at least another two weeks uninterrupted. the tagging will most probably still be deficient, and if anyone has suggestions for better tagging, they will be appreciated

socialization, chronic illness, mental health

"when you go out into the woods, and you look at trees, you see all these different trees. and some of them are bent..."

impostor syndrome, mental health, self compassion

"a friendly reminder :D

idk who needs to hear this today, but just a friendly reminder: if you're scared that you might be faking something*, you are not faking it"

gaslight, activism, mental health

"dont allow others to gaslight you into believing that fighting for justice is divisive"

boundaries, socialization

"these two things are simultaneously true:

1) bad people can and do improve themselves and deserve to have the ability to do so.

2) even if a person improves, people who they've hurt are not required to forgive them or give them another chance to be in their lives."

art, self compassion

"its okay to be a begginer at the things you are interested in"

mental health

"be firm about your choices right now"

parenting, invisible problems, mental health

"so i was out to eat and this child (maybe 3 years old) in the booth next to us started crying loudly"

free spech, fascism, socialization

"you're mistaking free speech with hate speech. hate speech isnt censored - its contained. because if it runs rampant, people die.

hate speech breeds fascism. fascism kills. fascism kills because hate speech normalises the idea that people should die because of who they are"

{credit: "the_catboy" in gbatemp (?)}

self compassion

"if you ever think you're too small to make a difference, try to sleep with a mosquito in your room"

love, socialization

"if you love a flower, dont pick it up"

lgbt, society

"why is it always "queer people are projecting their identities onto characters" and never "straight people are presuming that their identity is the default"?

socialization, mental health, chronic illness

"and dont fucking tell people that they're not trying"

unscheduled reminder that looking for support is not the same as looking for attention

self compassion, mental health

"today my anthro professor said something kindof really beautiful:

you all have a little bit of "i want to save the world" in you, thats why you're here, in college. i want you to know that it's okay if you only save one person, and it's okay if that person is you" "

lgbt, mental health, socialization

"I'm gonna say it here too. Allow me to be crystal fucking clear.

It is not cowardly to stay in the closet. Full stop. You do not owe anyone any part of yourself you aren't ready to share

If you unable to come out because you fear for your safety or well-being or because you know it will cause you substantial discomfort, that is not a defect in you. It's a failure of the society in which you live and the community
surrounding you.

If you just don't want to share that part of yourself, that is valid and i support you"

mental health, progress, chronic illness

"the strenght we are taught to admire

the strength we should also admire"

abuse, ptsd, mental health, socialization

"You are not obligated to forgive your
abusers.

Not if they're dying.
Not if they've found Jesus.
Not if they beg.
Not if they just want to know your kids.

You do not owe your abusers anything. It is not an act of aggression to close the door and never look back."

ptsd, mental health

"Signs you are healing from trauma

-You are aware of your triggers and patterns
-You are not as easily and intensily triggered
-Quicker return to your normal state after you've gone into fight/flight/freeze
-Your emotional intelligence has improved
-Feelings of powerlessness and helplessness change into confidence, worthiness and inner strength
-Selfsabotage, shame and guilt are diminishing
-Feelings of being stuck turn into realisation that taking a step forward is possible"

mental health, self compassion

"you are not lazy, unmotivated or stuck. after years of living your life in survival mode, you are exhausted. there's a difference"