socialization, boundaries, relationships

"if you ever date an asexual person be sure to get the specifics of their asexuality because the level of comfort is different for all of us
[...]
permission once is not permission forever no matter your sexuality"

self compassion

"in a society that profits from self doubt, loving yourself is a rebellious act"

boundaries, socialization

" "you only got one family"
yeah you only got one appendix too but when it fucks with your health you cut that bitch out of your life"

discrimination, minorities

"you dont get to decide that a group of people dont face any discrimination because you dont think they do"

labels, lgbt

"something people really need to accept is that fluidity is present in everyone. you may not identify the same way you did five years ago, one year ago, even last week"

mental illness, socialization, invisible problems, depression, chronic fatigue

"depressed person: [exists]
person thats never experienced clinical depression before: have you tried doing this extremely long list of things that you definitely dont have the energy to do to cheer up?"

unscheduled post
family, socialization, self compassion, abuse

"holiday rules:

1. do not go into debt trying to show people you love them

2. do not go home to see family if it damages your mental health

3. if someone comments on your weight, eat them"

self compassion, society, body

"do i like my legs smooth? or do i just want to wear shorts without getting weird looks?

do i need support? or am i just uncomfortable when people stare at my nipples?

do i like long hair? or am i just worried about appearing less femenine?

would it be so scary to not care at all?"

socialization, self compassion

"if you want to say thank you dont say sorry"

labels, lgbt, neurodivergency

"
1. labels exist to help people understand things about themselves and others
2. you arent obligated to use labels you dont find comfortable or helpful, even if others try to press them on you"

body

"reasons to hit the gym that arent patriarchal beauty standards:"

boundaries, self compassion

"you are not required to set yourself on fire to keep other people warm"

self compassion, mental health

"the version of you right now is deserving of love"

nature

"treated with neonicotinoids
[...]
do not buy plants treated with neoniconoids. bees take the pollen back to the hive and feed it to the brood"

unscheduled reminder for those who use binders: you are supposed to have at least one day every week of not wearing it, at all. here is a reminder, also, that the moment where it starts to hurt should be the moment you take it off and let your body rest for a few hours

activism

"look at how nasty humanity is, we're not worth saving, mother nature is trying to wipe us out

i love how apathetic observes enable my preventable violence"

self compassion, socialization, boundaries

"breakups are ok. starting over is ok. moving on is ok. what is not ok is staying somewhere where you are not happy, valued, or appreciated. thats not ok."

society

" "well in my day..." shut up. in your day black people had separate water fountains and gays were thrown in jail. this is OUR day now and you will embrace change or die on the wrong side of history"

society

"i think part of the issue is people assuming that everyone MUST want to move upwards. like... its the next logical step for a person to want to move up the chain from worker to manager, to district manager, eventually owner.

but i always think of growth like plants.

aspens grow tall to reach the sun, for sure. but dandelions grow deep, understanding themselves fully so that if some misguided fool tries to uproot them they'll have to try damn hard. and then there's thyme and other creeping plants, which spread themselves out so much that if you try to chop a part of it off it roots wherever it can find dirt to root in

its okay not to have lofty dreams. you know what kind of plant you are better than anyone else"