self compassion

"if you ever think you're too small to make a difference, try to sleep with a mosquito in your room"

love, socialization

"if you love a flower, dont pick it up"

lgbt, society

"why is it always "queer people are projecting their identities onto characters" and never "straight people are presuming that their identity is the default"?

socialization, mental health, chronic illness

"and dont fucking tell people that they're not trying"

unscheduled reminder that looking for support is not the same as looking for attention

self compassion, mental health

"today my anthro professor said something kindof really beautiful:

you all have a little bit of "i want to save the world" in you, thats why you're here, in college. i want you to know that it's okay if you only save one person, and it's okay if that person is you" "

lgbt, mental health, socialization

"I'm gonna say it here too. Allow me to be crystal fucking clear.

It is not cowardly to stay in the closet. Full stop. You do not owe anyone any part of yourself you aren't ready to share

If you unable to come out because you fear for your safety or well-being or because you know it will cause you substantial discomfort, that is not a defect in you. It's a failure of the society in which you live and the community
surrounding you.

If you just don't want to share that part of yourself, that is valid and i support you"

mental health, progress, chronic illness

"the strenght we are taught to admire

the strength we should also admire"

abuse, ptsd, mental health, socialization

"You are not obligated to forgive your
abusers.

Not if they're dying.
Not if they've found Jesus.
Not if they beg.
Not if they just want to know your kids.

You do not owe your abusers anything. It is not an act of aggression to close the door and never look back."

ptsd, mental health

"Signs you are healing from trauma

-You are aware of your triggers and patterns
-You are not as easily and intensily triggered
-Quicker return to your normal state after you've gone into fight/flight/freeze
-Your emotional intelligence has improved
-Feelings of powerlessness and helplessness change into confidence, worthiness and inner strength
-Selfsabotage, shame and guilt are diminishing
-Feelings of being stuck turn into realisation that taking a step forward is possible"

mental health, self compassion

"you are not lazy, unmotivated or stuck. after years of living your life in survival mode, you are exhausted. there's a difference"

"kids who arent fed kindness with a spoon learn to lick it off knives"
be kind to your inner child

abuse, mental health, socialization

"who gets to decide if the wound hurts? if the would has healed? the injured? or the injurer?"

mental health, socialization

"your growth doesn't ennoscript you to a second chance with me. the part of me that cares about you is proud of the strides you've made, but the part of me that cares about myself knows not to indulge in your energy ever again."

therapy, mental health

"therapist warning signs"

self compassion, mental health

"a history of trauma can give you a high tolerance for emotional pain. just because you can take it doesn't mean you have to"

mental health

"when you feel like everyone hates you sleep

when you feel like you hate everyone eat

when you feel like you hate yourself shower"

abuse, mental health, survivorship bias

" "the trauma made you kind" fuck that. no. i am kind because i cannot allow anyone to go through what i did. i am soft because i chose to be.

Trauma made me scared, angry, and vulnerable.
I made myself kind.

“Ten spears go to battle," he whispered, "and nine shatter. Did the war forge the one that remained? No, Amaram. All the war did was identify the spear that would not break.”
- Brandon Sanderson’s Oathbringer "

mental health, socialization

"dont let getting lonely make you reconnect with toxic people. you shouldnt drink poison just because you're thirsty"