To know when others cross your boundaries,
you must first know when you cross your own.
If you can't feel it within,
you won't recognize it with others.

-Cory Muscara

You may not be able to name your boundaries yet. You may not be able to say: This is where I draw a line and here’s why.

It might not be that clear for you yet. You might not even have these strange things called boundaries. Or rather, they may be very weak. Permeable. To the point that you don’t even know they’re there. But they are. And if they’re constantly being violated, that is costing you - dearly.

If you grew up in a dysfunctional family or if you’ve been abused, you may have let those lines become very blurred in an attempt to survive or to retain a connection with your “caregivers”. You may have let them slip as you fell into a harmful relationship with someone who was broken themselves. You may have never been shown what healthy, solid boundaries look like. And if that’s the case for you, let me give you a bit of help towards sorting that out.

Listen to your body.

I’m not even going to say “gut” bc although that’s important, many have tamped down their own Intuition and “gut instincts” to the point that they really can’t feel them anymore.

Don’t fret. You CAN get that back. But it starts in the body. It starts with using your antenna (your body) the way it was intended. It’s a signal receiver (and transmitter) and it is receiving ALL THE TIME. You just stopped listening for the signals.

When you work on quieting your mind and Healing your wounds, you start to get more in touch with your body. Those signals start to show up for you; even over all the noise and static of everyday life. When you teach yourself Love and Respect…for your SELF, those inner boundaries start to strengthen.

You come out of the tendency to people-please and defer to others. You stop letting your own needs and dreams take a backseat to everyone (or a particular one) else’s will. You start to see all the ways you gave away your Power and undermined your own Sovereignty. And all of a sudden, your body starts to talk to you again. Or rather, you start to be able to hear it…to FEEL it.

One day, someone does something that HURTS. Or you feel as though you’ve been punched in the stomach. Maybe your eye starts to twitch or your knees hurt bc they want to buckle under the weight they’ve been carrying for so long. And it might be that the thing that sets that off is nothing new. Might be an interaction you’ve had a thousand times and never felt a damn thing. It was normal to you, but suddenly… it’s NOT OK anymore.

You feel it in your body. It hurts or is uncomfortable. Something is just wrong. And although you may not have the words to describe that feeling or even be able to connect it in any explainable way…you KNOW. You are receiving the signal to stop allowing this pattern to continue.

HONOR THAT FEELING.
Even and maybe especially when you can’t explain it in words or you don’t feel justified in having it. (That’s Shame talking) The understanding will come later as you work with the information.

The first step is allowing it to come into your awareness. That’s your ticket out of whatever hell you’ve been living in.
Because, baby, you may not have had any idea you were even in one. It was too much for you to face that possibility, so you put on a brave face, stomped out your own feelings and tried to keep everyone else happy while you slowly burned.

It’s time to stop doing that.

In Love,
~TR ✨💖✨

It was something of a mystery to me, for the longest time. People that I deeply respected, even aspired to somewhat emulate (which wasn't a specific trait, I later understood it to be authenticity)... well I would question them, and invariably they would speak to me of the importance of shadow work.

And I would nod in agreement, yes, it's vital I would agree out loud. For many years this would go around, and it was entirely superficial. I had explanations... but it is different hearing these things, reading them (somewhat ironic in a comment where I am trying to articulate this), than it is to actually live through it.

It took a few things for me to stumble my way into this shadow work... deciding that I was going to work on loving myself, work on my negative self-talk, things like that... that was (I believe) one key to this firmly locked door within me. I believe that everything 'snowballed' for me when I chose to take a compassionate and non-judgemental approach, to forgive my past (all of it).

Another was meeting the same dead ends and despair over-and-over in my life... and finally choosing to ask myself, "wait, is it me?"

And this is a major turning point. I can't tell you to do it. I mean I can, and you can ask yourself that...

But unless you are at that point where you face your own culpability in all of it, everything... then you will only, at best scrape the surface of that locked door. At least that was me, and I see it in so many people who are close to me now, the spiritual ones who are prepared to peep behind the veil, but only up to a point (so far).

They describe it as "facing your demons"

It is terrifying, yes.

And it is the frightened child within, who is telling you to shut up, sit down, don't risk drawing attention to yourself...

and so many other things that stand in the way of you embodying your true essence. "The Children of Man" who are here to be lightning bolts from 'heaven' upon this Earth in it's broken form.

This is all living within you until you do this, as a bruised and vengeful thought form running quietly behind everything that you do, or as the frightened child trapped in survival mode... no matter how well-intentioned (and most people ARE well-intentioned).

These disowned parts of yourself, you need to reclaim them into who you are, but first you must forgive them and love them.

Am I fully done with it? I doubt it. It has been integral to my personal programming for a lifetime... but I am not fearful of it, I am not intimidated or frightened, and there is good reason for this.

When you begin this process, you will feel the weight lift from you. You will feel the freer flow of energy through you. You will find it easier to breathe. It is easier to BE.

And each time, this brings me closer to 'living in heaven' - to be the receptor, to be the conduit.

I would love for you to experience this for yourself. At the end of the day, until you do, these will only ever be a collection of words. Live it, and it will all make sense afterwards.

Wooo hooooo!!!! Ash just published her first book!

It’s available now right here:
Embers From Ash: Volume One https://a.co/d/3U8neSl
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Schumann Resonances as of 0700 hrs PT / 1000 ET / 1500 UTC

Some teasers from Ash’s new book that just came out yesterday!
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