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"you can be angry about things but still make the conscious decision not to be cruel. when we remind each other to be kind, we're not saying dont be mad. theres a lot of stuff to be mad about right now. but you can still be a kind and patient person. you dont have to be mean to other people. you can choose"
"you can be angry about things but still make the conscious decision not to be cruel. when we remind each other to be kind, we're not saying dont be mad. theres a lot of stuff to be mad about right now. but you can still be a kind and patient person. you dont have to be mean to other people. you can choose"
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unscheduled post:
an admin's friend is having economic issues, namely that their current job does not pay enough to afford medication and post-surgery extra costs (on top of the regular rent, electricity, insurance, phone/internet expenses). this post is an extraordinary promotion of that, so that people here can chime and help with it
always remember to only give what you dont need and never give any amount of money that could have an impact on your own life. at this point, literally any amount helps
thank you
https://ko-fi.com/aleixsamael
everyone here is welcome to share this post with whoever they consider appropriate
an admin's friend is having economic issues, namely that their current job does not pay enough to afford medication and post-surgery extra costs (on top of the regular rent, electricity, insurance, phone/internet expenses). this post is an extraordinary promotion of that, so that people here can chime and help with it
always remember to only give what you dont need and never give any amount of money that could have an impact on your own life. at this point, literally any amount helps
thank you
https://ko-fi.com/aleixsamael
everyone here is welcome to share this post with whoever they consider appropriate
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abuse, trauma, impostor syndrome, parenting
"what people dont understand about abusive parents
what people dont understand about abusive parents is that we cant always hate them. we cant just constantly hate them because a lot of them are quite nice half the time
it makes it hard to hate them because its like "they've been horrible to me but they treated me to a present yesterday or a cute little chocolate bar so i'd me rude to hate them because of what the've done for me" and its destroys your mind because then people questions if they actually are abusive when you seem to like them at that time"
"what people dont understand about abusive parents
what people dont understand about abusive parents is that we cant always hate them. we cant just constantly hate them because a lot of them are quite nice half the time
it makes it hard to hate them because its like "they've been horrible to me but they treated me to a present yesterday or a cute little chocolate bar so i'd me rude to hate them because of what the've done for me" and its destroys your mind because then people questions if they actually are abusive when you seem to like them at that time"
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minorities, society
"one of my special interests is evolutionary biology and its honestly very soothing in a lot of ways. the idea that things come into being not because they were designed to be a certain way but because it happens that something they have works well enough for them to survive is calming. you cant be broken or wrong when there was no "correct" body and mind to conform to in the first place.
my body, my fat, my autism, my lesbianism, those are all things that just... are. there is no goal for my body to meet, and no standard to deviate from. its fine the way it is
as humans, we can define success in any way we want, but as long as im living and breathing, im doing fine as far as natural existence is concerned. things are too complicated and sprawling and random to fit into boxes, and its okay to exist however i happen to be"
"one of my special interests is evolutionary biology and its honestly very soothing in a lot of ways. the idea that things come into being not because they were designed to be a certain way but because it happens that something they have works well enough for them to survive is calming. you cant be broken or wrong when there was no "correct" body and mind to conform to in the first place.
my body, my fat, my autism, my lesbianism, those are all things that just... are. there is no goal for my body to meet, and no standard to deviate from. its fine the way it is
as humans, we can define success in any way we want, but as long as im living and breathing, im doing fine as far as natural existence is concerned. things are too complicated and sprawling and random to fit into boxes, and its okay to exist however i happen to be"
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next post will be a "spoilered image", which works the same as spoilered text, "tap/click to show". if you get a "telegram cant display this message" instead, you most likely need to update your telegram client
mental health, psychosis, hallucinations
"no doctor will ever get my respect like the woman in the ER who checked me for claws and fangs because i told her i was turning into a werewolf
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when someone is in a confused or compromised state, no matter why, and they are in your medical charge, it is vital to continue to treat them with dignity.
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when dealing with delusions you need to avoid extremes - do not tell the person flat out "you're wrong", "thats not real" or worst of all "you're crazy"
but dont encourage the delusion either"
"no doctor will ever get my respect like the woman in the ER who checked me for claws and fangs because i told her i was turning into a werewolf
[...]
when someone is in a confused or compromised state, no matter why, and they are in your medical charge, it is vital to continue to treat them with dignity.
[...]
when dealing with delusions you need to avoid extremes - do not tell the person flat out "you're wrong", "thats not real" or worst of all "you're crazy"
but dont encourage the delusion either"
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"How to help someone when they’re hallucinating
Disclaimer: I am not every schizophrenic person ever. I am just one person. I’m writing this using my own personal experiences with my hallucinations and what others can do to help. Feel free to add your own suggestions.
-Move the person to a different location. It should be relatively quiet without sensory overload or crowds of people. Sometimes the person will refuse to leave their hallucinations, in which case you have to find a way to make them. If they are refusing to leave but clearly very agitated, they are entering psychosis and need to get out.
-Stay with the person. Sometimes my hallucinations give me intense fear and anxiety in which case I’d rather not be on my own to hallucinate terrifying things. Also, spoiler alert, but sometimes psychotic people hurt themselves. Sometimes they don’t even know they’re doing it. If you leave them completely alone, there’s a chance self harm will occur.
-Reassure the person. Tell them that what they’re experiencing is not real. Tell them you’re staying with them. Tell them it will be over soon. Be calm and kind.
-If the person is having auditory hallucinations, the best thing you can do is to actually get them away from noise. Don’t try to make them listen to music or bring them into loud areas. That will likely cause them to hallucinate more. Take them somewhere quiet and wait for it to pass on its own.
-If the person is having visual hallucinations, likely they will be looking up, at least in my experience anyway. When I hallucinate, it’s usually something I need to raise my head to see. I have a friend who will notice when I’m staring up at something she can’t see and will raise her hands to block it. That way, I see her hands which distract me, and then I look down at her instead of at whatever I’m hallucinating. Distractions are great for visual hallucinations.
-Touch the person (if they’re okay with it). Touching me when I’m hallucinating helps in two different ways. It helps to ground me. If I can feel you touching me, I know that I’m still in reality. It is also calming. If I’m very agitated or fearful, it’s nice to have a reassuring hand touch my shoulder to calm me down.
-Often when people are hallucinating, they get very antsy. Try giving them something they can fidget with, or ask if they want to squeeze your hand.
-Don’t let the person focus on their hallucinations. Even if it’s terrifying, my natural urge is to look at or listen to the hallucination. I once was having quite a disturbing hallucination and every time I turned my head to look at it, a friend of mine would gently guide my head away from it and make me focus back on her.
-Ask them if there’s anything they specifically need. Everyone is different. Don’t bombard the person with questions, just ask them what they need. A question I’m often asked is if food or water will help, to which I reply, no, it doesn’t. (Except if the hallucination is causing me to panic, in which a case drinking water will help calm me down. Some people like to chew gum or suck on a candy to help ground them but I haven’t really personally found that helpful for me.)
-Don’t panic. You’re not the one hallucinating. You have nothing to fear. Psychotic does not mean violent. A hallucinating person is not going to hurt you. The person likely will be quite fearful themselves, so you need to do your best to remain calm for them. Panicking will just make the situation worse."
Disclaimer: I am not every schizophrenic person ever. I am just one person. I’m writing this using my own personal experiences with my hallucinations and what others can do to help. Feel free to add your own suggestions.
-Move the person to a different location. It should be relatively quiet without sensory overload or crowds of people. Sometimes the person will refuse to leave their hallucinations, in which case you have to find a way to make them. If they are refusing to leave but clearly very agitated, they are entering psychosis and need to get out.
-Stay with the person. Sometimes my hallucinations give me intense fear and anxiety in which case I’d rather not be on my own to hallucinate terrifying things. Also, spoiler alert, but sometimes psychotic people hurt themselves. Sometimes they don’t even know they’re doing it. If you leave them completely alone, there’s a chance self harm will occur.
-Reassure the person. Tell them that what they’re experiencing is not real. Tell them you’re staying with them. Tell them it will be over soon. Be calm and kind.
-If the person is having auditory hallucinations, the best thing you can do is to actually get them away from noise. Don’t try to make them listen to music or bring them into loud areas. That will likely cause them to hallucinate more. Take them somewhere quiet and wait for it to pass on its own.
-If the person is having visual hallucinations, likely they will be looking up, at least in my experience anyway. When I hallucinate, it’s usually something I need to raise my head to see. I have a friend who will notice when I’m staring up at something she can’t see and will raise her hands to block it. That way, I see her hands which distract me, and then I look down at her instead of at whatever I’m hallucinating. Distractions are great for visual hallucinations.
-Touch the person (if they’re okay with it). Touching me when I’m hallucinating helps in two different ways. It helps to ground me. If I can feel you touching me, I know that I’m still in reality. It is also calming. If I’m very agitated or fearful, it’s nice to have a reassuring hand touch my shoulder to calm me down.
-Often when people are hallucinating, they get very antsy. Try giving them something they can fidget with, or ask if they want to squeeze your hand.
-Don’t let the person focus on their hallucinations. Even if it’s terrifying, my natural urge is to look at or listen to the hallucination. I once was having quite a disturbing hallucination and every time I turned my head to look at it, a friend of mine would gently guide my head away from it and make me focus back on her.
-Ask them if there’s anything they specifically need. Everyone is different. Don’t bombard the person with questions, just ask them what they need. A question I’m often asked is if food or water will help, to which I reply, no, it doesn’t. (Except if the hallucination is causing me to panic, in which a case drinking water will help calm me down. Some people like to chew gum or suck on a candy to help ground them but I haven’t really personally found that helpful for me.)
-Don’t panic. You’re not the one hallucinating. You have nothing to fear. Psychotic does not mean violent. A hallucinating person is not going to hurt you. The person likely will be quite fearful themselves, so you need to do your best to remain calm for them. Panicking will just make the situation worse."
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