How to deal with the sexual past of your partner.

We live in decadent times and in our circles, there are many converts with bad past who learned better and try to live as better as possible, in one hand yes there are natural consequences of that which cannot be ignored, on the other, it doesn't matter as it was repented but there is a natural reaction sooner or later, especially on those relationships where there is a big difference between the pasts of each other, the more similar, the less problems.

For those who would think that as long she/he is a virgin this won’t be a problem, that's wrong, it can be a problem as it’s not black-white, there are many sins to commit before losing virginity, of course, those won’t have as bad natural consequences as sexual intercourse but they are still there and demons will bring them up when you are weak. It's instinct.

-You have to fight your pride. As, without grace, we could have done much worse things, remember the sins you have done, in other aspects of your life. Sins blinds people and nobody taught them well enough to know how wrong those things were

-Pray and be in Grace. When it shows up, pray it away, and if something makes her remember it, pray it together, don't ask details at all, the less she remembers it, the better, so the effects of that won't affect your relationship at all. Beware that in especially in mortal sin, the devil will creep into your thoughts more often

-Discipline your thoughts. The temptation is to keep thinking about it, to make mental movies, this is like when you have a wound and you keep sticking a knife into it, the more you think about it, the worse and bigger it will become, to reject these memories gets easier the more you do.

-Focus on Yourself. It's all about you, this comes from insecurity, focus on yourself, to be better, on what you do together, your life in common with her, accept and offer this suffering to grow stronger, be a man.

-Healing. God has already forgiven it, you should do too. instead of thinking about it , focus on working together in patience, in prayer and penance to heal each other, to heal the imagination, our memories, it takes time to heal wounds, its not worth to be chained to the past memories and actions. God makes all things new.

Remember not former things, and look not on things of old. Behold I do new things, and now they shall spring forth, verily you shall know them: I will make a way in the wilderness, and rivers in the desert. ISAIAH 43:18-19

When we talk about forgiveness, recall the Medieval attitude. There was a popular legend about St. Mary Magdalene in the Middle Ages that in order to guard her renewed chastity and to assist in her penance, God caused her to be covered from the neck down in thick hair that hid all her features and made her unappealing. Her sins were thereby covered up by her penitence, and she was given a new form free of the marks of her former life, but also as a reminder of her devotion to God. So too, the sins of the incontinent and concupiscient can be covered up by God in their renewed devotion, but God also gives them this new birth with the reminder of their past, the warning against their slavery to the Devil, and His protection of His prodigal son or daughter.

God sends us to tend to the wounds of our fellow Christians and to promote their healing. He provides the means whereby the debt of sin is redeemed and the filth of sin is washed away; that does not fall to us. Like a parent teaching His children to work in the Garden, God handles the weeding and pruning of the soul. It falls to us to cultivate, to water, and to ensure the harvest finds its way to Him that he might press the fruit of our spiritual vinyard into the wine of our Salvation.

For Women

So these are the 3 tasks for the next 2 weeks. Pick one and work on it. I would like to hear what you picked and learned at the end of next week.

1. Develop a skill that you may need in your future home, such as cooking, sewing, doing repairs, organizing something, or interior design.

2. List what you hope and dream for your future home, your family and your education. Also write down what is important to you, what you want to achieve in life, which includes becoming a wife and mother. Also, list what you want to do to achieve these goals.

3.You are a young woman and therefore have feminine qualities. Learn more about what it means to be a woman and develop more gratitude for it. Then ask a mother you admire what she thinks are the most important qualities a mother should have. Then choose a quality and make an effort to develop it.

For Men

So these are the 3 tasks for the next two weeks. Pick one and work on it. I would like to hear what you picked and learned at the end of next week.

1. Make a list of the talents you already have and talents you still want to develop. Develop a new skill that you will find useful in your future family.

2. Think about what you can do to get physically fitter. Improve your health by developing and following a regular fitness program, and by learning to prepare healthy foods and eat healthily.

3. Practice living righteous principles, for example by being more selective about television programs, music, books, and other media, or by working on your demeanor, language, or honesty.

Friendship in relationships.

Your social environment is very important, friends can exert a lot of influence on yourself and your partner and they can be even part of your future with their kids and your kids, it can be a blessing but also it can be a problem. Today's "friending" culture has obscured true, profound friendship and the unholy society we live in, which makes these influences more important than ever.

"It is not good for man to be alone" Genesis 2:18

-Friendships of the partner.

One should endeavor to guard and help cultivate virtuous and holy friends of their partner, as they are essential to their growth and stability. The greatest friendships are those grounded in Christ.

About those friends who aren’t virtuous for them, one should carefully act on that, but the gravity should be proportional to how objectively bad they are and moderated on how much attachment your partner has with them. One should help them to seek better relationships while slowly moving away those which won't help them to be a saint.

As for mixed-sex relationships, both parties should be clear on the boundaries of those relationships, which by its very nature are more dangerous than same-sex relationships.

33 Do not be deceived: ‘Bad company ruins good morals.’ 1 Corinthians 15:33

-Your Friendships.

Remember to keep your virtuous and holy friendships. Many will get so involved with their partner that they end up alone, without friends. Reach out to the friends who make you a more pious person, and nurture these relationships so that they can positively influence you.

If you are the one with not-so-virtuous friendships and your partner has commented on it, you should meditate on how weak and how easily influenced by the world man truly is, especially in moments of moral vulnerability. Think about the influences on you, if there are secondary reasons if they really will help you to be a better and more holy person, et cetera...

It's okay to help others, but when practically all of society goes against your desires to be more holy and chaste, these friends can easily turn you to the world instead of you turning them to God. Are you helping to change them, or are they changing you? Pray for them, at the very least.

20 He that walketh with the wise shall be wise: a friend of fools shall become like to them. Prov. 13: 20

In general both should have at least more virtuous friendships than non-virtuous ones and those who are not, at least to support you, if they invite you to sin, that's a red flag, that should be ended. if there is not that balance, one should act until we reach that position.

@worthfightingfor_telegram Should be the other way around. People these days refuse to embrace responsibilities , the result is childlike adults that let themselves be ruled by their bad habits. An environment where cost of living is high and it's hard to find and keep meaningful relationships makes the problem even worse. What do you guys think?

-Immigrant mothers or mothers of foreign descent accounted for almost 28 percent of all births
-One in five pregnancies were “terminated” by legal abortion in Spain in 2019
-In 2016, the fertility rate was still slightly higher than today, at 1.34
-Among women of Spanish extraction, the birthrate has fallen most spectacularly. In 2019, their fertility rate dropped to 1.17 children per woman

https://www.lifesitenews.com/blogs/spains-number-of-yearly-births-at-new-low

Love your mother

There is something so beautiful about a woman who remains positive even in the worst of times. She embraces and supports her husband when trouble arises, she hugs her children and whispers words of pragmatic wisdom and comfort that only a mother can give. A woman who sees all the beauty and light through the darkness should be cherished. “For she is the seed in the soil that blooms flowers.”

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Homeschooling Odyssey

Contents

1. Introduction
2. A Parent-Teacher Conference
3. School at Home
4. The Forest Through the Trees
5. Charles Dickens, Lightweigh
6. No Telly on the Mountain
7. Farm-School, Dad-School
8. Mr. P and the Livestock Auction
9. Learning to Read
10. School in the City
11. Grading and Testing
12. Emma's Educational Choices
13. Keep Homeschool Fun
14. Sex Education in Utopia
15. The Big Kids Go to High School
16. The Myth of the Teenage Monster
17. The Socialization of Julia and Tom
18. From ADD to AAA
19. Piano Lessons with a Boa Constrictor
20. Homeschoolers in College
21. Artists and Artisans
22. Adventures in the Working World
23. A Day in Tom-School
24. Adam Meets the Walrus and the Carpenter
25. Afterthoughts - Fix the Plumbing

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