digital, socialization

"if you're offline or away and i message you something (like a link to a meme or a picture or w/e) honestly just assume that im just leaving it there for when you get back and not expecting you to answer straight away. i dont need you to respond with "hey sorry, i wasnt at the computer!" or anything.
[...]
just because we have the ability to reply in real time does not mean we have the obligation"

socialization

"your shitty childhood isnt an excuse to be a shitty person. your shitty luck with relationships isnt an excuse to be a shitty person. your shitty experiences arent an excuse to be a shitty person. we ALL have our shit, and you can either let it define you, or you grow from it"

socialization, adhd

"neurotypicals will be like"

lgbt

"thinking about how the narrative around medical transition is all body hate, when in fact reworking my body has been a supreme act of love"

art

"to whomever needs to hear this: your art matters. please dont stop creating."

socialization, self compassion

"animals learn their most vital skill fast
hours old foal can run, a newly hatched snake can bite
what do babies do?
babies cry
your most important survival skill is asking for help"

body

"dont forget to drink water and get sun.
you're basically a houseplant with complicated emotions"

socialization, mental health, labels

"it is past time we jettisoned the useless false dichotomy of introversion vs extroversion"

self compassion, rest

"capitalism is like. resting is a waste of time. eating is a waste of time. sleeping is a waste of time."

mental health, cognitive defusion

"i was just about to spiral into a bad panic attack, and my boyfriend goes "stick an ice cube in your mouth" "

self compassion, labels

" "its just a phase"

the moon has phases but is still literally always the moon. just because the moon's doing something different today doesnt mean it was lying about being the moon yesterday"

feminism

"just cant vibe with the kind of feminism that implies or states outright that the reason men mistreat women is because of some insurmountable biological difference rather than social phenomena. you're not explaining or saying anything interesting about misogyny you're just naturalizing it"

activism

"i was at whole foods yesterday"

parenting

"y'all refuse to be a safe heaven for children on some "the real world wont coddle them" bullshit. of course it wont, thats why they need to learn what love looks like so they can recognize when they're being treated badly. dont normalize pain and disappointment."

self compassion, growth, healing

"a tree doesnt grow any faster when you sit there and criticize it.

neither do you."

anxiety, socialization

"as an introvert, the best thing is finding someone who isnt draining to spend time with

its interesting trying to explain to people who dont experience social exhaustion that there are some people who are less draining than others [...]. all socializing is not equal"

self compassion, mental health

"the hard truths about self-care"

socialization

"use things,
not people.
love people,
not things."

socialization

"not sure if this will make sense to anyone besides me but: the antidote to negativity is not positivity, its warmth

positivity tells a sad person that there is no reason to be sad, warmth asks the sad person if they want to go get some ice cream"