relationships, boundaries, socialization

"your partner is allowed to have meaningful relationships with other people

your partner is allowed to get things from those relationships they dont get from you

demanding you being the only source of pleasure and support in their life is possesive and toxic"

body, society

"every time i hate my body, i remember that there are millions of old rich white men who benefit from my self hatred"

socialization, boundaries, mental health

"maybe i dont have to be so though
maybe i can be vulnerable sometimes"

lgbt, discrimination, socialization

" "but the children will be confused!"

i actually would have been a lot less confused if someone had just told me"

self compassion, mental health

"if courage isnt the absence of fear but doing the right thing regardless of it, maybe confidence isnt the absence of insecurity but knowing you have real worth despite it"

socialization, discrimination

"i hate that when the discussion turns to helping people, there's always someone who takes the most ungenerous, contemptible stand towards others.

if by helping legitimately needy people, i accidentally help some lazy people, so what? how is that worse than helping no one?"

lgbt, socialization, minorities

" "we can agree to disagree on trans issues"
No, we really cant

because disagreeing with the validity of someone's identity - and the rights and services they deserve or dont deserve because of it - is discrimination, not disagreement"

self compassion, growth

"relapsing is part of recovery & healing

you have not failed"

socialization

"im learning to understand and accept that sometimes people just want to vent, and dont require my input or opinion about what bothers them
[...]
sometimes there's a third option, you just listen. someone having a bad day isnt a task i must pick up"

self compassion, mental health, chronic illness, invisible problems

"your bare minimum isnt actually that bare or minimum"

neurodivergency, adhd, autism, body

"this is a reminder for autistic people who dont feel hunger or thirst signals to eat and drink something

also reminder for autistic people who dont feel pain and cold signals to do a quick evaluation on if you're uncomfortable"

unscheduled reminder that many if not most lgbt+ people go trough months or years of confusion and uncertainty without being sure what they are ("i know/strongly suspect that im not cishet but what am i exactly? what am i comfortable with?", etc) and that nobody is a failure nor a faker if they are unsure and/or confused.

if you feel like an intruder in a space that you perceive as undeserved, remember that the Q in lgbtiq stands for "questioning" as well, not only for queer
if you feel pressured to find a label to introduce yourself with, be careful not to force yourself into things that you are not comfortable with just because you feel like you owe anyone some explanation

if you cant pinpoint what exact labels apply to you, there is nothing wrong with that. there are many people who in the end, decide that no label applies to them, and it is perfectly valid to decide that. everybody's journey is unique, dont try to rush it just to imitate others' journeys. if you dont have any label for yourself yet, it is okay. if you are unsure if some label applies to you, its okay. if you feel more comfortable while thinking of yourself as lgbt+, but you cant identify with any letter, go with q. its okay.

self compassion, socialization, society

"you should really stop wasting your time like this
do something"

body, digital

"we need like "unclench your jaw" posts but like for eye strain
[...]
take off your glasses if you wear them for 20 seconds
[...]
look at something 20 feet away, then 10, then 5, then 1, then if you can your nose"

[note: 20 feet = 6 meters, 5 ft=1.5m, 1=0.3]

lgbt, relationships

"cheating isnt an expression of polyamory and polyamory isnt a solution to cheating"

society, body

"besides the misogyny i feel like the key reason why you dont see female gender non conformity celebrated in popular culture/media the same way we're starting to see male gender non conformity celebrated is that its nos profitable or marketable... you cant exactly sell a lack of makeup and shaving products to whomen whereas selling all that feminity shit to men opens up a whole new demographic to make money off of"

self compassion

"dont worry if you make waves simply by being yourself. the moon does it all the time"