Ibn al-Qayyim رحمه الله said:

“Parenting is such a mighty matter in Islam that on the Day of Judgement, Allāh will ask the child about the effectiveness of the parent, before asking the parent about the obedience of the child."

[Tuhfah Al-Mawdud by Ibn Qayyim | Pg. 158-161 & Pg. 168-17]

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Teach ur daughter Haya from a young age

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“Many people are unaware (𝗼𝗳 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝘀𝗲𝗰𝗿𝗲𝘁 𝗼𝗳 𝘀𝘂𝗰𝗰𝗲𝘀𝘀) that seeking the pleasure of their parents (𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗺𝗮𝗸𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗺 𝗵𝗮𝗽𝗽𝘆).”

[At Their Feet: Piety Towards Parents, pg. 12, Ibn al-Jawzi (رحمه اللّٰه)]
[ourparents]

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𝗘𝘅𝗽𝗼𝘀𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗖𝗵𝗶𝗹𝗱𝗿𝗲𝗻 𝗢𝗻𝗹𝗶𝗻𝗲 𝗖𝗮𝗻 𝗖𝗮𝘂𝘀𝗲 𝗘𝘃𝗶𝗹 𝗘𝘆𝗲

Rasūlullāh ﷺ has spoken about evil eye and confirms that it is true and some people have evil eyes. Which is why many du'ās were revealed in several hadīth which protect us from evil eyes.

Umm Salamah Narrated that Rasūlullāh ﷺ saw a servant girl in her house whose face has become discolored.
Rasūlullāh ﷺ said: “Treat her with protective recitations, as she has been afflicted by an evil eyes.” [Sahīh al-Bukhārī, 5739]

So what is evil eyes?

Naturally some people have some sort of elements inside them which influence them to cause harm onto others whenever they comment on them or look at them.

This scenario is evident in the Seerah of Rasūlullāh ﷺ where a man looked at a fellow companion and admired his back by saying "You have such a beautiful back". The Sahabi fell unconsciously until the Rasūlullāh ﷺ intervene.

Ibn Abbas narrated that Rasūlullāh ﷺ said:

“The evil eye is real. If anything could precede the divine decree, it would be preceded by the evil eye. When you are asked to perform a ritual bath, then do so.” [Sahīh Muslim, 2188]

So dear parents and family members,

Whenever you post pictures of your children on social media, there are high chances that someone with evil eyes can see them and comment, and that gesture could cause harm to them. Which is why sometimes kids will be sick and you just can't figure out why they are sick or what's happening to them.

The irony is that people who have evil eyes might not necessarily know it.
So they keep using it and keep harming people unintentionally.

Hence, I urge you to avoid posting photos of children, at times even adults can be affected. Look at people who are beautiful or handsome, when they post something, thousands of people like and comment on it. Only Allāh knows what's going on behind the scene.

Whenever the baby is born don't you dare to expose their cuteness on this platform.
Just share it to your loved ones and trusted persons. And don't forget to make Du'ā, say “Allāhumma bārik” to save them from evil mouth and evil heart.

If you are tempted and feel overwhelmed then stop, take a deep breath, think hundred times before clicking. Don't take it lightly. 𝗦𝗶𝗵𝗿, 𝗘𝗻𝘃𝘆, 𝗘𝘃𝗶𝗹 𝗘𝘆𝗲 𝗶𝘀 𝗿𝗲𝗮𝗹 𝗺𝗮𝘆 𝗹𝗲𝗮𝗱 𝘁𝗼 𝗗𝗲𝗮𝘁𝗵❗

Enjoy Allāh's blessing privately.
you don't have to announce your happiness to everyone, remember that not everyone is happy for what you have. Prevention is better than cure.

May Allāh protect the innocent children from any evilness of this world. آمين

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𝗠𝗼𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗿'𝘀 𝗗𝘂𝘁𝘆

Shaykh Sālih Al-Fawzān (حفظه اللّٰه) said:

“The duty of the mother in raising the child is not an easy job. Rather, it is a job that requires knowledge and it requires effort, in order to be consistent.”

[A woman's guide to raising a family, pg. 53]

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Prepare Yourself Mentally
The shaikh, Dr. Muḥammad ibn Ghālib Al-ʿUmarī, may Allāh protect him, said:

Get yourself in the habit of mentally anticipating the worst possible outcomes so that it becomes easy for you to overcome crisis situations. Prepare yourself mentally for:

I. separation from a loved one;
II. animosity or hostility from a friend;
III. the deception or conspiring of someone close [to you against you];
IV. setbacks or failures occurring;
V. losses taking place.

But don’t let that stop you from being optimistic; don’t let pessimism find its way into your heart. For between pessimism and anticipating the worst possible outcomes is a [clear] distinction, just as there is between the sky and the earth.

Source: @m_g_alomari. 4 Dec 21. 16:28 GMT+3.

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Pornography is one of the biggest issues facing all of humanity. It absolutely ruins you physically, mentally and spiritually. It destroys lives, ruins relationships and breeds sexual predators.

Lowering the gaze has always been a key part of human existence, but now more than ever, it is extremely difficult to do. I don't believe the answer is to "get married" because married men are consuming porn just as much as single men.

So rectification comes from fearing Allah, busying oneself with the beneficial actions, regularly making taubah and closing all doors to the sin. A person may also seek counselling for help leaving porn because it is a drug. No. It is worse than the narcotics we have today.

May Allah fix our affairs and forgive our sins.

𝗧𝗮𝗸𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗰𝗮𝗿𝗲 𝗼𝗳 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗢𝗿𝗽𝗵𝗮𝗻

Rasulullāh ﷺ said:
“I will be like this in paradise with the person who takes care of an orphan”.
Rasulullāh ﷺ raised his forefinger and middle finger by way of illustration (meaning as closeas these two fingers are to each other is how a person who takescare of the orphan and I will be in paradise) [Al-Bukhari].

• It will be indeed a great honour to be close to Rasulullāh ﷺ in paradise. This honour will be given to those who are kind to the orphans.
In another tradition Rasulullāh ﷺ has regarded it the `best house’ in which an orphan is treated with kindness. He declared the worst home in which an orphan child is not treated with affection.

Rasulullāh ﷺ said:
“He who takes careof an orphan, whether he is his relative or a stranger, will bein paradise with me like these two”. The narrator, Malik bin Anas raised his forefinger and middle finger for illustration. [Muslim].

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❤️

Sa’eed ibn al-Musayyib رحمه الله said:

“The one who treats his parents with goodness will not die an evil death.”

[Tarikh Ibn Ma’in 8/28]

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This morning, the kids saw me watching a video, and they asked me who the speaker in the video was.

"His name is Umar Abdul-Kafy, عمر عبد الكافي, " I replied. "A famous Egyptian shaykh."

I added, "Al-Kafy ( الكافي ) is a name among the Beautiful Names of Allah, أسماء الله الحسنى. Just like Abdullah or Abdur-Rahman or Abdul-Hakeem."

One of my kids immediately said,

"الكافي الذي يكفي. وكفى بالله شهيدا."

"Al-Kafy, the One who Suffices. "And sufficient is Allah as a witness."" (Surat An-Nisa, 79)

"Yes," I nodded, surprised. "But how do you know that ayah? You don't know that surah!"

He replied, "We hear it a lot in different surahs. I think this is a common sentence in the Quran. We hear it often when you put on Quranic recitation."

Another boy added,

"فسيكفيكهم الله..."

"Allah will suffice you against them..." (Surat Al-Baqarah, 137)

Now I was truly amazed. This is a more advanced context, a more subtle iteration of the word كافي , Kafy.

"That is from an ayah in Surat Al-Baqarah! How do you know it when you don't know Surat Al-Baqarah?" I asked.

"From سيرة عثمان, the biography of Uthman," he said simply.

It is truly fascinating and heartwarming how attentive and perceptive children are, and how their memories work mashaAllah.

We don't necessarily put on Quranic recitation every day, and it is not that every surah we listen to has this ayah.

And we have listened to recordings of the seerah of the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم as well as of the Khulafa' Ar-Rashidun, including of course Uthman ibn Affan رضي الله عنه. This is the ayah `Uthman had been reciting when he was killed. But I was not really sure just how much of these biographies my kids have understood, retained, can recall on command.

But just from hearing the word Al-Kafy, they were instantly able to remember different words from the Quran derived from the same root:

Al-Kafy, Kafa, fa-sayakfeekahumu.

الكَافِي، كَفَى، سَيَكْفِيكَهُم.

Alhamdulillah.

Parents, expose your young children to the Quran and the sunnah and the life stories of the Sahaba and the giants of this ummah. You will be amazed at the beautiful results inshaAllah.

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Relationship and parenting..

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Amazing how Allah created women's nature to be soft, sweet, and delicate so a man's nature of protecting and providing will compliment it.

I'm also amazed by the fact that although men were created to be firm, protector, and provider, they need the feminine energy to keep them nurtured and enthusiastic.

If we only understand the natural state of these two genders, we would be understanding each other more, deeply, and sincerely.

Allaah didn't create men and women to compete with each other but rather to compliment each other's unique characteristics that result in harmony, mercy, affection, and mutual respect.

Allaah said,

هُنَّ لِبَاسٌ لَّكُمْ وَأَنتُمْ لِبَاسٌ لَّهُنَّ

“Your wives are garments to you, and you are garments to them.” {Qur’an 2:187}

You protect one another.

You make each other warm.

You beautify each other.

And without the other one, it would feel incomplete.

Ibn ‘Uthaymeen رحمه الله said:

“Playing with the children and showing mercy to them is from the reasons of entering into Al-Jannah and being saved from the Hellfire”

[Sharh Riyādh As-Sālihīn: 3/113]

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Show-off on social media:

In this age of materialism and social media, people tend to share the good things they have, i.e., beauty, house, job, children, food, clothes, cars, etc.

This is natural, and this is often done with good intentions, but it has some unintended negative consequences:

Some people will feel bad, wishing they could have the same, others may get jealous and the evil eye could hit.

For these reasons, even if these things are not shared with the intention of show-off, we should try to minimize this as much as possible, remain low-key, to avoid putting other people in fitnah, and to safeguard our blessings.

There is also a concept called 'كفر نعمة', [ungratefulness for the blessings of God], and this usually happens, when we see someone that has more worldly blessings than us.

According to some scholars, this was the reason why the queen ant told her colony to enter their dwellings when Sulayman and his army were marching.

Imam Fakhr al-Razi writes:
وثالثها : ما رأيت في بعض الكتب أن تلك النملة إنما أمرت غيرها بالدخول لأنها خافت على قومها أنها إذا رأت سليمان في جلالته، فربما وقعت في كفران نعمة الله تعالى وهذا هو المراد بقوله :﴿لا يَحْطِمَنَّكُمْ سُلَيْمَـانُ﴾ فأمرتها بالدخول في مساكنها لئلا ترى تلك النعم فلا تقع في كفران نعمة الله تعالى، وهذا تنبيه على أن مجالسة أرباب الدنيا محذورة
'𝗜𝘁 𝗶𝘀 𝘄𝗿𝗶𝘁𝘁𝗲𝗻 𝗶𝗻 𝘀𝗼𝗺𝗲 𝗯𝗼𝗼𝗸𝘀, 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝘀 (𝗾𝘂𝗲𝗲𝗻) 𝗮𝗻𝘁, 𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗺𝗮𝗻𝗱𝗲𝗱 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗼𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗿 𝗮𝗻𝘁𝘀 𝘁𝗼 𝗲𝗻𝘁𝗲𝗿 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗶𝗿 𝗱𝘄𝗲𝗹𝗹𝗶𝗻𝗴𝘀, 𝗯𝗲𝗰𝗮𝘂𝘀𝗲 𝘀𝗵𝗲 𝗳𝗲𝗮𝗿𝗲𝗱 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗶𝗳 𝗵𝗲𝗿 𝗰𝗼𝗹𝗼𝗻𝘆 𝘄𝗲𝗿𝗲 𝘁𝗼 𝗯𝗲𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗲 𝘀𝗽𝗲𝗰𝘁𝗮𝘁𝗼𝗿𝘀 𝗼𝗳 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝘀𝗽𝗹𝗲𝗻𝗱𝗲𝗿 𝗼𝗳 𝗦𝘂𝗹𝗮𝘆𝗺𝗮𝗻'𝘀 𝗸𝗶𝗻𝗴𝗱𝗼𝗺, 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝘆 𝘄𝗼𝘂𝗹𝗱 𝗯𝗲 (𝗺𝗲𝘀𝗺𝗲𝗿𝗶𝘇𝗲𝗱 𝗯𝘆 𝗶𝘁 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗯𝗲𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗲) 𝘂𝗻𝗴𝗿𝗮𝘁𝗲𝗳𝘂𝗹 𝗳𝗼𝗿 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗯𝗹𝗲𝘀𝘀𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘄𝗵𝗶𝗰𝗵 𝗚𝗼𝗱 𝗵𝗮𝗱 𝗯𝗲𝘀𝘁𝗼𝘄𝗲𝗱 𝘂𝗽𝗼𝗻 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗺.
𝗧𝗵𝗶𝘀 𝗶𝘀 𝘄𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝘄𝗮𝘀 𝗺𝗲𝗮𝗻𝘁 𝗯𝘆: '𝗦𝗼 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗦𝘂𝗹𝗮𝘆𝗺𝗮𝗻 𝗱𝗼𝗲𝘀𝗻'𝘁 𝗱𝗲𝘀𝘁𝗿𝗼𝘆 𝘆𝗼𝘂.' [𝗤𝘂𝗿'𝗮𝗻 𝟮𝟳:𝟭𝟴].
𝗧𝗵𝗶𝘀 𝗶𝘀 𝗮 𝘄𝗮𝗿𝗻𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗮𝘁𝘁𝗲𝗻𝗱𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗴𝗮𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗿𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗼𝗳 𝘄𝗼𝗿𝗹𝗱𝗹𝘆 𝗸𝗶𝗻𝗴𝘀 𝗶𝘀 𝘁𝗼 𝗯𝗲 𝗮𝘃𝗼𝗶𝗱𝗲𝗱.'
['Tafsir al-Razi', 24/187].

Imam al-Qurtubi also mentioned this as one possible interpretation:
لم ترِد ( حطم النفوس)، وإنما أرادت ( حطم القلوب)
'𝗦𝗵𝗲 𝗱𝗶𝗱 𝗻𝗼𝘁 𝗺𝗲𝗮𝗻: [𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗱𝗲𝘀𝘁𝗿𝘂𝗰𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻 𝗼𝗳 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗽𝗵𝘆𝘀𝗶𝗰𝗮𝗹 𝗯𝗼𝗱𝗶𝗲𝘀], 𝗯𝘂𝘁 𝘀𝗵𝗲 𝗺𝗲𝗮𝗻𝘁: [𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝘀𝗽𝗶𝗿𝗶𝘁𝘂𝗮𝗹 𝗱𝗲𝘀𝘁𝗿𝘂𝗰𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻 𝗼𝗳 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗵𝗲𝗮𝗿𝘁𝘀].'
['Tafsir al-Qurtubi', 13/171].

If sometimes we do see the blessings God has bestowed upon others, and these ill feelings do arise within ourselves, we should remember that God said:

نحن قسمنا بینهم معیشتهم فی الحیاة الدّنیا!
'𝗜𝘁 𝗶𝘀 𝗪𝗘, 𝗪𝗵𝗼 𝗱𝗶𝘀𝘁𝗿𝗶𝗯𝘂𝘁𝗲𝗱 𝗮𝗺𝗼𝗻𝗴 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗺 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗶𝗿 𝗹𝗶𝘃𝗲𝗹𝗶𝗵𝗼𝗼𝗱 𝗶𝗻 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗹𝗶𝗳𝗲 𝗼𝗳 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝘀 𝘄𝗼𝗿𝗹𝗱.' [Qur'an 43:32].

It is the Will and Decree of God, He tests some with poverty, and others with wealth.

والعاقبة للمتقين!

Protect our children from horoscopes and astrology

The Prophet (pbuh), who narrated that he said: “Whoever goes to a soothsayer and asks him about something and believes him, his prayer will not be accepted for forty days.” (Muslim).

The Messenger of Allaah (pbuh) said: “Whoever seeks knowledge from the stars is seeking one of the branches of witchcraft…” Narrated by Abu Dawood with a saheeh isnaad.

It was reported that ‘Aa’ishah (r) said: “Some people asked the Messenger of Allaah (pbuh) about soothsayers. He said, ‘They are nothing.’ They said, ‘O Messenger of Allaah, sometimes they say something and it comes true.’ The Messenger of Allaah (pbuh) said: ‘That is a word of truth that the jinn snatches and whispers into the ear of his familiar, but they mix a hundred lies with it.’” (al-Bukhaari).

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INHERITANCE/PROPERTY:

The scholars are unanimously agreed that ownership of the estate passes to the heirs as soon as the deceased dies. It says in al-Mawsoo‘ah al-Fiqhiyyah (24/76): The fuqaha’ are unanimously agreed that the estate passes to the heir, if there are no debts, from the moment the deceased dies. End quote.

If a man dies and leaves behind a wife, sons and daughters, and he did not leave behind any other heir, then the wife gets a share of one eighth, because there are descendants who inherit. Allah, may He be exalted, says (interpretation of the meaning):

“but if you leave a child, they get an eighth of that which you leave after payment of legacies that you may have bequeathed or debts”

[an-Nisa’ 4:12].

The rest goes to the sons and daughters, with each male getting the share of two females, because Allah, may He be exalted, says (interpretation of the meaning):

“Allah commands you as regards your children’s (inheritance); to the male, a portion equal to that of two females”

[an-Nisa’ 4:11].

If the deceased man has sons, then his siblings are blocked, they dont have any share.

His heirs will be as follows:

1. Wife (1/8 part of total property)

2. Mother if alive (1/6 part of total property)

3. Father if alive (1/6 part of total property)

4. Remaining of the part will be equally divided among Sons and Daughters

If the heirs have agreed among themselves to some way of dividing the estate, there is nothing wrong with that and it is called “division by mutual consent.” But if they disagree then the way to deal with it is to refer to the sharee‘ah courts.

Division by mutual consent is that which is done with the approval of all partners.

Compulsory division is that which is done through the court because there is no agreement among the partners. End quote.

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CHARACTERISTICS OF A NARCISSISTIC MOTHER

Alhamdulillah finally someone spoke about this. Very informative. May Allaah guide every narcissistic muslim mothers and may Allaah protect us from becoming one of them aameen.

"Character traits and what to do with your narcissistic muslim mother"

Here's the YouTube link for it: https://youtu.be/rZV5A0TpXyA

I feel bad for the children that have to deal with such. May Allaah have mercy upon them and guide their mothers. Aameen.

You don’t truly appreciate something until you lose it.

أنك لا تعرف قيمة ما تملك إلا حين فقدانه

Only when you see that empty chair where your mother or father used to sit,
or you see that old coat they used to wear,
or you don’t see that incoming call from your parents,
only then will you realise what you have lost!!

You will regret why you didn’t do more for them and didn’t spend more time with them. You’d trade the world, just to see them one more time … but it will be too late. Now you may have the opportunity today - seize it.

May Allah (swt) grant our parents a long life and if they have passed away: settle them in the highest peaks of Paradise, Ameen

When giving your children the opportunity to reach high level of academic education, make sure you also give them the level of Islamic knowledge that they need to keep away from the danger of secularism.
Do not offer your children Islam as a part of their name or their culture. Islam is not your cultural background - it is the backbone of your existence.
Today you find such a fine educated young man, excelling at his Duniya - but look at this helpless father.
Do not wait for your children to learn from their sins on their own. Teach them not to approach it and why. Islam is not the choice you give your children - pray if you like, eat halal if you like, wear hijab if you like, learn Islam if you like. Teach your children Islam the way you teach them every duniya-related thing. You have no choice but to go to school everyday from 8 in the morning. Do you give them a choice to go at 10 or not at all?
Think.