Setting a definite date:

Imagine a beautiful woman is approached by two men who ask her out in different ways.

First man says this:
“Would you like to maybe get dinner and get to know each other sometime?”

Second man says this:
“When are you free to meet for dinner? Thursday? Great! Let’s meet at Ricardo’s Italian Restaurant at 6pm Thursday. How does that sound? Great! If something comes up and we need to reschedule I’ll call you, otherwise I will see you Thursday at Ricardos at 6. I’m looking forward to it!”

Which man do you think got the date? Which man shows significantly more confidence in how he presents himself? Which man is she going to be more attracted to? Which man is she significantly more likely to show up for the date and not ghost?

There is a subtle difference in how you ask a woman out that makes you either stand out or “just another guy.”

-Ask when she is available to meet
-work with the timeline she gives you
-suggest a date with a specific time at a specific place
-ask for the date “how does that sound/work for you?”
-Confirm date/location and your excitement to meet up.

Later as the date approaches if she calls or texts you to confirm the date tell her that you’re a man of your word and when you make appointments you keep them, tell her you’re looking forward to seeing her and get off the phone.

This is a good sign because she’s thinking about you and you’re already standing out because most men over pursue and blow up her phone.

If she doesn’t show then she has too low attraction and likely forgot, which is a learning experience for you to pay more attention for attraction signs during the approach. So even if she doesn’t show, it’s still a win because you’re able to improve.

Where to meet single women:

Sort answer: anywhere.

It doesn’t matter where or how you meet Mrs Right. What matters is you not limiting yourself to only one source for dates.

Online, through friends, at school, and at work are the most common means that men meet women and form relationships. But if you stick to just one method you may go weeks, months, or even years before meeting another single woman.

When you’re ready to find a wife looking for her should be a priority. You should be putting in as many hours as a job in finding her. Cast a wide net but utilize your ideal qualities pros/cons list to help you identify a potential match.

Dating apps and sites can be a powerful tool in your search, but don’t limit yourself. Be open to meeting women while doing hobbies you enjoy, like hiking or rock climbing for example.

I’m not a fan of JP but he makes good points from time to time.

A weak man cannot be virtuous.
A weak man cannot protect a family.
A weak man cannot make a woman feel safe.
A weak man cannot lead a woman into her feminine.

Be hard to kill.

A gentleman is a man who is gentle, but in order for you to be a gentleman you need to be a man first.

The secret to success for anything in life is found in your daily routine.

Don’t compare yourself to your larger goals every day, instead just try to be a little bit better than who you were yesterday.

Do just one more push-up than you did yesterday. Read one more page than yesterday. Pray once more than yesterday.

A 500 mile hike seems like an intimidating task, but it is just a million little steps taken one after another, day after day. Break your goals down into daily, achievable, and measurable baby steps and you’ll be surprised at what you can accomplish.

Goal clarity is everyday clarity.

I’m going to try to give some dating advice for the women from time to time.

First date tip: offer to pay or split the bill with the intention of letting him deny your offer - this is a good test to see if he’s masculine and traditional. You’re providing him the opportunity to lead the relationship.
If he lets you split the bill, don’t write him off yet, but if he continues to expect you to split the bill then he’s not centered in his masculine and you shouldn’t see him again.

After a few dates and you’re confident that he’s worth pursuing further into a relationship, you can initiate a picnic or home cooked meal date- this will allow you to pay/give back to him. It’s a huge gesture showing that you’re giving and appreciate him leading the courtship.

Once you’re confident in your feelings for him, bake him your special dish with love and gift it to him on your next date. My wife’s strategy to ensure seeing me again was using her grandma’s pie dish and letting me know she absolutely needed it back.

If you haven’t gone to church because you can’t find one that teaches the Bible, haven’t found a denomination that speaks to you, or if you’ve been slow to grow into Gods Word then check out Athey Creek Christian Fellowship.
They never locked down or did masks or anything restrictive during the rona btw.

And I’m not trying to start a fight over denominations - you’ll get the ban hammer if you do in the comments.

Spend some time today in contemplative prayer and reading the Word. Pray for guidance in growth and for aid in preparing for and finding who He has set aside to be your bride.

https://youtu.be/DtyKAbnexzQ

Like Worth Fighting For said - this is peak female performance!

Let’s discuss leading a woman towards being trad.

Assume you’re on a 1st or 2nd date and the topic of family or career comes up. She responds with hesitancy because she’s been conditioned to not want to be “just a mom.”
You can lead her to relax in her feminine by leading the conversation in a positive and upbeat way about how much your family means to you and how you hope to have a big family someday.
You don’t need to hammer her with a barrage of statistics about divorce impacting children’s development or how one parent at home results in a more well-adjusted child.
One serious comment in the middle of a fun and light conversation can leave a lasting impression, usually negative.

Trust me, if she likes you, she’s going to be replaying the date in her mind over the next few days and talking with her friends and mom about it. She’s going to analyze every little thing you mention, so she’ll definitely catch that you want a big family.

I’ve made a post before talking about attitude and the best ways to adjust it featuring an interview from this author.

I’m halfway through his book and it’s absolutely going on the assigned readings for this channel.

Get a copy. Read it. Read it again. Start applying it as soon as possible. I’ll be putting in a lot of this advice geared towards dating in my book, but don’t wait for me to finish the book to start implementing these changes in your daily routine.

Counter-intuitive dating advice:

You WANT women to reject you. It makes it easier to move on and find women who genuinely want to spend time with you.

Time is the most precious thing you can give someone. So don’t fear rejection or take it personally, she’s doing you a favor by not wasting your time.

A lot to learn from this video.
Structure leads to success.
Balance is being centered.
Willingly walk through the valley of pain to achieve your goals.

How are you using your 24 hours each day? Are you getting in shape? Are you studying body language? Are you learning about yourself and improving? Are you building a career that can provide for a family? Are you praying? Are you practicing your approach and overcoming the fear of rejection?

Not enough dating advice memes on here. Let’s change that.

Just finished the book “Extreme Ownership” by Jocko Willink and Leif Babin.

It’s going on the assigned reading for men in this channel. I highly recommend the audiobook because hearing two Navy Seals coach you on any topic will raise your T levels.

Oh and I’ve adjusting my rules for the channel. Gamma male behavior results in the ban hammer just as nihilistic comments and non-learning attitudes. I’ll be doing a post on identifying and overcoming gamma male behavior in the near future.

Ladies in the channel:
Assuming you’re using dating apps or sites, what are some examples of good, and really bad, opening messages you’ve seen? Which ones do you ignore vs respond to?

Men in the channel:
Reminder, calling women whores will get you the ban hammer.

Sociosexual hierarchy

Understanding the natural order also means facing the reality of where you currently stack in society and the strengths and weaknesses of that behavior.

Vox Day has a great denoscription of each behavior and it’s role. Link below.

Alpha: natural leaders/CEOs, mission oriented, masculine, women are naturally attracted to them, but not the best husband material without a lot of self work because they tend to get narcissistic and are prone to infidelity.

Bravo: high status lieutenants of the alphas, loyal, usually positive and upbeat, attractive to women, great husband material, but they prefer having leadership and not leading. Bravo fathers often raise alpha children because of that natural coaching and supporting behavior.

Deltas: “Average Joe” They are the backbone of society. Listen up, Ladies: Deltas are hands down the best husband material for a trad wife. Loyal, reliable, dependable, they want respect for doing their job well, have a trade or skill, usually their focus is family, and they have potential to move up or down the hierarchy depending on the needs of their community. I’m trying to coach Deltas in attraction and dating so they understand what to do and not to do so they have a shot. Understanding women isn’t natural for Deltas, hence why they just need a how-to manual.

I’ll do a follow up post about gamma, omega, and sigma behavior.

https://youtu.be/1Ua2XnYlm-o

Hold onto your butts...

I highly recommend everyone watch this video about gamma males. Vox does an amazing job highlighting the gamma and this behavior is the one we need to be able to identify the most.

For men: identifying these behaviors in yourself is crucial for your self-improvement. Let me state this clearly right now: gamma males are not capable of being secure in their masculinity. It is fundamentally not possible because gammas are inherently rooted in their feminine. (Ladies, I’m not calling you gammas here, just relax). By that I mean gammas are emotional and reactive, which are fundamentally opposite to masculinity. BUT YOU CAN IMPROVE. It all starts with acknowledgement of the behavior and being honest with yourself and others. It’s comparable to repenting of sin and being saved by Christ and being born again.

For women: identifying gamma male behavior is crucial from a survival standpoint. Y’all are so good at it that it’s instinctual. You know in your gut that a gamma male will not be able to protect or provide for you and any children. They are not able to make you feel safe and lead you in your feminine.

https://youtu.be/vhTFkUpB8zc

Check out this comic I was forwarded by a subscriber.

It depicts the sociosexual hierarchy with realistic and common examples of their behavior.

https://m.webtoons.com/en/challenge/hypergamouse/you-like-star-wars/viewer?noscript_no=423082&episode_no=1

Let’s talk teasing.

Teasing is a joke made at the expense of someone directly but always has a fun, positive, and lighthearted intention behind it. If it doesn’t, then it’s insulting.

Teasing is in my opinion one of the best ways to break the ice, judge a woman’s attraction for you, build rapport, and create chemistry. The best teases will create a mixture of emotions in a woman like defensiveness and happiness like “omg I can’t believe he said that” while laughing. That said, you still may get slapped even if she laughs.

A good sense of humor is almost always at the top of a woman’s wish list for a man because it’s an indicator of his upbeat attitude towards the world and his ability to take whatever life throws at him and smile and laugh about it.

Here’s some good examples of teasing:
To a woman in bright red shoes:
Are you going to click your heels to go home later?

To a woman sitting by herself in the corner looking bored:
So... who put you in time out?

To a woman waiving a dollar bill at the bartender to get his attention:
Is that how you normally get men to pay attention to you?

I’ve had some thoughts about family and how blessings come from a husband who works hard and sacrifices for his children.

My wife is so grateful that I’m sacrificing several nights a week at a second job so she can stay at home when the baby is born. I’ve never experienced the amount of love she’s showing me now and it’s only growing. Her love inspires me, and I can’t yet imagine how I’ll feel once my baby is born, I’m positive it’s something you have to experience to comprehend.

Her parents live down the street and are inspired by me working so much to save for the baby that they’re pitching in a lot to help purchase baby supplies that essentially is what I’m working to save for. So now we’re able to save that money I’m earning and it’s starting a snowball effect that’s setting us up to be in a good position to take time off to be with baby when she’s born.

Start the momentum. Build on the momentum. Make family your priority your entire life and continue that aid in the next generations as long as you live. I’m already thinking of ideas about building homes with my children to gift to them when they get married.