and an extra post today since why not

boundaries, socialization, body

"do i have to hug them?
a handy guide"

binding, lgbt

"also dont ever use ace bandage for binding, its designed to restrict blood flow. and your chest is kinda where you always want the most bloodflow"

[everybody with experience/tips to give is welcome to leave a message in this post]

boundaries, socialization

"its okay to outgrow things and people that keep you stuck"

socialization, boundaries

"what i say
what they hear
what i mean"

body, socialization, society

"fat shaming children does not create thin adults. it creates adults who have a really messed-up relationship with their bodies"

boundaries, socialization

"you can love someone AND put space between you

you can forgive someone AND refuse to let them back in

you can have boundaries AND keep people close

you can put yourself first AND give back to others

life is not black and white"

socialization, boundaries, relationships

"if you ever date an asexual person be sure to get the specifics of their asexuality because the level of comfort is different for all of us
[...]
permission once is not permission forever no matter your sexuality"

self compassion

"in a society that profits from self doubt, loving yourself is a rebellious act"

boundaries, socialization

" "you only got one family"
yeah you only got one appendix too but when it fucks with your health you cut that bitch out of your life"

discrimination, minorities

"you dont get to decide that a group of people dont face any discrimination because you dont think they do"

labels, lgbt

"something people really need to accept is that fluidity is present in everyone. you may not identify the same way you did five years ago, one year ago, even last week"

mental illness, socialization, invisible problems, depression, chronic fatigue

"depressed person: [exists]
person thats never experienced clinical depression before: have you tried doing this extremely long list of things that you definitely dont have the energy to do to cheer up?"

unscheduled post
family, socialization, self compassion, abuse

"holiday rules:

1. do not go into debt trying to show people you love them

2. do not go home to see family if it damages your mental health

3. if someone comments on your weight, eat them"

self compassion, society, body

"do i like my legs smooth? or do i just want to wear shorts without getting weird looks?

do i need support? or am i just uncomfortable when people stare at my nipples?

do i like long hair? or am i just worried about appearing less femenine?

would it be so scary to not care at all?"

socialization, self compassion

"if you want to say thank you dont say sorry"

labels, lgbt, neurodivergency

"
1. labels exist to help people understand things about themselves and others
2. you arent obligated to use labels you dont find comfortable or helpful, even if others try to press them on you"

body

"reasons to hit the gym that arent patriarchal beauty standards:"

boundaries, self compassion

"you are not required to set yourself on fire to keep other people warm"