self worth, self care, self compassion
"if i am worth anything later
i am worth something now
for wheat is wheat
even if people think its a grass in the beginning"
{art by kali de wild}
"if i am worth anything later
i am worth something now
for wheat is wheat
even if people think its a grass in the beginning"
{art by kali de wild}
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health, emergencies
"SERVICE DOG PSA
so today i tripped. fell flat on my face, it was awful but ultimately harmless. my service dog, however, is trained to go get an adult if i have a seizure, and he assumed this was a seizure (we're training him to do more to care for me, but we didnt learn i had epilepsy until a year after we got him)
i went after him after i had dusten off my jeans and my ego, and i found him trying to get the attention of a very annoyed woman. she was swatting him away and telling him to go away. so i feel like i need to make this heads up
if a service dog without a person approaches you, it means the person is down and in need of help
dont get scared, dont get annoyed, follow the dog!"
"SERVICE DOG PSA
so today i tripped. fell flat on my face, it was awful but ultimately harmless. my service dog, however, is trained to go get an adult if i have a seizure, and he assumed this was a seizure (we're training him to do more to care for me, but we didnt learn i had epilepsy until a year after we got him)
i went after him after i had dusten off my jeans and my ego, and i found him trying to get the attention of a very annoyed woman. she was swatting him away and telling him to go away. so i feel like i need to make this heads up
if a service dog without a person approaches you, it means the person is down and in need of help
dont get scared, dont get annoyed, follow the dog!"
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anxiety, guilt, socialization
"you will live and you will say the wrong things and make mistakes and people will love you anyways.
i made this post because i've got so many friends that think saying something wrong in a conversation is the end of the world. it isnt. you'll be okay. you dont have to be embarrassed about every little thing. you are alive and doing things and speaking to people. you will make mistakes and you will live."
"you will live and you will say the wrong things and make mistakes and people will love you anyways.
i made this post because i've got so many friends that think saying something wrong in a conversation is the end of the world. it isnt. you'll be okay. you dont have to be embarrassed about every little thing. you are alive and doing things and speaking to people. you will make mistakes and you will live."
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laziness, depression, rest, self compassion, adhd, burnout
"thinking about how my therapist didnt even realize she was altering my brain chemistry by casually telling me "there's a difference between executive dysfunction and laziness, if you really were lazy, you'd be enjoying yourself. you wouldnt be feeling sick to your stomach with shame, guilt, and anxiety" "
"thinking about how my therapist didnt even realize she was altering my brain chemistry by casually telling me "there's a difference between executive dysfunction and laziness, if you really were lazy, you'd be enjoying yourself. you wouldnt be feeling sick to your stomach with shame, guilt, and anxiety" "
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chronic pain, neurodivergence, normativity, health, disability
"people who are fully healthy, fit and neurotypical seem to think they are that way because they're doing something right that the rest of us havent thought of, and not just because they got lucky
"you are one stroke of bad luck, common viral illness, or traumatic event away from being just like me" is honestly the most terrifying thing you can tell an abled person - and you should. i was healthy and fit and doing everything 'right' too - right up until some inner switch flipped and my body crumbled right out from under me""
"people who are fully healthy, fit and neurotypical seem to think they are that way because they're doing something right that the rest of us havent thought of, and not just because they got lucky
"you are one stroke of bad luck, common viral illness, or traumatic event away from being just like me" is honestly the most terrifying thing you can tell an abled person - and you should. i was healthy and fit and doing everything 'right' too - right up until some inner switch flipped and my body crumbled right out from under me""
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art, rest
"my dad likes to call the stretches of time where you're not creating "dreaming periods" and says that they're meant to allow you to absorb all of the beauty, life, and inspiration from the things around you so that when you're able to create again, you will have fanned your spark back into a flame. sometimes its hard to see those moments as anything but stagnation, but he always says that they're natural and healthy and needed - things that should be embraced rather than feared"
"my dad likes to call the stretches of time where you're not creating "dreaming periods" and says that they're meant to allow you to absorb all of the beauty, life, and inspiration from the things around you so that when you're able to create again, you will have fanned your spark back into a flame. sometimes its hard to see those moments as anything but stagnation, but he always says that they're natural and healthy and needed - things that should be embraced rather than feared"
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men loneliness, patriarchy, society
"i think the moment i was disillusioned about life was when i was maybe 7 years old and realized the reason all my friends had become assholes was because boys arent allowed to have any physical contact that isnt fighting
my parents were hippie feminists so my brother and i could play clapping games and sleep in puppy piles and give eachother weird hairdos, but all the 'normal' boys just up and stopped knowing how to touch anyone without hitting sometime betweeen kindergarten and first grade
and my little kid mind briefly saw the vastness of life stretching out in front of all of us, and all the hugs everyone would need and not get, and for a moment i was just like
maybe life is not such a good idea after all
[...]
i strongly suspect that a lot of str8 dude feelings of ennoscriptment to women's bodies, particularly the bodies of their wives and girlfriends, is a direct result of those women being the only non-violent physical contact they're allowed to have"
"i think the moment i was disillusioned about life was when i was maybe 7 years old and realized the reason all my friends had become assholes was because boys arent allowed to have any physical contact that isnt fighting
my parents were hippie feminists so my brother and i could play clapping games and sleep in puppy piles and give eachother weird hairdos, but all the 'normal' boys just up and stopped knowing how to touch anyone without hitting sometime betweeen kindergarten and first grade
and my little kid mind briefly saw the vastness of life stretching out in front of all of us, and all the hugs everyone would need and not get, and for a moment i was just like
maybe life is not such a good idea after all
[...]
i strongly suspect that a lot of str8 dude feelings of ennoscriptment to women's bodies, particularly the bodies of their wives and girlfriends, is a direct result of those women being the only non-violent physical contact they're allowed to have"
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activism, politics, social, digital
"a little advice from someone studying extremist groups: if you're in a social media environment where the daily ubiquitous message is that you have no hope of any kind of future and you cant possibly achieve anything without a violent overthrow of society, you're being radicalized, and not in the good way.
if the solution to your problems sounds like "we need a blank slate" its a lie. there are no blank slates, and the closest approximation people can generally imagine is "burn it all down and let god/fate/history sort it out"
thats not problem solving. its barely catharsis, in practice. it doesnt just create more problems than it solves, it destroys more solutions than it creates.
put the apocalypse down, and back aways slowly.
real solutions to complex, systemic problems are not so easily reduced to "us good, them evil; kill them."
"a little advice from someone studying extremist groups: if you're in a social media environment where the daily ubiquitous message is that you have no hope of any kind of future and you cant possibly achieve anything without a violent overthrow of society, you're being radicalized, and not in the good way.
if the solution to your problems sounds like "we need a blank slate" its a lie. there are no blank slates, and the closest approximation people can generally imagine is "burn it all down and let god/fate/history sort it out"
thats not problem solving. its barely catharsis, in practice. it doesnt just create more problems than it solves, it destroys more solutions than it creates.
put the apocalypse down, and back aways slowly.
real solutions to complex, systemic problems are not so easily reduced to "us good, them evil; kill them."
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guilt, unrealistic age expectations, time
"my boyfriend didnt go to university until he was 28 because he didnt feel anywhere near ready when he was 18. he graduated with first class honours, went on to do a masters, and is now a history teacher. its so much more important to do things when you're able to fully commit to them and do them to the best of your ability than to rush to do them by an imaginary deadline"
"my boyfriend didnt go to university until he was 28 because he didnt feel anywhere near ready when he was 18. he graduated with first class honours, went on to do a masters, and is now a history teacher. its so much more important to do things when you're able to fully commit to them and do them to the best of your ability than to rush to do them by an imaginary deadline"
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digital, addictions, patterns, adhd
"my counselor once told me to make sure i wasnt doing things to distract myself from the boredom rather than try to sate it. i feel its one of the most important things he ever said to me.
when im distracting myself from the boredom, i read or game excessively so i dont feel the emptiness of boredom. its a short term thing, and it only staves the boredom as long as im doing the thing.
when im sating myself from the boredom, i pursue things i am genuinely interested in and so find myself being fulfilled and happier for a longer period of time. even if i stop doing it temporarily, i dont immediately fall apart as i would with the distraction"
"my counselor once told me to make sure i wasnt doing things to distract myself from the boredom rather than try to sate it. i feel its one of the most important things he ever said to me.
when im distracting myself from the boredom, i read or game excessively so i dont feel the emptiness of boredom. its a short term thing, and it only staves the boredom as long as im doing the thing.
when im sating myself from the boredom, i pursue things i am genuinely interested in and so find myself being fulfilled and happier for a longer period of time. even if i stop doing it temporarily, i dont immediately fall apart as i would with the distraction"
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impostor syndrome, self compassion, guilt, trauma
"yo does anyone else feel CONSTANTLY guilty? like you've always done something wrong but you dont know what it is?
yes, and i've spoken to my therapist about it, who offered an explanations:
she says that people who from a young age were made to feel like they keep doing things wrong - people who's parents had impossibly high standards for them, people who were bullied, people who have special needs, people who didnt develop crushes on the "right" people, people who didnt act like the "right" gender - basically ended up made to feel guilty so much that guilt became their default response to anything which the person didnt already have a set emotion for
people for whom guilt is the default emotional respones are also more likely to have low self-esteem, doubt their own experiences, and experience impostor syndrome. so, watch out for that too guys"
"yo does anyone else feel CONSTANTLY guilty? like you've always done something wrong but you dont know what it is?
yes, and i've spoken to my therapist about it, who offered an explanations:
she says that people who from a young age were made to feel like they keep doing things wrong - people who's parents had impossibly high standards for them, people who were bullied, people who have special needs, people who didnt develop crushes on the "right" people, people who didnt act like the "right" gender - basically ended up made to feel guilty so much that guilt became their default response to anything which the person didnt already have a set emotion for
people for whom guilt is the default emotional respones are also more likely to have low self-esteem, doubt their own experiences, and experience impostor syndrome. so, watch out for that too guys"
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politics, activism, community, guilt
"remember as you say punch nazis, wwii resistance heroes also smuggled and hid refugees, deleted refugee data, lied to cops, broke the law
hid art. made graffitti. smuggled out kids, hid people, preserved knowledge, and kept the truth out of the lies
not everyone is built to be a fighter. and thats okay. a war isnt won by the infantry alone. we need support in this trying time as the great beast called fascism rises. dont tolerate intolerance. stay angry. stay together. stay smart."
"remember as you say punch nazis, wwii resistance heroes also smuggled and hid refugees, deleted refugee data, lied to cops, broke the law
hid art. made graffitti. smuggled out kids, hid people, preserved knowledge, and kept the truth out of the lies
not everyone is built to be a fighter. and thats okay. a war isnt won by the infantry alone. we need support in this trying time as the great beast called fascism rises. dont tolerate intolerance. stay angry. stay together. stay smart."
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