Forwarded from Muslim Marriage Tips
A fact and reality which each and everyone is facing but no one talks about!!!
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🕊️Shaykh Al-Fawzān حفظه الله said: The home (is a place) in which the children are raised correctly which will result in the rectification of this nation by way of the rectification of the future generations. And the two spouses are the foundation of the family. If the relationship between the two of them is bad, then there will be no stability in the home.💎
# A Woman's Guide to Raising a Family, Hikmah Pubs, p. 40
# A Woman's Guide to Raising a Family, Hikmah Pubs, p. 40
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Forwarded from Jannah is Our Dream
🎓Shaikh `Abdul Razzaaq al-Badr:
While reciting the Qur’aan, your concern should not be: "When can I finish this Surah?"
Rather, when reciting the Qur’aan, you should be concerned with: "When will I receive guidance through this Qur’aan?", "When will I benefit from this Qur’aan?", "When will I be from the people of al-Qur’aan (those who recite it and implement it)?"
While reciting the Qur’aan, your concern should not be: "When can I finish this Surah?"
Rather, when reciting the Qur’aan, you should be concerned with: "When will I receive guidance through this Qur’aan?", "When will I benefit from this Qur’aan?", "When will I be from the people of al-Qur’aan (those who recite it and implement it)?"
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Ibn al-Qayyim رحمه الله said:
“Parenting is such a mighty matter in Islam that on the Day of Judgement, Allāh will ask the child about the effectiveness of the parent, before asking the parent about the obedience of the child."
Tuhfah Al-Mawdud by Ibn Qayyim
“Parenting is such a mighty matter in Islam that on the Day of Judgement, Allāh will ask the child about the effectiveness of the parent, before asking the parent about the obedience of the child."
Tuhfah Al-Mawdud by Ibn Qayyim
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❝The intelligence of a child, the level of his ambitions and endeavors are ascertained by observing his choices. When children gather in order to play, the one with a high ambitions and earnest endeavors would say, “Who is going to be in my team?” while the one with low ambitions and slump endeavors would say, “Who am I going to be with?” and it is noteworthy to know that when a child truly has high ambitions and earnest endeavors he would prefer knowledge over idle play.❞
📒 Source: Awaking From The Sleep Of Heedlessness | al Hāfiz Abu’l-Faraj Ibn al-jawzī |Translated by Aymān ibn Khālid | Section: Investing in the Intellect of a Child | p. (24-25) | Dar as-Sunnah Publishers
📒 Source: Awaking From The Sleep Of Heedlessness | al Hāfiz Abu’l-Faraj Ibn al-jawzī |Translated by Aymān ibn Khālid | Section: Investing in the Intellect of a Child | p. (24-25) | Dar as-Sunnah Publishers
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📢WARNING TO PARENTS
From the means by which a Jinn can overpower and possess the children
A very important point
Shaikh Ibn al-`Uthaymeen رحمه الله said:
❝Some of the foolish, ignorant people, lacking intelligence, scare their small innocent children and frighten them by saying: so-and-so will come (and take you), or so-and-so will (do such-and-such to you). So the child gets scared and this fear and anxiety remains in his heart, and this becomes permanent in his heart so that he is constantly in anxiety, fear and distress.
Sometimes it is the father who scares his son and sometimes it is the mother who scares her son and daughter.
But the most foolish ones are those who tell us that the when a child does something wrong (then as punishment) he should be locked inside his room, alone. And even when he shouts and screams they do not feel sorry for him nor do they open the door.
And this is one of the means by which a Jinn overpowers (and possesses) the child. This was conveyed by one of the Jinns who had possessed a child and said that he entered in him when his father had locked him inside the room, and he began to shout and scream, and that's when he possessed him.
So we should be alert and take precautions from the things which can become a means for the Jinn to overpower us.❞
📚 Source:
[ " بيان حقيقة صرع الجن للإنس ؛ مواعظ عامة ومواضيع متفرقة للشيخ محمد بن صالح العثيمين رحمه الله تعالى " ]
From the means by which a Jinn can overpower and possess the children
A very important point
Shaikh Ibn al-`Uthaymeen رحمه الله said:
❝Some of the foolish, ignorant people, lacking intelligence, scare their small innocent children and frighten them by saying: so-and-so will come (and take you), or so-and-so will (do such-and-such to you). So the child gets scared and this fear and anxiety remains in his heart, and this becomes permanent in his heart so that he is constantly in anxiety, fear and distress.
Sometimes it is the father who scares his son and sometimes it is the mother who scares her son and daughter.
But the most foolish ones are those who tell us that the when a child does something wrong (then as punishment) he should be locked inside his room, alone. And even when he shouts and screams they do not feel sorry for him nor do they open the door.
And this is one of the means by which a Jinn overpowers (and possesses) the child. This was conveyed by one of the Jinns who had possessed a child and said that he entered in him when his father had locked him inside the room, and he began to shout and scream, and that's when he possessed him.
So we should be alert and take precautions from the things which can become a means for the Jinn to overpower us.❞
📚 Source:
[ " بيان حقيقة صرع الجن للإنس ؛ مواعظ عامة ومواضيع متفرقة للشيخ محمد بن صالح العثيمين رحمه الله تعالى " ]
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As a parent, what would you do to protect your child from pornography? There is no shortage of it, easily accessed from phones, laptops, and Apple Music.
What, what? Does pornhub have an album? They don't need to - a significant amount of the music is softcore porn and smut in terms of either what is sung or what is verbalized.
But that type of music is everywhere, what can we do? The internet is rife with images of beautiful women, handsome men, smutty relationship stories, and more that we no longer lower our gaze, close our ears, or tell our children to likewise do.
Every one of is a shepherd and will be held accountable. It doesn't matter that it isn't popular, doesn't matter that the world tells you you're being too strict, and doesn't matter that even your family, spouse, and kids don't support you and just want to go with the flow.
Your job is to convey the truth, to stand up for what's right, and protect them when they are too desensitized, propagandized, and normalized to fawahish. It doesn't matter that there is some random scholar that throws his or hands up and says the issue is too complex and nuanced when the damage is obvious and poisonous.
Protect yourselves and protect your families. Audit what you take for granted and don't give in to normal, but rather be one of the strangers and give glad tidings to yourself - yes, pat yourself on the back - when no one else will that you come back to being one of those strangers.
Our Prophet (saw) has told us the defining characteristic of our faith is modesty - start cleaning up spiritual house and beware that the company you keep isn't just a bunch of entertainers keeping you in a state of a constant drug addicted dopamine dependency on constantly being in your feels looking for positive vibes to fulfill a spiritually empty life.
It's Ramadan. Leave off what you can for 30 days, and then stay off.
Save yourself and your families.
What, what? Does pornhub have an album? They don't need to - a significant amount of the music is softcore porn and smut in terms of either what is sung or what is verbalized.
But that type of music is everywhere, what can we do? The internet is rife with images of beautiful women, handsome men, smutty relationship stories, and more that we no longer lower our gaze, close our ears, or tell our children to likewise do.
Every one of is a shepherd and will be held accountable. It doesn't matter that it isn't popular, doesn't matter that the world tells you you're being too strict, and doesn't matter that even your family, spouse, and kids don't support you and just want to go with the flow.
Your job is to convey the truth, to stand up for what's right, and protect them when they are too desensitized, propagandized, and normalized to fawahish. It doesn't matter that there is some random scholar that throws his or hands up and says the issue is too complex and nuanced when the damage is obvious and poisonous.
Protect yourselves and protect your families. Audit what you take for granted and don't give in to normal, but rather be one of the strangers and give glad tidings to yourself - yes, pat yourself on the back - when no one else will that you come back to being one of those strangers.
Our Prophet (saw) has told us the defining characteristic of our faith is modesty - start cleaning up spiritual house and beware that the company you keep isn't just a bunch of entertainers keeping you in a state of a constant drug addicted dopamine dependency on constantly being in your feels looking for positive vibes to fulfill a spiritually empty life.
It's Ramadan. Leave off what you can for 30 days, and then stay off.
Save yourself and your families.
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Women and children in mosque
Narrated Anas bin Malik:
I never prayed behind any Imam a prayer lighter and more perfect than that behind the Prophet (ﷺ) and he used to cut short the prayer whenever he heard the cries of a child lest he should put the child's mother to trial.[Bukhari 708]
Imam An Nawawi said: "it is perfectly permissible for women to join men in prayers in the mosque and that children may be bought in to the mosque. It is preferable, however that a child who might wet themselves or so foul the mosque should not be brought in. "" [Sharh al Muslim vol 4]
It is mentioned in Al hidaya [hanafi]"attending the congregation is disapproved for them (women) that is the young women due to apprehension of fitnah. There is no harm if the old women go out for fajr, Maghrib and isha. This is so according to Abu Hanifa. "" [ vol 1 page 137]
Narrated Anas bin Malik:
I never prayed behind any Imam a prayer lighter and more perfect than that behind the Prophet (ﷺ) and he used to cut short the prayer whenever he heard the cries of a child lest he should put the child's mother to trial.[Bukhari 708]
Imam An Nawawi said: "it is perfectly permissible for women to join men in prayers in the mosque and that children may be bought in to the mosque. It is preferable, however that a child who might wet themselves or so foul the mosque should not be brought in. "" [Sharh al Muslim vol 4]
It is mentioned in Al hidaya [hanafi]"attending the congregation is disapproved for them (women) that is the young women due to apprehension of fitnah. There is no harm if the old women go out for fajr, Maghrib and isha. This is so according to Abu Hanifa. "" [ vol 1 page 137]
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Forwarded from Authentic Duas
The Messenger [sallal laahu aalayhi wasallam] said, “Treat your sick by giving Sadaqah”. [ 1]
AbuBakr Al-Khubaaziy [rahimahullaah] said: I had a very dangerous illness, so a neighbour of mine saw me and said: Act upon the statement of Allaah’s Messenger [sallal laahu alayhi wasallam], "Treat your sick by giving Sadaqah". It was summertime, so I bought many watermelons and gathered a group of poor people and children. They ate and then supplicated for me to be cured. By Allah! I did not reached the next morning except that Allaah granted me wellbeing. [2]
[1] Saheeh Al-Jaami As-Sagheer Wa Ziyaadah 3358
[2] Siyar A’laam An-Nubulaa 18/44
AbuBakr Al-Khubaaziy [rahimahullaah] said: I had a very dangerous illness, so a neighbour of mine saw me and said: Act upon the statement of Allaah’s Messenger [sallal laahu alayhi wasallam], "Treat your sick by giving Sadaqah". It was summertime, so I bought many watermelons and gathered a group of poor people and children. They ate and then supplicated for me to be cured. By Allah! I did not reached the next morning except that Allaah granted me wellbeing. [2]
[1] Saheeh Al-Jaami As-Sagheer Wa Ziyaadah 3358
[2] Siyar A’laam An-Nubulaa 18/44
Respect your Mother, She is your 𝒋𝒂𝒏𝒏𝒂𝒉✧
1) Islam has raised the status of woman from below the earth to so high that Paradise lies at her feet.
2) How sinful are those youth who speak gently with their friends… While they shout out at their mothers.
3) Your mother is your mother. No woman can be compared to her.
4) A Mothers Duaa is like the breeze of Paradise.
5) “A mother's heart has an incredible capacity to love. She will forgive you no matter what you've done. So protect her heart and treat her well. Your Jannah lies under her feet.🤍
6) Your mother is the only who would forget to make Duaa for herself because she would be too busy making Duaa for you.
7) A mother she prays for you even when you refuse to pray yourself.
Be respectful to women, for they are the mothers of mankind. –
9) Do you know that simple phone call can make them happy. Parents, they didn’t leave you when you were young, so don’t leave them when they are old.
10) When she is born, she opens the gates to Paradise. When she is married, she has completed her religion. When she is a mother, Paradise lie under her feet.
Your mother is the highest door of Jannah, make her the happiest woman on earth and spend lots of time with her.
Oh Allah, grant her Paradise for she is the paradise in my life.
Ameen.🖤
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1) Islam has raised the status of woman from below the earth to so high that Paradise lies at her feet.
2) How sinful are those youth who speak gently with their friends… While they shout out at their mothers.
3) Your mother is your mother. No woman can be compared to her.
4) A Mothers Duaa is like the breeze of Paradise.
5) “A mother's heart has an incredible capacity to love. She will forgive you no matter what you've done. So protect her heart and treat her well. Your Jannah lies under her feet.🤍
6) Your mother is the only who would forget to make Duaa for herself because she would be too busy making Duaa for you.
7) A mother she prays for you even when you refuse to pray yourself.
Be respectful to women, for they are the mothers of mankind. –
9) Do you know that simple phone call can make them happy. Parents, they didn’t leave you when you were young, so don’t leave them when they are old.
10) When she is born, she opens the gates to Paradise. When she is married, she has completed her religion. When she is a mother, Paradise lie under her feet.
Your mother is the highest door of Jannah, make her the happiest woman on earth and spend lots of time with her.
Oh Allah, grant her Paradise for she is the paradise in my life.
Ameen.🖤
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HAVE GREAT CONCERN FOR THE UPBRINGING OF YOUR CHILDREN
It is incumbent upon the woman who has children that she has a great concern for her children and that she places great importance on their upbringing and that she seeks assistance, if she becomes incapable for any reason, from their father or whomsoever is responsible for their affairs if they have no father. Either from their brothers or their uncles or their brothers from the same tribe or other than them. And it is not befitting for the woman to submit to the state of affairs and say: "The people are following this and I cannot change it." Because if we remain like this, submitting to the state of affairs, then the rectification will not be completed.
Book: The Role Of The Woman In Rectifying The Society
By Ash-Shaykh, Al-'Allaamah Muhammad Ibn Saalih Al-'Uthaymeen
Ibnul Qayyim Publications
P. 27
It is incumbent upon the woman who has children that she has a great concern for her children and that she places great importance on their upbringing and that she seeks assistance, if she becomes incapable for any reason, from their father or whomsoever is responsible for their affairs if they have no father. Either from their brothers or their uncles or their brothers from the same tribe or other than them. And it is not befitting for the woman to submit to the state of affairs and say: "The people are following this and I cannot change it." Because if we remain like this, submitting to the state of affairs, then the rectification will not be completed.
Book: The Role Of The Woman In Rectifying The Society
By Ash-Shaykh, Al-'Allaamah Muhammad Ibn Saalih Al-'Uthaymeen
Ibnul Qayyim Publications
P. 27
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Parents Gain from Their Children's Good Deeds, with or without Their Children Intending That
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He was a billionaire.
For the last 4 days before his death, he requested doctors several times to see his children. Doctors never told him that they have informed his family many times about his last wish but none of them has free time to see their father.
At last, he passed away without meeting his children who inherited his huge wealth. Invest in your children, not just for them.
When you taught them about Allah, Allah will guide them through everything. May Allah grant us good endings. Ameen 🤲
For the last 4 days before his death, he requested doctors several times to see his children. Doctors never told him that they have informed his family many times about his last wish but none of them has free time to see their father.
At last, he passed away without meeting his children who inherited his huge wealth. Invest in your children, not just for them.
When you taught them about Allah, Allah will guide them through everything. May Allah grant us good endings. Ameen 🤲
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𝗥𝗮𝗶𝘀𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗖𝗵𝗶𝗹𝗱𝗿𝗲𝗻
One of the domains in which the role of the woman in raising the family is apparent is the cultivation of the child. This is from the most important of tasks and among the most crucial of them for two reasons:
١. Because it is the source of direction of the child, and from the child the Ummah is formed. Whatever the child's conditon of this nation in the future (will be a reflection of this). From this we can understand that all individuals from this nation will pass through the school of the mother.
٢. There are many things that the child is unfamiliar of, and he is in a state where he is clear and mysterious and easy and difficult. Therefore, taking care of him and raising him requires effort, which is not easy. This is what we will clarify shortly.
Taking care of the child is the responsibility of both parents together.
The Prophet (ﷺ) said;
"Each of you are shepherds and each of you is responsible for his flock. The man is a shepherd within his home and is responsible for his flock. The woman is a shepherdess within the home of her husband and is responsible for her flock."
The Most High has said;
"O you have believe! Ward off from yourselves and your families a fire (Hell) whose fuel is men and stones." (Al-tahrīm 66:6)
When we analyze the reality of the situation we find that the man only spends a short time within his home and with his children. This is in relation to tha amount of time. As it relates to how (he spends his time with them), then during this time he is exhausted from work and seeking to rest. He is not able to think about the state of his children.
It is apparent to us that the biggest role in regards to this is the role of the woman and her responsibility.
[Shaykh Sālih al-Fawzān (حفظه اللّٰه) | Book: A Woman's Guide to Raising a Family p.46-47]
One of the domains in which the role of the woman in raising the family is apparent is the cultivation of the child. This is from the most important of tasks and among the most crucial of them for two reasons:
١. Because it is the source of direction of the child, and from the child the Ummah is formed. Whatever the child's conditon of this nation in the future (will be a reflection of this). From this we can understand that all individuals from this nation will pass through the school of the mother.
٢. There are many things that the child is unfamiliar of, and he is in a state where he is clear and mysterious and easy and difficult. Therefore, taking care of him and raising him requires effort, which is not easy. This is what we will clarify shortly.
Taking care of the child is the responsibility of both parents together.
The Prophet (ﷺ) said;
"Each of you are shepherds and each of you is responsible for his flock. The man is a shepherd within his home and is responsible for his flock. The woman is a shepherdess within the home of her husband and is responsible for her flock."
The Most High has said;
"O you have believe! Ward off from yourselves and your families a fire (Hell) whose fuel is men and stones." (Al-tahrīm 66:6)
When we analyze the reality of the situation we find that the man only spends a short time within his home and with his children. This is in relation to tha amount of time. As it relates to how (he spends his time with them), then during this time he is exhausted from work and seeking to rest. He is not able to think about the state of his children.
It is apparent to us that the biggest role in regards to this is the role of the woman and her responsibility.
[Shaykh Sālih al-Fawzān (حفظه اللّٰه) | Book: A Woman's Guide to Raising a Family p.46-47]
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Imagine celebrating a holiday or anything for that matter, and you have:
No idea how it started
No idea who started it
No idea where it came from
Or even no idea WHY your celebrating it for that matter
And even when/if you do get a chance to see it's origins and you realize it has NOTHING TO DO WITH WHY YOU ARE/THINK YOU ARE CELEBRATING IT
You still celebrate it.
And teach it to your children.
That could never ever IN LIFE be me. (ان شاء الله)
The praise belongs to Allah alone for Islam.
No idea how it started
No idea who started it
No idea where it came from
Or even no idea WHY your celebrating it for that matter
And even when/if you do get a chance to see it's origins and you realize it has NOTHING TO DO WITH WHY YOU ARE/THINK YOU ARE CELEBRATING IT
You still celebrate it.
And teach it to your children.
That could never ever IN LIFE be me. (ان شاء الله)
The praise belongs to Allah alone for Islam.
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Forwarded from Jannah is Our Dream
Heal your heart with Qur'ān
Ibn al-Qayyim رحمه الله:
“If you read (the Qur'ān) with contemplation, even if over a (single) ayah, it is a key to healing your heart. Even if repeated a hundred times and for the (whole) night. Reading an ayah with contemplation and understanding is better than reading to completion without tadabbur and understanding. It is more beneficial for the heart and ensures gain in faith, and in tasting sweetness of the Qur'ān.”
مفتاح دار السعادة (٥٥٣/١)
Ibn al-Qayyim رحمه الله:
“If you read (the Qur'ān) with contemplation, even if over a (single) ayah, it is a key to healing your heart. Even if repeated a hundred times and for the (whole) night. Reading an ayah with contemplation and understanding is better than reading to completion without tadabbur and understanding. It is more beneficial for the heart and ensures gain in faith, and in tasting sweetness of the Qur'ān.”
مفتاح دار السعادة (٥٥٣/١)
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