THE FATHER MOLDS HIS CHILD
A child - without a doubt - is influenced by his father, influenced by his behavior, manners, interaction [with people] and religion; he is the most influenced by his father as was said:
وَ ينْشَأُ نَاشِئُ الْفِتْيَانُ فِينَا عَلَى مَا كَانَ عَوَّدَهُ أَبَوهُ
"A youngster from the youth will grow up amongst us based upon what his father accustomed him to."
Book: Raising Children In Islam
By Shaykh Abdur Razzaaq bin Abdul Muhsin al-Badr
Translated by Abdullah Ali as-Somalī
P. 14
A child - without a doubt - is influenced by his father, influenced by his behavior, manners, interaction [with people] and religion; he is the most influenced by his father as was said:
وَ ينْشَأُ نَاشِئُ الْفِتْيَانُ فِينَا عَلَى مَا كَانَ عَوَّدَهُ أَبَوهُ
"A youngster from the youth will grow up amongst us based upon what his father accustomed him to."
Book: Raising Children In Islam
By Shaykh Abdur Razzaaq bin Abdul Muhsin al-Badr
Translated by Abdullah Ali as-Somalī
P. 14
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Dear Parents who are constantly angry,
Please read this.
Unpopular opinion, but the unhinged/angry/on the edge parents who are always screaming at their children and are constantly angry are the ones who don't invest in me time and prioritize themselves.
They are so depleted all their frustration comes out on their children.
Please as a parent set aside a time to rejuvenate, reset and rest.
This can mean not showing up for other people, taking a mental health leave from job, this can mean asking family to step up to babysit so you can sleep or read a book or get a massage or facial. Whatever helps you calm down and show up with love, patience and compassion for your children - DO IT!
"Sticks and stones will break my bones, but words will kill me inside out."
Words hurt ALOT.
Words can traumatize.
How beautiful are the words of the Prophet ﷺ, "Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day, let him speak good or remain silent."
The tone you use, your eye stares, you screaming constantly at them will traumatize your children. That's not discipline and that's not how they will listen to you.
You are raising future of this ummah. Make the right choices.
🤲 May Allah help, protect and guide Muslim Parents - Allahumma ameen.
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Please read this.
Unpopular opinion, but the unhinged/angry/on the edge parents who are always screaming at their children and are constantly angry are the ones who don't invest in me time and prioritize themselves.
They are so depleted all their frustration comes out on their children.
Please as a parent set aside a time to rejuvenate, reset and rest.
This can mean not showing up for other people, taking a mental health leave from job, this can mean asking family to step up to babysit so you can sleep or read a book or get a massage or facial. Whatever helps you calm down and show up with love, patience and compassion for your children - DO IT!
"Sticks and stones will break my bones, but words will kill me inside out."
Words hurt ALOT.
Words can traumatize.
How beautiful are the words of the Prophet ﷺ, "Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day, let him speak good or remain silent."
The tone you use, your eye stares, you screaming constantly at them will traumatize your children. That's not discipline and that's not how they will listen to you.
You are raising future of this ummah. Make the right choices.
🤲 May Allah help, protect and guide Muslim Parents - Allahumma ameen.
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Shaykh Ahmad an-Najmī (may Allah have mercy upon him) said:
“Be good to your mother and be patient with her. And do not show her any type of dissatisfaction. And be certain that Allah must compensate you for spending on her and being at her service.”
📚 فتح الرب الودود في الفتاوى والرسائل والردود [٣٧٢/٢]
“Be good to your mother and be patient with her. And do not show her any type of dissatisfaction. And be certain that Allah must compensate you for spending on her and being at her service.”
📚 فتح الرب الودود في الفتاوى والرسائل والردود [٣٧٢/٢]
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Saudi Arabia, Gulf states and Egypt announce officially that Monday 11th March 2024 is the 1st day of Ramadan 1445 A.H.
May Allāh grant us a fruitful Ramadan. Aameen
May Allāh grant us a fruitful Ramadan. Aameen
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‘Amr b. Shu’aib narrated from his father from his grandfather that Allaah’s Messenger (salallaahu ‘alaihi wassallam) said:
“Command your children with the Salah at the age of seven, and smack them if they don’t pray at the age of ten. And separate their beds [at ten years old].” [Abu Dawood, 495]
This shows that cultivation begins at an early age.
Shaikhul-Islaam Ibn Taymiyyah (raḥimahullāh, d. 728H) said:
“Whoever has a child or a servant or an orphan in his care and yet he does not order them with the prayer, then it is the adult who is punished if he does not teach and command the young one – so he is rebuked and censured severely because he has disobeyed Allah and His messenger.”
Ibnul-Qayyim (raḥimahullāh, d. 752H) stated:
“Whoever pays no attention to teaching his child that which will benefit him and he leaves him to waste away without care then he is extremely sinful. Most children are corrupted (and led to failure) due to their parents. They pay no attention to them and leave off teaching them the obligations of the religion and the Sunan. So they ruin them whilst they are still children. And they (the children) are not able to benefit themselves and their parents do not benefit them.” [Tuhfatul-Mawdood fee Ahkaamil-Mawlood, p.80]
It is mind-boggling that many Muslim parents pay so much attention to worldly affairs and worldly ambitions for their children whilst neglecting their “spiritual” and religious welfare. They further compound that lack of Islamic nurturing with instilling poor manners, bad character and lack of common decency in their children – they teach their sons and daughters to be arrogant, haughty and to look down upon upon others. They turn away from from feeding the poor, and being courtesy to the neighbours. They are not taught to respect elders or to give the scholars their rights. Indeed, we find Muslim youth, boys and girls, right into their teenage years who know the names of more Hollywood movie “stars” than they do the names of the Companions of Allaah’s Messenger (salallaahu alaihi wassallam) or the name of the Prophets of Allaah, the Most High. And Allaah’s aid is sought from this type of wicked cultivation.
We have seen parents spending hundreds of Pounds (Euros or Dollars) on private tuition on their children to help them excel in Mathematics or Science or Geography, yet they become extremely niggardly when it comes to expending wealth on Religious education. Worst still, they will spend huge amounts of wealth on secular educations, and will turn away from Religious knowledge (of the Qur’aan and Sunnah) even when it offered free!
“Command your children with the Salah at the age of seven, and smack them if they don’t pray at the age of ten. And separate their beds [at ten years old].” [Abu Dawood, 495]
This shows that cultivation begins at an early age.
Shaikhul-Islaam Ibn Taymiyyah (raḥimahullāh, d. 728H) said:
“Whoever has a child or a servant or an orphan in his care and yet he does not order them with the prayer, then it is the adult who is punished if he does not teach and command the young one – so he is rebuked and censured severely because he has disobeyed Allah and His messenger.”
Ibnul-Qayyim (raḥimahullāh, d. 752H) stated:
“Whoever pays no attention to teaching his child that which will benefit him and he leaves him to waste away without care then he is extremely sinful. Most children are corrupted (and led to failure) due to their parents. They pay no attention to them and leave off teaching them the obligations of the religion and the Sunan. So they ruin them whilst they are still children. And they (the children) are not able to benefit themselves and their parents do not benefit them.” [Tuhfatul-Mawdood fee Ahkaamil-Mawlood, p.80]
It is mind-boggling that many Muslim parents pay so much attention to worldly affairs and worldly ambitions for their children whilst neglecting their “spiritual” and religious welfare. They further compound that lack of Islamic nurturing with instilling poor manners, bad character and lack of common decency in their children – they teach their sons and daughters to be arrogant, haughty and to look down upon upon others. They turn away from from feeding the poor, and being courtesy to the neighbours. They are not taught to respect elders or to give the scholars their rights. Indeed, we find Muslim youth, boys and girls, right into their teenage years who know the names of more Hollywood movie “stars” than they do the names of the Companions of Allaah’s Messenger (salallaahu alaihi wassallam) or the name of the Prophets of Allaah, the Most High. And Allaah’s aid is sought from this type of wicked cultivation.
We have seen parents spending hundreds of Pounds (Euros or Dollars) on private tuition on their children to help them excel in Mathematics or Science or Geography, yet they become extremely niggardly when it comes to expending wealth on Religious education. Worst still, they will spend huge amounts of wealth on secular educations, and will turn away from Religious knowledge (of the Qur’aan and Sunnah) even when it offered free!
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Forwarded from Jannah is Our Dream
*Feeding people in Ramadan is very good. But feeding your wife, Mum, Dad, sisters and brothers snd other relatives, especially those you shoulder their responsibilities, is more rewarding and in fact, an obligation.*
*Priotise your relatives first in your charity. Whatever is left can go out.*
*Please before you start donating for Ramadan feeding project, help your poor family members and neighbors.*
*You know some people are very good at show-off when it comes to that, they want public validation not minding the important thing which is FAMILY.*
- *As the saying goes *CHARITY BEGINS AT HOME" ✅*
*Priotise your relatives first in your charity. Whatever is left can go out.*
*Please before you start donating for Ramadan feeding project, help your poor family members and neighbors.*
*You know some people are very good at show-off when it comes to that, they want public validation not minding the important thing which is FAMILY.*
- *As the saying goes *CHARITY BEGINS AT HOME" ✅*
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Forwarded from Muslim Marriage Tips
A fact and reality which each and everyone is facing but no one talks about!!!
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🕊️Shaykh Al-Fawzān حفظه الله said: The home (is a place) in which the children are raised correctly which will result in the rectification of this nation by way of the rectification of the future generations. And the two spouses are the foundation of the family. If the relationship between the two of them is bad, then there will be no stability in the home.💎
# A Woman's Guide to Raising a Family, Hikmah Pubs, p. 40
# A Woman's Guide to Raising a Family, Hikmah Pubs, p. 40
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Forwarded from Jannah is Our Dream
🎓Shaikh `Abdul Razzaaq al-Badr:
While reciting the Qur’aan, your concern should not be: "When can I finish this Surah?"
Rather, when reciting the Qur’aan, you should be concerned with: "When will I receive guidance through this Qur’aan?", "When will I benefit from this Qur’aan?", "When will I be from the people of al-Qur’aan (those who recite it and implement it)?"
While reciting the Qur’aan, your concern should not be: "When can I finish this Surah?"
Rather, when reciting the Qur’aan, you should be concerned with: "When will I receive guidance through this Qur’aan?", "When will I benefit from this Qur’aan?", "When will I be from the people of al-Qur’aan (those who recite it and implement it)?"
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Ibn al-Qayyim رحمه الله said:
“Parenting is such a mighty matter in Islam that on the Day of Judgement, Allāh will ask the child about the effectiveness of the parent, before asking the parent about the obedience of the child."
Tuhfah Al-Mawdud by Ibn Qayyim
“Parenting is such a mighty matter in Islam that on the Day of Judgement, Allāh will ask the child about the effectiveness of the parent, before asking the parent about the obedience of the child."
Tuhfah Al-Mawdud by Ibn Qayyim
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