""Because we are able to use what happened to us as a blueprint for how NOT to parent or otherwise treat people, does not mean we have to be "grateful" for our experiences.

Growth that comes out of pain does not mean the pain was "good" for us or that we "needed" it."" - Dr. Glenn Patrick Doyle

https://bsky.app/profile/drdoylesays.bsky.social/post/3m44iua5l7k2m

I remember patterns, vibes, can't quote for shi. Easily forget exact details. Only the gut feelings remain xD

"we come from the earth, we return to the earth, and in between we garden"

🎶❤️🎶🇵🇷🇵🇷🇵🇷

el himno puertorriqueño original

https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8DdXuuJ/

come watch the water

https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8Ddswvp/

"i was at a shitty crustpunk bar once getting an after-work. one of those shitholes where the bartenders clearly hate you. so the bartender and i were ignoring one another when someone sits next to me and he immediately says, "no. get out."

and the dude next to me say, "hey im not doing anything, im a paying customer". and the bartender reaches under the counter for a bat or something and says, "out. now." and the dude leaves, kind of yelling. and he was dressed in a punk uniform, i noticed

anyway, i asked what that was about and the bartender was like, "you didnt see his vest but it was all nazi shit. iron crosses and stuff. you get to recognize them."

and i was like, ohok and he continues

"you have to nip it in the bud immediately. these guys come in and its always a nice, polite one. and you serve them because you dont want to cause a scene. and then they become a regular and after awhile they bring a friend. and that dude is cool too.

and then THEY bring friends and the friends bring friends and they stop being cool and then you realize, oh shit, this is a nazi bar now. and its too late because they're entrenched and if you try to kick them out, they cause a PROBLEM. so you have to shut them down"

and i was like, 'oh damn.' and he said "yeah, you have to ignore their reasonable arguments because their end goal is to be terrible, awful people."

and then he went back to ignoring me. but i havent forgotten that at all."