self compassion, trauma, socialization
"you hate yourself so loudly. [...] sorry, sorry, sorry. you act as if you have to beat everyone else to the punch. as if the punching bag is you. if you hate yourself first, if you hate yourself loudest, then nobody will hurt you [...] and it meant you never heard their love"
"you hate yourself so loudly. [...] sorry, sorry, sorry. you act as if you have to beat everyone else to the punch. as if the punching bag is you. if you hate yourself first, if you hate yourself loudest, then nobody will hurt you [...] and it meant you never heard their love"
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unscheduled reminder that a poly relationship does not equal an open relationship. polyamory is about being able to love more than one person at a time, not about always being open to the possibility of having more partners
if you feel like there are enough people in your relationship already, and feel like bringing more would become more than you could manage, unpleasant in some way, "too complicated to really have a good time" you are allowed to think and say so. a big part of every relationship is setting and respecting boundaries, not only others' but your own too
if you feel like there are enough people in your relationship already, and feel like bringing more would become more than you could manage, unpleasant in some way, "too complicated to really have a good time" you are allowed to think and say so. a big part of every relationship is setting and respecting boundaries, not only others' but your own too
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socialization, relationships
"i personally wanna see less 'you are not a burden/its not work to love you' and more 'you are worth the work it takes to love you' [...]
pretending love isnt work will never make people like me feel less guilty for accepting love. we need to talk about it so people dont feel bad for having boundaries and not always being up to do the work. we need to accept it so we can properly appreciate what others do for us and what we're doing for them"
"i personally wanna see less 'you are not a burden/its not work to love you' and more 'you are worth the work it takes to love you' [...]
pretending love isnt work will never make people like me feel less guilty for accepting love. we need to talk about it so people dont feel bad for having boundaries and not always being up to do the work. we need to accept it so we can properly appreciate what others do for us and what we're doing for them"
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self compassion, body, society, chronic illness, invisible problems
"the body positivity movement needs to start moving hard into including disabled bodies and this is what i mean by that
[...]
unhealthy bodies deserve to be appreciated too [...] your body is what allows you to exist, [...] your body is what your loved ones see when they look at you and the love they feel for it as an extension of you makes it a good body"
"the body positivity movement needs to start moving hard into including disabled bodies and this is what i mean by that
[...]
unhealthy bodies deserve to be appreciated too [...] your body is what allows you to exist, [...] your body is what your loved ones see when they look at you and the love they feel for it as an extension of you makes it a good body"
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sex, relationships, trauma, abuse
when teenage girls have crushes on you its your job as an adult male to ignore it
[...]
this is the bare minimum of decent human behavior for ANY gender. if you are an adult and someone who is not an adult wants to have a relationship with you, its your duty to, at bare minimum, turn them away
[...]
having crushes on adults is a normal adolescent thing, but it doesnt mean they're ready for -or for that matter, want- an actual relationship with said adult. its a goddamn developmental phase for kids working out their sexuality, and treating it as a chance to get laid is fucking monstruous
[...]
teenagers often have crushes on older and/or unavailable people like celebrities precisely because psychologically/emotionally they're not ready to have a relationship. on a subconscious level, fantasizing about someone you know you cant be with allows you to experiment with your emotions in a safe way. and obviously an adult taking advantage of that will disrupt the entire thing"
when teenage girls have crushes on you its your job as an adult male to ignore it
[...]
this is the bare minimum of decent human behavior for ANY gender. if you are an adult and someone who is not an adult wants to have a relationship with you, its your duty to, at bare minimum, turn them away
[...]
having crushes on adults is a normal adolescent thing, but it doesnt mean they're ready for -or for that matter, want- an actual relationship with said adult. its a goddamn developmental phase for kids working out their sexuality, and treating it as a chance to get laid is fucking monstruous
[...]
teenagers often have crushes on older and/or unavailable people like celebrities precisely because psychologically/emotionally they're not ready to have a relationship. on a subconscious level, fantasizing about someone you know you cant be with allows you to experiment with your emotions in a safe way. and obviously an adult taking advantage of that will disrupt the entire thing"
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insomnia, rest, anxiety
"thank god for the mythbusters though because it used to be that whenever i knew i had insomnia i'd just kind of accept it and stay up doing whatever until my morning classes and spend the day feeling like shit
but then they did an episode where they established that even just fucking lying there for a half hour, not even sleeping just laying there and not even for an hour, makes a significant difference and you'll feel way better"
"thank god for the mythbusters though because it used to be that whenever i knew i had insomnia i'd just kind of accept it and stay up doing whatever until my morning classes and spend the day feeling like shit
but then they did an episode where they established that even just fucking lying there for a half hour, not even sleeping just laying there and not even for an hour, makes a significant difference and you'll feel way better"
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