In this day and age, Muslim homes are not stable anymore. It is quite upsetting, especially when we have been given the guidance of Islam as a rule book. Men and women have lost the ability to understand the unity of family. Men want to build muscle to show off or impress the opposite gender or don't want to put graft in to make halal earnings, whereas women want to doll up and compete with men or just spend the hard-earned cash of their husbands.
The roles of both genders are varied and for greater reasons too. Men are the providers and protectors of women. Men need to provide and literally be the head of a family. This entails guidance and establishing the running of the house by setting clear boundaries. Women are nurturers, so having children and taking care of home is a very suited role.
I often wonder how we can achieve this stability in our homes again.
It's quite simpler than we think. We must revert back to the ways of our teachings of Islam.
The roles of both genders are varied and for greater reasons too. Men are the providers and protectors of women. Men need to provide and literally be the head of a family. This entails guidance and establishing the running of the house by setting clear boundaries. Women are nurturers, so having children and taking care of home is a very suited role.
I often wonder how we can achieve this stability in our homes again.
It's quite simpler than we think. We must revert back to the ways of our teachings of Islam.
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An advice to those couples who have recently become parents and want to do Islamic upbringing of their child. They must know that the society that this child will be becoming a part of, in future, is built on concepts and ethos, which are in total contradiction of what they will be teaching and instilling in him/her. Infact he/she will be witnessing things which are 180 degree to what's taught. If that child only receives religious information and rulings, without the most necessary confidence (of being a Muslim) and self esteem, then that child is going to go into severe identity crisis after growing up and getting inducted into society, and infact is bound to have inferiority complex. I'm saying this from observation and interaction. So please, along with teaching your child Islam, make sure you instill magnificent confidence in that child. Make sure that child is inspired and turns out to be a confident Muslim who has strong will power and moral courage and strength to fight off the counter wave. The counter wave is horribly strong, maliciously attractive, frighteningly irresistible and merciless & atrocious. And believe me. The role of father in all this is indispensable. He has to be the hero. He has to be the ideal. He has to be the friend. No choice.
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"A woman should train her children properly, for her children represent the men and women of the future."
Shaykh Saalih ibn Uthaymeen (rahimahullaah)
from The Uprightness of a Woman.
Shaykh Saalih ibn Uthaymeen (rahimahullaah)
from The Uprightness of a Woman.
A sincere piece of advice to parents; can we please focus on teaching our kids manners and etiquette. They need to know how to behave in different environments and circumstances. They have to learn that life does not revolve solely around them and there are rules of conduct and basic rules of etiquette. They must understand that age has rights. There are basic principles to follow when speaking to elders. They have to learn to respect others in general. They need to understand that masajid and Islamic centres have their sanctity and we respect the place and the property within it. Kids have to learn about respecting public property. They need to be aware that in life, there is a system of hierarchy, if you will. I don't know why, but more and more, as the days go by, I am shocked and disappointed at the manners and conduct of the younger generation. Their basic understanding of proper daily interactions with others appears to be non-existent.
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"A woman should train her children properly, for her children represent the men and women of the future."
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from The Uprightness of a Woman.
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Sh. Muqbil Raḥimahullāh:
“Perhaps a person is destroyed and his Dunyā & Ākhirah is lost due to the supplication of his mother or his father against him.”
● [كتاب الرحلة الاخيرة ٢٤٠]
Translated By: Sameeullaah Sameeullaah (Aboo Maryamm)
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“Perhaps a person is destroyed and his Dunyā & Ākhirah is lost due to the supplication of his mother or his father against him.”
● [كتاب الرحلة الاخيرة ٢٤٠]
Translated By: Sameeullaah Sameeullaah (Aboo Maryamm)
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"A woman should train her children properly, for her children represent the men and women of the future."
Shaykh Saalih ibn Uthaymeen (rahimahullaah)
from The Uprightness of a Woman.
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Fathers of girls, be loving and affectionate with your daughters.
The importance of the father-daughter relationship cannot be overstated. In order for a young girl to grow up to be an upright, pious woman, she must be raised well by a strong and attentive father figure.
A father who is weak and incompetent, or absent and unprotective, or cold and undemonstrative, or overly authoritarian, or overly permissive--in these types of cases, many daughters grow up with a very skewed attitude toward men. Often, such girls will desperately and subconsciously seek out some type of a substitute for her father's love: *any* man's love.
Any man at all.
This is, in a nutshell, what we refer to as "daddy issues."
I was reminded of this reality as I read this passage in the book I'm currently reading, Gabor Maté's When the Body Says No:
"Gilda's relationship with her mother appears to have been intensely negative, and apparently marked by competition for her father's attention. Gilda maintained that her father had been "the love of my life." His death of brain cancer when she was 12 was an irreparable loss.
All her adult life, Gilda, out of sheer desperation, promiscuously sought male love and acceptance. "To a great extent, my life has been controlled by the men I loved," she wrote. She attempted to make herself into whatever woman she thought the man in her life preferred..."
The book is about a different, larger topic and not really about daddy issues, but these particular paragraphs caught my attention.
As is true for all children, both daughters and sons, childhood events deeply affect the trajectory of adult life. What happens in our childhood stays with us.
As parents now, our being healthy, attentive, responsive and responsible parents is absolutely essential. Our actions and inactions color not only our children's childhood, but their adulthood as well.
We must meet their physical, emotional, psychological, and spiritual needs, and balance between love and discipline, mercy and justice.
Of course, there are different combinations that are all important: father-son, mother-son, and mother-daughter. But for today, let's zero in on the father-daughter relationship.
The best role model for us, in parenting and in all things, sayyidna Muhammad صلى الله عليه وسلم , brought up four blessed daughters beautifully.
Fatima, رضي الله عنها , never had to seek out a replacement for her father's love. She and her sisters were regularly shown paternal affection and attention. As busy as their father was in his massive responsibility as خاتم النبيين (the Seal of Prophets), he still made time for his daughters.
We all know that her father, صلى الله عليه وسلم, would stand up to welcome her, and kiss her on the forehead to greet her whenever she came to him. He would take her hand and sit her down right next to him in a gathering.
عن عائشة -رضي الله عنها- قالت: "ما رأيت أحدًا كان أشبه كلامًا وحديثًا برسول الله -صلى الله عليه وسلم- من فاطمة، وكانت إذا دخلت عليه؛ قام إليها، وقبَّلها، ورحَّب بها، وأخذ بيدها، وأجلسها في مجلسه، وكانت هي إذا دخل عليها؛ قامت إليه، فقبَّلته، وأخذت بيده..."
Aisha, may Allah be pleased with her, narrated: "I have never seen anyone more similar to the Messenger of Allah صلى الله عليه وسلم in speech and mannerisms than Fatima. When she would enter his house, he would stand up for her, and kiss her, and welcome her warmly, and take her hand. He would seat her where he had been sitting. And she, whenever he would come visit her, would stand up for him, and kiss him, and take his hand..."
What a beautiful bond between father and daughter.
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The importance of the father-daughter relationship cannot be overstated. In order for a young girl to grow up to be an upright, pious woman, she must be raised well by a strong and attentive father figure.
A father who is weak and incompetent, or absent and unprotective, or cold and undemonstrative, or overly authoritarian, or overly permissive--in these types of cases, many daughters grow up with a very skewed attitude toward men. Often, such girls will desperately and subconsciously seek out some type of a substitute for her father's love: *any* man's love.
Any man at all.
This is, in a nutshell, what we refer to as "daddy issues."
I was reminded of this reality as I read this passage in the book I'm currently reading, Gabor Maté's When the Body Says No:
"Gilda's relationship with her mother appears to have been intensely negative, and apparently marked by competition for her father's attention. Gilda maintained that her father had been "the love of my life." His death of brain cancer when she was 12 was an irreparable loss.
All her adult life, Gilda, out of sheer desperation, promiscuously sought male love and acceptance. "To a great extent, my life has been controlled by the men I loved," she wrote. She attempted to make herself into whatever woman she thought the man in her life preferred..."
The book is about a different, larger topic and not really about daddy issues, but these particular paragraphs caught my attention.
As is true for all children, both daughters and sons, childhood events deeply affect the trajectory of adult life. What happens in our childhood stays with us.
As parents now, our being healthy, attentive, responsive and responsible parents is absolutely essential. Our actions and inactions color not only our children's childhood, but their adulthood as well.
We must meet their physical, emotional, psychological, and spiritual needs, and balance between love and discipline, mercy and justice.
Of course, there are different combinations that are all important: father-son, mother-son, and mother-daughter. But for today, let's zero in on the father-daughter relationship.
The best role model for us, in parenting and in all things, sayyidna Muhammad صلى الله عليه وسلم , brought up four blessed daughters beautifully.
Fatima, رضي الله عنها , never had to seek out a replacement for her father's love. She and her sisters were regularly shown paternal affection and attention. As busy as their father was in his massive responsibility as خاتم النبيين (the Seal of Prophets), he still made time for his daughters.
We all know that her father, صلى الله عليه وسلم, would stand up to welcome her, and kiss her on the forehead to greet her whenever she came to him. He would take her hand and sit her down right next to him in a gathering.
عن عائشة -رضي الله عنها- قالت: "ما رأيت أحدًا كان أشبه كلامًا وحديثًا برسول الله -صلى الله عليه وسلم- من فاطمة، وكانت إذا دخلت عليه؛ قام إليها، وقبَّلها، ورحَّب بها، وأخذ بيدها، وأجلسها في مجلسه، وكانت هي إذا دخل عليها؛ قامت إليه، فقبَّلته، وأخذت بيده..."
Aisha, may Allah be pleased with her, narrated: "I have never seen anyone more similar to the Messenger of Allah صلى الله عليه وسلم in speech and mannerisms than Fatima. When she would enter his house, he would stand up for her, and kiss her, and welcome her warmly, and take her hand. He would seat her where he had been sitting. And she, whenever he would come visit her, would stand up for him, and kiss him, and take his hand..."
What a beautiful bond between father and daughter.
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Since I’m a student of psychology, I keep reading parenting issues in light of psychology. Most of the literature on this is coming from west. During reading, I realised that one of the issues parents in west are facing is how to counsel their teens and pre teen kids about porn, taking nude pics of themselves etc. This issue has become a huge nuisance for the parents and parents and psychologists have sat together multiple times to discuss this menace and how to deal with it.
Unfortunately, this menace is not only in west. Time has come that Asian parents as well ss others also, sooner or later, need to discuss this openly, and counsel their kids and talk about this issue. Teen girls are committing suicide in west over their pics being leaked. The phenomena of sexting is madly spreading all over the world, especially in teens. Parents should wake up and come out of illusion that this is 90s. I will soon make a detailed video on it.
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Unfortunately, this menace is not only in west. Time has come that Asian parents as well ss others also, sooner or later, need to discuss this openly, and counsel their kids and talk about this issue. Teen girls are committing suicide in west over their pics being leaked. The phenomena of sexting is madly spreading all over the world, especially in teens. Parents should wake up and come out of illusion that this is 90s. I will soon make a detailed video on it.
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"A woman should train her children properly, for her children represent the men and women of the future."
Shaykh Saalih ibn Uthaymeen (rahimahullaah)
from The Uprightness of a Woman.
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from The Uprightness of a Woman.
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Every Mother Is A Da’ee, By Ibn ‘Uthaymeen
A woman first and foremost needs to be righteous herself, so that she can be a good example for her daughters…
A woman should train her children properly, for her children represent the men and women of the future. In the earliest stages of their development, it is the mothers that human beings learn from. If she is a good mother, good in her manners and dealings and good in the way she brings up her children, then those children will take after her and contribute positively to the betterment of society.
Every mother, then, must dedicate herself to training her children, and if she cannot undertake their training on her own, then their father or another guardian – for example, a brother or uncle, if their father is dead – should help her to raise them.
A woman should not yield to difficult circumstances, feeling that she cannot change her situation or her family’s situation for the better.
[The Islaamic Awakening, by Ibn ‘Uthaymeen, Pp. 223 & 229]
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A woman first and foremost needs to be righteous herself, so that she can be a good example for her daughters…
A woman should train her children properly, for her children represent the men and women of the future. In the earliest stages of their development, it is the mothers that human beings learn from. If she is a good mother, good in her manners and dealings and good in the way she brings up her children, then those children will take after her and contribute positively to the betterment of society.
Every mother, then, must dedicate herself to training her children, and if she cannot undertake their training on her own, then their father or another guardian – for example, a brother or uncle, if their father is dead – should help her to raise them.
A woman should not yield to difficult circumstances, feeling that she cannot change her situation or her family’s situation for the better.
[The Islaamic Awakening, by Ibn ‘Uthaymeen, Pp. 223 & 229]
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Shaykh Saalih ibn Uthaymeen (rahimahullaah)
from The Uprightness of a Woman.
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You allow your children to comfortably sleep without waking them up for Fajr, but in haste to wake them up when it's time for school. You're literally informing and educating your children the Dunya has so much more than the Akhira.
By Allah, you won't die until you see the effect of it in this Dunya before the Akhira. Allah has made it mandatory upon us to protect our families from Jahannam. He سبحانه وتعالى said in the Qur'an,
"O believers, protect yourself and your families from a fire whose fuel is people and stones..." unfortunately we are rather taking them closer to it. Love and protection is when you raise your children on Deen.
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By Allah, you won't die until you see the effect of it in this Dunya before the Akhira. Allah has made it mandatory upon us to protect our families from Jahannam. He سبحانه وتعالى said in the Qur'an,
"O believers, protect yourself and your families from a fire whose fuel is people and stones..." unfortunately we are rather taking them closer to it. Love and protection is when you raise your children on Deen.
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"A woman should train her children properly, for her children represent the men and women of the future."
Shaykh Saalih ibn Uthaymeen (rahimahullaah)
from The Uprightness of a Woman.
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from The Uprightness of a Woman.
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Ibn al-Qayyim (may Allah have mercy on him) said:
"Whoever neglects to teach his child that which will benefit him, and leaves him without any guidance, has wronged him gravely. Most children’s deviance is because of their parents and the parents’ neglect and failure to teach them the obligatory religious duties and the sunnah of the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him), so they neglected them when they were small.…
How many are the parents who were the cause of their children’s misfortune and suffering in this world and the hereafter, because of their negligence and failure to discipline the child, and their encouraging and helping him to pursue his whims and desires. By doing that, they think that they are being kind to the child, at the time when they are disgracing him, and they think that they are showing mercy to him at the time when they are wronging him. Thus the child will be of no benefit to his parent, and the parent is the cause of the child’s misfortune and of his missing out on opportunities for success in this world and the hereafter…
If you think of the causes of children’s misguidance and corruption, you will see that it is mostly the fault of the parents."
End quote from Tuhfat al-Mawdood bi Ahkaam al-Mawlood (p. 229, 242).
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Ibn al-Qayyim (may Allah have mercy on him) said:
"Whoever neglects to teach his child that which will benefit him, and leaves him without any guidance, has wronged him gravely. Most children’s deviance is because of their parents and the parents’ neglect and failure to teach them the obligatory religious duties and the sunnah of the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him), so they neglected them when they were small.…
How many are the parents who were the cause of their children’s misfortune and suffering in this world and the hereafter, because of their negligence and failure to discipline the child, and their encouraging and helping him to pursue his whims and desires. By doing that, they think that they are being kind to the child, at the time when they are disgracing him, and they think that they are showing mercy to him at the time when they are wronging him. Thus the child will be of no benefit to his parent, and the parent is the cause of the child’s misfortune and of his missing out on opportunities for success in this world and the hereafter…
If you think of the causes of children’s misguidance and corruption, you will see that it is mostly the fault of the parents."
End quote from Tuhfat al-Mawdood bi Ahkaam al-Mawlood (p. 229, 242).
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"Importance of choosing the name of your child"
Bismillah,
Abu Dawood (4950) narrated that Abu Wahb al-Jushami, who was a companion of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him), said: The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: “Give your children the names of Prophets, and the most beloved of names to Allah are ‘Abdullah and ‘AbdurRahmaan, and the most truthful are Haarith and Hammaam, and the worst are Harb and Murrah [meaning ‘war’ and ‘bitterness’ respectively].” Classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh Abi Dawood.
Explanation of the hadith:
The Prophet, peace be upon him, advised us to embrace everything that is beautiful and good. Among these aspects is the selection of beautiful names and avoiding ugly ones. The Prophet, peace be upon him, said, "Choose prophet names, for they serve as a reminder and an invitation to future generations, helping preserve the religion of Allah."
He then said, "The most beloved names to Allah are 'Abdullah' and 'Abdur-Rahman.'" These names emphasize the concept of servitude and devotion to Allah alone.
The Prophet, peace be upon him, also mentioned, "The most truthful names are 'Harith' (meaning 'earner') and 'Hammam' (meaning 'one who resolves and decides')."
On the other hand, he warned against the ugliest names, such as 'Harb' (meaning 'war') and 'Murrah' (meaning 'bitterness' or 'grief'). This is because war involves the ugliness of killing and destruction, and 'Murrah' conveys a sense of bitterness that is not favorable to one's disposition.
It is evident that the Prophet's encouragement to choose beautiful names and avoid ugly ones is based on positive outcomes and good omens, not on superstitions or pessimism about unattractive names.
✍🏼Translated explanation by: M. I. B.
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Bismillah,
Abu Dawood (4950) narrated that Abu Wahb al-Jushami, who was a companion of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him), said: The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: “Give your children the names of Prophets, and the most beloved of names to Allah are ‘Abdullah and ‘AbdurRahmaan, and the most truthful are Haarith and Hammaam, and the worst are Harb and Murrah [meaning ‘war’ and ‘bitterness’ respectively].” Classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh Abi Dawood.
Explanation of the hadith:
The Prophet, peace be upon him, advised us to embrace everything that is beautiful and good. Among these aspects is the selection of beautiful names and avoiding ugly ones. The Prophet, peace be upon him, said, "Choose prophet names, for they serve as a reminder and an invitation to future generations, helping preserve the religion of Allah."
He then said, "The most beloved names to Allah are 'Abdullah' and 'Abdur-Rahman.'" These names emphasize the concept of servitude and devotion to Allah alone.
The Prophet, peace be upon him, also mentioned, "The most truthful names are 'Harith' (meaning 'earner') and 'Hammam' (meaning 'one who resolves and decides')."
On the other hand, he warned against the ugliest names, such as 'Harb' (meaning 'war') and 'Murrah' (meaning 'bitterness' or 'grief'). This is because war involves the ugliness of killing and destruction, and 'Murrah' conveys a sense of bitterness that is not favorable to one's disposition.
It is evident that the Prophet's encouragement to choose beautiful names and avoid ugly ones is based on positive outcomes and good omens, not on superstitions or pessimism about unattractive names.
✍🏼Translated explanation by: M. I. B.
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"A woman should train her children properly, for her children represent the men and women of the future."
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from The Uprightness of a Woman.
Shaykh Saalih ibn Uthaymeen (rahimahullaah)
from The Uprightness of a Woman.
Don't let your children be your enemies on the Day of Judgement by raising them to sin.
It will be your biggest regret ever. Raise your children with the fear of Allaah so they can be one of your biggest reasons to enter Jannah bi idh nillaah.
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It will be your biggest regret ever. Raise your children with the fear of Allaah so they can be one of your biggest reasons to enter Jannah bi idh nillaah.
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*Here are some mistakes parents do that lead kids into Zina; parents should be careful of the following:*
1.Parents, especially mother's bathing with her kids, dressing Infront of them and seeing nothing wrong with that. But don't forget they are observing what you have on your body.
2. Bathing two or more children together or dressing them together. They also observe strange things from one another.
3. Wearing the child especially the girl child with Haram dressing that exposes her body. (Beware bad men raping kids are some reason of your girl child body exposing as a means of seducing).
4. Children watching Haram programs, films on TV, phones etc.
5. The Prophet advised that, at some stage the husband and the wife should avoid sleeping with their child. And also avoid putting the boy and the girl on the same bed. Sunan Abi Dawud 495.
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1.Parents, especially mother's bathing with her kids, dressing Infront of them and seeing nothing wrong with that. But don't forget they are observing what you have on your body.
2. Bathing two or more children together or dressing them together. They also observe strange things from one another.
3. Wearing the child especially the girl child with Haram dressing that exposes her body. (Beware bad men raping kids are some reason of your girl child body exposing as a means of seducing).
4. Children watching Haram programs, films on TV, phones etc.
5. The Prophet advised that, at some stage the husband and the wife should avoid sleeping with their child. And also avoid putting the boy and the girl on the same bed. Sunan Abi Dawud 495.
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"A woman should train her children properly, for her children represent the men and women of the future."
Shaykh Saalih ibn Uthaymeen (rahimahullaah)
from The Uprightness of a Woman.
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Allaah mentioned two stages of man where he is physically weak: 1) when he is a child, 2) when grows old.
اللَّـهُ الَّذِي خَلَقَكُم مِّن ضَعْفٍ ثُمَّ جَعَلَ مِن بَعْدِ ضَعْفٍ قُوَّةً ثُمَّ جَعَلَ مِن بَعْدِ قُوَّةٍ ضَعْفًا وَشَيْبَةً ۚيَخْلُقُ مَا يَشَاءُ ۖ وَهُوَ الْعَلِيمُ الْقَدِيرُ
{Allah is He Who created you in (a state of) weakness, then gave you strength after weakness, then after strength gave (you) weakness and grey hair. He creates what He wills. And it is He Who is the All-Knowing, the All-Powerful (i.e. Able to do all things)}
📚[Surah al-Room (30): 54]
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➡️ As much as we are responsible for the welfare and well-being of our children, similarly we are responsible for our parents' well-being when they grow old.
➡️ Our parents took care of us when we were helpless, and when they are old, it is our duty to take care of them.
➡️ And this has been beautifully described in the Hadeeth of the three who got stuck in the cave and they said to each other: 'Invoke Allaah with the best deed you have performed (so Allaah might remove the rock)'. One of them said: "O Allaah! You know that I had old parents whom I used to provide with the milk from my sheep every night. One night I was delayed and when I came, they had slept, while my wife and children were crying with hunger. I used not to let them (i.e. my family) drink unless my parents had drunk first. So I disliked to wake them up and also disliked that they should sleep without drinking it, I kept on waiting (for them to wake) till it dawned. O Allaah ! If You consider that I did that for fear of you, then please remove the rock." So the rock moved a bit and they could see the sky through it... and the other two supplicated, mentioning their good deeds and the rock moved and they got out.
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➡️ We do not (or did not) send our children to nursing homes when they are (or were) young, then how can we do that with our parents when they grow old?
➡️ We do not abandon our children, then why should (or how could) we abandon our parents?
➡️ At times, we do need external help and extra assistance, no one is denying that. But Shaikh Saaleh al-Fawzaan is clear about those who would abandon their parents in nursing homes and would rarely pay them a visit; as if the employees in the nursing homes are their children and not you. This is where the problem is.
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{And your Lord has decreed that you worship none but Him. And that you be dutiful to your parents. If one of them or both of them attain old age in your life, say not to them a word of disrespect, nor shout at them but address them in terms of honor. And lower unto them the wing of submission and humility through mercy, and say: "MY LORD ! BESTOW ON THEM YOUR MERCY AS THEY DID BRING ME UP WHEN I WAS SMALL."
📚 [Surah al-Israa (17): 23-24]
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اللَّـهُ الَّذِي خَلَقَكُم مِّن ضَعْفٍ ثُمَّ جَعَلَ مِن بَعْدِ ضَعْفٍ قُوَّةً ثُمَّ جَعَلَ مِن بَعْدِ قُوَّةٍ ضَعْفًا وَشَيْبَةً ۚيَخْلُقُ مَا يَشَاءُ ۖ وَهُوَ الْعَلِيمُ الْقَدِيرُ
{Allah is He Who created you in (a state of) weakness, then gave you strength after weakness, then after strength gave (you) weakness and grey hair. He creates what He wills. And it is He Who is the All-Knowing, the All-Powerful (i.e. Able to do all things)}
📚[Surah al-Room (30): 54]
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➡️ As much as we are responsible for the welfare and well-being of our children, similarly we are responsible for our parents' well-being when they grow old.
➡️ Our parents took care of us when we were helpless, and when they are old, it is our duty to take care of them.
➡️ And this has been beautifully described in the Hadeeth of the three who got stuck in the cave and they said to each other: 'Invoke Allaah with the best deed you have performed (so Allaah might remove the rock)'. One of them said: "O Allaah! You know that I had old parents whom I used to provide with the milk from my sheep every night. One night I was delayed and when I came, they had slept, while my wife and children were crying with hunger. I used not to let them (i.e. my family) drink unless my parents had drunk first. So I disliked to wake them up and also disliked that they should sleep without drinking it, I kept on waiting (for them to wake) till it dawned. O Allaah ! If You consider that I did that for fear of you, then please remove the rock." So the rock moved a bit and they could see the sky through it... and the other two supplicated, mentioning their good deeds and the rock moved and they got out.
📚 [Saheehain]
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➡️ We do not (or did not) send our children to nursing homes when they are (or were) young, then how can we do that with our parents when they grow old?
➡️ We do not abandon our children, then why should (or how could) we abandon our parents?
➡️ At times, we do need external help and extra assistance, no one is denying that. But Shaikh Saaleh al-Fawzaan is clear about those who would abandon their parents in nursing homes and would rarely pay them a visit; as if the employees in the nursing homes are their children and not you. This is where the problem is.
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{And your Lord has decreed that you worship none but Him. And that you be dutiful to your parents. If one of them or both of them attain old age in your life, say not to them a word of disrespect, nor shout at them but address them in terms of honor. And lower unto them the wing of submission and humility through mercy, and say: "MY LORD ! BESTOW ON THEM YOUR MERCY AS THEY DID BRING ME UP WHEN I WAS SMALL."
📚 [Surah al-Israa (17): 23-24]
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"A woman should train her children properly, for her children represent the men and women of the future."
Shaykh Saalih ibn Uthaymeen (rahimahullaah)
from The Uprightness of a Woman.
Shaykh Saalih ibn Uthaymeen (rahimahullaah)
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Most parents nowadays don’t raise their kids, they simply keep them alive.
What good does it bring one’s hereafter to have a child if you simply let it roam around like an animal, with no discipline, no Islāmic education, & no manners?
Just food, water, & play والله المستعان
One thing different from today’s generation of parents vs the previous ones, is that the latter might have neglected Deen greatly in their Tarbiyyah, but at least manners & discipline was emphasized & enforced.
Today’s parents lack in both. It’s pathetic to call it “parenting”.
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What good does it bring one’s hereafter to have a child if you simply let it roam around like an animal, with no discipline, no Islāmic education, & no manners?
Just food, water, & play والله المستعان
One thing different from today’s generation of parents vs the previous ones, is that the latter might have neglected Deen greatly in their Tarbiyyah, but at least manners & discipline was emphasized & enforced.
Today’s parents lack in both. It’s pathetic to call it “parenting”.
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"A woman should train her children properly, for her children represent the men and women of the future."
Shaykh Saalih ibn Uthaymeen (rahimahullaah)
from The Uprightness of a Woman.
Shaykh Saalih ibn Uthaymeen (rahimahullaah)
from The Uprightness of a Woman.
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Ibn al-Jawzī رحمه الله stated:
"When one of the Salaf had a child that was growing up they busied the child with memorizing the Qur’ān and listening to the Hadith. As a result of that, Iman was established in the child's heart."
[Sayd Al Khatir | 1/488]
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"When one of the Salaf had a child that was growing up they busied the child with memorizing the Qur’ān and listening to the Hadith. As a result of that, Iman was established in the child's heart."
[Sayd Al Khatir | 1/488]
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"A woman should train her children properly, for her children represent the men and women of the future."
Shaykh Saalih ibn Uthaymeen (rahimahullaah)
from The Uprightness of a Woman.
Shaykh Saalih ibn Uthaymeen (rahimahullaah)
from The Uprightness of a Woman.
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✍🏻 Right Of Parents
From ʿAbdullāh b. ʿAmr RaḍiAllāhu-ʿAnhu who narrated that a man came to Prophet and pledged to him that he will make Hijrah (migration) and then left his parents in tears, so Prophet Ṣallallāhu-ʿAlaihi Wa Sallam said to him: “Go back to them and make them laugh like you have made them cry.”
● [الأدب المفرد للبخاري ١٣]
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From ʿAbdullāh b. ʿAmr RaḍiAllāhu-ʿAnhu who narrated that a man came to Prophet and pledged to him that he will make Hijrah (migration) and then left his parents in tears, so Prophet Ṣallallāhu-ʿAlaihi Wa Sallam said to him: “Go back to them and make them laugh like you have made them cry.”
● [الأدب المفرد للبخاري ١٣]
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"A woman should train her children properly, for her children represent the men and women of the future."
Shaykh Saalih ibn Uthaymeen (rahimahullaah)
from The Uprightness of a Woman.
Shaykh Saalih ibn Uthaymeen (rahimahullaah)
from The Uprightness of a Woman.
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