A little backstory on why I’m writing this book: One of the biggest turning points in my dating life after I’d figured out women and attraction was when I realized everything I’d learned was from modern sources and encouraged sex as part of dating.

There were times I found it almost manipulative, like having cheat codes for women. And as I was still new to my walk with God at the time, it was like He tapped me on the shoulder of my conscience and said that I needed to change what I was doing because it leads men and women down the wrong path. I ended up asking for forgiveness for the “success” I had as a single man, and started implementing changes to my dating strategy.

This might be an overshare, by my first prayer to God back in 2017 was to repent and help me find my wife - that all I wanted was to find her and raise a family, and if He would help me then I would raise my family to honor Him. And 5 years later I’m married to the most beautiful woman in the world who’s pregnant with our first baby.

I’ve put a lot of thought into this aspect of dating advice, and I understand your point.

There are a ton of arguments that can be made, but every time I try to find an example of a situation that would be an exemption to the pure not being pursued by the un pure, it’s not a good enough reason to justify corrupting them if we as a society want to shift our culture back towards chastity.

Like your appropriate example of redemption - that person would have plenty of opportunity to bond with someone of a similar experience, as many people pursuing a traditional life fit that narrative. If he should pursue a virgin, even tho he’s been redeemed, he’s leaving an amazing woman with a similar redemption story by the wayside. God can restore the ability of anyone to bond for life, it’s not a virgin-only trait.
And before a bunch of simps throw data at me to counter, I’ve already seen all those studies about pair bonding and numbers of partners.

Ultimately I made this poll to showcase how many men are simply fantasizing about a trad wife but have no concept of reality that women are sinners too. No woman is perfect just as no man is perfect.

Most trad wives are made because they’re lead that way by fathers and then husbands, just as most loose women are made because of absent or weak fathers and abusive lovers.

The reality that men who bit on this baited hook need to understand is that your image of a perfect trad wife is one that you will need to create by leading a good woman by example. And it all starts with self-work.

A trad wife is made - not found. She is lead by masculinity to become a trad wife by embracing her femininity.

Imagine your dream life and marriage is the top of a pyramid. To get there we need to build up a lot of levels.

The very base foundation is writing out in detail the type of woman who is your ideal partner. Both qualities you want, and qualities that are dealbreakers. List out every quality you can think of for both. Physical, mental, spiritual, etc.. you should have dozens listed out.

Once that’s done now your next step is narrowing it down to a top ten ideal qualities and dealbreakers list. Write this list on a note and place it somewhere you’ll read it every day.

Read the list every single day. You’ll begin to develop a radar for women who fit these qualities.

Later on when you’re on a date, you can ask questions that will allow you to find out if they match these qualities.

You likely won’t find a woman who checks every single box, I’m not saying it’s impossible - however there are more women than you can possibly ask out in your life who will check many of those boxes.

Approaching women is a demonstration of masculinity. It’s going after what you want in the face of the fear and risk of rejection.

While you will need to know how to tell if she’s interested before you approach, there are things you can start doing to build up your confidence and experience with approaching women.

Go to your nearest shopping mall and start practicing your conversation abilities with the ladies working at the department stores. It’s their job to answer questions for customers - so it removes the risk of rejection. They’re the perfect training ground for building up this skill. Repetition is the mother of skill. Gotta get those reps in!

Just start with asking their opinion about a product there, then branch out into other topics and eventually start to ask questions getting to know who she is.

Build up that skill to the point where you can naturally just talk to anyone and start to get to know them within a couple minutes.

Modern women are not lost. Feminine nature cannot be suppressed. It rises to the top in ways that can’t be controlled. The rise in the trend of homesteading and the simple life on social media platforms like Instagram and Pinterest are the proof. It’s a subconscious scream that the female soul is trying to shout against the direction women are being lead.

Just how any person can be saved by Christ, any woman has the potential to be a trad wife, it’s just the amount of distance she’ll need to be lead that changes.

However some women have hardened their hearts against their feminine nature, just as some people have hardened themselves away from God’s Word.

The women who are ready to be lead to their feminine and become trad wives have certain indicators you can look for. She will be apolitical or conservative. She will come from a good home with parents that are still married. She will be frustrated at the lack of quality men in the dating pool. And most importantly she will be family-focused.

For the men taking my teaching seriously, here’s a valuable resource for quitting pornography.

I’ve made a Gab account as a backup in case telegram becomes gay.

@Traditional_Dating_Guide

Telegram is my primary posting platform, but I’ll try to keep gab updated as well.

Book update:
Spent a good bit of time today writing and editing, and am currently at 30 pages. I’m probably 30% done with my first draft. I’m starting to develop a serious appreciation for authors like Brandon Sanderson who can crank out several 1,000 page novels in a year. Granted I’m doing this on free time, but still. I can already see the dedication necessary to finish a book.

New sections include: Physical attraction is not a choice but you can control your fitness, clothing, and how you present yourself.

Make every day count. Don’t waste a single day if this remotely resembles your goal.

I’ve already given so much direction that you can be implementing daily to practice and prepare for dating.
You don’t need to wait for me to finish my book to get started.

1) Workout
2) Quit porn
3) Enneagram study
4) Career direction - figuring out how you can achieve sole provider income
5) Practice approach and conversation skills with ladies who work at department stores without fear of rejection
6) Pray for guidance and strength

As a single man you should be able to accomplish all of these tasks in less than 3 hours every day after work. This is your study schedule for the most important test in your life.

My wife joked to me when we were dating that she’s not going to become a Mennonite.

Now she’s wearing more modest dresses, braids her hair, doesn’t have social media or watch the news, doesn’t care about politics, loves to bake and cook, is looking at homestead properties on zillow, and is preparing the house for our baby girl coming this June.

🤫 No one tell her I’m winning

My recommendations to women is : workout - men love a trim feminine body, learn to speak nicely & not use profanities, be elegant in everything you do - even cleaning floors, learn to cook delicious food, teach yourself skills : sewing, knitting, painting, quilting, lace making, vegetable & herb gardening, flower gardening, making life & your surroundings beautiful so your husband wants to come home to you . Don't download all your problems on him as soon as he walks in the door, learn to solve them or have a women's chat group once a week to cover topics like babies, femininity, recipes, - it all counts. Rather have a lovely home with amazing food on the stove when he walks in, look gorgeous & be warm & friendly & loving. If there is something you need to talk to him about, ask if you could have time later to discuss some issues you would like to share or ask his advice about, never scream at him or your children. Make time for yourself each day to relax, between lunch time & tea time is a more peaceful time. If the children are too energetic, take them on walks so by night time they are enjoying a relaxing evening with you. So many more pointers I can share.

Let’s discuss idealized concepts that we are susceptible to as men.

Note: I’m not telling you to change your goals with what you’re looking for, I’m simply helping you become aware that reality isn’t perfect. No man or woman is perfect.

We’ve already discussed this with virginity and chastity, but another common idealized concept we’re susceptible to is that of the 1950s image of the perfect housewife.

The flaw of the 50s was the attitude that husbands deserve that life and treatment, that it was a requirement for women to do those things for their families.

The realistic, achievable, and sustainable version of this lifestyle is one based in love, respect, and most importantly GIVING.

If you lead your woman into her feminine, give her your love and adoration, help her with whatever she’s doing, provide for her and your family, then she will in return do what she can to make you happy and have an enjoyable life as well.

Treat your wife like a queen, and she will make you feel like a king.

It hasn’t even been a week and we’re already over 700 subscribers. I feel so much affirmation about pursuing this book, and the conversations and feedback have been amazing.

I’m excited to figure out where this can go. My current ideas are to make a website where everyone can read the book for free and I’ll have a donation link at the bottom in case anyone wants to donate. If anyone here has any suggestions for where I could build that website, please leave a comment below.

I’ll also likely self-publish a paperback on amazon too for those of us who prefer a physical book.

Other ideas are bubbling up as well, but they’re further down the road. Gotta finish the book first.

Cheers to y’all for listening to what I have to say!

Iron sharpens iron -Flex your progress!

Comment below on the steps you’ve started taking in your daily routine towards winning the heart of your dream woman - give encouragement, tips, and recommendations to your fellow men.

The best way to prepare for marriage is also to quietly improve yourself.

What does being trad mean to you?

What does being trad mean for the family you wish to create?

I guarantee this dude got a second date. Masculine to the core. Knows his purpose and mission. Able to provide resources for a family.

Even if she thinks the cheese wheel was weird or lame, she’ll find herself unexplainably drawn to him because he is able to lead her into her feminine.

Note: gift-giving isn’t something I’d typically recommend on a first date. It takes a pair of massive Chad-farmer-level cheese curds to pull this off.

Goals