Do Not Teach Your Children Lies.

"Don't worry when I'm coming back from work, I will get you this" - Deep down you know aren't getting anything.

"Oya leave that place, the masquerade is coming to beat you" - when you know no one is coming, even the word masquerade is wrong.

Remember the kids have a retentive memory, they observe everything around them and implement it whenever they deem it fit needed.

When promising them
When scolding them
When telling them things

It should be truthful.

May Allah guide us.

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Holding birthday 🎂🍰parties for children – Permanent Committee

Q: Some of our Muslim brethren hold birthday parties for themselves and their children, what is the ruling on such festivals?

A: The basic principle regarding acts of Ibadah (worship) is that they are Tawqifiy (bound by a religious text and not amenable to personal opinion), and as such, no one is allowed to worship Allah in a way other than which He ordained, because the Prophet (peace be upon him) said in the Sahih (authentic) Hadith:

Anyone who introduces anything into this matter of ours (Islam) that is not part of it will have it rejected. [1]

He (peace be upon him) also said:

Anyone who does an action which is not in accordance with this matter of ours (Islam) will have it rejected. [2]

Birthday parties are an act of Bid’ah (innovation in religion) that should not be done for any person, regardless of their rank or role in life.

The most honorable of all creation and the best of all Messengers (peace be upon them), i.e. Muhammad ibn ‘Abdullah (peace be upon him) was never reported to have held a festival for the day he was born, or even instructed his Ummah (nation based on one creed) to celebrate it.

Similarly, the best of this Ummah after its Prophet (peace be upon him) are the Rightly-Guided Caliphs and the Sahabah (Companions of the Prophet), but none of them is reported to have made a festival for the Prophet’s birthday, or for any of them (may Allah be pleased with them), and all goodness is to be found in following their pathand patterning oneself after the teachings of the Prophet (peace be upon him).

Moreover, such Bid`ah pave the way to imitate the Jews, Christians and other Kafirs (non-Muslims) in terms of their newly invented festivals. Allah is the One sought for help!

May Allah grant us success! May peace and blessings be upon our Prophet Muhammad, his family, and Companions!

[1] Al-Bukhari, Sahih, Book on reconciliation, no. 2697; Muslim, Sahih, Book on judicial decisions, no. 1718; Abu Dawud, Sunan, Book on Al-Sunnah, no. 4606; Ibn Majah, Sunan, Introduction, no. 14; and Ahmad, Musnad, vol. 6, p. 240.

[2] Muslim, Sahih, Book on judicial decisions, no. 1718; and Ahmad Ibn Hanbal, Musnad, vol. 6, p. 180

Permanent Committee for Scholarly Research and Ifta’
Chairman : Shaykh Abdul-Aziz ibn Abdullah ibn Baz
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Your Children....

Remember this statement whenever ur going through a difficulty, feeling powerless, confused or defeated. Subhaan Allah this powerful statement really does give u ease & strength everytime u recite it with conviction & sincerity.

Teach ur kids this dhikr as well & remind them that that its Allah Subhaana wa ta'aala, the Almighty, who will solve their problem & make things easier for them no matter what the situation is.

The female spider kills the male after giving birth to children and throws it outside the house.

● After the children grow up, they kill the mother and throw her outside the house..a strange house, one of the worst houses ever.

● The Holy Qur’an describes it in one verse.
{And indeed, the weakest of houses would be the house of the spider, if they only knew (41)}

● People were aware of the extent of weakness in the sensory house of the spider, but they did not realize the moral weakness except in this era...!

● Hence it came in the verse: {{If they had known!!}}

● Nevertheless, God Almighty named Surat Al-Ankabut by the name of this notorious insect, even though the Surah talks from its beginning to its end about temptation?
The beginning was:

● {{Do people think that they will be left to say we believe, and they will not be tested}}

● {And among the people is he who says we believe in God, and if he is harmed for the sake of God, He makes the trial of people like God’s punishment.}

● It may come to mind what is the relationship of temptation to the spider?
Answer: The intertwining of strife is like cobwebs.

● The temptations are intertwined and intertwined, so one cannot distinguish between them, and they are many and complex, but fragile and weak if we seek the help of God.

{{"Oh God spared us what temptations both obvious and hidden"}}

Dua -  Placing children under Allaah's protection

The Messenger of Allaah (sal-Allaahu 'alayhe wa sallam) used to commend al-Hasan and al-Husayn to Allaah's protection, saying:

أُعِيذُكُمَا بِكَلِمَاتِ اللَّهِ التَّامَّةِ مِنْ كُلِّ شَيْطَانٍ وَهَامَّةٍ، وَمِنْ كُلِّ عَيْنٍ لاَمَّةٍ

I seek protection for you in the Perfect Words of Allah from every devil and every beast, and from every envious blameworthy eye.

U'eethukumaa bikalimaatil-laahit-taammati min kulli shaytaanin wa haammatin, wa min kulli 'aynin laammatin.

Al-Bukhari 4/119.

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Why are there so many problems in society?

Sh Fawzan ( May Allāh preserve him ):

If the woman is lost, the home is lost.

If the home is lost, the children are lost.

If the homes are lost, society is lost.

**Serve your parents in the last part of their Life.**

SUNNAH TO PROTECT YOUR CHILDREN FROM EVIL EYE

Du'aa for Curing EVIL EYE/NAZAR

1. اَللّهُمَّ ذَا الْسُلْطَانِ الْعَظِيْمِ وَ الْمَنِّ الْقَدِيْمِ ذَا الْوَجْهِ الْكَرِيْمِ وَلِيَّ الْكَلِمَاتِ التَّامَّاتِ وَ الدَّعَوَاتِ الْمُسْتَجَابَاتِ عَافِ الْحَسَنَ وَ الْحُسَيْنَ مِنَ أَنْفُسِ الْجِنِّ وَ أَعْيُنِ الْاِنْسِ  

‎(تفسير ابن كثير، ج 5، ص 416)   Transliteration: "Allahume Zal Sultanil Azeemi Wal Mannil qadeemi zal wajhil kareemi waliyyiyal kalimaatittaamaati wadda'awatil mustajaabati aafil hasan wal Husain min anfusil jinni wa a'yunil Insi"   Translation: "Oh Allah you are most powerful (great authority), possessor of eternal favours, possessor of noble countenance, master or controller of good (meaningful) words and accepting supplications - free/relieve "NAME" from the whispers of the Jinn and Mankind." (PS. Recite the name of the affected person at the "NAME portion"

2. Translation: "Oh Allah you are most powerful (great authority), possessor of eternal favours, possessor of noble countenance, master or controller of good (meaningful) words and accepting supplications - free/relieve "NAME" from the whispers of the Jinn and Mankind."

(PS. Recite the name of the affected person at the "NAME portion"

From Ibn Abbas who said the Messenger of Allaah –sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam– used to seek refuge for al-Hassan and al-Hussein, he would say:
‘I seek refuge for you two with Allaah’s perfect words from every Shaytaan (devil) and poisonous creature and every evil eye.’
He –sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam–said that this is how Ibrahim used to seek refuge for Ishaaq and Ismaeel.’�[Collected by Bukhari & Tirmidhi with the extra wording, authenticated by Albaani]

"I commend you to the protection of Allah’s perfect words from every devil, vermin, and every evil eye."

‎أُعيـذُكُمـا بِكَلِـماتِ اللهِ التّـامَّة، مِنْ كُلِّ شَيْـطانٍ وَهـامَّة، وَمِنْ كُـلِّ عَـيْنٍ لامَّـة
Ucîdhukumâ bi-kalimâti l-lâhi t-tâmmati min kulli shaytânin wa hâmmatin, wa min kulli caynin lâmmatin.

3. It was narrated from Abu Sa’eed that Jibra’il came to the Prophet (ﷺ) and said:
“O Muhammad, you are ill. He said: ‘Yes.’ He said: Bismillahi arqika, min kulli shay’in yu’dika, min sharri kulli nafsin aw ‘aynin aw hasidin. Allahu yashfika, bismillahi arqika (In the Name of Allah I perform Ruqyah for you, from everything that is harming you, from the evil of every soul or envious eye, may Allah heal you. In the Name of Allah I perform Ruqyah for you).

‎ بِسْمِ اللَّهِ أَرْقِيكَ مِنْ كُلِّ شَىْءٍ يُؤْذِيكَ مِنْ شَرِّ كُلِّ نَفْسٍ أَوْ عَيْنٍ أَوْ حَاسِدٍ اللَّهُ يَشْفِيكَ بِسْمِ اللَّهِ أَرْقِيكَ ‌‏
Hadith IbnMajah
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......be careful of those who put raisins where chocolate chips should go.

Shaikh al-Fawzaan:
Don't be like the Westerners who prefer to have animals in their homes than their own parents.

There was a time when men earned and women brought up and groomed Disciplined citizens. Such women learned to manage the houses from their mothers and grandmothers.

Now women who earn are in demand. Men want a wife who will contribute to family expenses but they also want the wife to manage the house, take care of children and her in laws too. A women returning home after eight to nine hours of hectic mental work and physically tiring travels cannot give her best at home.

The result is - We have experts, professional women but tired moms and wives who struggle to run the house.

In simple words, first it was her beauty that was considered as currency and now it's her currency that's makes her a BEAUTY.

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Imaam Ibn Uthaymeen رحمه الله:

"Many people have children, however his/her children do not benefit him/her because of what is in them from disobedience & being undutiful (to the parents). These people have not been blessed in their children."

شرح دعاء قنوت الوتر ص.١١

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In this day and age, Muslim homes are not stable anymore. It is quite upsetting, especially when we have been given the guidance of Islam as a rule book. Men and women have lost the ability to understand the unity of family. Men want to build muscle to show off or impress the opposite gender or don't want to put graft in to make halal earnings, whereas women want to doll up and compete with men or just spend the hard-earned cash of their husbands.

The roles of both genders are varied and for greater reasons too. Men are the providers and protectors of women. Men need to provide and literally be the head of a family. This entails guidance and establishing the running of the house by setting clear boundaries. Women are nurturers, so having children and taking care of home is a very suited role.
I often wonder how we can achieve this stability in our homes again.
It's quite simpler than we think. We must revert back to the ways of our teachings of Islam.

An advice to those couples who have recently become parents and want to do Islamic upbringing of their child. They must know that the society that this child will be becoming a part of, in future, is built on concepts and ethos, which are in total contradiction of what they will be teaching and instilling in him/her. Infact he/she will be witnessing things which are 180 degree to what's taught. If that child only receives religious information and rulings, without the most necessary confidence (of being a Muslim) and self esteem, then that child is going to go into severe identity crisis after growing up and getting inducted into society, and infact is bound to have inferiority complex. I'm saying this from observation and interaction. So please, along with teaching your child Islam, make sure you instill magnificent confidence in that child. Make sure that child is inspired and turns out to be a confident Muslim who has strong will power and moral courage and strength to fight off the counter wave. The counter wave is horribly strong, maliciously attractive, frighteningly irresistible and merciless & atrocious. And believe me. The role of father in all this is indispensable. He has to be the hero. He has to be the ideal. He has to be the friend. No choice.

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A sincere piece of advice to parents; can we please focus on teaching our kids manners and etiquette. They need to know how to behave in different environments and circumstances. They have to learn that life does not revolve solely around them and there are rules of conduct and basic rules of etiquette. They must understand that age has rights. There are basic principles to follow when speaking to elders. They have to learn to respect others in general. They need to understand that masajid and Islamic centres have their sanctity and we respect the place and the property within it. Kids have to learn about respecting public property. They need to be aware that in life, there is a system of hierarchy, if you will. I don't know why, but more and more, as the days go by, I am shocked and disappointed at the manners and conduct of the younger generation. Their basic understanding of proper daily interactions with others appears to be non-existent.

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Sh. Muqbil Raḥimahullāh:

“Perhaps a person is destroyed and his Dunyā & Ākhirah is lost due to the supplication of his mother or his father against him.”

● [كتاب الرحلة الاخيرة ٢٤٠]

Translated By: Sameeullaah Sameeullaah (Aboo Maryamm)

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Fathers of girls, be loving and affectionate with your daughters.

The importance of the father-daughter relationship cannot be overstated. In order for a young girl to grow up to be an upright, pious woman, she must be raised well by a strong and attentive father figure.

A father who is weak and incompetent, or absent and unprotective, or cold and undemonstrative, or overly authoritarian, or overly permissive--in these types of cases, many daughters grow up with a very skewed attitude toward men. Often, such girls will desperately and subconsciously seek out some type of a substitute for her father's love: *any* man's love.

Any man at all.

This is, in a nutshell, what we refer to as "daddy issues."

I was reminded of this reality as I read this passage in the book I'm currently reading, Gabor Maté's When the Body Says No:

"Gilda's relationship with her mother appears to have been intensely negative, and apparently marked by competition for her father's attention. Gilda maintained that her father had been "the love of my life." His death of brain cancer when she was 12 was an irreparable loss.

All her adult life, Gilda, out of sheer desperation, promiscuously sought male love and acceptance. "To a great extent, my life has been controlled by the men I loved," she wrote. She attempted to make herself into whatever woman she thought the man in her life preferred..."

The book is about a different, larger topic and not really about daddy issues, but these particular paragraphs caught my attention.

As is true for all children, both daughters and sons, childhood events deeply affect the trajectory of adult life. What happens in our childhood stays with us.

As parents now, our being healthy, attentive, responsive and responsible parents is absolutely essential. Our actions and inactions color not only our children's childhood, but their adulthood as well.

We must meet their physical, emotional, psychological, and spiritual needs, and balance between love and discipline, mercy and justice.

Of course, there are different combinations that are all important: father-son, mother-son, and mother-daughter. But for today, let's zero in on the father-daughter relationship.

The best role model for us, in parenting and in all things, sayyidna Muhammad صلى الله عليه وسلم , brought up four blessed daughters beautifully.

Fatima, رضي الله عنها , never had to seek out a replacement for her father's love. She and her sisters were regularly shown paternal affection and attention. As busy as their father was in his massive responsibility as خاتم النبيين (the Seal of Prophets), he still made time for his daughters.

We all know that her father, صلى الله عليه وسلم, would stand up to welcome her, and kiss her on the forehead to greet her whenever she came to him. He would take her hand and sit her down right next to him in a gathering.

عن عائشة -رضي الله عنها- قالت: "ما رأيت أحدًا كان أشبه كلامًا وحديثًا برسول الله -صلى الله عليه وسلم- من فاطمة، وكانت إذا دخلت عليه؛ قام إليها، وقبَّلها، ورحَّب بها، وأخذ بيدها، وأجلسها في مجلسه، وكانت هي إذا دخل عليها؛ قامت إليه، فقبَّلته، وأخذت بيده..."

Aisha, may Allah be pleased with her, narrated: "I have never seen anyone more similar to the Messenger of Allah صلى الله عليه وسلم in speech and mannerisms than Fatima. When she would enter his house, he would stand up for her, and kiss her, and welcome her warmly, and take her hand. He would seat her where he had been sitting. And she, whenever he would come visit her, would stand up for him, and kiss him, and take his hand..."

What a beautiful bond between father and daughter.

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Since I’m a student of psychology, I keep reading parenting issues in light of psychology. Most of the literature on this is coming from west. During reading, I realised that one of the issues parents in west are facing is how to counsel their teens and pre teen kids about porn, taking nude pics of themselves etc. This issue has become a huge nuisance for the parents and parents and psychologists have sat together multiple times to discuss this menace and how to deal with it.

Unfortunately, this menace is not only in west. Time has come that Asian parents as well ss others also, sooner or later, need to discuss this openly, and counsel their kids and talk about this issue. Teen girls are committing suicide in west over their pics being leaked. The phenomena of sexting is madly spreading all over the world, especially in teens. Parents should wake up and come out of illusion that this is 90s. I will soon make a detailed video on it.
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Every Mother Is A Da’ee, By Ibn ‘Uthaymeen

A woman first and foremost needs to be righteous herself, so that she can be a good example for her daughters…

A woman should train her children properly, for her children represent the men and women of the future. In the earliest stages of their development, it is the mothers that human beings learn from. If she is a good mother, good in her manners and dealings and good in the way she brings up her children, then those children will take after her and contribute positively to the betterment of society.

Every mother, then, must dedicate herself to training her children, and if she cannot undertake their training on her own, then their father or another guardian – for example, a brother or uncle, if their father is dead – should help her to raise them.

A woman should not yield to difficult circumstances, feeling that she cannot change her situation or her family’s situation for the better.

[The Islaamic Awakening, by Ibn ‘Uthaymeen, Pp. 223 & 229]

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