discrimination, minorities, socialization
"i say this in my classes:
the problem isnt men, its patriarchy.
the problem isnt white people, its white supremacy.
the problems isnt straight people, its homophobia.
recognize systems of oppression before letting individual defensiveness paralyze you from dismantling them"
"i say this in my classes:
the problem isnt men, its patriarchy.
the problem isnt white people, its white supremacy.
the problems isnt straight people, its homophobia.
recognize systems of oppression before letting individual defensiveness paralyze you from dismantling them"
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discrimination, minorities, society
" "how can you not be angry?"
"i am angry", the werewolf said. "but unlike you, i dont have the luxury of showing it without being called a monster. without someone taking it as a sing of proof that i need to be put down like a rabid dog, that im just like what the stories tell you" "
" "how can you not be angry?"
"i am angry", the werewolf said. "but unlike you, i dont have the luxury of showing it without being called a monster. without someone taking it as a sing of proof that i need to be put down like a rabid dog, that im just like what the stories tell you" "
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self compassion, trauma, socialization
"you hate yourself so loudly. [...] sorry, sorry, sorry. you act as if you have to beat everyone else to the punch. as if the punching bag is you. if you hate yourself first, if you hate yourself loudest, then nobody will hurt you [...] and it meant you never heard their love"
"you hate yourself so loudly. [...] sorry, sorry, sorry. you act as if you have to beat everyone else to the punch. as if the punching bag is you. if you hate yourself first, if you hate yourself loudest, then nobody will hurt you [...] and it meant you never heard their love"
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unscheduled reminder that a poly relationship does not equal an open relationship. polyamory is about being able to love more than one person at a time, not about always being open to the possibility of having more partners
if you feel like there are enough people in your relationship already, and feel like bringing more would become more than you could manage, unpleasant in some way, "too complicated to really have a good time" you are allowed to think and say so. a big part of every relationship is setting and respecting boundaries, not only others' but your own too
if you feel like there are enough people in your relationship already, and feel like bringing more would become more than you could manage, unpleasant in some way, "too complicated to really have a good time" you are allowed to think and say so. a big part of every relationship is setting and respecting boundaries, not only others' but your own too
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socialization, relationships
"i personally wanna see less 'you are not a burden/its not work to love you' and more 'you are worth the work it takes to love you' [...]
pretending love isnt work will never make people like me feel less guilty for accepting love. we need to talk about it so people dont feel bad for having boundaries and not always being up to do the work. we need to accept it so we can properly appreciate what others do for us and what we're doing for them"
"i personally wanna see less 'you are not a burden/its not work to love you' and more 'you are worth the work it takes to love you' [...]
pretending love isnt work will never make people like me feel less guilty for accepting love. we need to talk about it so people dont feel bad for having boundaries and not always being up to do the work. we need to accept it so we can properly appreciate what others do for us and what we're doing for them"
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